Siheyuan, I am He Yushui's classmate

Chapter 411: Stumbling is what makes a marriage
"Now I have an opportunity. I want to transfer my job to a small city in the south. There is a lot of room for future development there, but the conditions there are relatively difficult. Are you willing to accept me to go there, or to go to the south with me?"

Wu Jingni discussed with Zhao Jinhai and the children while having dinner together.

"What about the kids if we all go south?
Parents can be taken care of by brothers and sisters, what about our own children?Leave it on the road?
If you want to go, you can indeed go, but I want to stay and continue to take care of the children. When the situation on your side stabilizes, at least the children will have basic conditions for going to school and living in the future. I can also consider going with you again.

Of course we can pursue careers, but we can't ignore everything!

There must always be someone to guard and maintain the home. We can't leave our children's education and future aside for our own future and future. Isn't that sacrificing their future?

Maybe I don't have such a strong sense of professionalism as you. All my struggles are based on the responsibility to the family. I hope that through my struggles, the life of my family can be better.

But if you sacrifice the warmth of your family and the care of your children for better conditions, I would rather not have such a career!
This is the most basic principle of all my life.

The most important thing in a family is not the economic conditions, but the mutual company of family members, so that they are considered relatives.

If there is no company among family members, what is the difference between them and outsiders?
Children not only have to be born, but the key is to raise them.It’s not enough to just give him food and drink after he was born, what’s more important is to educate and accompany him, and face everything in life with him.do you understand? "

Come on, Wu Jingni finally realized what kind of person she was facing, a teacher, a teacher who reasoned with people every day.When there is nothing to do, Zhao Jinhai actually didn't say much to her, but he did most of the housework at home. Zhao Jinhai didn't say much because of this, which made Wu Jingni think that she was in this house It was the dominant one inside, but she only found out when she encountered something now.Actually left Zhao Jinhai.There is nothing special about her.

Looking at the reactions of the two children next to her, Wu Jingni realized that she was usually busy with work and did not accompany her children much. The children felt very unfamiliar with her, but they became closer to Zhao Jinhai, which was different from other families. There is a big difference.

Although Wu Jingni is pursuing her career, she hopes to develop in the competition of the magnificent era. She hopes that she can always stand in the center of the stage and become the focus of everyone's attention.But it doesn't mean she doesn't know that home is the most important thing to her!
If this family leaves her, there should be no change, because she usually doesn't spend a lot of time at home with her children.

Wu Jingni suddenly realized that she was a bad dish!

If she can't solve her family problems, she will very likely live alone in the future!
What Zhao Jinhai said is true, all careers of a person should be to make life better, and if there is a conflict between career and family, as long as they are normal people, they will choose family without hesitation!

In fact, she also understands Zhao Jinhai's subtext. If she continues to persevere like this, she can leave this home and go alone. If she gives up this home, she will of course gain absolute freedom, and she can do whatever she wants. No one will pay her any more attention.

But is it really worth it?
As a young and knowledgeable young female cadre in her thirties with a clear mind, she can say with certainty that it is really not worth it!

The earth keeps turning without anyone, and most of the time it is she who wants to squeeze in the middle, not where she has to!
I have talked a lot outside, but don’t confuse yourself. Like-minded people can be friends, but it’s best to find an ordinary person to get married and start a family. Otherwise, the couple will be busy with their careers and pursue their own ideals. , who cares about the children?

Children are the hope of the family. If children are not well educated, it will become a source of sorrow!

No matter how important a career is, it is only a matter of one stage of life, and children are the eternal career of a family!

The success or failure of the child not only affects himself, but also depends on the child whether the parents will live well in the future!

If the children are doing well, the happiness of the parents will naturally increase a lot, but if the children are having a hard time, what is the point of having a career for the parents?
"Then what, isn't this being discussed with you? If you don't agree, then I won't go. You and the children are my biggest cause! If..."

Wu Jingni was not stupid, and when she realized that something was wrong, she quickly turned around and looked at her son and daughter very tenderly.Whoops, I didn't pay much attention. Both children are about ten years old. Is the eldest daughter in the third or fourth grade?My son should be in elementary school too, right?

After thinking about it like this, she also found a lot of problems. It seemed that she didn't pay much attention to the children before.

Look at the way the two children look at her, they both look eager to be cared for, but also don't quite believe in themselves.

Have I lied to them before?Parents of eldest daughters are invited several times.She is busy with work.Habits are all pushed to Zhao Jinhai. The youngest son asked her to take him to the zoo several times. It seems that he agreed at the time, but he didn't go later. I remember that I still hated him and affected my mood.

Zhao Jinhai, she is quite sure.This man has been with him for many years, and she has always insisted on that kindness in her heart. She is still very clear that even if she is dissatisfied, she will simply vent it, and it will be over after venting.

It's not as important as she imagined, but he attaches great importance to children and family.

As a teacher, I like children very much, let alone my own?I chat with the children when I have time, and occasionally take the children to see their grandparents or grandparents when I have time. According to Zhao Jinhai, this is the education of family affection.It is not right to stop the children from seeing their grandma and grandpa just because they are dissatisfied with their daughter-in-law.Children lacking the care of their grandparents is a defect in themselves.

The matter stopped there, and there was no more content.Zhao Jinhai took a couple of children to Hongxing Village during the vacation to see the arrangements made by his parents and second brother's home, and let the children play with his older brothers and sisters. The daughter-in-law could not count on it, but the children still To cultivate well, there must be mutual communication and care between brothers and sisters. This is the healthy growth environment that children need for normal growth.He didn't expect the children to be cultivated into talents, no matter how smart and capable, but he hoped that the children could at least grow up healthily physically and mentally, and live a happy life in the future.

And Wu Jingni also went to visit her parents after work, and carefully told her parents what happened at home, but in the end, she was scolded head-on and face-to-face.

"Is this how I set an example for you since I was a child? Busy with work, busy with work, a woman doesn't even care about her own children and family, how can she be considered successful in her career? That's a joke! She can't even manage her own family well, How do you tell others?"

"That's right, you just watch me go to work. Isn't your mother helping you to educate you? No matter how busy I am at work, I will chat with you children when I have time. You and you Brother, which one hasn't talked to me? How can you ignore it like you, work is an excuse, Zhao Jinhai has spoiled you."

Come on, I originally went home to file a complaint to ask for comfort, but my father and mother regarded their daughter as a bad person, but her son-in-law became a standard good person. Even the last backer didn't support her anymore.

(End of this chapter)