This couple in the apocalypse is not easy to mess with

Chapter 787 The Story of Two People
  After Meng Xinchen said this, he didn't wait for Xuan Ye to say anything," and then said to Xuan Ye.

Fellow Daoist Xuan, I am telling you this just to ask you for advice, what would you do if you were in my position?
  I see that you and Daoyou Xiao have such a good relationship, and I believe that you must have good insights in this regard.

So please ask Brother Xuan to teach me how to "perfectly" solve the problem I am encountering now?
  After hearing what Meng Xinchen said, Xuan Ye also became curious about the "ancient city" he mentioned.

After listening to Meng Xinchen's words, Xuan Ye suppressed his curiosity, thought for a while, and then said to Meng Xinchen.

Fellow Daoist Meng, let me not tell you how I would handle this matter in your position.

Because our styles of doing things are different, "how I look at this matter" or how to handle this matter are all my thoughts, not yours.

So I won’t say, "How should you deal with this matter you encountered?"
  Let me tell you what I think about family ties.

I believe that a parent who truly loves his or her children, after their children become adults and become sensible, will never order their children to "do anything they don't want to do."

Especially when it comes to relationships, because everyone’s preferences and views on relationships are very different.

Therefore, a parent who truly loves their children will never choose a partner for their children for the sake of profit or based on their own selection criteria.

Of course, if the person your child likes is really "emotional" and untrustworthy, then that's a different story.

But even if you really encounter this situation, the best way to deal with it is to let your child know, "What kind of person does he like?"

What if your child still chooses to be with the other person after knowing what kind of person he likes?

Then the final choice is just to let go, not to impose a block.

Because "once a person understands right and wrong, any choice he makes" is his own business.

No matter what other people do, even parents, they can only serve as reminders and persuasion. The final choice still depends on yourself.

Except, of course, doing evil things.

If a parent "does not stop or discipline their children when they see them doing evil things, then not only do such parents not love their children, but they are sending their children to death."

This is what I think parents should do.

And I'm talking about what you should do as a child, just like you said, your parents must ignore your wishes and let you do things that go against your will for "profit" or their ideas.

Then you say that such parents "really love you? Maybe they really love you, but they also have their own selfishness in their love for you."

If you really do these things according to their wishes, then you are still you, no matter whether this thing develops in a good direction or a bad direction in the future.

From the moment you obey their wishes, from that moment on, you have become their puppet.

So if I were faced with such parents, I would never let them control me.

Maybe you will think this is unfilial, but I think filial piety means "you just need to be nice to the other person and let the other person live a safe and happy life."

As for their joy, if only their selfishness "brings them joy, then it doesn't matter much to you whether they are joyful or not."

You just need to let them live a stable life instead of becoming their puppet.

And if your parents "make you do something evil, or your parents are doing something evil,

What if instead of stopping them, you obey their wishes and do this evil thing together?

Then if you do this, "not only is it unfilial, but it will push them towards destruction."

So whether you are filial or unfilial depends on whether what you do to your parents is right. If what you do is wrong, you still do it according to their ideas. Even if they are satisfied in the end, it does not prove how filial you are.

And if you "do not comply with their wishes, but as long as you do not do anything else to harm them,
  You will also do your best to take care of them when they are incapacitated in the future. This is true filial piety.

Instead of doing everything as they say, in the end, people will not look like humans, ghosts will not look like ghosts, and the family will not be able to have a family.
  That is neither filial piety nor sorry for the people you have hurt because of them.

For example, now, if you follow your parents' wishes and marry someone you don't love.

Then if you do this, you will not only harm yourself, but also the person you married, and even the person who really likes you.

So when you do something, you must think clearly about all the consequences of doing it.

Only in this way can you “not regret or regret the things you do for yourself in the future.

A person can be filial, but not foolishly filial. If a parent doesn't love you, then you just need to fulfill your obligations as a child, and you don't need to give everything for them.

You have to know that there is a cause-and-effect relationship between parents and children in this world. If a pair of parents "does not have true affection for their children,
  Then the children "just need to repay the karma between them and their parents."

And the only person who can truly spend a lifetime with you is the person who loves you and the person you love.

So what parents and your loved one don’t have to choose at all?
  Parents and you “are only related by family affection and cause and effect.

And your lover and you are the "eternal bond". Of course, what I am talking about is true love.
  Rather than the kind of couple or lovers who can only share prosperity but cannot share adversity.

Your current situation is not a problem at all, as long as you can clearly see the relationship between your parents and you and the relationship between your loved ones and you.
  Which choice and how to do it will no longer be any problem.

And if you are still worried about anything, let your loved ones be wronged because of "interests" or your family.

Then I can only say, "Your love for your lover is not deep enough, let alone to the level of sharing life and death together.

If you really have such thoughts now, even if you get together now, you will definitely suffer a lot of hardships or be separated in the future.

So when it comes to relationships, you must be sure of each other's feelings, without any doubt or suspicion.

Likewise, it is best for you to make the Heavenly Pledge at the same time.

Although you would think that two people who truly love each other do not need any oath to verify it.

But the appointment is a shackles, and it is also a reminder left for you.

Of course, all this must be done after you understand each other and confirm your mutual intentions."

Otherwise, if you don’t even understand yourself, or you don’t really understand each other.

That Dao oath and what I said before "no longer have any meaning.

So, I won’t tell you what you should do. If you understand the truth, I believe you will know what you should do” or how to choose.

Meng Xinchen listened to Xuan Ye's words, and after thinking about it, he immediately clasped his fists at Xuan Ye and said.

Brother Xuan, "Listening to what you said, it really made me think about a lot of things, and it also made me realize the essence of our matter."

So thank you Brother Xuan for your advice. I will remember this kindness.

If you need my help with anything in the future, just let me know.
  When the time comes, as long as I can help, I will do my best to help.

(End of this chapter)