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Chapter 4 Shang Yan ran away from home
Pan Xihong has been the most favored one in her family since she was a child.Not only because of her frailty, but she is also the smartest with the highest EQ.

She is also prettier than the eldest sister, and she is the most educated person in the family, so apart from having a relatively poor life, she can be considered to have grown up under the stars.

Song Jiahui always said: "We Xihong graduated from Ph.D. and became a university teacher in Xingang. I will tell you the news about your grandma's life. The depression I have been holding in my chest for decades will be cleared up at once. God Refreshing and refreshing.

The third family has a son, but the son was lonely after graduating from high school, and went to the south to work after getting a junior college degree.

Nowadays, I ask for money at home twice in three days, I want a house but I don’t have a house, I want a serious job but I don’t have a serious job. I have a pair of twins but I’m a son, but I’m also a master who doesn’t like to study. What’s the use of having a son?I have no sons, but these two girls of mine are better than ten sons. "

"Tch, what's so good about my son, let's smile, I'm sure I'm going to study for a doctorate in the future, I'm going to an Ivy League school to get a doctorate and come back."

Xiaoxiao is Pan Xihong's daughter, who is less than one year old now.Compared with the mother's beauty and talkative personality, the child inherited Chang Yuan's appearance and cold personality.Compared with children of the same age, she even looked so rare.

Pan Guanlin said to his second daughter: "Don't be too much influenced by your mother. Your grandma has a serious problem, but the patriarchy of that generation is deeply rooted, and she is not alone. The key is that you and your mother-in-law should communicate normally. Especially Chang Yuan's family is different from ours, he is an only child, if your parents-in-law have any ideas, communicate directly and don't get angry."

Pan Xihong complained to her father: "It's true that the whole family does not come into the house. How can I find a husband? My husband's family is just like my grandma. Their idea is to let me have a second child, or a third child. Anyway, I will always have grandchildren." So far. In their eyes, college teachers are free at work, and they can take care of their children during the winter and summer vacations. They don’t know how many papers I have to write this semester, how many assessment reports I have to write, and how many articles I have to publish to evaluate my title.”

"Having a second child is also a good thing. Xiaoxiao will have a younger brother or younger sister and have multiple companions in the future. Every day, your mother and I are busy with three meals. In addition, there is homework for business dialect. The child is lonely playing with himself of."

Pan Xihong said: "When I was not married, I urged to get married quickly. After I got married, I urged to have a child quickly. After giving birth to a daughter, I hurried to have a son. Even if I gave birth to a son, I don't know what will happen later."And if I really failed the competition because of these things and lost the job, they would immediately dislike me for not being good enough for her son.So, in order to protect myself, I must focus on work. "

Pan Guanlin said: "The more you talk about it, the more outrageous it is! Marriage is about working together for a family, and having more children will be your own benefit in the future. I can't hear your exquisite egoism. Back then, your mother and I supported you. Teaching and educating people, and caring for the elderly have not been left behind. Now that life is better, you are becoming more and more hypocritical."

Pan Xihong said: "Dad, the times are different now. Can the way of raising children in your era be the same as raising children now? Your concept of raising children has long been outdated."

Pan Guanlin said: "Whether in the past or now, the purpose of raising children is to become successful. If my method is not good, then how did you and your sister become successful?"

Song Jiahui loves her second daughter the most on weekdays. Seeing the child being scolded by the father to keep silent, she hurriedly said: "Xihong, mother understands what you said, just work hard and leave the child care to mother. Xiaoxiao put it here and let me watch it for you. When you have a second child in the future, your mother will watch it for you. Your father and your mother are the bricks of you and your sister, and you can move them wherever you need."

Chang Yuan and his wife teach at the same university, and now they have been rated as a deputy senior post. While his wife is happy for him, she also complains that she has been delayed for more than a year because of the childbirth.

When my daughter was just born, my grandparents also came to Xingang to see the child for a while, but the way the old man took care of the child was very different from Pan Xihong's requirements.During the breast-feeding leave, she would record several pages of food, drink, and diarrhea for the child every day. The child only had five or six towels, and four or five feeding bottles with different functions.

The grandparents were very troubled, and they often had disputes because of these different ways of raising the baby, and finally broke up unhappy.Although Pan Xihong did not suffer from postpartum depression, he developed hyperthyroidism due to conflicts with his parents-in-law. Every time he thinks about it, he gets emotional, and he is also in a dilemma.

Although grandma and grandpa are also incompatible with young people's educational concepts, but fortunately, both of them don't hold grudges when they quarrel with each other. If only the two of them are expected to take care of the children, the current workload and pressure will only delay both sides.

However, Chang Yuan still has some complaints about children's education.After all, the husband and wife are both university teachers, and their grandparents are also middle school teachers, but their precious daughter is not as good as her peers, and often feels that her reaction is a few beats slower.This is the deepest experience when the husband and wife took their children to the preschool education center on weekends.

Pan Xihong also complained to her mother in private: "You take time out to teach Xiaoxiao something, communicate with her more, and don't let her put it in the fence or in the stroller, don't care. Children of the same age will be much better. something."

Song Jiahui said: "It is enough for such a big child not to be thirsty or hungry, not to fall and not to be touched. When you and your sister were in the nursery school in Inner Mongolia, you would lie on the bed every day, and no one would pee. I know, not all of them are mature now. Those who teach early education are businesses, and they want to make money. If you jump into this pit with your head, it will be endless."

Pan Guanlin also said: "Don't worry, before Xiaoxiao goes to elementary school, I will let the children know more than 2000 characters, and the addition and subtraction within 100 can be counted correctly with closed eyes. Dozens of Tang poems and Song poems are the foundation. Now is not the time !"

Pan Xihong said: "It is not recommended for children to write with a pen before elementary school, and it is not recommended to learn all the knowledge of elementary school in advance, so that children will be able to master it, and they will not be able to concentrate in class. Xiaoxiao, the current stage is mainly for intellectual development and the cultivation of perception. Both nature and the world are capable.”

Song Jiahui said to the second daughter: "I agree with your father on this matter. We have brought up so many students, but we still don't know how to educate the children. If you leave the children with me, we will go as we want." , if you are not at ease, you can find a way to see for yourself, if you are short of money, your father and I can support you from the pension."

Pan Xihong was not polite to her parents either. She and Chang Yuan still had 27 years left on their mortgage. If they asked their aunt to watch their children, their current financial situation would not allow it.But the young couple soon discovered that the risk of leaving the child in the care of the aunt alone was even more uncontrollable.

Chang Yuan has installed several cameras at home, but Auntie often seems to be very good at avoiding these places that can be monitored.

Xiaoxiao sleeps longer and longer every day, which makes the young couple even more scared.So, Pan Xihong discussed with her parents again, whether it is possible to hire a nanny to take care of housework and three meals a day with her grandparents. The old couple are only responsible for smiling during the day.

Pan Guanlin and Song Jiahui resolutely opposed: "Here I am, you have to listen to me. Your mother and I have not yet reached the age where we need to hire a nanny to take care of us. We are all working people. It is not unheard of for you to suffer when we were young. Now that life is so good, but I want to hire a nanny, I will talk about it when I lie in bed and can’t move. You want to invite it to your home.”

Pan Xihong is also tired, the school work is piled up to the ceiling, and the best way to raise her daughter can only maintain the status quo.

If Pan Xihong, the second daughter of the Pan family, has a lot of work pressure, and has endless job title evaluations and endless job reports every year, then the eldest daughter's work can only be described as harder and more stressful.

Pan Shengnan is the head teacher of the graduating class of the third year of junior high school. Every day, it is almost eight o'clock when he returns home from the evening care, and he gets out of school before seven o'clock in the morning, and he has to correct a mountain of papers and homework when he returns home. ?Moreover, the son who is more rebellious than the average adolescent grows up with his grandfather and grandmother, and is even more resistant to his parents. As long as Pan Shengnan comes home, he will close the door tightly, and he is not allowed to check all his homework.

Pan Shengnan said to his parents: "It takes several hours to rectify the discipline. I don't know if he is angry or not. Anyway, I am so angry that my blood pressure rises and my fingers are numb. I can't calm down for a long time. I still have forty A child who is about to take the senior high school entrance examination cannot get up because of him."

When Pan Shengnan spoke, Shang Yan was still in the second year of junior high school, but now he is a new graduating student in the third year of junior high school, and his homework has become even busier.The eldest grandson was brought up by himself since he was a child, and now at the critical moment, Pan Guanlin and Song Jiahui are obliged to shoulder the heavy responsibility and take on the historical problem of taking care of the children's homework and review.

At that time, Pan Guanlin and Song Jiahui felt that the old couple had taught middle school and high school literacy classes all their lives, and that the precious sword was still able to exert some residual heat, but they didn't expect it, just like what the doctor said. They can also think of a way, but on their own grandchildren, it is even more difficult than reaching the sky. In the final analysis, the children are not afraid of them at all.

After a long time, they felt from Shang Yan's words that this child was not only not afraid of them, but even the teachers at the school were not afraid at all!You say it's okay?

As an old man from another generation, Pan Guanlin tried his best to coax his grandson to fall in love with learning. He spoke softly and earnestly, breaking down the truth and repeating it repeatedly. He even used more pocket money as bait, which was exhausted. The tricks also failed to come true, and seriously affected the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren.

Pan Guanlin really feels that the children today are very different from the children he taught in the past. In his words, children like the eldest grandson are self-centered and out of touch with society. They have no empathy, let alone reason.After a month, the unhappiness that increased a little every day finally gathered into volcanic rocks and erupted completely.

"You are capable enough, you don't even take the teacher seriously? The teacher preaches to you and solves your doubts. You must respect it from the bottom of your heart, otherwise you are not worthy of the word "student."

Shang Yan has always had a good relationship with his grandma and grandpa. If he wants to say who is his closest relative in this world, grandma and grandpa must be ranked first and second, and even his own mother has to be in the back row.

But this only stayed before the two old people intervened in his academic performance. Now he doesn't want to live with his grandparents at all, he just wants to be clean and be alone.

"You don't mind my business. Are you annoying?"

The voice of the boy who was changing his voice was rough and piercing, stimulating Pan Guanlin's nerves.Pan Guanlin felt his blood pressure soar after being insulted several times.

Pointing to his grandson, he said, "Who are you yelling at? I have taught students all my life, and only the least well-known students would yell at the teacher and disrespect the teacher. You are my grandson, and I will not allow you to do this." Neither your mother nor your second aunt is like you! If you don’t change this, you won’t be my offspring.”

"They are them, I am me! The times are different now, and your old ways are outdated long ago. The school pays attention to effective communication between teachers and students, and listening to students' voices! Hey, don't point your finger at me, I will shoot you later. Post the video on the Internet and let everyone comment on it, who is disrespecting people!"

"Bastard, your grandpa will not only point at you today, but I will also beat you!"

Song Jiahui hurriedly grabbed his wife back: "Why are you so arrogant, Xiaoyan is in adolescence, you have passed menopause too early, why are you still confronting your child?
"I have seen a lot of adolescent children in my life. I have never seen a few who are so incomprehensible. I think I am used to it. You are used to it!"

Song Jiahui couldn't persuade his wife and came to coax his grandson again: "Xiaoyan, junior high school is different from elementary school. Many people's deepest impressions of ancient poetry, mathematical logic and physical formulas are in junior high school. The foundation of junior high school is not good, and high school is also difficult. Your grandpa is doing it for your own good. Hurry up and correct the wrong questions in your homework. It doesn’t make you learn anything else. You have to do what the teacher asks you to do in class! You can’t learn anything in class. Yes, how to enter high school?
"I do not know!"

"No, we won't let grandpa teach, grandpa will teach you!"

"I don't want to listen now, I just don't want to learn now, it's useless for anyone to teach!"

"Then what do you want to do? It's okay to change it later, first admit your mistake to your grandpa! You grow up so big, your grandpa can't bear to touch you with a single finger. When he was teaching students, when he met a student like you, The pointer is drawn."

"He broke the law. Now it is a society ruled by law. Where there is oppression, there will be resistance. Grandpa must be treated equally before the law."

"Stop talking, little ancestor, grandma, please!" Seeing that his wife's head was about to smoke, Song Jiahui was afraid that the old man would explode completely today.

Shang Yan said: "I want to play games, it's okay to admit my mistake, and give me the tablet first."

Song Jiahui also got angry: "Your mother has been admonishing and telling us that you are not allowed to play games after school, and told us that you must never give you a mobile phone or a tablet. Your child is in his late teens, why are you so ignorant? Your mother and your second aunt We didn’t spend so much time studying.”

"I just don't understand, can I walk?!"

"Where are you going?" Song Jiahui immediately chased after her and grabbed her little grandson. "It's time to eat, let's stop studying. After eating, let your mother take you home to do your homework."

Pan Guanlin's face was livid with anger: "You are not allowed to eat until you finish writing. I have taught students all my life, and I still don't believe that there can be a scumbag in my family. If you keep spoiling him, he will go to heaven!"

"You hate me, I'll go find my dad, and I'll never come here again!"

"Shang Yan, you don't need to blackmail me with it, I'm not afraid! You are a middle school student now, you have to be responsible for your words and deeds, a man's words are a trap, don't let me look down on you," Pan Guanlin has not posted for many years Having experienced such a big fire, he really can't see that his children and grandchildren are so incompetent. Strict teachers produce high-quality apprentices. He self-reflects, since he was a child, he really spoiled this child too much.

Song Jiahui said: "Old man, what are you talking about?"

"Am I wrong? What else can his father do to him? His father is here, and I will let him take good care of his son."

"You don't know yet, my father and mother are divorced, once I leave, I will never come back!"

"What did you say?" Pan Guanlin's mind went blank, "Say it again!"

"You ask yourself to go!" The half-grown boy didn't care at all, and slammed the door and left.Song Jiahui wanted to chase the child, but was held back by his wife: "He is already 15, and he is afraid of losing it. Don't get used to it. If you get used to it, you really can't control it anymore."

"He didn't even have a schoolbag and no money, so he ran out so angry, what should he do if something happened?"

Song Jiahui usually knows children better than grandpa Pan Guanlin, and knows that Shang Yan's temper is not so easy to be frightened, but he can't explain it to his wife.

Pan Guanlin said: "Hurry up and call your daughter now and ask her what happened to the divorce and is it true?"

"Is it okay to go to Shang Yan first? He is an adolescent child, and his parents are still divorced!" Song Jiahui was so anxious that his eyes suddenly darkened and he passed out.Xiaoxiao was frightened a long time ago in the room, and cried for a long time

(End of this chapter)