Qiming 1158

Chapter 944 The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker
Su Yonglin was not surprised that Xin Qiji asked this question.

It should be said that new ideas and old habits will coexist for a while now.

They will never take the initiative to withdraw from the stage of history. They must go through a desperate struggle or even counterattack and exhaust all their strength before being swept into the dust of history extremely unwillingly.

Until the old habit is completely eliminated, it will continue to compete with new ideas for dominance.

On the one hand, new ideas need time to enter people's hearts, and on the other hand, the masters of the old power are reluctant to let go of this dominant power.

Su Yonglin thought about this for a long time.

"What I mean is that the imperial court in the past did not interfere with the marriage of the people, just like the old Song Dynasty once stipulated that if a woman did not get married at fifteen, the government would force her to get married. Interference in marriage matters?

What I think is that this behavior of Xiao Cui's father is obviously wrong and wrong. He treats Xiao Cui as an object rather than a person. This is an ugly old thinking and must be dismissed and banned. , who is against it?Raise hands against. "

Su Yonglin scanned the audience.

No one raised their hands.

"If there is no objection, then I will put forward my suggestion. My suggestion is to fill in an article in the Ming Law. When it comes to marriage, parents should fully consider the opinions of their children. If the children firmly object, the parents should It cannot be forced, and the government should support it.”

Because this matter does not belong to the internal affairs of the Fuxing Association, in principle, it is something that Su Yonglin can act arbitrarily with the authority of the emperor.

But Su Yonglin hopes that everyone can reach a unified consensus, so as to complete the two-way running from top to bottom and from bottom to top.

The folks have the bud of this independent spirit, and the official should recognize and support it, so as to realize the change of social thought.

This kind of thing cannot last long only by the authority of the emperor, so Su Yonglin hopes to get the support of the members of the Renaissance, to reach a unified consensus among the members of the Renaissance, and then take advantage of the influence of the Renaissance on the grassroots of the Ming Dynasty, and gradually make this new Introducing thinking to the people.

Only in this way can new ideas replace old ideas better and faster.

However, it is clear that the members attending the meeting have many concerns about this suggestion put forward by Su Yonglin.

"If it's just a single case, of course it's easy to deal with, but if the law is revised, the implications are too big. Should we think carefully about this move?"

Jiang Chengyue, who is the secretary of Dali Temple, raised his own concerns: "The matter of civil marriage and marriage has its own customs formed over the years, and it is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. What about the dissatisfaction of the people? There will be chaos at that time, and there will be no peace.”

Jiang Chengyue's concern was also the concern of most of the people present, including Xin Qiji, who nodded and remained worried about this.

Seeing such a scene, Su Yonglin knew that the shackles on their bodies had not all been undone.

The long-standing customs have had such a great influence on them that after their political thinking has changed, their daily thinking has not changed in time, and half of their bodies are still in the old era.

This is also the mistake of overemphasizing political issues and ignoring folklore issues.

Su Yonglin felt that this was his own problem.

Fortunately, I am still young, I have enough control over the situation, and I have enough time to adjust policies.

"I'm still saying that. It's always been like this, right? The oppression of the superior people on us has always been like this, and now it's also overthrown and smashed by us? Are they right?"

In one sentence, the mouths of many people were blocked, leaving them speechless.

Indeed, it was true, and if it had always been true, their resistance would have been pointless.

It's just that in the past, it involved being oppressed, and the motivation to resist was naturally stronger, but now it involves the deprivation of their own power, so they have some concerns.

With the establishment of the Ming Dynasty and the passage of time, more and more people who followed Su Yonglin to fight and make achievements have grown older and gained a stable life, so they gradually married wives and had children, and lived a life of wives and children. .

Many people have completed the transition from the roles of sons to husbands and fathers, and now Su Yonglin has just decided to initiate changes in this area, which is very involved.

Many people can't help but worry a little about their future, as well as some family relationships and the like.

However, Su Yonglin's powerful authority is something they cannot and dare not resist, so when Su Yonglin puts forward this suggestion, which has no problems in reason and ideology, they will feel hesitant emotionally.

The first person to express his support was Kong Maojie. He supported Su Yonglin's proposal as always, even though his son and daughter were born just a few years ago.

"I think it makes sense to do this. What happened in Tai'an is something that is worth encouraging in my opinion. Xiao Cui's father is not worthy of being a father at all. He is a beast... No, he is even a beast. Not as good!

Tiger Poison doesn't eat children, but he is willing to sell his daughter to others for drinking. It looks like a marriage, but he doesn't know how that family will take Xiao Cui back home, how will they treat this debt-paying woman?What is the difference between him doing this and cooking Yi Ya which his son dedicated to the monarch? "

What Kong Maojie said was reasonable, and no one in the audience could refute it.

Xin Qiji, who was hesitant at first, thought about it, sighed, and expressed his opinion.

"Actually, I'm not against the practice of severely punishing Xiao Cui's father. This person's actions are indeed unworthy of being a father. What I worry about is just that the long-standing folk customs have changed suddenly. Will there be some unpredictable things? What about the mess?"

"for example?"

Kong Maojie succeeded Su Yonglin and became the main output player.

Xin Qiji spread his hands.

"For example, conflicts between parents and children, and the resulting difficulties in private marriages, etc., aren't these all possible problems?"

Su Yonglin did not admit this statement, and he joined the discussion.

"You'an, this kind of problem has always existed, but Confucianism's emphasis on loyalty, filial piety, and righteousness has covered up this kind of problem that has always existed with coercive moral pressure. Covering it up doesn't mean it never existed.

On the contrary, the longer it is covered up, and when it is finally hidden, it will always break out, and the total outbreak will be very terrifying, so instead of passively breaking out, it is better to take the initiative to solve it. We should take the initiative to face it, not avoid it. "

Xin Qiji opened his mouth and suddenly felt that he could not refute Su Yonglin's argument.

After thinking about it, he could only lower his head and admit that he was speechless.

"What you said is that I have no opinion."

After refuting Xin Qiji, Su Yonglin turned to look at the other people.

"Speak out your worries. Let's open our hearts and talk about this topic seriously. The speaker is innocent."

Since Su Yonglin said so, then the participants did not worry about other issues, and spoke out what they were worried about one by one.

Su Yonglin and Kong Maojie refuted one by one, and they were speechless. Most people admitted that their concerns were not a reason to oppose the reform.

So they didn't continue to say anything. Even if they didn't support it in their hearts, they wouldn't give any dissenting opinions when they voted.

In fact, things are more or less the same so far.

The last person to raise concerns was Shen Ge, a minister of law in the imperial court.

Shen Ge's understanding of this issue is not ordinary. He does not look at this issue from the personal perspectives of the head of the family, the man, the husband and the father, but from a rather macro perspective.

So the question he asks is quite interesting.

"What you discussed just now is nothing more than the issue of men's power at home, as well as some family relationship issues, I think these issues are irrelevant in this matter.

What I'm more concerned about is the origin and origin of the rules of the parents' life matchmaker's words. Since this rule was born and has been in operation for so many years, there has been no major trouble. It is naturally reasonable.

Where does its rationality come from?Why did the ancients choose to go this route?Are they forced to be helpless, or are they the best among the best?Have you considered this issue? "

(End of this chapter)