The story of police officer Yang Qianfeng

Chapter 505 Emotional escort
Chen Laixiang hadn't fully recovered because of the pain yesterday that almost killed her. Today, she took such a long car ride and was hit hard when she got to the hospital and found out that she was terminally ill. Xiangyi took such a long time, so after returning from Yucai school, she was exhausted. At first she wanted to chat with Yang Qianfeng, but Yang Qianfeng knew that she was too tired, so he put her to bed. After Chen Laixiang went to bed, Yang Qianfeng was like her Like coaxing Xiangyi to sleep when she was a child, she patted her gently while humming a lullaby. After a while, Chen Laixiang fell asleep with a smile on her face...

After Chen Laixiang fell asleep for a while, a nurse in her thirties came to check the ward. Seeing that Chen Laixiang was sleeping peacefully and there was nothing unusual, she stepped forward and touched her forehead.

Yang Qianfeng immediately said, "She doesn't have a fever."

The nurse smiled and said, "Let's take your temperature!"

Yang Qianfeng immediately took the thermometer from her hand and put it under Chen Laixiang's armpit. The nurse said, "I'll come back in 5 minutes."

Five minutes later, the nurse came in again, took out the thermometer, looked at it and said, "5 degrees 36, normal." She habitually shook the thermometer on her hand and said, "My surname is Yang, and I am on duty at night. Me." With that said, he was about to leave the ward.

Yang Qianfeng stopped her and said in a low voice, "Nurse Yang, Expert Shen told me that the facility treatment plan will start tomorrow. Based on your experience, will the patient be in pain during the treatment?"

Nurse Yang turned around and said, "There are some things I wanted to tell you after waiting for the treatment plan facilities. Since you asked, I'd better tell you!"

Yang Qianfeng immediately brought a square stool in front of her and said, "Please sit down and talk."

Nurse Yang smiled and said, "Your lover is asleep, let's talk outside!"

Yang Qianfeng followed her to the outside of the ward. Nurse Yang said, "Expert Shen is the best oncologist in our provincial hospital, and he is also the head of our oncology department. Pay attention, I have already contacted outside experts for her condition, and we will have a consultation with your lover tomorrow, and then implement the treatment plan after the consultation." Nurse Yang glanced at the ward and continued: "Although your wife looks Very good, but expert Shen told us that recently, maybe tomorrow, her body will have a reaction, that is, labor pains, so the key is to treat as soon as possible. After the onset of the disease, the patient must be in great pain, and it is necessary to implement treatment The plan cannot be completely avoided, but this is not the main thing, the main thing is her spirit. According to our long-term experience in nursing work, as family members, we must first be psychologically prepared in this regard, and cooperate with us to do a good job of emotional care for the patient. Escort work."

It was the first time Yang Qianfeng heard the term emotional escort and asked, "Emotional escort?"

Nurse Yang nodded and said, "Yes, emotional support. That's what I was about to tell you. After a patient is diagnosed with cancer, their psychology often changes. Generally, there are five stages of psychological changes in patients.

The first stage is the nervousness and anxiety of the patient.Anyone who is diagnosed with cancer is undoubtedly hit in the head, feeling panic, fear, tension and anxiety.Severe cases can also cause restlessness, and you can't eat or sleep.From the perspective of psychological defense mechanism, this psychological process has both advantages and disadvantages.When a person's life is threatened or the body feels pain, anxiety is originally a very good warning signal, which makes people respond accordingly to the threat or pain they face.However, long-term and severe anxiety will cause human endocrine dysfunction, thereby destroying its natural defense system.The tension and anxiety at this time will no longer protect people's survival, but will become a disease, which will affect the treatment of cancer.Seeing that your lover can sleep so soundly, I have never seen it before. It seems that her heart is very strong.

The second stage is the patient's state of mind from denial to approval.After many cancer patients learn that they have cancer, they often use the psychological process of denial to cope with the sudden bad news.Denial is like a buffer, which can soften the impact of bad news, and at the same time calm the patient's mind so that he can prepare psychologically and physically.Your lover is very strong, and the psychological process of denial did not occur. I think she has basically accepted and recognized this fact. As long as the psychology does not repeat, she should be able to cooperate with the doctor to actively participate in various treatments.

The third stage is suffering from grievance and resentment.The patient knows that his doom of cancer has been determined, and he will definitely think of many problems. As far as your lover is concerned, in the future, he will definitely think that he is so young but has come to the end of his life, think that he still has many ideals that have not been realized, and think of his parents. , Children still need their own care, thinking that your loving life is coming to an end, etc., I must feel extremely painful, especially when I see others enjoying the family happiness without worry, but I am locked in the ward. In addition to various laboratory tests, there are endless injections and medications, all of which will make her feel wronged, jealous, angry and resentful.Therefore, at this stage, your lover may feel that many things are not pleasing to the eye, so she may lose her temper involuntarily no matter how big or small it encounters.Therefore, you should pay attention to her from now on, and try to let her control her emotions, so as not to damage her defense function after having these emotions. Once this happens, you have to understand her more. Of course, we will do nursing. The same goes for the working ones.

The fourth stage is the disappointment and struggle of the patient.After the implementation of the treatment plan, there are many uncertain situations, such as: the pain has been tortured for a long time; after the implementation of the treatment plan, the curative effect is not significant and the condition fluctuates, etc.These will make patients often feel that the future is bleak, coupled with physical weakness, and relatives are involved, so it is inevitable to produce a lot of guilt, disappointment, depression, depression and loneliness.In addition, many patients often feel emotions when they think of the family they have worked so hard to build, they are full of infinite nostalgia for their past life, seeing their relatives caring and taking care of themselves in every possible way, etc. Combining these emotions, patients sometimes muster up the courage to share the pain. Struggling, and sometimes struggling in despair.Desperation and struggle are serious psychological reactions of cancer patients, and your lover may be no exception. Therefore, we must help her relieve this mentality together.

The fifth stage is the patient's obsession and acceptance of death.It sounds cruel, but we have to face the reality here.Many patients are troubled by the god of death as soon as they come to us.Everyone has a different attitude towards death.When some people think that they have this disease, they feel that they will leave this beautiful world and never see their loved ones again. The tragic scene of life and death will appear in front of them. When they think of themselves going to death alone, their hearts will be filled with infinite melancholy, panic and sorrow.Some patients think that they have been defeated in the life-and-death struggle, and they can only accept death, no longer struggle, no longer have any hope, and completely obey the facts in front of them.Some people accepted the advice and comfort of doctors, relatives and friends, climbed out of the abyss of despair and depression, loved their limited life again, no longer complained about others, gave up on themselves, no longer feared death, and with a calm heart, Accept the doctor's treatment and expect miraculous results.

Generally speaking, under normal circumstances, the five stages I mentioned will occur in the hearts of cancer patients. I have said so much in one breath, do you understand? "

Yang Qianfeng nodded and said, "Thank you for telling me so much, otherwise I wouldn't have understood how many changes a patient's mind would have."

"You're welcome, it's our job to promote this with each patient's family." Nurse Yang continued: "Emotional escort, in our case, refers to providing emotional counseling and psychological help for patients. As a family member, we should focus on two aspects. things:
[-]. Help your loved one overcome fear.First of all, we must actively cooperate with the treatment, but we should not pin all our hopes on the treatment. We should fully mobilize our own energy to curb cancer.Second, you and we need to understand and tolerate your lover's emotional needs and mood swings.Third, try to help your loved one not to imagine the final outcome of the disease in the worst state of mind.If she always thinks this way, she may give up on herself, and in that case, it will aggravate the deterioration of her physical condition.Fourth, your lover’s illness is actually very serious, relapse and labor pains will definitely occur, but you have to help her sum up, especially the changes in her life and emotions, whether there is any difference from the past, these are helpful for finding the cause of relapse It is also easy to help her adjust her beliefs and change her lifestyle.

Second, how to enlighten your lover.First, catharsis and comfort: take the initiative to be enthusiastic about your lover.Especially you and us who are engaged in nursing, you must be with your lover more, listen to her talk about the anxiety in her heart, and express her understanding, so as to eliminate her sense of loneliness and let her realize that she does not bear the pain in isolation.At the same time, give comfort, the comfort should be just right, cancer is a difficult disease, you should not only emphasize the hopeful aspects, but also help her analyze the recurrence of pain, the analysis of the recurrence of pain is mainly up to us, your focus is Talk to your lover about topics other than illness to divert her attention.Second, enlighten your lover, we still have our methods, such as: hint therapy.Suggestion therapy refers to a method in which the therapist affects people's psychology and behavior in an implicit and indirect way.That is to use the authority of Dr. Shen and our nursing staff to make your lover accept Dr. Shen and our concepts, so as to relieve the psychological pressure and burden and relieve the symptoms.Third, this is what I am most reluctant to talk about every time I conduct publicity with the patient's family, but I have to say it.The chances of your loved one recovering from this disease are certainly not high.But stable emotions, a good mood, and mental relaxation can all increase her tolerance to pain.You know your lover best, so you and we have another task to help her correctly understand the natural laws of birth, old age, sickness, and death, and understand that the real value of life lies in the quality, so as to help her get rid of the fear of death Facing death calmly and restlessly.Fourth, you and your family members must care, help and support your lover, so that she can receive treatment and face reality easily and happily. The psychological state of your family members will have different degrees of influence on your lover, especially you. a stable state of mind.In addition, we allow other members of your family to visit your lover at any time, but they must cooperate with us to take care of your lover and reduce her psychological pressure. "Speaking of this, she smiled and said: "I have told you everything that should be said. I hope my words can be helpful to you. In the future, we will work together to do a good job of emotional escort for your lover. "

Yang Qianfeng said gratefully: "Thank you, Nurse Yang, I will seriously digest and understand every word you said."

After Nurse Yang left, Yang Qianfeng walked back to the ward with heavy steps. Looking at the sleeping Chen Laixiang, he sat down beside her weakly. Looking at her, he really wanted to cry and shout: " God! Why are you so cruel to take my most beloved person away from me!"

But he didn't cry or shout, he knew that he should be calm, and should be accompanied by his dearest Axiang...

(End of this chapter)