That year the flowers bloomed 1981

Chapter 1043 Xiaoyu, you can't be too arrogant at home

On the second day of the Lunar New Year, Li Ye followed Wen Leyu back to her parents' home.

As soon as the family entered the door, Xiao Douer ran in excitedly and kowtowed to Teacher Ke.

"Happy New Year, Grandma and Grandpa."

Little Baoer followed closely, lay on the ground and started to kowtow, and his little head hit the ground, making a bang-bang-bang sound.

Then the two little guys raised their heads and looked at Teacher Ke eagerly.

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Teacher Ke blinked his eyes and realized that it was waiting for his New Year's money!
She quickly took out the lucky money and gave it to the two children while smiling, "It's just a New Year's greeting, is it necessary to be so serious? If you hurt your little head, you won't be smart anymore."

"Thank you grandma, thank you grandpa."

Xiao Douer took the lucky money first, and then said seriously: "My father said that kowtow is a kind of cultural inheritance. You can kowtow if you want to, and it doesn't matter if you don't want to kowtow, but if you kowtow, you must be sincere."

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Teacher Ke laughed and teased Li Ye, "Li Ye, sometimes I really don't understand you. Sometimes your thoughts are far more radical than those of us old guys, but sometimes you are more conservative than those old antiques."

Li Ye smiled nonchalantly and said, "Mom, it's just a traditional custom during the Chinese New Year. There's no such thing as being conservative or not."

Teacher Ke said meaningfully: "Times are changing. Some things that are not adapted to the times will sooner or later be abandoned by the times. There is no need to be so persistent in some dispensable traditions."

People like Teacher Ke would not kowtow, so she did not quite agree with Li Ye's parenting methods.

Li Ye nodded and said, "Perhaps when Xiaodou'er's generation grows up, these customs will no longer exist."

In the 1980s, many people thought that the tradition of kowtow would soon disappear, but they never expected that decades later, many places in Dongshan Province had preserved this tradition.

Some people say that kowtow is a feudal custom that should be eliminated, but is this tradition passed down for thousands of years among the flower-growing countries really a useless dregs?
Actually, it is not. Anyone who has participated in the ancestor worship scene on New Year's Day in Dongshan Province can feel the personal identification with the family.

The clan cohesion in the north is actually weaker than that in the south. They are using this form to strengthen the connection between blood clans and try to maintain the clan cohesion.

This kind of cohesion seems to have no effect under normal circumstances, but when it is really useful, it may affect your life.

For example, if a child is admitted to a good university, but cannot afford to go to school due to poverty, then the family members will raise money for him to go to school even if they curse and feel pain.

But if you have been away from your family for a long time and have no contact with them during weddings and funerals, then when you are really in trouble, all the aunts, uncles, and cousins ​​will only laugh at you and will never help you.

Therefore, decades later, when social relations became increasingly "atomized", those customs of Dongshan Province became the last persistence of clan kinship.

Li Ye chatted with Teacher Ke for a while, but Xiaobaoer and Xiaodouer had problems over there.

After Xiao Baoer received the New Year's money, he instinctively looked at Wen Leyu, but was immediately kicked by his younger sister Xiao Douer.

Xiao Baoer quickly lowered his head and followed his sister away. Li Ye couldn't help laughing at the way he didn't dare to say a word.

The corners of Wen Leyu's mouth were already curled up, and he watched Xiao Baoer's performance with a smile.

Just yesterday, Xiao Baoer gave the New Year's money to Wen Leyu, why did he change his mind today?
It's obvious that he was coerced by the little bully Xiaodouer!

Xiao Dou'er has had a bigger appetite than his brother since he was young, and he started walking earlier than his brother. Running around all day long must make his body stronger than his brother. It is very easy to bully Xiao Bao'er when no one is around.

Little Dou'er, however, ran around grandma's house as if nothing had happened, asking as he ran, "Grandma, why didn't my little cousin come?"

Teacher Ke smiled and said, "Your little cousin has gone to her grandmother's house! She won't be here until at least this afternoon!"

"At least? What kind of horse? One that runs very fast on four legs?"

"Hahahaha~"

Teacher Ke was amused by this clever granddaughter.

But Wen Leyu said: "Mom, don't be fooled by her, she is secretly hiding the New Year's money!"

"Ok?"

After receiving Wen Leyu's reminder, Teacher Ke called his two grandsons and granddaughter over, and found that the New Year's money he had just given to the two children was indeed not with them.

Teacher Ke was a little surprised and asked, "Xiao Dou'er, the New Year's money I just gave you was lost so quickly?"

After all, Xiao Dou'er is still too young and is no match for Teacher Ke.

She stared at Teacher Ke blankly, her two big, bright eyes blinking, as if she was showing off her long eyelashes to her grandma.

After a few seconds, Xiaodou suddenly climbed onto the sofa and whispered in Teacher Ke's ear: "Grandma, I put the money under your bed. I'll buy wine for Grandpa and candy for you in the future."

Teacher Ke narrowed his eyes and said, "Oh? Then how about we share the candy we bought?"

Xiao Douer nodded vigorously: "Yes, my grandpa eats it too."

"Oh, your grandpa also has a share! Then why do you keep the money with me?"

Teacher Ke asked while looking at Wen Leyu, which meant "Why doesn't this child trust you as a mother?"

As a result, Xiaodouer answered immediately: "Because you are the eldest in the family, you don't want to be greedy for the children's pocket money."

"Hahahaha~"

Teacher Ke laughed heartily.

People like her might not have laughed out loud like this for months, but now she was laughing very happily.

Why do adults laugh more easily when they are with children? Because the jokes made by children are always unexpected, while the jokes in skits are designed.

Moreover, adults can see through children's thoughts at a glance, so there is no need to calculate against each other, and there is no pressure to laugh. After Teacher Ke finished laughing, he suddenly had an idea and continued to ask: "Xiao Dou'er, who is the eldest in your family?"

Xiao Douer said without hesitation: "My grandmother is the greatest."

Teacher Ke narrowed his eyes and asked with a smile, "Who is older, your mother or your father?"

Xiao Dou'er curled his lips and said, "My mom is the second oldest in the family, and my dad is the youngest."

"Pfft~"

Wen Leyu smiled and did not forget to look at Li Ye.

"See? You usually love your daughter the most, but you end up being the last one. Are you happy?"

"Ha~"

Li Ye chuckled and was not angry.

Daughter slave! It's normal.

However, Teacher Ke's expression straightened up.

Xiaodouer's words reflect two problems.

First, Wen Leyu is more favored in her mother-in-law’s family. After all, there are grandpa, grandma, father-in-law, mother-in-law, and several sisters-in-law in the family, but she can be ranked as the "second oldest".

Teacher Ke doesn’t think Wen Leyu should be ranked first, otherwise, if Pan Xiaoying came to the Wen family, would she be older than her?

But it is not normal for Li Ye to be the last one.

So Teacher Ke pushed Xiao Baoer and Xiao Douer to Wen Qingsheng and said, "Go and have a look at the toys your grandpa prepared for you. Then go and have a look at the wine your grandpa has stored. Pick a bottle and bring it over for your dad to drink."

"Okay, I know Moutai and Wuliangye."

Xiao Dou'er followed Wen Qingsheng excitedly.

Teacher Ke turned around and said seriously, "Xiao Yu, don't be too arrogant at home in the future. You should pay attention to maintaining Li Ye's image as a parent. Children are very sensitive. If they form an illusion, it will be difficult to correct it.
Never let your children underestimate their fathers. Let them know their fathers’ dedication and greatness. This is an important foundation for family harmony. How can Li Ye be the last in the family? He is the oldest! "

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Wen Leyu also started blinking like Xiao Dou'er just now, and while blinking, he glanced at Wen Qingsheng.

Of course children are very sensitive, otherwise how can they tell who is “bigger” between Wen Qingsheng and Teacher Ke!

You have to know that in the Wen family, Wen Qingsheng is not the "boss", Teacher Ke is the one who has the final say.

Teacher Ke saw Wen Leyu's eyes, and was both angry and amused. She reached out and poked her daughter and said, "Your father usually gives in to me, but think about it, is he the youngest in the family?"

Wen Leyu was stunned, and after thinking carefully, he suddenly remembered the past days.

At that time, she and her mother were in Qingshui County and could not see Wen Qingsheng all day. The ideas that Teacher Ke instilled in her every day were that Wen Qingsheng was the head of the family and worked hard to persevere for the hopes of his family in the north.

Even though Mr. Ke's position is a little higher than Wen Qingsheng's, if Wen Leyu and Wen Qingsheng were really asked to decide who is the "head of the household", the brother and sister would naturally choose Wen Qingsheng.

This is how Teacher Ke maintains the face of the grown man in the family.

But Wen Leyu still felt a little wronged.

"But it's not my fault! If you don't believe me, ask Li Ye, when was I arrogant at home? I'm very virtuous."

Teacher Ke nodded at Li Ye and said, "You are also responsible for this matter. You should know when to spoil Xiaoyu. If you two live together for a long time, Xiaoyu will become spoiled unconsciously, which will affect the child."

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Wen Leyu pouted her lips and glared at Li Ye, clearly saying, "It's all your fault."

To be honest, Wen Leyu is indeed very virtuous. She never quarrels with Li Ye. Her occasional temper is only a show of strength, and in the end, Li Ye always gets the upper hand.

It's just that everyone in the Li family respects her, but orders Li Ye around. Xiao Dou'er sees this every day and has the illusion that his father is far inferior to his mother.

But Li Ye admired Teacher Ke very much.

Decades later, someone specifically studied a question: why children in the family are more willing to communicate with their mothers and ignore their fathers.

In fact, they have been implanted with the idea that "mom works very hard" since childhood, and the final decision on family matters is made by the mother, so the father naturally becomes a dispensable and transparent person.
Even if the father demonstrated the important value of the "wallet" when being asked for money, he could not restore his "great" image in the child's heart.

If you don’t believe me, just look at those children who are getting ready to get married.

"Dad, Xiaoli wants a dowry of 188,000 yuan."

"Dad, Xiaoli's best friend bought a car worth two hundred thousand yuan."

"Dad, Xiaoli said that she wants to buy a house in the city center near the school district for the sake of her child's future education."

"Mom, Xiaoli said she wanted some hardware..."

"Go, find your dad!"

At this time, who is the hardest working person?

Moreover, if the family's economic conditions are not good, the child is likely to resent his father for being useless, but will not resent his mother.

However, Teacher Ke, as Wen Leyu's mother, noticed this problem and immediately asked Wen Leyu not to be "too arrogant" at home and to give Li Ye some face.

This is the educational method of an enlightened mother. Those mothers who spend all day imparting experience to their daughters and telling them how to scheme against their husbands are short-sighted foolish women who will only harm their daughters in the end.

(End of this chapter)