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Chapter 68 Mother's Effect on Children
Chang's mother said: "Xihong, in fact, your father and I recognize many things about you. The family has different tempers, but we all have to do things from a good starting point. When thinking about each other, we should try our best to be good Think about it. Otherwise, you will always be in a bad mood, which will not only affect your physical and mental health, but also affect the atmosphere of the family, right? In this world, without me and your father, I hope your little family is well, you My parents have many children, but we have only one son, Changyuan. You are his wife, Xiaoxiao is his daughter, and the three of you are our closest relatives."

Chang's father also came over and said sincerely to Pan Xihong: "We know that you are under a lot of pressure in work and life, but we also came here at that time. There are always more ways than difficulties in life. If you choose one, don't force it. Even if you lead in the first half of the game, you will be left behind in the second half, so it is meaningless to live a lifetime in a daze?"

Chang's father cleared his throat, coughed twice, and continued: "So, I think it's more meaningful to try your best to live a more exciting life. You did a good job before, and you have always been the best among your peers. You are the best, and you are even better than Chang Yuan. We valued you very much at that time. I hope you will not relax now, and you can still distinguish between priorities and be a smart woman who is beneficial to yourself and your family. And it is said that teaching by words is worse than teaching by example, I believe that you will feel your hard work and hard work with a smile."

Pan Xihong first paid attention to Chang's mother and said: "Mom, I call you so now because Chang Yuan and I still have a husband and wife relationship. But if our husband and wife relationship breaks down, you are nothing to me, and I am nothing to you." People. And you didn't start now, no, you were already calculating property when you first got married, thinking that if there was something wrong and my marriage with Chang Yuan had problems, how could your Chang family's losses be minimized, Even how to improve family assets through marriage. There will be more daughter-in-laws, and new daughter-in-laws can also have grandchildren and granddaughters. The closest relatives are those who are related to you. If it doesn’t matter, maybe even passers-by. You just talk about me as a family, but you have been calculating all the time."

After finishing speaking, Pan Xihong turned her head to her father-in-law and said, "Father, I don't agree with what you said. A big family is like a carriage running on the road during the day. If everyone works together, they can run steadily and run smoothly." It is far away. According to the common sense, young people should replace the old ones, and each generation is better than the next. But don’t forget that the carriage not only has to go through the day, but also has to go through the night. In the dark night, the people on the carriage need to hug each other to keep warm. If everyone just thinks about going to the future and surpassing other carriages, when they encounter muddy roads or extreme weather or cold winter nights, they will lose their minds and the carriages will fall apart sooner or later. So, In a big family, if the elders take the lead in selfishness, eager for quick success, and talk empty words, the family will not develop too well."

Pan Xihong paused and said: "As for the mood of a housewife, it will indeed affect her husband and children. But there is another point that is more important. The elderly are the feng shui of a big family. From a superstitious point of view, being old is not good. , The offspring will indeed inherit the cause and effect of the previous generation. If a big family wants to live in harmony, the daughter-in-law cannot live in grievances. If a big family wants to have blessings for the children and grandchildren, the elders should take the lead in convincing others with virtue.”

Chang's father was furious, pointed at Pan Xihong and said, "I can see it too, you really don't want to have a good time. We don't eat or drink fines for toasting, we are not a broken family with no rules, and we don't allow you, a daughter-in-law, to act wildly." .My head of the family is not dead yet!"

Pan Xihong said loudly: "Do you really think that you are still afraid of divorce? Do you think that I am still the little girl in the past who tolerated everything for the sake of face? Let me tell you, I have already understood through Xiaoxiao, you guys If you can't love, you will go to court for divorce. All the property deposits and daughters will belong to me, and your son will give Xiaoxiao a high maintenance fee in the future."

"If you don't agree, let's hire a lawyer and see you in court. Don't forget, your son is in the same unit as me, and I don't have to give up everything for my daughter. Your son is still focused on climbing up, and it's time to die. See Who is the loser? I want to see if he has the reputation of abandoning his wife and daughter, whether he can still be qualified to be the principal, and whether he can marry a new wife with a good family background and good looks."

It seemed that Pan Xihong hadn't been this happy for a long time.In the past, the elders of the Chang family tested her bottom line step by step, and she retreated again and again.Now she is also fighting against these two people time and time again, and finds that they are nothing more than that. Not only do they understand everything in their hearts, but they are also paper tigers. When they really confront each other, they are actually very cowardly.

In the small two-story building in the urban-rural fringe, the air pressure is suffocatingly low.Pan Xihong is financially independent, and now she is even more independent in thinking. After she came to a strange place alone to take care of her daughter, she became completely independent even in life.Don't say that bugs, mice, and furry children are any "bad guys", she doesn't pay attention to them, and they all have a series of coping abilities.

Although Laifu can't speak, the fur boy can feel everyone's emotions best. Whenever he sees the two elders of the Chang family approaching Pan Xihong and Xiaoxiao's mother and daughter, he barks non-stop.

After two days of stalemate like this, the two elders of the Chang family couldn't hold back after all.The two elders told Pan Xihong that they are feeling very uncomfortable now. They can't sleep well or eat well every day. They don't want the family to become like this. It used to be a very harmonious family, but it became like this because of Xiaoxiao's illness. They miss the old days so much , At that time, the son was filial, the daughter-in-law was sensible, and never blush with the elders. It's a pity that they have to live this kind of life at an old age, and life has become hopeless.

Pan Xihong was calm in her heart, and instead educated them, hoping that the two elders of the Pan family could set an example at this time, go up against the wind, and make hope out of a desperate life, just like the other party has always taught her.There are many things that Pan Xihong always wanted to say but couldn't say, but now she simply expresses her heart and says them all.

"In the past, your two elders felt that their lives were comfortable because someone sacrificed their own good mood. The true harmony of a family must be that everyone has no resentment. Otherwise, it will eventually come back to yourself."

The elders of the Chang family have lived to this age, and it's not that they haven't encountered hard problems. They used to intrigue in society for a long time, and they didn't take advantage of others.Because they are smart, other people have more eyes, and once they suffer a loss, they will definitely not treat them well in the future.Therefore, the old couple of the Chang family are also very fair in front of outsiders, and they will also sympathize with the weak, and they are very particular about face.

Therefore, usually in a family that is still being maintained, a bully can only attack his own people forever, and all the ingenuity and intelligence of calculating people can only gain a sense of accomplishment from his own people.Otherwise, let them try to bully someone casually in the society, try to plot against someone, and see if they will be educated by the society to find their teeth everywhere and bruise all over their bodies?
So when the "emperor's new clothes" of "family" was first called out, the bully immediately knew that he had nowhere to escape, and immediately blushed.The daughter-in-law has already thought about it, who else can they scare?At this time, people don't even take their own sons seriously, and throw them away like trash. How can they put qualifications and demands on others, use their status as elders and principles to be superior to others, crush people to death, and still have a stage ?

Mother Chang has probably never seen Pan Xihong so determined, nor did she expect that a weak daughter-in-law would have such a strong opinion, let alone that a girl who has always been dependent on her son will one day clear her habitual dependence. , as long as the sick daughter does not want her husband, and her work and life are severely hit, she can still think about how to go to court in an orderly manner, and even how to use extraordinary means to win the best interests for herself in desperation.

Pan Xihong said: "This is thanks to my parents who taught me to study hard, read more books, and strive to be better. Only by reading more books can one be more sensible, and only by possessing more knowledge can one absorb nutrition from it and protect oneself. I also I realized that striving for the top is not about trapping myself in face, but about being able to reasonably plan my future and fight for my own rights at any time. I am not afraid of any wind and rain and man-made difficulties.”

Chang's father was originally looking like he wanted his son to "divorce his wife". After thinking about it, if Pan Xihong's words came true, it would indeed have a great impact on his son's future, and she also has the ability to change her mind. When it became a reality, he also began to re-examine the current family problems.

At noon that day, Chang's father personally cooked a table of dishes, which were basically Pan Xihong's favorite food.Pan Xihong secretly wondered, since she has been married to the Chang family for so many years, many people like this old couple who are well-known.In the past, when they lived together under the same roof in Xingang, none of the dishes they cooked were their favorite dishes, and it seemed that they were all intentional.Especially in the past few days, they also eat their own food. She eats children's meals made for her daughter almost every day.Today, at Chang's house, she enjoyed the same treatment as when she first fell in love with Chang Yuan.

Xiaoxiao and Laifu seem to be very interested in the rich dishes on the table, so Pan Xihong will not intentionally destroy the atmosphere of the table.On the table, the parents-in-law no longer had any nonsense, they just fed Xiaoxiao and even prepared a big bone for Laifu.Although the atmosphere was awkward, they let Pan Xihong eat vegetables from time to time, complaining that she was too thin, but the central idea was to make her not lack nutrition.Pan Xihong didn't have the time to be petty at this time, she only thought that the other party had good intentions, and as long as nothing happened that affected her mood, she would accept everything.

In a blink of an eye, Pan Xihong lived in the small town for a long time.

Xiaoxiao still hasn't changed much, but she has gained a few kilograms, she has grown taller, and her little face is flushed.The child did not feel uncomfortable because of leaving the familiar environment. It is probably the same as what Pan Xihong read in the book: sitting beside the mother for half an hour is equivalent to going to the psychologist 7 times. Prevent children from going to bad luck.The mother's hug will make the child feel affectionate, make the child's mood more stable, and better integrate into the people around him.Science shows that when a mother places her hand on a child in pain, the child experiences immediate pain relief, especially psychologically
Li Yali called Pan Xihong and said that her name was on the list of candidates for this year's post, and she would give a speech next Monday. If she didn't come, she would automatically abstain.Chang ran for a long time for this matter, and it was not easy.No matter what, she should come here, even if she rushes back the same day after the job competition is over?This is not a question of whether you are ambitious, but a question of whether you will be able to raise children in the future.Xiaoxiao's problem can't be solved in a day, but if she really gets divorced in the future, even if Chang Yuan pays a high amount of child support, can she guarantee that it will not change for the rest of her life?As a mother, it is the child's well-being to have financial ability.

Pan Xihong wanted to take her daughter away, but the Chang family members still refused to let her go. Their reason was to clean up and go back to Xingang with their granddaughter.The school is in a hurry, so she can't make more trouble here.I just thought about going back that day, and I didn't even pack my luggage.

On this day, the sky was dim, and Pan Xihong tiptoed to leave before the child woke up.But I didn't expect Laifu to find out her intention first, and barked at the door very impolitely, obviously saying, where are you going, why don't you bring me and the baby?

Pan Xihong worriedly watched that Xiaoxiao hadn't woken up yet, and she was about to leave the house, but at this moment, she suddenly heard a clear "mother" sound in her ears at the same time as the puppy was barking behind her, and she was shocked. , Tears fell down with the trembling of her body, she turned her head slowly, really afraid that it was just a hallucination.

But at this time, Xiaoxiao had already opened her arms, and ran over crying all the way, shouting incessantly: Mom, mom!
(End of this chapter)