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Chapter 204 Marital Status

The ancients from all dynasties sighed after reading the work about the misbehavior of the young generation in later generations.

I thought that future generations would be extremely rich in materials and young people would enjoy their lives very much.

But I didn't expect that even so, young people in later generations would have so many troubles.

In this regard, they can only say that every family has sutras that are difficult to recite.

However, they still envied this situation. After all, at least they had no worries about food and clothing.

The host promised to play two videos for them. Now that they have played the lying down video, the next one should be hūn yīn.

Through the video of him lying down, they can roughly guess that the marriage situation of future generations may not be optimistic.

But they still want to see what the current status of marriage in later generations is, and how it is different from theirs.

[For individuals, marriage is the bond that maintains the relationship between two people.

A family composed of married couples can give people a sense of belonging and satisfaction.

For society (hui), marriage is an important factor in social stability.

Only when the marital status of most individuals is stable can families be stable and society maintain harmony.

But as we all know, with the development of jingji, the situation of marriage in India has undergone great changes.

There are more and more people in India who receive their souls late, do not receive their souls, and get divorced, especially among young and middle-aged people aged 25 to 40. This phenomenon is particularly obvious.

Not long ago, the Indian court released a statistical announcement on the development of weddings in 2021. The overall trend of marriages in India in the past ten years is mainly reflected in the decline in the number of souls, the divorce rate continues to rise, and the age at first marriage is postponed.

In 764, 6 million pairs of soul pick-ups were registered in accordance with the law, a decrease of % from the previous year. In the past ten years, India's soul pick-up rate has dropped by half.

The number of divorce registrations in India has climbed from 58 in 373 to a peak of million in .

It wasn't until 210 that the cold period for divorce was promulgated, causing the number of divorces to drop to 4 million. However, it has still risen by nearly places in years.

As for the divorce rate, a quick look shows that the divorce rate in 2021 has dropped significantly compared to 2000, which should be a good thing.

On the one hand, the implementation of the divorce cooling-off period has reduced the number of couples who choose to divorce impulsively because of trivial matters.

But there is another reason, which is that with the instability of housing prices (jia), people are no longer keen or anxious to buy a house through fake divorce.

As we all know, it is not uncommon for couples in India to fake divorce in order to buy a house.

Especially in the past decade, the rise in divorce rates has been almost always accompanied by rising home prices.

Among them, there is no way to know how much of the divorce is faked to buy a house. There are no special statistics.

But the number of divorces in India every year has also skyrocketed since housing prices.

It started to rise year by year in 2010, and finally reached the peak in 2020.

It wasn't until 2001, with the promulgation of the divorce cooling-off period and the cooling of the housing industry, that the divorce rate dropped.

This is not a coincidence. If the reasons for the decline in the divorce rate are complex and not caused by a single factor, the plummeting rate of marriage is even more worthy of attention and consideration. 】

The ancient people of all dynasties were shocked by the number of souls and divorces in later generations, and they were all shocked and dumbfounded.

There are 764 million soul couples, and 373 million divorce couples.

What a concept this is, they know very well.

Fifteen million people receive souls every year alone, a number far beyond their imagination.

They have always known that the population of later generations will be very large, roughly estimated to be more than 10 million people, that is, 100 million people.

But now it seems that the number of soul recipients alone exceeds 10 million, so the total population in future generations may be far more than 100 million.

Just thinking about the size of the population of hundreds of millions, or even more than a billion, makes their mouths go dry.

The fifteen million soul-receiving population is almost as much as the total population of their dynasty, but this is only the number of soul-receiving people in later generations in one year.

However, while they were shocked by the number of soul recipients and the total population in later generations, they were also shocked by the number of divorces that exceeded seven million people a year.

This is completely unimaginable to them. It is normal for a small number of people to get divorced occasionally, but it is simply unimaginable that the number exceeds 7 million.

In their time, there were only a few couples who divorced, or husbands divorced their wives.

In most cases, the couple is not willing to divorce at all. Once the soul is reunited, it will be a lifelong matter.

But the huge number of divorces in later generations really shocked them.

[Why people of the right age are becoming less and less inclined to receive souls? There was a famous mouse utopia experiment in the last century.

In a closed environment with sufficient food and water, the experimenters placed a certain number of rats in the closed space of this utopia and allowed the rat colony to develop.

But what's weird is that no matter how hard the experimenters try, the rat group always suddenly turns downward after growing to a critical point.

Rats seem to have stopped their reproduction and courtship instincts at a certain point in time, leaving their own group to fend for itself until they were eventually extinct.

No matter how carefully the experimenters clean the living environment of the rats and provide them with more adequate food.

It's like there is an invisible hand, holding down the rat population and continuing to grow.

Rats are no longer as competitive and vying for mates as they used to be.

Instead, they lost all desire and concentrated on combing their own fur until the end of their lives.

The first thing that stopped this situation was the desire of mice to courtship. Many people regard the ending of the mouse utopia experiment as the ending of humankind's own future trajectory.

Of course, many scholars have pointed out many unreasonable aspects of the mouse utopia experiment, and the structure of human society is far more complex than that of mice.

Therefore, many people think that it seems too far-fetched to use the future of mouse utopia to hint at the future of our humanity.

Let’s not discuss the shortcomings and loopholes of the experiment itself here, and whether it can confirm the rationality of the future of mankind.

I just want to show that the laws of mouse evolution reflected in the mouse utopia experiment are worth everyone's deep thought.

Especially today, when the soul-picking rate in India has plummeted and the divorce rate has skyrocketed, this kind of thinking is particularly important.

We often talk about the issue of birth rate, but if we look one step further, the issue of birth rate is actually the issue of marriage.

To a certain extent, it can be said that marriage is one of the key factors related to the future survival of mankind.

Compared with rats, humans have more complex emotional appeals and more diverse other needs on the premise of meeting basic survival needs.

But this also brings us more troubles, when marriage is unable to meet people's increasingly diverse needs, and even becomes a hindrance to people's pursuit of diversity.

Everyone is likely to respond to this change by picking up souls late or even not picking up souls at all. 】

Ying Zheng: Is the mouse experiment real? Why does it feel like the result is not what I imagined?

Logically speaking, if enough food is provided, the number of mice should continue to grow.

But what puzzles him now is that no matter how much food is provided, the number of rats stops growing after it reaches a certain level. This is really weird.

He didn't believe in this experiment, and even wanted to do it himself to see what the final result would be.

But after thinking about it, he gave up. No matter what the final result of the experiment was, it meant nothing to him, Da Qin.

After all, the people of Da Qin are still far from being able to have enough food and clothing for future generations, and the marriage situation of future generations will never happen to the people of Da Qin.

Some people in Da Qin still don't have enough to eat or wear warm clothes. Under such circumstances, people will give birth to children if they have the opportunity.

If one day the common people of Da Qin could have enough food and clothing, they would probably have more children, and it would be impossible for future generations to be unwilling to take souls and have children.

But not to mention, he found similarities between the mouse experiment and the current situation faced by future generations. It can even be said that the final outcome of the mice is likely to be the outcome of future generations.

After all, from a general perspective, the environment of mouse experiments is similar to what later generations are facing.

It is difficult to say that the outcome of future generations will not be the outcome of the mouse experiment.

However, he also believes that future generations will be smart enough to find ways to avoid this.

[What is the essence of marriage? From the perspective of promotion science and biology, the purpose of receiving souls is actually three points, fertility, mutual assistance and comfort.

But the various problems that arise in the current social marriage situation are precisely because these three benefits that marriage can bring to everyone have been seriously distorted.

Let’s talk about fertility first. In the past, the concept of fertility emphasized raising children to protect against old age, and having more children means happiness.

These are no longer popular concepts. First, the cost of raising children has soared. Second, even if you spend so much effort to raise a child, you may not get the social value it deserves.

Nowadays, it is difficult for young men in their 20s and s to find jobs and slow job growth has become a stubborn problem in the world's advancement. India is naturally no exception. Just look at India's unemployment rate of nearly % in .

It is very difficult for young (qing) people to support themselves. How can they have additional thoughts of having children to raise the next generation?

If everyone loses the basic idea of ​​having children, then things like soul reception may seem redundant. 】

Ancient people from various dynasties strongly agreed with the first two purposes of catching souls, but did not agree with the latter one, which is comfort.

Their purpose of receiving souls is very simple, which is to have children, and the other is to survive.

From the point of view in the video, fertility and mutual assistance are their common purposes for receiving souls.

As for comfort or not, they have no choice.

Many times they don't even know what the other person looks like until the wedding day, so whether they can be comfortable or not depends on luck.

If you are lucky and meet the right person, you can live a comfortable life after receiving the soul.

If you are unlucky and the person who picks up the soul is not the right person, then you can only break your teeth and swallow it in your stomach.

After receiving the soul, no matter whether it is comfortable or not, you will have to give birth to a child.

After all, the concepts of raising children to provide for old age and having more children bring happiness are perfectly normal. No matter how poor you are, you still have to work hard to have a son.

The more sons you have, the better. You don’t have to worry about being able to feed them, as long as you can feed them and grow up.

This is their simplest view, and therefore they do not understand the concept that future generations will not want to have children.

How much does it cost to raise a child?

As long as you have food, drink and can keep the older children occupied, the task has been completed, and there is no need for exaggerated costs.

[As for mutual aid, in the past, marriages could indeed share the living costs of two people equally, achieving a certain scale effect.

Soul catching is not about falling in love, it is the union of a couple and the union of two families.

Compared with a single person, a couple and even the couple's own family have a stable promotion status.

Through marriage, this promotion status can be further strengthened to withstand future promotion cycle fluctuations. In fact, this is also the essential purpose of many people to receive souls.

The purpose is to consolidate one's promotion results and achieve twice the result with half the effort.

But for people nowadays, getting twice the result with half the effort is increasingly becoming half the effort with half the effort.

There is no other reason for this. It is the dance of the house dance brought about by the addition of the anointing party and the instability of promotion, which results in a decrease in money and an increase in the amount of money used.

If people nowadays want to receive souls, a set of prescriptions is almost every newcomer's dream.

However, in the past, a set of prescriptions could be basically realized by both parties, or even both parents, working hard to save up.

Not to mention that in the past, a society dominated by dope, apprentices were the number one source of materials, and houses were just an accessory to apprentices.

The other side of everyone’s apprenticeship is that almost everyone has an apprentice.

Even if there is no ownership of the apprenticeship, one can obtain the right to use the apprenticeship by working for the landlord.

In order to maintain long-term social stability, landlords established long-term or even lifelong employment relationships with their tenant farmers, which was completely different from the current contract workers.

At that time, people had almost no concept of a master. They only needed to care about their own harvest and the proportion of food turned over to the court.

Under this closed but stable system, the benefits of receiving souls are obvious. Through marriage, the wealth of two families can be pooled.

And due to the complementarity of stars, the man can provide the woman with heavy physical labor, and the woman can provide the man with stable rear and fine output.

In this way, it is an increase in income for both parties. This is the efficiency of the division of labor in promotion science.

Therefore, the top priority for ancient people was to get married as soon as they reached the marriageable age.

Because whoever picks up the soul early can get the benefits of marriage first, and whoever picks up the soul late or even doesn't pick up the soul will obviously suffer a disadvantage. 】

Liu Che: It’s true. After the common people receive the soul, the life of both parties is much better than that of one person.

As far as he knew, ordinary people in the Han Dynasty would receive their souls as soon as they reached the age of sixteen or seventeen, and some even earlier.

The reason why the soul is received so early is because it has great benefits for both men and women.

After receiving the soul, the man can work with peace of mind and leave the household affairs to his wife.

Similarly, after receiving the soul, a woman only needs to take care of the family, and her husband will take care of the source of income.

This is helpful to both parties.

As for the houses that future generations will need to receive their souls, the common people of this Han Dynasty don’t have to worry about it at all.

If a man has a sheltered place at home, he can marry the woman back home, and there is no need to prepare a luxurious new house. He could see that young men in future generations would need to spend their family savings to buy a new house if they wanted to receive their souls.

It is precisely this that causes so many young men not to want to receive souls.

It's just that he can't figure it out. Since the burden of buying a son is too great, why should he buy a new son?

Logically speaking, the square where the parents live can be directly used as a wedding room.

In this way, you can not only live with your parents to fulfill your filial piety, but also save a lot of unnecessary money on buying a child. It can be said to kill two birds with one stone.

But depending on the situation, it seems that young men in later generations cannot receive their souls if they cannot buy a new house.

He thought for a long time but couldn't figure out the clue, and he didn't find anyone insisting on forcing the young man to buy new prescriptions.

[And now, just like the change in remaining cost-effectiveness, there are additional benefits brought by this kind of marriage.

Because of the high housing prices and instability of promotion under the market upgrade, it gradually turned into losses.

In the past, ancient landowners had their own apprentices, and tenant farmers rented on the landowner's apprentices for a long time, similar to India's current long-term public rental housing.

Therefore, neither landlords nor tenant farmers have to worry about housing issues.

After all, landowners and rich peasants with apprentices were in the minority, while tenant farmers constituted the vast majority of the population.

Therefore, at that time, most people in society did not have their own apprentices and houses. This was the norm in society.

Having apprentices was a privilege for a few people, so at that time it was not a shameful thing to go to pick up souls without an apprentice or a house.

But now everyone has a completely different concept of housing. For modern people, a house is a commodity, and it is a commodity whose psychological attributes are far greater than its usage attributes.

In the city where you live, only by owning a house of your own can you prove to the people around you or yourself that you belong to this city and are not just a passerby.

Driven by this mentality, house prices have been rising steadily, and the debt burden imposed on newcomers has also increased one after another.

Nowadays, in most cities, both parties have to empty their wallets and may not even be able to collect the down payment. The couple is burdened with heavy debts before they can start a new life.

In addition, with the instability of promotion, originally, if both husband and wife had a stable source of income, they could support the normal operation of a family.

But if one party loses his job, the other party will have to put in more effort and bear more pressure while maintaining the original standards.

Therefore, in an environment of high debt pressure and unstable employment, the second role of marriage and mutual assistance has become increasingly fragile. 】

The common people in each dynasty nodded thoughtfully, it seemed that this was really the case for them to receive souls.

Even if you don't have a house or an apprentice, you can still receive the soul.

This is a normal thing for them, and they don't feel ashamed at all.

After all, everyone around them is in the same situation, so they won't be embarrassed.

From this aspect, they do not have the worries of the hereafter.

They think it is extremely incomprehensible to them to spend all their money to buy a new house just for the purpose of catching souls, and even to take on high debts.

However, they are also very fortunate that they do not need to be like future generations, otherwise they would simply not be able to bear it, and they would not even be able to save enough money to buy a new house in their lifetime.

Although they don't understand why future generations have to buy a new house to receive the soul, at this moment they understand to some extent the reason why the young man in the future is unwilling to receive the soul.

Originally, Jiehun should be like them, a couple who helps each other and has a better life together.

But the situation in later generations is not like this. Soul-receiving cannot help each other, but will face greater pressure.

Under this kind of pressure, it is no wonder that the people of later generations are so unwilling to receive souls.

If they were like this, getting married would only make life more difficult, and they probably wouldn't want to receive a soul.

[Another function brought by marriage is actually comfort.

The purpose of receiving souls is, in addition to the close connection between the reproductive instinct and advancement.

Another thing is that it can bring physical and mental pleasure.

Getting along with a person who is in love with you day and night and growing old together is what each of us hopes to get through marriage.

But what we need to know is that the core of a long-term marriage does not lie in the so-called mutual love or mutual happiness.

Things that are maintained by passion will eventually come and go quickly.

The most important core of marriage is tolerance, which can also be said to be tolerance.

Tolerate each other's shortcomings, tolerate each other's family, tolerate the changes in each other's personality as they age, and even tolerate everything about each other. Only in this way can the marriage finally come to an end.

However, with the advent of modern liberalism (yi) thoughts, both parties, especially women, pay more attention to their own feelings, both as individuals and as the other half of the marriage.

Without the strong blessing of feudal etiquette, women's own demands are even more important.

Of course, this does not mean that women deliberately suppressed their needs to cater to men, as was the case in feudal society in the past.

In this context of free and independent thought, the concepts of women and men are more likely to conflict.

They may even have different views on the same thing, which may lead to the breakdown of the marriage.

Because we must understand that the so-called peaceful years brought by comfort are actually the burden-bearing burden brought by the forbearance of the other half. 】

Women from all dynasties nodded wildly, and the word tolerance spoke to their hearts.

The most important thing about being able to live a stable life with your husband is to tolerate everything about your husband.

No matter what their husbands do, they will eventually choose to be tolerant, even if they don't want to.

Rather than tolerating, it would be more appropriate to say tolerating.

It is precisely because of their tolerance towards their husbands that they can always live in harmony.

At this time, they are very envious of future female compatriots who can be themselves without suppressing their inner thoughts.

Unlike them, no matter what thoughts they have, they can only be buried in their hearts.

No matter how dissatisfied they are with their husbands, no matter how full of complaints they have, they can only choose to tolerate it.

They don't want to be like this, but they have no choice. This is how their world is, and they are just appendages to their husbands.

Women in later generations will have a choice, and they can divorce their husbands if they feel uncomfortable.

But they lived in ancient times and had no such choice at all. No matter how uncomfortable they were, they could only stay with their husbands.

Perhaps the only ones who are comfortable are their husbands. As mentioned in the video, as the other half, they can only endure it and choose to silently bear the burden and move forward.

Over time, they had no choice but to accept this arrangement.

In the end, she used her patience in exchange for staying with her husband until the marriage came to an end.

[From the perspective of advancement science and sociology, if you understand the above three points, it will be easier to understand why people are unwilling to receive souls now.

Because for young people, marriage is more like a shackles than happiness.

Not only India, but all countries with a relatively high degree of industrialization face similar problems.

Taking the United States as an example, in the 18 years for which complete data are available, the soul pickup rate in the United States has dropped to the lowest level in 120 years.

Among 1000 pairs of young people of the right age, only 6 chose to receive souls.

Neighboring Japan, the soul pickup rate in 5 years has been below %, setting a record low in the years since World War II.

50岁以前从未结过婚的男性比例是23%，女性是14%，分别是八五年的6倍和3倍。

Through interviews with young people aged 25 to 35 on the streets of Japan, what is their biggest wish?

32% chose making money and career progress, 28% chose personal hobbies, and 10% chose to lie down and do nothing, while less than 15% chose to pick up souls and form a new company. family.

When investigators further inquired about the reasons for not wanting to receive souls, money and time were the two factors most frequently mentioned.

It is not difficult to see that the main factors surrounding everyone's reluctance to start a family are the two issues we have always talked about, the basis for promotion and the pursuit of personal will. 】

Li Shimin: Good guy, the richer the place, the less willing young people are to receive souls.

He thought that this situation was unique to the Rabbit family, but he didn't expect that it was the same situation in other places, which really surprised him.

Where living conditions are better, young people are less likely to want to lose weight.

He couldn't understand it at first, but after understanding the three purposes of receiving souls, he fully understood.

The main purpose of receiving souls is fertility, mutual assistance, and comfort. Once these three purposes go wrong, it is understandable that young people are unwilling to receive souls.

In places where material life is developed, the cost of living must be extremely high, which is a big burden (fù dān) for young people.

Especially the issue of housing. The better the promotion, the more expensive the housing. The same is true for them in Chang'an City.

Even buying a house has become a problem for young people. In this case, taking the ghost rashly will only increase their burden and put themselves under greater pressure.

Under circumstances of great pressure, the three advantages of fertility, mutual aid, and comfort are simply out of the question.

It is precisely because of this that young people in later generations are unwilling to form new families.

[In the mouse utopia experiment, if mice can live peacefully in a limited space, with sufficient resources and social stability, the population will not be completely extinct. The continuous loss of social desire is the core disease of the experiment.

At the beginning of the experiment, the rats had a very strong desire to fight and were very bloody.

But in the later stages of the fight, all the defeated white rats gathered in the center and lost the ability to fight, and the arcade (jie ji) was seriously solidified.

The white rat on the edge has no power to win the competition and cannot obtain any resources in society.

The social resources here include territory, mating rights, priorities, status, etc.

Even if the experimenters can provide sufficient survival resources, social resources cannot be equally distributed and cannot be controlled.

This causes the rats to continuously lose desire and form an increasingly large group of losers.

These groups have to suppress their desires, causing constant distortion of character.

When he couldn't suppress his emotions, he punched the loser next to him.

Until the activity of the rat group becomes lower and lower, the dark side of the deformed rat society is a concrete manifestation of suppressed desires.

This is exactly the same as the situation faced by our current society where marriage and childbearing are low. The essence of the decline in the soul-receiving rate is that there is a problem in the distribution of social resources.

As more and more people are unable to receive fair and just treatment from the distribution of social resources, more and more people will choose to reduce their social desires, and extremely low social desires are accompanied by extremely low marriage and childbearing rates.

Therefore, how to distribute social resources more fairly and justly, so that more people can obtain matching social status through hard work rather than some messy other factors, is crucial.

This requires the Indian court and society to be more focused when allocating resources, not only focusing on the allocation of basic survival resources, but also on the allocation of social resources.

Are current rural revitalization and common prosperity allocating social resources?

No, India's promotion has already passed the stage of allocating survival resources.

India is now adjusting social resources, that is, rapidly shifting from the pursuit of efficiency to the pursuit of fairness.

Only fair and transparent distribution of social resources is the core of solving marriage, population and even social problems.

Marriage is related to the fate of the country. Only the happiness of individual weddings can have the future and hope of the Indian court. 】

While common people in all dynasties sympathized with the plight of young people in later generations, they also deeply envied the plight of young people in later generations.

They can see that the reason why young people in later generations are so anxious is because there is a problem with the distribution of social resources.

But even so, at least the basic survival resources of future generations of young people can be satisfied.

And their people are now unable to even meet their basic survival resources, and many people are still starving for two meals in three days.

The biggest hope of their people is that their whole family can have enough food and clothing.

To use the words in the video, it means meeting basic survival resources.

As for higher-level social resources, they have no hope, because they are not available to ordinary people.

The rulers of each dynasty were thoughtful about the distribution of social resources, and were thinking about how to solve problems encountered by their dynasties.

Although it is too early to consider this situation, after all, even the most basic survival resources have not yet been solved.

But they are very confident in solving basic survival resources, and those high-yielding staple food seeds give them great confidence.

According to their budget, in less than ten years, people all over the world can live a life without worries about food and clothing.

At that time, after solving the basic survival resources, we should face the problem of distribution of social resources.

After all, if they cannot properly handle the distribution of social resources, their dynasty will also face the same low desire situation as in later generations.

But as for how to solve the problem of distribution of social resources, they are at a loss and have no clue.

(End of this chapter)