My 1995 Small Farm.

Chapter 766 Children's Education

Coincidentally, it was the twelfth lunar month and all the young people who had been working in the village returned.

For example, Chen Yuqiang, Chen Ze and others have a good relationship with Chen Ling.

After I came back, I was shocked by the changes in the village.

On the side of the reservoir at the entrance of the village, a ditch was dug and a cultural wall was being built. On the slope, the Wang Laochou and his family built a large foundation and were working hard.

There are a lot more greenhouses in the east of the village.

Every household has decorated their homes with lights and colorful lanterns, and red paper and red lists for gift money for marrying off daughters or daughters are pasted on the walls and have not been taken down yet.

This guy, all of them, really dazzled them.

  I've only been away for three or four months, and everyone in the village is so rich? !

Then I went home and asked, and found out that Chen Ling had found a new way to make money for the village this autumn.

Mountain products can be sold to the city, and wild fruits can be sold to the canning factory in Huangni Town...

The villagers' pockets are fatter this year.

For example, Chen Yuqiang's family has many uncles and brothers, such as Chen Yubin and his brothers. They go into the mountains together, and with the furs and other things they harvest from hunting, the money they earn from the mountains this year is much more than what they would earn from working.

After hearing this, Chen Yuqiang and others immediately regretted what they had said.

I shouldn’t have gone to work if I had known this.

Working is hard and it's not as comfortable as being at home.

At that time, ordinary people could not earn much money by working outside. The most profitable job was carrying heavy bags and having enough food, but that was only 40 or 50 yuan a day.

In addition, we are about to enter 1998, a year of unemployment.

The wage situation outside is also not good.

"I've made up my mind. Next year I won't go out. I'll just stay at home and make our own noodles."

Chen Yuqiang gritted his teeth and prepared to return to his old job.

With his brother Chen Yingqiang's mill there, it is very convenient for them to make dried noodles and mixed noodles.

In short, small profits but quick turnover.

"Yes, I am also going to do something and not go out. Fugui said in the spring that he would not raise chickens and ducks on the farm next year.

They say that with too many children, it would be troublesome to take care of the whole house.

I want to find another place to keep it.

We'll see what happens then. I'll go wherever he goes and raise the child with him.

Anyway, I really don’t want to raise cattle with these people in the village.

It’s so slow to make money from raising cattle.”

When Chen Ze heard about the money his family had saved this autumn, he felt a little jealous.

Now I understand why there are so many people marrying off their daughters and daughters in the village this year.

It seems that Chenwangzhuang is about to become rich and popular.

"Did Fugui ever say that?"

Chen Yuqiang asked curiously.

At this time, they all came out of their homes and walked towards Chen Ling's farm.

I know that Chen Ling is going to hold a hundred-day banquet for his two little ones, so I wanted to ask if there is any way I can help.

"Of course he did. He had been thinking about killing a batch of chickens and ducks when he held the banquet."

Chen Ze said with certainty: "Also, I don't want Uncle Cunye and his wife to be busy here every day, picking eggs and pickling salted eggs, which is too much work. When the two little kids grow up, there will be three of us, including Ruirui.

With so many chickens, ducks and geese, how can he take care of them all?"

Chen Yuqiang laughed when he heard it: "Oh, that's true. Ruirui's temper is even more noisy than when he was a child. Add to that the two little ones. With these three little monkeys, I think he won't be able to do anything starting next year."

To put it bluntly, this is really the case.

But they certainly didn't know what Chen Ling was thinking.

We chatted until we arrived at the farm.

When they arrived at the farm, there were people who had arrived before them.

They didn't recognize these two people, because one of them was Zhao Gang from the military dog ​​base, and the other was Chen Ling's older cousin.

Zhao Gang rarely appears in the village, so they didn't recognize him. Chen Ling's eldest cousin also hasn't been here for many years. If they didn't tell them, who would recognize him?

The main reason my cousin Zhao Wenpin came this time was to help Chen Ling in advance.

In the countryside, when something like this happens, friends and relatives will always come out to help clean up the house.

In addition to this, he also had something else to ask Chen Ling.

He is Zhao Wenpin’s man. Although he looks young, he has the style of the older generation.

I don’t like to say things directly on my mind, and always start with a lot of trivial matters before saying anything.

But he was a person with poor words, and he couldn't say anything after thinking for a long time.

So during lunch, Chen Ling could tell at a glance that he had something to say. After lunch, he deliberately called him outside and asked him what was wrong.

When Chen Yuqiang and the other man came over, they happened to hear Zhao Wenpin complaining.

It is said that the boy in his family was only six or seven years old but he was spoiled by his mother and wife.

Although he didn't understand the concept of "a spoiled child from a poor family", he knew in his heart that given his own situation, with no money and no ability, his spoiled son would definitely not be able to stand any grievance when he grew up.

If you, as parents, are reluctant to teach your child at this time and then let outsiders teach him, that would be no small matter.

But he didn't know how to teach his child. If he beat him, he would have his mother and grandmother to protect him. Beating him wouldn't work either, because in the end his son would hate him as a father. So he was very worried.

"It's easy to say, but it's also difficult. It all depends on whether you are willing to spend the money, Brother Pin."

Chen Ling himself was a naughty kid and a spoiled child, so he knows the mentality of such a spoiled child.

"Spend money? How to spend money to send him to live in the school?"

Zhao Wenpin thought about it after hearing this, nodded and said, "This is indeed a solution, but he is too young now, your aunt and your cousin's wife are reluctant to let him go.

Even if we send him to school, it will take another two or three years, until he is in the second or third grade.”

"No, no, no, that's not what I mean by spending money."

Chen Ling shook his head: "What I mean is that you are now worried that my aunt and cousin's wife will spoil the child, so you might as well add fuel to the fire.

Whatever your child wants to eat or play with, you spend money to buy it for him.

First, make him listen to you as his father. "

"what?"

When Zhao Wenpin heard what he said, his eyes widened with confusion, "If this continues, won't it get worse?"

"Just listen to me..."

Chen Ling smiled and shook his head, "I do this to let the child know that you, as a father, treat him better than his mother and grandmother.

From now on, he will be more likely to listen to what you say.

Maybe you, Brother Pin, feel that doing this will only make your child more ignorant.

  Giving whatever they want, isn’t it becoming increasingly difficult to teach?

This is not the case.

Just make some conditions every time he wants something and you pay to buy it.

It’s just like when we were kids and taking exams, our parents would say, if you can get 100 points, they will boil two eggs for you.

You tell him that you are a good child, a good baby, and don’t cry or make a fuss, and I will buy you something when the time comes.

The more he cries and makes a fuss, the more disobedient he becomes, and I refuse to buy him anything.

In this way, slowly, the child will trust you and listen to you.

You should encourage him more, praise him more, and say that he is a good child who listens to his parents and is a sensible and good kid...

Be patient, and slowly, no matter what you say, he will get in.

Just like today at lunch, look at Ruirui, Susu and I told him that the little tiger is very focused when eating and never moves around, so that it can grow strong and no one can beat it.

He immediately settled down, sat on the small stool, and ate his meal with a spoon without Susu's supervision. "

"It's too simple. Isn't this just coaxing a child..."

Zhao Wenpin's eyes bulged, as if he had realized something, but his cultural level limited his understanding to a deeper level, and he was unable to express the thoughts that were about to burst out in his mind.

So when the words came to my lips, I could only open my eyes wider and wider, and I couldn't say a word I wanted to say.

Wang Susu, who was passing by, held back her laughter after hearing this, thinking that her own A Ling's idea didn't seem like coaxing a child at all, it was clearly the way to train a dog.

This was the case when Ruirui first learned to crawl on the ground. Chen Ling didn't let her control him and used the puppy as an example, which made her very upset.

But having said that, Chen Ling's methods are still very effective.

"You're right to think so. Just do what I say. The child is still young, so don't worry about it."

Chen Ling comforted him.

In later generations, many people gave this method the name "PUA".

They also said that the biggest PUA they had ever received in their lives came from their parents.

Because my parents have instilled in me since I was a child the concept that I am excellent.

So gradually I began to believe it. I would feel guilty if I didn't do well in the exam, and I would be afraid to go home if I couldn't find a good job because I felt sorry for them.

Criticized by many people.

But I have to say...

This method is the most suitable for Zhao Wenpin's family situation.

There is no need to beat the child. With his aunt and cousin's wife protecting him, Zhao Wenpin only needs to pamper the child more and more and slowly guide the child with some personal advice.

  Chen Ling asked Zhao Wenpin to teach the child to be sensible and motivated. Could it be that the elder aunt and cousin's wife would prevent the child from learning well?

Certainly not.

Even a gangster wants his children to be obedient and listen to their parents.

"Okay, I'll go back and try it first."

Now, his cousin Chen Ling is blessed with all kinds of halos. Although Zhao Wenpin doesn't understand whether this method is useful or not, he still trusts him very much.

"I think this method is good. I will go back and try it."

Zhao Gang chuckled at this time. When Chen Ling said this just now, he really took these words to heart.

This has to do with his personal style.

He came from the military, and he taught his children in a strict and old-fashioned way, following the military style. As a result, his wife and his parents were completely the opposite of him and were particularly doting on his children.

The actual situation is even more serious than Zhao Wenpin's.

Because his child is much older than Zhao Wenpin's child.

"..."

Chen Ling exclaimed in his heart, wondering what was going on today, are these two brothers coming over just to see me having a banquet for my kid, to discuss the issue of children’s education with me?