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The ancients said that one's destiny is created by oneself and one has to seek one's own happiness.

People's destiny is in their own hands. As long as they work hard enough, they can change their fate.

However, this principle does not seem to work well in the life of Li Shangyin, a poet of the late Tang Dynasty.

The good or bad of fate is ultimately predetermined and has no control over it.

Everyone who travels in this world carries a heavy bag called loneliness.

Li Shangyin's luggage was particularly heavy.

When Li Shangyin was young, he experienced the loneliness of his father's death.

As an adult, he was deeply involved in party strife and had a bumpy career, and finally died alone in a foreign country.

Although during this rough life, he had been cared for by noble people and gained deep affection.

However, the prosperity is gone, and the space is desolate.

In the end, everything he cherished disappeared from his life one by one.

All those he cared about left him.

Someone once said that since Li Shangyin, there has been no soul more lonely than Li Shangyin in the world.

After reading about Li Shangyin's life, we will understand.

All the precious things in life turn out to be lonely.

"Li Shangyin was born in Xingyang, Henan Province in the seventh year of the Yuanhe reign of the Tang Dynasty. He had three brothers and one sister."

"His father, Li Si, was a county magistrate and once claimed to be a descendant of Li Hao, the King of Liang Wu Zhao."

"After Li Si's term as county magistrate expired, he accepted the invitation of Meng Jian, the governor of Zhejiang East, and went to Zhejiang East to serve as Meng Jian's shogun. Li Shangyin and his family followed his father to Zhejiang East."

"During the years he lived in Zhejiang, Li Shangyin began to learn to read and write."

"However, Li Si died of illness while in office due to numerous affairs and overwork. This was the first year of Changqing."

"Because he lost his source of income, Li Shangyin had no choice but to accompany his mother back to Zhengzhou, Henan, where he spent several years in mourning."

"During this period, Li Shangyin also continued his studies, and together with his brother Xisou, he studied the Five Classics with an uncle from the clan."

"During this period, Li Shangyin had already demonstrated his talent for writing, was good at writing classical Chinese, and his calligraphy also improved significantly."

"In the third year of Changqing, Li Shangyin had passed the mourning period and began to copy documents for others to make a living."

"In the first year of the Dahe reign of Emperor Wenzong of the Tang Dynasty, Li Shangyin wrote two articles, "On Talent" and "On Sainthood", and became known to the scholars of the time."

"In the third year of the Yamato era, Linghu Chu, the acting Minister of War, went to Luoyang to serve as the governor of the Eastern Capital."

"After learning about Li Shangyin, he valued his talent very much and ordered him to learn to make friends with his son. At the same time, Linghu Chu also personally taught Li Shangyin how to write articles."

"Afterwards, Linghu Chu was transferred to be the governor of Tianping Army, and he appointed Li Shangyin as the governor's inspector, and accompanied him to Shandong and other places to serve."

"In the fourth year of the Dahe era, Linghu Chu's son Linghu Tao took the imperial examination. Linghu Chu asked Li Shangyin to accompany Linghu Tao to the capital to take the examination as a tribute student."

"In the late Tang Dynasty, the imperial examination system had accumulated many problems, and poor students had no way to enter the government."

"After the results were announced, Li Shangyin failed to pass, but Linghu Tao passed and soon entered the official career."

"In the following years, Li Shangyin took the exam many times but failed every time. Later, when Linghu Chu was transferred to Chang'an, he had to return to Xingyang."

"In the seventh year of the Dahe era, Li Shangyin once again failed to pass the imperial examination. In his poem, he compared the examiner who did not admit him to a villain who hindered his success."

"Later, he paid a visit to Xiao Fan, the governor of Zhengzhou, and Cui Rong, the governor of Huazhou."

"Cui Rong is Li Shangyin's uncle, and he was recommended by Xiao Fan."

"He took special care of Li Shangyin and sponsored him to study in Nanshan."

"In the eighth year of the Dahe era, Li Shangyin was unable to take the exam due to illness, so he followed Cui Rong to Yanzhou to take up his post and was in charge of his essay submissions."

"In the ninth year of the Tang Dynasty, Li Shangyin was not admitted to the imperial examination again, so he moved from Chang'an to Zhengzhou. In this year, he moved to Jiyuan to accompany his mother."

"In the second year of the Kaicheng reign of the Tang Dynasty, Li Shangyin took the exam again."

"The chief examiner this year was Gao Kai, the Minister of Rites. Linghu Tao was good friends with Gao Kai, so he praised Li Shangyin in front of Gao Kai, and Li Shangyin was able to pass the exam."

Fan Zhongyan: All the precious things in life ultimately lead to loneliness.

Loneliness is the loss of friends and the past.

With the passage of time, even the deepest friendship will become weaker due to different experiences.

No matter how good friends we make, they will become strangers because of conflicts of interest.

When Li Shangyin first entered the world, he worshiped under the tutelage of the scholar-bureaucrat Ling Huchu.

At that time, Li Shangyin's family was in a very poor financial situation, but Linghu Chu's son Linghu Tao didn't care.

He took the initiative to make friends with Li Shangyin and often asked him to read and write together.

Seeing that Li Shangyin was dressed shabbily, Linghu Chao would take the initiative to give him money and clothes.

Knowing that Li Shangyin failed despite repeated attempts, Linghu Fu would also actively help him smoothen his relationship.

However, after Li Shangyin passed the Jinshi examination and became the son-in-law of Jiedushi Wang Maoyuan, the relationship between Li Shangyin and Linghu Gui gradually became incompatible.

At that time, there were two major factions in the court, the Li Party and the Niu Party.

Wang Maoyuan belongs to the Li Party faction, while Linghu Gui and his family belong to the Niu Party.

In Linghu Chao's view, Li Shangyin's act of marrying Wang Maoyuan's daughter was a betrayal of their friendship.

From then on, Linghu Chao never became close friends with Li Shangyin again.

Sometimes, he would even secretly hinder Li Shangyin's career.

Li Shangyin also tried to explain to Linghu Xu, but no one believed that Li Shangyin's behavior was unintentional.

He wrote "Untitled" to express that he also wanted to be like the Blue Bird and have diligent exchanges with Linghu Tao, but he did not receive any response.

The two people who once talked about everything and were as close as brothers parted ways due to political party disputes.

Loneliness is the sorrow of losing a wife in middle age and being alone.

Li Shangyin deeply experienced this feeling after his wife passed away.

Li Shangyin and his wife Wang Yanyu were once handsome talents and beautiful ladies in the eyes of the world.

Putting aside their political stance, their marriage can be described as a match made in heaven.

After marriage, the two have always been harmonious.

Although Li Shangyin suffered repeated setbacks in his official career because of Linghu Chu.

But fortunately, his wife Wang Yanyu was by his side, which also comforted Li Shangyin a lot.

If life could continue to be so peaceful, Li Shangyin's life would surely have a happy ending.

It's a pity that God's will is unpredictable and fate plays tricks on people.

Later, Li Shangyin was transferred to a local post, and the couple were forced to live apart.

Wang Yanmei took on all the responsibilities of the family without any regrets, but her health deteriorated due to long-term hard work.

After Wang Yanyu became seriously ill, she wrote a letter asking Li Shangyin when he would come back.

However, she was afraid that Li Shangyin would be worried, so she didn't mention anything about her serious illness in the letter.

At that time, Li Shangyin was in Bashu.

The continuous rain delayed his return.

He was alone in a foreign land, and with endless longing for his wife, he wrote "Night Rain Sent to the North".

By the time he arrived home, Wang Yanyu had passed away.

At that moment, Li Shangyin's heart became empty.

In the years that followed, Li Shangyin stubbornly guarded the dilapidated family and never married again until his death.

Loneliness is the sorrow and anger of not being able to realize your talents and unrealizing your ambitions.

People can only have a deep understanding of life after experiencing great ups and downs, and the same is true for Li Shangyin.

Although the background of Li Shangyin's life was sad, there were also bright moments.

He was quite talented at a young age, and won praise from countless literati for his two amazing works, "On Talent" and "On Sainthood".

At the age of 27, he passed the imperial examination and became a Jinshi, and then married the girl of his dreams.

That period of time can be said to be the happiest time in his life.

However, the rest of Li Shangyin's life was just like that.

All the brilliance that once existed in life will eventually be repaid with loneliness.

Because he married Wang Maoyuan's daughter, he was deeply caught in the partisan struggle between Niu and Li, and his career took a turn for the worse.

He was demoted many times and wandered for half his life. He was full of ambitions, but naturally had nowhere to display them.

During the most depressing time in his life, he went to visit a lonely monk in the mountains.

After the monk's enlightenment, Li Shangyin, who had been frustrated for many years.

Finally, at that moment, he had a sudden realization and wrote "Bei Qingluo".

At that moment, whether it was fame, fortune, love, hate or grievances, Li Shangyin looked at them extremely indifferently.

Since fate has allowed him to encounter some bumps, he will take it calmly.

Since life requires him to be lonely, he lives in harmony with loneliness.

Loneliness is the feeling of loneliness when a person reaches middle age and everything is regrettable.

When Li Shangyin was bedridden, he wrote down the joys and sorrows of his life in this poem "Brocade Zither".

It seems to be writing about lingering and sad emotions, but in fact, every word and sentence is filled with Li Shangyin's loneliness.

Li Shangyin's life was lonely in his official career, life, and soul.

However, after he tasted all the loneliness, he responded to them all with silence.

He met a noble man at the age of 18, passed the Jinshi examination at the age of 27, and married a wife in the same year.

This period of time was the golden age of his life.

However, after his mentor passed away and his wife passed away, his life fell into the gloomiest situation.

When a person reaches middle age, everything becomes futile.

From then on, he was alone, feeling frustrated, sad that no one understood him, and missing his wife.

Wandering in a foreign land, reminiscing about the past in endless loneliness.

Unfortunately, everything is in vain.

Li Shangyin's life was full of misery and loneliness.

And it is this loneliness and misery that creates the beauty and uniqueness in his poems.

"At the end of the year, Li Shangyin returned home to visit his family after passing the imperial examination."

"Later, Linghu Chu hoped that Li Shangyin would help him with his correspondence, and Li Shangyin gladly went."

"When Li Shangyin arrived in Xingyuan, Linghu Chu had been ill for a long time, so he asked Li Shangyin to write a will on his behalf."

"When Linghu Chu died, Li Shangyin, together with Linghu Tao and others, sent Linghu Chu's coffin back to Chang'an."

"Soon after he participated in the funeral of Linghu Chu, Li Shangyin was invited by Wang Maoyuan, the governor of Jingyuan, to work as Wang's staff in Jingzhou."

"Wang Maoyuan admired Li Shangyin's talent so much that he married his daughter to him."

"In the late Tang Dynasty, the officials in the Tang court were mainly divided into the Niu Party led by Niu Sengru and the Li Party led by Li Deyu."

“The two parties are fighting each other for power.”

"Linghu Chu and his son, who were closely related to Li Shangyin, were members of the Niu Party, while Wang Maoyuan was a member of the Li Party."

"Therefore, Li Shangyin's acceptance of Wang Maoyuan's employment and his marriage to Wang Maoyuan's daughter were considered as acts of betrayal by Linghu Tao and others."

"After obtaining the qualification of Jinshi, Li Shangyin took part in the official examination held by the Ministry of Personnel in the spring of the third year of Kaicheng, but he was removed from the list during the re-examination due to the political whirlpool of the Niu-Li faction struggle."

"In the fourth year of Kaicheng, Li Shangyin finally passed the examination and was appointed as a proofreader in the Ministry of Secretaries. Soon after, he was transferred to Hongnong County as a lieutenant."

"When Li Shangyin took up his post, he found that most of the prisoners he guarded were imprisoned for reasons such as defaulting on taxes and having disputes with local tyrants."

"He often reduced the sentences of prisoners, but this led to Li Shangyin being criticized by his superior, the inspector general Sun Jian."

"Li Shangyin was dissatisfied with this and prepared to leave, and wrote the poem "Asking for leave to return to the capital as the governor of Hongnong and Xianzhou"."

"Yao He, who had heard of Li Shangyin, took over the position of the inspector and persuaded Li Shangyin to continue to serve as the county lieutenant, so Li Shangyin stayed and took up the post."

"In the fifth year of Kaicheng, Li Shangyin decided to resign from his official position and asked for another post, and settled down in the south of Fanchuan, outside Chang'an."

"In the first year of Huichang, Li Shangyin traveled from Chang'an to the Yuan and Xiang areas."

"After that, he went to Xuzhou to serve as a staff member of Wang Maoyuan, the then governor of Zhongwu Army, and was in charge of his official correspondence."

"In the spring of the second year of Huichang, Li Shangyin went to Chang'an again to take the examination of the Ministry of Personnel and passed it successfully, and was awarded the title of Secretary of the Ministry of Personnel."

"But he did not take up the post because his mother died the following year, and he mourned for her for three years."

"Li Shangyin sent his mother's coffin back to his hometown, and traveled to Luoyang to move the graves of his deceased father-in-law Wang Maoyuan and other relatives who were scattered in other places back to the ancestral tomb."

"After Yang Bian's rebellion was suppressed, the whole family moved to Pingle, Puzhou, and participated in farming here."

"In October of the fifth year of Huichang, after Li Shangyin completed his mourning period for his mother, he returned to the Secretariat."

"In the sixth year of Huichang, Emperor Wuzong of Tang died, Emperor Xuanzong Li Chen ascended the throne, and a new round of political purges continued."

"Prime Minister Li Deyu and his supporters were subsequently marginalized, and the Niu Party quickly gained control of the government." Ouyang Xiu: Everyone Li Shangyin meets will gradually drift away.

In the adult world, pure relationships are rare.

Li Shangyin lived in the late Tang Dynasty. When he was about ten years old, his father passed away.

He returned to his hometown in Henan with his mother, younger brothers and sisters, and lived in poverty for a time.

In order to support his life, he spent a long time copying books for others.

His family also encouraged him to study, and his cousin even gave him lessons personally.

After he became an adult, he went to Chang'an, where he was appreciated by the minister of the time, Linghu Chu, who took him in as a disciple and recommended him many times.

With a grateful heart, he wrote that after receiving the letter in the middle of the night, he did not envy Wang Xiang for having a sword.

Linghu Chu's son Linghu Tao naturally became friends with Li Shangyin.

During the imperial examination, Linghu Tao had a small gathering with the chief examiner Gao Kai and gave three consecutive reminders.

Sure enough, Li Shangyin passed the imperial examination and became a Jinshi.

After Linghu Chu passed away, Li Shangyin was invited by Jingyuan Jiedushi Wang Maoyuan to serve as his aide.

At the same time, Wang Maoyuan betrothed his daughter Wang Yanmei to Li Shangyin.

Because his interpersonal relationships opened up the situation, Li Shangyin's life gradually improved.

But after comprehensive analysis, we will find that the relationship is not that simple.

Behind the relationship is the balance between interests and emotions.

Whether the relationship is good or not, there are two points that matter.

Are you useful now? Do you have potential in the future?

Friends are people who seek benefits together. Everyone wants to join hands and can go with the flow.

From a certain perspective, the relationship between master and apprentice is also about establishing a circle with the master as the head.

Marriage requires equal status, or even family alliance.

Perhaps apart from your parents, there is really no one who will love you selflessly without asking for anything in return.

No matter how good the relationship is, there will be meetings and goodbyes along the way.

There were many people on a boat, chatting and laughing along the way. When the boat docked, they went home.

What comes ashore are people, the acquisition of benefits, the gains and losses of human relationships, and so on.

After Li Shangyin got married, he was caught up in the famous Niu-Li faction dispute of the time.

Father-in-law Wang Maoyuan was very close to Li Deyu, while Linghu Chu's family and Niu Sengru were in the same circle.

When Linghu Chu's family saw that Li Shangyin had become an opponent, they immediately adjusted their attitude.

In the third year of Kaicheng, Li Shangyin was removed from the official examination held by the court during the review, and his official appointment as an official was delayed by one year.

Next, his mother and father-in-law died one after another, and there were fewer and fewer people who could help him.

Li Shangyin was depressed by his unsuccessful career and family life.

Li Shangyin was wavering between the Niu-Li factions, and nothing he did went his way.

When he was penniless, he wrote a letter to his old friend Linghu Shao, but was ruthlessly rejected.

Life forced Li Shangyin to bow his head again and again. In the fifth year of Dazhong, he followed the governor of Xichuan to work as a staff member.

In his loneliness, he missed his wife.

The return date is not yet due, but the night rain in Bashan rises in the autumn pond.

He Dang altogether cuts the candles at the west window, but talks about the rain in Bashan.

In fact, the wife who stayed at home had been ill for many days.

At first glance, it is the beautiful scenery; at second glance, it is the human relationships and the third glance, one can only sigh.

It turns out that behind all the sad and beautiful poems is a heartbreaking story.

The relationship is fading and disappearing, regardless of whether you are willing or not.

Sooner or later, friends, teachers and students, fathers and sons, husbands and wives, mothers and daughters will drift apart.

It is good enough that we do not become enemies because of our own interests.

Those who come for profit will leave when the profit is gone.

It is impossible for you to occupy all the different interest circles.

Staying in this circle means giving up or offending that circle.

People in the same circle will go their separate ways and seek their own way out after gaining benefits.

Those who come for fame will leave when fame fails.

The greater the halo of fame, the greater the pressure.

Besides, things change over time, and you can’t always have a certain aura.

Those who come for true love will die and disperse.

It's rare for a young couple to be together in old age.

But it is difficult for two people to die on the same day of the same month of the same year. Those who die first will leave twice as much loneliness for those who die later.

What comes for the blood can disperse at any time.

Your parents love you, but you still have to walk the rest of your life on your own.

What your parents give you is ultimately a lonely grave.

"In the first year of Tang Dazhong, Li Shangyin was appointed as an aide by Zheng Ya, the newly appointed Defense General of Guiguan and Governor of Guizhou, and he arrived in Guizhou in early May."

"Jung Ya once served as the shogun of Yi Deokyu, a member of the Yi Party, so Li Shangyin's action of following Zheng Ya to Guizhou showed his political choice."

"This behavior obviously angered the Niu Party in power, and Li Shangyin's career became bumpy because of the Niu-Li factional struggle."

"While Li Shangyin was serving as an aide to Guizhou, turmoil broke out in Zhaozhou, which was under Guizhou's jurisdiction."

"Officials at all levels were corrupt and perverted the law, which caused resistance from the local people."

"The governor of the state abandoned his post and fled, leaving the state government without anyone to manage it, and it was in chaos."

"Li Shangyin was ordered by Zheng Ya to go to Zhaozhou to serve as the temporary governor of Zhaozhou."

"After arriving in Zhaozhou, Li Shangyin immediately learned about the local customs and production conditions, listened to the complaints of the local people, and handled government affairs conscientiously."

"But soon, Zheng Ya was demoted to the governor of Xunzhou, and Li Shangyin lost his job. He had to leave Zhaozhou and head north."

"After Li Shangyin returned to the capital, he happened to catch up with the Ministry of Personnel's selection in the second year of Dazhong."

"Li Shangyin passed the examination and became the county lieutenant of Zhouzhi County under the jurisdiction of Jingzhao Prefecture."

"Afterwards, Jingzhao Yin learned of Li Shangyin's literary reputation and transferred him back to the capital to serve as a military officer in the law department."

"The following year, Li Shangyin was invited by Lu Hongzhi, the governor of Wuning Army, to go to Xuzhou to serve as a staff member."

"Because Lu Hongzhi used both kindness and force in Xuzhou, the political situation was clear and Xuzhou was relatively stable."

"Li Shangyin lived happily in Xuzhou and hoped to use this experience to realize his political ambitions."

"But not long after, Lu Hongzhi died of illness, and Li Shangyin had to resign and return home."

"Not long after Li Shangyin returned home, his wife Wang died of illness in the fifth year of Dazhong."

"At this time, Liu Zhongying, who was appointed as the governor of Jiannan Dongchuan, hired Li Shangyin as his staff."

"Li Shangyin sent his children to live with relatives in Chang'an and went to Zizhou alone to serve as a military governor."

"While serving as a staff member in Zizhou, Li Shangyin once believed in Buddhism in order to find peace of mind."

"He interacted with local eminent monks such as Zhixuan and Sengche, and opened a stone chamber in Huiyi Temple to copy Buddhist scriptures."

"In the ninth year of Dazhong, Liu Zhongying was transferred to be the Minister of Personnel, and Li Shangyin followed Liu Zhongying back to Chang'an."

"Afterwards, Liu Zhongying also served as the transport commissioner of salt and iron in various provinces, and appointed Li Shangyin as the salt and iron official, and commissioned Li Shangyin to go to the Huainan area to inspect the affairs of the salt court."

"After serving as the salt and iron official for several years, Li Shangyin resigned due to illness and returned to his hometown."

"In the twelfth year of Dazhong, Li Shangyin died of illness."

Wang Anshi: Li Shangyin, everything is determined by fate and has no control over us.

People's destiny is in their own hands. As long as they work hard enough, they can change their fate.

However, this principle does not seem to work well in the life of Li Shangyin, a poet of the late Tang Dynasty.

The good or bad of fate is ultimately predetermined and has no control over it.

Under the guidance of his father, Li Shangyin studied hard.

Unfortunately, the good times did not last long. When I was ten years old, my father passed away.

He and his mother had to return to their hometown in Henan, where they lived in extreme poverty.

As the eldest son in the family, he never gave up studying.

His family also hoped that he could become famous overnight and improve the family's life.

After studying for many years, he went to the capital to continue his studies. He was appreciated by Jingzhao Yin Linghu Chu, who arranged for him to study together with his son Linghu Tao.

Linghu Chu personally taught him how to take exams, write memorials, etc.

In order to improve his life, he was arranged to work as a secretary and received a certain amount of remuneration.

In the second year of Kaicheng reign of Emperor Wenzong, the 26-year-old Li Shangyin passed the imperial examination and became a Jinshi.

Just when Li Shangyin had just stepped into officialdom and was about to take up his second step, Linghu Chu passed away.

The path to promotion was blocked, and subsequent exams were also unsuccessful.

Reading is a shortcut to changing your destiny, but not everyone can do it.

The road to the imperial examination seemed to be blocked, so Li Shangyin changed direction.

He went to the residence of Wang Maoyuan, the governor of Jingyuan, and worked as a staff member.

Wang Maoyuan loved Li Shangyin very much and even betrothed his daughter Wang to him.

After marriage, Li Shangyin and Wang had a very good relationship.

Li Shangyin underwent a huge change because of his marriage.

At that time, there was a dispute between the Niu and Li factions in the court, and the two sides were incompatible.

Wang Maoyuan was an important member of the Li Party, and Linghu Chu was one of the leaders of the Niu Party.

In other words, when Li Shangyin got married, he jumped from the Niu Party circle to the Li Party circle.

Li Shangyin's change completely offended Linghu Chao.

At the same time, Li Shangyin did not receive any attention from the Li Party.

Li Dang saw that Li Shangyin was wavering between circles and thought that he was a despicable person.

Marriage can change a person's identity and social circle, and couples will also influence each other.

The original families of both sets of parents will also be closely connected.

Once one factor goes wrong, your destiny will be trapped.

In the fourth year of Kaicheng, Li Shangyin passed the official examination and got the position of proofreader in the Secretariat. Soon he was transferred to the position of Hongnong County Magistrate.

According to common sense, he would have achieved something if he had started as a minor official and worked his way up the ladder.

But his fate did not go according to common sense.

While serving as county lieutenant, he was punished by his superiors for being fair and upright, and was forced to resign from his post.

Next, his mother died and he returned home to observe mourning.

When he entered the workplace again, he could only work as a staff member and followed his boss to Guilin, Xuzhou and other places.

To make matters worse, his wife passed away in his hometown while he was away.

Without the power of love, the motivation of his career, and all his benefactors, he became disheartened.

When you reach the age of knowing your destiny, looking back, you realize that you have never changed your destiny, so you can only learn to accept it.

If a person reaches the age of fifty and has not achieved anything, he is still destined to be poor.

So what's the point? Maybe you are a late bloomer, but you are also confused.

There are indeed people whose fortunes prosper only in their sixties or seventies, but they are few and far between.

Even if you try your best, you may not be able to achieve it.

If a person stares at the outcome of fate, he will definitely be miserable and always unhappy.

But smart people will accept the arrangements of fate and place the root of happiness in enjoying the process of changing their fate.

A person's life is actually a process of using the false to cultivate the true.

Official positions, love, books, friends, money, etc. are all fake and are used for spiritual practice.

Therefore, no matter how rough your fate is, you must read throughout your life, be united with your spouse, work actively, and be kind to the world.

In a tattered fate, being a repairman is also a kind of luck. (End of this chapter)