After the divorce, I started to transfer

Zhang Jingwen and Chen Feng's words left Dai Sixian in a long silence.

Seeing her like this, the two men tacitly understood and didn't say anything more. Chen Feng picked up his teacup and drank his tea, no longer checking his phone. Since she was acting like this, he still had to show basic courtesy.

Zhang Jingwen gently sat down next to Dai Sixian, silently putting her arm around her shoulder, offering her unspoken comfort.

The scene suddenly became very quiet, and no one spoke.

The silence was broken by a sudden ringing of a cell phone. It was Zhang Jingwen. Upon seeing the number, she quickly stood up and said, "It's my agent calling. I'll go answer it."

After Zhang Jingwen left, Dai Sixian slowly tilted her head to look at Chen Feng and asked, "Do you think Fei Yu's eagerness to marry me is driven more by either feelings or money?"

Chen Feng countered, "Do you think this is important?"

Dai Sixian nodded and said, "Of course it's important."

Chen Feng laughed and said, "If he values ​​your family background and your family's money more, are you planning to break up with him?"

Dai Sixian lowered her head slightly and remained silent.

Seeing this, Chen Feng asked with a hint of teasing, "I'm quite curious, what qualities did you find in him? Is it because he's handsome, highly educated, and has a good sense of humor?"

Dai Sixian noticed a hint of disdain in Chen Feng's eyes for her boyfriend, and frowned as she asked, "Aren't these advantages enough?"

Chen Feng shook his head and said, "Of course not. If you're just playing around with him and don't want to develop a deep relationship in the long term, these advantages are certainly enough, and you could even just have him be handsome. But judging from your current state, you're clearly considering marrying him, so these advantages are just bonuses, not essential."

"What are the essential requirements?" Dai Sixian asked with a hint of doubt. "Is it the so-called values ​​and personality?"

Chen Feng shook his head again and said, "Whether your values ​​and personalities are compatible is a sufficient condition for marriage, but it is not the most essential option. Some couples, even if their values ​​and personalities are not very compatible, can still grow old together happily. And the reason for this is that they all have an essential advantage, which is good character."

"Character?" Dai Sixian was taken aback, then frowned and pondered.

Chen Feng continued, "Without good character as a foundation, relationships and marriage are destined to be dangerous. Character is like food safety; if the ingredients are poisonous, no matter how good your cooking skills are, you can't make healthy and delicious dishes. If you compare love to a building, character is the foundation. If the foundation is unstable, no matter how beautiful the building is, it is always in danger of collapsing."

Dai Sixian nodded thoughtfully and said, "You're right, character is indeed essential. At least character determines the lower limit of a relationship; a person with good character will at least not betray you."

Chen Feng smiled and nodded: "That's exactly the point. A person of good character will still respect, be honest with, and take responsibility for you even after their feelings for you have faded. You won't be hurt by deception and betrayal. In my opinion, even if love exists, it's hard to last. After all, it's essentially a dopamine reaction in the brain, which is destined to be difficult to sustain. As many older couples say, after marriage and starting a family, the love between them gradually transforms into kinship, and each other's presence becomes a habit, or rather, a responsibility."

Therefore, for a marriage to last, the most important factor is the reliability of each other's character. Because if one partner's character is flawed, the other is always at risk of suffering various forms of harm, such as infidelity. I recently saw a social survey online about infidelity rates. It was conducted in China 10 years ago, and the data showed that the rate was 34% for men and 13.4% for women. Now, ten years later, do you think the infidelity rate has decreased or increased?

Dai Sixian's eyes widened slightly in surprise. "It was already 34% 10 years ago? That means at least three or four out of ten men cheated. You men really aren't any good. There must be even more cheating now."

Chen Feng said irritably, "Although no related investigations have been conducted in the last ten years, it can be seen from the divorce cases of the past decade that while the proportion of men who cheat is still higher than that of women, the rate of increase in women's infidelity is faster. So, don't create gender antagonism. Men and women are both human beings, and there are good and bad people among them."

Dai Sixian didn't refute his words, but frowned and asked, "Are you implying that Fei Yu is a bad person?"

Chen Feng immediately waved his hand in denial: "I don't know him well enough. I'm just stating the facts and emphasizing that character is the most important thing in relationships and marriage. If you want to get engaged or married to him, you must first thoroughly understand his character. This is just a suggestion for you."

"Okay, thank you." Dai Sixian rarely thanked Chen Feng formally. "You're right. Character is the most important foundation in a relationship. Otherwise, once the initial excitement wears off, a person with poor character will definitely hurt the other person."

"Yes, that makes sense. Think about it carefully. If you really want to continue with him, you need to test his character properly."

"Then tell me, how exactly do you test a person's character?" Dai Sixian looked at him with a thirst for knowledge and anticipation in her eyes.

Chen Feng shrugged helplessly and said, "You really think I'm an expert on relationships? What I just said was just something I said offhand based on my own experience and judgment, and it may not be the 100% correct answer."

Dai Sixian teased, "With so many confidantes, and such a free-spirited woman, how can you not be considered a relationship expert? Hurry up and give me some specific advice, and I'll treat you to a big meal next time as a thank you."

Chen Feng really didn't want to keep rambling on with Dai Sixian, but seeing Zhang Jingwen still on the balcony making a phone call, he knew he couldn't leave anytime soon. So he shook his head and said, "It's hard to test someone's character all at once; it takes long-term observation and verification. For example, you can observe their true nature unconsciously revealed in some everyday little things. When you eat together, how they treat the waiters, the cleaning ladies, the deliverymen, and the takeout drivers. Is it respect and politeness, or is it bossy and domineering? These details can reveal their character."

After thinking for a moment, Dai Sixian said, "He basically ignores these people and doesn't say a word to them. Does that mean his character is... bad?"

Chen Feng rolled his eyes at her and retorted, "What do you think?"

Dai Sixian retorted, "That can't be said too absolutely, can it? Many people are like that. He just ignores them, but it doesn't mean he disrespects them. At least he doesn't boss them around or treat them like dirt."

Chen Feng didn't directly refute him, but simply said, "I can see that he talks a lot and has a good sense of humor when he's with you, and he's also quite talkative when he's with me and Jingwen. This clearly shows that he's not an introverted person. But he just won't say a word to these waiters, cleaning ladies, deliverymen, and food delivery workers. So do you think he truly respects these people?"

Dai Sixian was speechless when asked the question.

Chen Feiyu's family background is considered good among ordinary people. At least his family could afford to support his studies in the United States. He also lived up to expectations and entered a major Internet company after returning from studying abroad. Now his annual salary is close to one million.

With such a family background and annual income, he would be considered a perfect catch by ordinary people.

Therefore, it's normal for him to look down on people from lower social classes than himself.

At this point, Dai Sixian recalled his personality and some subtle actions in his past life, and basically came to believe this fact.

After a while, Dai Sixian asked again, "What does it mean if he doesn't respect these people?" Chen Feng replied, "At least it means he doesn't have much compassion or empathy, and he can't be considered kind."

Dai Sixian subconsciously retorted, "You can't be so absolute, can you? He really likes dogs. He used to have a Labrador, but it unfortunately died. He was heartbroken for a long time, so much so that he doesn't dare to raise a dog anymore, afraid that it might die accidentally and he wouldn't be able to bear it. This shows that he is still very loving."

Chen Feng shrugged indifferently and said, "Maybe. I'm just stating the facts based on my understanding and analysis."

Dai Sixian then pressed on, "Are there any others?"

Chen Feng then asked, "Has he ever commented on his ex?"

Upon hearing this, Dai Sixian understood immediately and said, "He mentioned having two exes. One was his first love, whom he dated when he was in university in China. Later, after he went abroad to study, they were separated, and their relationship gradually faded. He said she was the one who initiated the breakup, and he was heartbroken for a long time before meeting his second girlfriend and recovering. He never spoke ill of his first girlfriend, only saying that long-distance relationships are destined to be short-lived, and he didn't blame her. His second relationship also ended because of the long distance; he had to return to China for work and career development, but his second girlfriend wanted to stay abroad, so their breakup was inevitable. He also never spoke ill of his second girlfriend. Doesn't this show that he has a good character?"

Chen Feng nodded and answered truthfully, "Indeed. He didn't say anything bad about his ex. Just from that point of view, he's not a bad person."

Dai Sixian immediately became happy and said with a smile, "I also admire that about him, otherwise I wouldn't have easily agreed to his pursuit in the first place."

"As long as you think he's a good person, that's fine. After all, you're the one who knows him best. I've only met him a few times."

Upon hearing this, Dai Sixian's expression immediately became serious again, and she said, "You certainly can't tell a person's true character from just one or two points. Tell me, are there any other aspects that can be observed and verified?"

After thinking for a moment, Chen Feng said, "You can take a look at his core circle of friends. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. If his core circle of friends consists of upright, ambitious, and kind people, then he is most likely the same kind. And vice versa."

Dai Sixian frowned slightly and said, "His core circle of friends consists of only two or three people. I keep in touch with two of them quite often, but I've only met them a few times. The other one lives in Beijing, and I've only met him once."

"So what do you think of these two friends of his that he's met a few times?"

Dai Sixian smiled wryly and said, "We've only met a few times, had meals together and such, and haven't gotten to know each other well, so how could I possibly know?"

Chen Feng said irritably, "You're supposed to be a rich heiress, didn't your parents teach you any manners or how to read people?"

Dai Sixian shrugged and shook her head, saying, "I'm not the family heir, how could my parents teach me these things? But you're right, he took me to meet them a few times before, and we ate together, so I could get a sense of their personalities. One of them was his classmate from elementary to high school, but he wasn't as good at studying as him and only went to an ordinary university. Now he owns two milk tea shops, and I heard the business is very good and he's made a lot of money. His family is also rich; he drives a BMW X6 and changes girlfriends frequently."

The other one, four or five years older than him, is his cousin. The two have been very close since childhood, like brothers. This cousin is already married with children and works in a state-owned enterprise as a middle-level manager. He has a very bureaucratic style, speaks eloquently and wittily, and is also very humorous. I feel that Feiyu learned his sense of humor from his cousin.

My friend in Beijing, who was also his classmate (though we went from junior high to high school), successfully passed the civil service exam after graduating from university and stayed in Beijing. His family is wealthy, and they bought him a house in Beijing. A few days ago, Feiyu told me that he's dating the daughter of his boss and they're probably getting engaged soon. Could you help me analyze what his three core friends say?

Chen Feng spread his hands and said, "I'm not a god. You don't even know what kind of people his three core friends are. How can I analyze and judge them?"

After frowning and thinking for a while, Dai Sixian said, "Feiyu's closest relative is this cousin, after all, we grew up together, he's his aunt's son. But I don't have a very good impression of him. Several times at gatherings, I've noticed him glancing at my chest with a lewd look. I don't really like that classmate who owns the milk tea shop either. I feel like he's always showing off his business acumen at gatherings, he loves to boast, and he seems a bit pretentious. Although I've only met the one from Beijing once, he seems very shrewd and calculating in his words and actions."

Chen Feng laughed and said, "It seems you have your own set of methods for judging people, and your summary is very accurate."

Dai Sixian frowned and asked, "Does my denial of the character of his three core friends indirectly suggest that he himself also has some character issues?"

Chen Feng shook his head and said, "You'll have to figure that out for yourself."

Dai Sixian fell silent again. Although Chen Feng didn't give a definite answer, it was pretty much the same.

At this moment, Zhang Jingwen finally finished her call and came back over. Seeing that neither of them was speaking, she took the initiative to say, "Sister E just called me and said that a brand invited me to be their spokesperson. The price was quite high, but I thought about it and decided to decline."

"Ah, are you stupid? Since the price is high, why refuse?" Dai Sixian asked in surprise.

Chen Feng asked, "Is there something wrong with this brand?"

Zhang Jingwen smiled and nodded, revealing the answer: "Yes, it's a sanitary napkin advertisement. The brand offered me 1500 million yuan a year for endorsement, and wanted me to endorse it for two years, totaling 3000 million yuan. But I felt it was too shameful. Sister E persuaded me for a long time, but after thinking it over, I still refused."

Chen Feng nodded in agreement, saying, "Your endorsement of this is indeed not good for your personal image. In addition, several sanitary napkin brands have been exposed in the past two years, either for failing to meet hygiene standards or for containing carcinogens. It's better to be careful."

Zhang Jingwen chimed in, "Yes, I have the same concerns, so it's better not to make this money. Otherwise, if things go wrong in the future, I'll be in big trouble."

Upon hearing this, Dai Sixian agreed, saying, "That's true. Several brands of sanitary napkins have indeed been involved in scandals before."

Zhang Jingwen then asked curiously, "What were you talking about just now? You seemed to be having a lively conversation."

Dai Sixian said, "Chen Feng talked to me about character, saying that the most important thing in relationships and marriage is character, and I think about it and I agree."

Upon hearing this, Zhang Jingwen immediately nodded and said, "I agree. Character is indeed the most important thing. At least it ensures that the other person won't actively hurt you. A person with bad character can't be a good match."

Dai Sixian then asked Zhang Jingwen directly, "So what do you think of Fei Yu's character?"

Zhang Jingwen's expression stiffened slightly, and she said with a wry smile, "How can I say? I don't know him very well either. You are more qualified than me to judge whether he is a good person or not."

Dai Sixian stared at her solemnly and said, "If you still consider me your sister, then tell me the truth. I need your perspective as a third party to judge him and give me a more objective reference." (End of Chapter)