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Chapter 4740 4743 [Self-suggestion Therapy]

While Xiang Nan was supervising the construction, Li Wan, Yingchun and Tanchun also began to take over the housekeeping duties from Wang Xifeng.

Li Wan had no objection to the housekeeper's matter.

She had been a widow for many years, and her heart was as dry as a tree. Apart from her son Jia Lan, who could still make her worry, she was not interested in other things. She would not speak unless it was her business, and would shake her head and say she didn't know when asked.

Yingchun was not enthusiastic about the housekeeper's job either.

She was cowardly and dull by nature. She didn't want to cause trouble, nor did she want trouble to come to her door, so when Xiang Nan suggested that she be the housekeeper, she wanted to refuse at that time.

"I can't do it. I can't manage it. Let's leave it to my third sister." Yingchun said, "She has always had her own ideas since she was young. She will definitely be able to manage the family well."

After hearing her say this, Tanchun did not refuse. Instead, she seemed eager to try it and was determined to do it.

When Lady Jia and Mrs. Wang heard her say this, they were both silent.

Xiang Nan saw this and said, "Second sister, it is precisely because you are not good enough that you need to practice more. In our family, you have the support of our ancestors and the wife, and the assistance of the eldest sister-in-law and the third sister, so you can practice more.

Even if you don't manage it well for a while, it's no big deal. Just practice more. Who can run right after birth? It all comes down to practice little by little.

If you are afraid of being the housekeeper in our house, what will you do when you get married in the future? By then, you will be the only housekeeper. Are you going to say that you can't manage it? Who can you pass the power to then?"

Hearing Xiang Nan say this, Yingchun was stunned.

"Yes, Baoyu is right, you should practice more." Grandmother Jia nodded and said, "You will get married in two years, so you should try to manage the household.

Practice at home. It doesn't matter whether you do things well or not. You can gain experience. If you marry someone else and you can't manage the household, you will be a disgrace to the elderly."

"Yes, you can learn even if you don't know how. Your sister-in-law Lian couldn't do it well at the beginning, but after a few years of experience, you can see how well she can do it now." Mrs. Wang also nodded.

"This is a rare opportunity, so just follow along and learn." Mrs. Xing also advised.

Yingchun couldn't refuse, so she had to agree.

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Next, Li Wan, Yingchun and Tanchun began to manage the household.

All affairs of the inner house are under the charge of these three people.

For example, when old friends and relatives get married, or when they get promoted or demoted, people from the inner house must be sent to congratulate, express condolences, welcome and see them off, and nothing can be neglected.

There were also two or three hundred maids, wet nurses, old women, servants, and little maids in the inner courtyard of the Jia Mansion, and each of them had her own job.

Although Xiang Nan's parchment prevented the servants from making big mistakes, any system has loopholes, so people are needed to check for and fill in the gaps.

Fortunately, there are basically precedents to follow when it comes to matters concerning wealthy families.

For example, there are corresponding rules for what gifts to give at a wedding, how much funeral gifts to give at a funeral, how much gift to give for a promotion, and how to respond to demotion. If you follow the rules, there will basically be no major problems.

The difficult part is dealing with the maids, old women, and servants in the inner house.

As the saying goes, there are all kinds of people in the world. Some of them are smart, some are foolish, some are honest, some are cunning, some are diligent, and some are lazy... It is not an easy task to train them all. Fortunately, Li Wan, Yingchun, and Tanchun are good at planning. Three cobblers are better than Zhuge Liang. In addition, Lin Daiyu, Xue Baochai, etc. also followed to assist, so no big mistakes were made after a few days of management.

"How are the housekeepers, second sister and third sister, these days?" Xiang Nan asked with concern.

"Fortunately, we discussed everything together and nothing went wrong." Tanchun nodded.

"Yes, third sister is quick and decisive in her actions. She is really a good housekeeper." Yingchun was a little envious.

"What about you, second sister?" Xiang Nan asked when seeing this.

"Since my elder sister-in-law and third sister are here, I'll just be a guest." Yingchun waved her hand and said.

"How can that be possible? You said you should train yourself." Xiang Nan waved his hand and said, "When you get married in two years, will you bring your eldest sister-in-law and third sister with you?

How about this, Third Sister, let Second Sister take charge of a specific matter, such as letting her take charge of weddings and funerals first." Xiang Nan said, "You can take turns after two months, so that each of you can get some training."

"Okay, second brother." Tanchun nodded.

"Brother Bao, I..." Yingchun still lacked confidence.

"Good sister, don't worry. No one is born knowing how to run. Everyone learns little by little." Xiang Nan said with a smile, "I believe you can do it, second sister. You should also give yourself more confidence.

You are no worse than others. You have two eyes and a mouth. You are not stupid or foolish. If others can do it, you can do it too. Tell yourself that you are the best. You are absolutely right.

"Yes, Miss, Master Bao is right. Since the old lady and the lady trust you so much and are willing to give you the opportunity to manage the household, why are you still refusing?" Yingchun's maid Siqi stepped forward and said.

"That's right, Siqi, help the second sister." Xiang Nan said, "If there are any unruly servants who dare to act unruly, or any servants who don't obey the rules, just report to the old lady or the madam, and confiscate her silver and rice, beat her with a stick, or even kick her out of the house.

You should know that you are the second daughter of a prince's mansion. Apart from the princesses of the royal family, there is no woman more noble than you in the world. What do you have to be afraid of?"

"That's right, second sister, second brother is so right." Tanchun persuaded Yingchun, "We are the daughters of the prince's mansion, others should be afraid of us, why should we be afraid of others."

"But I still feel unsure." Yingchun said hesitantly.

"That's easy. I'll teach you a method that's guaranteed to work." Xiang Nan said with a smile, "You should say it to each other ten times every morning, noon and night, 'I am the second young lady of the prince's mansion, I am the most noble woman in the world, I have nothing to fear.'"

"What kind of method is this?" Everyone laughed when they heard it.

"This is called 'self-suggestion', a form of psychological therapy." Xiang Nan explained, "The human mind is very subtle. It can make people feel upbeat and burst out with unprecedented abilities, or it can make people depressed and unable to even do basic tasks such as eating and drinking. My second sister has both brains and abilities, but what she lacks is self-confidence. As long as she has confidence, she is not afraid of any problems."

He knew that Yingchun was introverted and cowardly, and her mother died soon after she was born. His father Jia She did not treat her like a worn-out shoe or sneer at her, but he did not care about her either.

Her stepmother, Lady Xing, her brother, Jia Lian, and her sister-in-law, Wang Xifeng, were not very friendly to her. In this environment of long-term neglect, Yingchun's character naturally became more introverted and cowardly.

There is a term for this in psychology, called "learned helplessness", which means that because of too many setbacks and rejections, people give up trying, choose to lie down, and accept everything.

Xiang Nan is a master of psychology and has a lot of experience in how to make adjustments.

He pushed Yingchun to be the housekeeper so that she could step out of her comfort zone, start working hard, and start learning. In this way, step by step, after achieving results, people will become better and better.

After hearing what Xiang Nan said, everyone nodded and agreed with him.