Harmonious home

Chapter 34: Me after the knot in my heart is opened

Years later, my mother-in-law passed away, and I put all my hopes on my two children, hoping that they would be successful and have their own careers and families, so that I would fulfill my responsibilities in life, but things backfired, and now both children have grown up Adults, with the development of reform and development and the relaxation of national policies on family planning, both work units and rural areas are free to have a second or third child, but my two children are not married. When it comes to talking about marriage When it comes to marrying, they are very disgusted, saying: "What age is it now? You still insist on old ideas to urge marriage and force marriage. Is it because you have suffered a lot to start a family and start a business? Seeing that we are free and unrestrained, you are psychologically unbalanced and want to be with us. You all suffer the same suffering to be comfortable?" I said, "It is an eternal law that male colleges should be married and female colleges should be married, isn't this an eternal law? How come your generation is urging marriages and forcing marriages?" "Hey , I don’t care, that’s your traditional concept, it’s not my pursuit, I don’t care so much, anyway, I just don’t want to find a partner, it’s too old-fashioned, are you tired of living?” “That’s right, what age is it? ?Who cares about those things about passing on the family line? These days, you can be chic if you can. Only your generation is so stupid. Doesn’t family planning limit your birth to reduce your burden? You are still foolish to have one and two, and you still worry about it I don’t know what you guys are thinking about being fined so much, where did you get the courage..." Dabao and Xiaoyue yelled at us with every word, which really gave me a headache and I was speechless.Later, a friend of mine told me a story, which immediately opened my eyes.

She said that there used to be a girl whose father passed away when she was very young. She and her younger brother suffered a lot along with their mother. I had to live apart from her for work, and all the burdens of the family and the children fell on her alone. Sometimes the light cord at home was broken and there was no one to pick it up, so I had to pick it up with my own hands and feet. Later, she pinned her hopes on her children, and after the children grew up and got married, they would all have their own homes, and they could not take care of her at all. After her husband retired, she thought she could rely on her now, but her husband was at a loss every day. When she went out to play cards, she always quarreled with her, saying that she was not on the same path with her. She woke up and saw that what she was relying on was just a dream. All relatives are just passers-by who accompany me for a certain journey, all money, fame and fortune are empty, only my soul is the real partner, the others are illusory, not worth caring about!Thinking about it carefully, I have spent most of my life like this step by step.When I was a child, I paid for my parents and the home I was looking forward to. When I grew up, I placed my hopes in my own home after I got married. I ran around for it and did everything for my family and children. Really live a day for yourself. If you don’t worry about this all day long, just worrying about this, wouldn’t it be in vain?In this way, I completely gave up my demands and control on them, and my heart was at ease. I no longer suffered in my childhood pursuit of the so-called harmonious home.

I went back and sang the song "I want to have a place that doesn't need to be gorgeous..." I stopped crying, let alone being sad, but walked forward.Because I think it's not worth it to just give everything for a family, so what others call "pattern" is too small!Looking at the world, in fact, there are many good things in the world that are worthy of our pursuit and dedication. It would be too foolish to suffer and suffer only for a home.

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