back to being a teacher

Chapter 279 Because they don’t want us to be them
"What's your mother's education level?"

Fang Bai asked a seemingly inexplicable question.

"Junior... junior high school, I remember she often told me that because her family had no money, she didn't go to junior high school before she finished it!"

Huang Chen thought of what his mother often nagged in his ears.

What she would often say: "You are in a much better time now. Like we used to, you couldn't even study if you wanted to. You had to go to the fields every day to pull pigweed, work, and take care of your younger brothers and sisters..."

"Your mother and I did very well in studying when I was a child. I was awarded the top three students every year. But as the eldest son in the family, it is destined that your mother and I cannot study..."

"I stopped reading after the second grade of junior high school. There were too many things at home..."

Listening to Huang Chen's answer, Fang Bai let her sit in front of him.

"So you want to know the reason why your mother doesn't praise you? No matter how well you do, she won't praise you..."

Fang Bai asked with a slight smile.

"Um……"

Huang Chen, who was crying, nodded affirmatively.

Fang Bai said: "It's simple, because she won't praise you."

"What, what kind of reason is this!"

Huang Chen muttered angrily. She had thought of countless reasons, but the answer given by Lao Fang was simply unacceptable!
I don’t know how to praise people...

Will you die if you say something flattering?
"Wipe your tears first! Really!"

Fang Bai took the toilet paper and poked Huang Chen's forehead.

"Oh……"

Huang Chen had no choice but to wipe away his tears with toilet paper.

"Because she really won't praise you!"

Fang Bai sighed. To be honest, Fang Bai thought of his mother, Li Xiaofang.

Ms. Li is a typical person from the past era, with a straightforward personality, loud voice, and not gentleness... In short, all the characteristics of the past era can be found in her.

So Fang Bai was never praised when he was a child.

I remember when I was a child, Fang Bai got the title of "Three Good Students" and then went home with the certificate to find Ms. Li. At this time, Ms. Li was playing mahjong on the mahjong table.

Fang Bai happily walked over with the certificate, and then happily said to Ms. Li: "Mom, look, I won the title of Three Excellent Students!"

Ms. Li didn't even look at Fang Bai, she just nodded slightly and glanced at Fang Bai, then typed out: "Yaoji..."

Then she said very politely: "Oh, you three good students, you are awesome. Wait until mom comes back after playing mahjong and ask your dad to make you some delicious food!"

Fang Bai was disappointed at the time and suddenly lost interest in learning. Only those who have experienced that feeling of loss can understand what it feels like.

At that time, he thought more about his mother looking at him and saying seriously: "That's great, my cub is awesome!"

Although this sentence sounds very childish, Fang Bai really didn't want much at that time. He was a child with a very simple mind.

When Fang Bai put down his certificate of award and walked out of his home in despair...

But children's thoughts come and go quickly.

When he was walking home, far away, he heard his mother's loud voice.

"Did you see, I got three good students!"

"The old man is so kind, and he is smart enough to have a son!"

"That is, how could he be so stupid if his mother is so smart! Let me tell you, the teacher praised my cub especially during the last parent-teacher meeting!"

……

Listening to his mother's show off and the envious voices of others, Fang Bai felt quite happy at that time, but he wanted to know why Ms. Li was unwilling to praise him in person?

Until many, many years later, when Fang Bai grows up.

Then I realized that it wasn't that Ms. Li didn't know how to praise, but that she didn't know how to praise Fang Bai.

People in the past era had this kind of concept, and it has been engraved in their bones.

She can show off in various ways outside, but in front of Fang Bai, she has to maintain her dignity. She feels that as a parent, she must give her children a serious feeling...

Fang Bai looked at Huang Chen in front of him and said with a smile, "Can't you understand the teacher?"

Huang Chen nodded quickly: "Yeah!"

"It's actually very simple, because her academic qualifications have limited her speech!"

What Fang Bai said still made Huang Chen a little confused.

Then he went on to explain: "It's not that she doesn't know how to praise others. When she meets her friends, she will always say that others look good in their clothes and dress up well today..."

"She can praise everyone, but she won't praise you."

"why?!"

Huang Chen asked with some dissatisfaction.

"Because she doesn't know how to praise you."

Fang Bai replied.

"Uh……"

Hearing this answer, Huang Chen was stunned.

"As people of the last century, they are undoubtedly the hardest working generation. They have to help their families with things and work since they were young. No matter how well they do, their parents, that is, our ancestors, will not praise them. They would even say in exchange, this is what you should do..."

"When our generation comes, they find that we no longer need to do everything at home, because they have already done it, and our task is to study hard. Since our task is to study hard, then In their eyes, having good grades should be a normal thing..."

Fang Bai explained.

"What's normal? It's not normal at all..."

Huang Chen muttered with some dissatisfaction, even if she was admitted to Xigao, even if she got the best grades, even if she had the best grades in her street...

What they get in return are always cold words.

Fang Bai was annoyed and reached out to knock Huang Chen: "Listen to the teacher!"

"Okay, okay, you tell me!"

Huang Chen felt aggrieved and covered his head.

"But as their children grow up, they find that times have changed. When it comes to their children's studies, they, who only have a junior high school education, are powerless."

"Did you ever ask your parents questions when you were young?"

Fang Bai suddenly asked another seemingly unrelated question.

"Well, I asked..."

Huang Chen replied affirmatively.

Asking parents questions is something most people have done when they were young. Especially when they don’t know how to solve some questions, the first thing a child thinks of is to ask their parents...

"Then when did you not ask them questions?"

Fang Bai asked again.

"Hmm... Well, this seems to be when I was in fourth or fifth grade!"

Huang Chen thought for a while and said.

"Because at that time they can no longer help you with your studies!"

Fang Bai explained to Huang Chen's parents.

"Uh……"

Huang Chen was stunned. She had not thought about this problem.

There is a theoretical basis for why it is said that teachers' children are more likely to become talented, because the classroom has enough time to cultivate their own children.

Secondly, teachers can give children more help in learning.

The average parent is already very tired of his or her own work, and has no time to do his or her children's homework. But for teachers, answering these questions is their own job, and it does not affect their mood at all.

Secondly, a child’s first teacher is his or her parents, and the person he or she trusts the most is also his or her parents. When parents can help them learn all the time, their children’s progress will be the fastest...

Secondly, most teachers know how to educate children and have enough patience.This is an advantage that many professions cannot match.

……

"So they can only start to avoid your study, because they don't know how to do it!"

Fang Bai shrugged: "In this case, the only help they can give you is to help you do everything well except study!"

"They also want to help you with your studies, but they can't!"

Hearing Lao Fang's words, Huang Chen became a little anxious: "But...but, even if they don't know how, then why can't they praise me!?"

The knot in her heart is here. It can be said that from elementary school to junior high school to high school, for so many years...

Huang Chen has always had this knot in his heart.

"Because they want to maintain their dignity as parents."

Fang Bai reached out and patted Huang Chen's head, then stood up and stretched.

"Their concepts are different from ours. If we think something is wrong, we are wrong. If we are wrong, we can correct it. It's like I often praise you. Why do I praise you? Because you really do well!"

"But why wouldn't they? Because in their opinion, once they praise you, they lose their majesty as parents!"

Huang Chen looked up at Lao Fang in front of him, his lips moved, but he didn't know what to say.

"Secondly, we have to go back to our previous problem!"

Fang Bai looked at Qin Meng in front of him, and then raised his eyebrows maliciously.

Qin Meng rolled his eyes.

"what is the problem?"

Huang Chen asked curiously.

"Education!"

Fang Bai said, and then continued: "Because they only have junior high school education. To be honest, junior high school at that time basically said goodbye to illiteracy and reached the level of literacy and basic calculations!"

"How do you expect your parents with this level of education to praise you?"

"He is as talented as Zijian in eight fights, and as learned and rich as Dongpo?"

"Or should I say that my words are clever enough to steal a parrot's tongue, and my writing is worthy of phoenix feathers?"

Listening to Lao Fang's disdainful words, Huang Chen couldn't help curling her lips, and then she said: "It doesn't have to go to this level..."

"That is, you are great, you are great, you are great..."

Fang Bai gave two thumbs up, and then said to Huang Chen in a very shameful voice of teasing a child.

Huang Chen: "..."

Why is Lao Fang so rude sometimes?

If I can't beat you...Mommy!
"Think about it, do you want to hear your parents talking to you like this?"

"Or do you think your parents would talk to you like this?"

Fang Bai asked two more questions.

Huang Chen thought for a while, and then her mother gave her two thumbs up, showed her big white teeth, and shouted affectionately: "Chenchen, you are awesome, Chenchen, you are awesome." Already..."

Thinking about that scene, she felt a little horrified.

She quickly shook her head. She was still used to hearing her mother call her 'dead girl'.

"Damn girl, let's go home for dinner!"

"You damn girl..."

"Damn girl, it's your birthday today. Mom doesn't know what to say. You just take the money to buy something to eat..."

……

So Huang Chen often calls his mother: "Old girl..."

Although every time after shouting, he would be chased by his mother, Huang Chen still couldn't be happy with each other.

"Do you know why they don't have a high level of education, but they require us to study hard?"

Fang Bai asked, shaking his head in front of Huang Chen's eyes.

Huang Chen shook his head.

"Because they don't want us to be them."

Fang Bai said this in a rather low voice.

Huang Chen was stunned, and Qin Meng was also stunned.

"Because they have suffered from lack of culture, as the hardest generation in Xindongguo, what they have experienced is something we have never experienced, and it is also beyond our imagination!"

"They also know that they can't educate children. They have nothing but strength. They also want to help us become better and better..."

"If there is a way to help us, even if this method makes them suffer a lot and makes them very tired, they will be happy to do it."

"But they can't help it, they don't know how to do it, they don't even know what to do..."

"Their vision is not forward-looking, their abilities are not outstanding, and they can only maintain subsistence and clothing..."

"That's why they want us to study hard!"

"That way, when we grow up, we won't become them."

As Fang Bai explained, the two figures who got up early and stayed late gradually appeared in Huang Chen's mind. When she was a child, she remembered drinking too much water one night. When she got up to relieve herself, she found that her parents had gotten up at around four o'clock. …

When I passed by my parents' room, I found that my parents seemed to be up.

"Hurry up and get up. If you're late, you won't be able to catch the car."

"Shh, keep your voice down, don't wake the girl up!"

"After completing this trip, I will at least earn more than 100 yuan, and by then I will have enough money to buy the new schoolbag I want to exchange for!"

"It's enough to catch a few more sets. It doesn't matter if it's a little harder!"

……

At that time, she didn't understand anything. She was very happy when she heard that her parents were going to buy her a schoolbag. Later, she did receive a new schoolbag that her parents bought for herself, but at that time she didn't understand how valuable this schoolbag was.

Thinking of that time, my parents had to get up very early every morning and come back very late every night...

Huang Chen's eyes slowly turned red again.

"Mr. Fang..."

Huang Chen's voice was a little hoarse. She shouted softly and looked at Lao Fang aggrievedly: "Am I very ignorant..."

Fang Bai shook his head with a smile, pulled out a piece of toilet paper, and wiped away Huang Chen's tears.

"So this is why we should study hard!"

"Only if we study hard, when we become parents, our children will not have the same problems as us!"

Fang Bai comforted softly.

After saying this, Fang Bai glanced at Qin Meng with ill intentions.

Qin Meng wrinkled his little nose in dissatisfaction, clenched his little fists, and demonstrated fiercely.

"it is good!"

Huang Chen nodded affirmatively.

"So, do you want to hear your mother praise you?"

Fang Bai suddenly asked.

Huang Chen was stunned for a moment: "Is it okay?"

"Of course!"

Fang Bai nodded.

(End of this chapter)