1988: Back to the human world for a few years

Chapter 367: Nanfeng Beijian's Talk (2)

"First of all, you have to understand what the leadership position is all about!"

"It's different from what the grassroots workers think, and it's different from what you young people who have just started working think... A true leader should be the backbone of the team, a leader who can bring a sense of security to those below him, a leader who always walks in the front, and a wolf king who can make those below him howl!"

Mu Siyuan looked at Song Wenxuan in front of him seriously: "So, if you want to develop sufficient leadership, I personally suggest that you better remember the following ten sentences."

Song Wenxuan stood up straight and said, "Uncle Mu, please speak."

Mu Siyuan glanced at Yang Mo beside him and found that he was also listening carefully. He nodded with satisfaction:

“The first sentence… You must understand that taking responsibility is a leader’s inherent duty. You must learn to say “I’ll do it!”

“Leadership, to put it bluntly, is the responsibility of mobilizing the team to solve problems. When facing collective problems, no matter how scared or unconfident you are, you must step up at the first opportunity and say to yourself and others, “Let me do it! Follow me! Let’s do it together!”

"Whether you have the ability to solve the problem is actually not important. What's important is that the team's spirit and energy cannot be dispersed... As long as the spirit and energy are not dispersed, everything is possible, and the people below will involuntarily move closer to you!"

"Most people are selfish. No one is willing to follow a leader who has no courage and responsibility... Do you understand this truth?"

Not only Song Wenxuan, but everyone including Yang Mo and Eggplant Girl nodded.

Although the two words "I'll do it" are easy to write, it takes tremendous courage and perseverance to say them when the time comes. This alone can eliminate 95% of people.

If this advice was spoken by someone else, it might not be convincing. However, it was said by Mu Siyuan, who, as a deputy director, took the initiative to take on the task of reducing the number of employees and increasing efficiency by 200,000, and planned to actively promote the "Isolated Island No. 2" project. It was hard for these young people to disagree.

"The second sentence...face is never that important. Work must also be based on facts. Therefore, a qualified leader must learn to face difficulties and learn to say "I don't know"!"

“Pretending to know something when you don’t is a big taboo in leadership, and the development of any work is a long-distance race that does not allow mistakes to be made.”

“So even if you feel you understand, you should seriously examine yourself and doubt whether you really understand. You should seriously think about whether there are better solutions and answers to the problem.”

“If you are not completely sure, or your method is not the best solution, you must learn to humble yourself and ask for help from others… Don’t think that all problems are nails just because you can use a hammer!”

At this point, Mu Siyuan looked at Song Wenxuan seriously: "Xiao Song, don't blame your uncle for speaking bluntly... You still have room for improvement on this issue."

After saying that, he glanced at Yang Mo again: "Xiao Mo, it's the same for you...temporary success doesn't represent everything, and always thinking about walking on a tightrope is not advisable."

Song Wenxuan nodded shyly, his face full of conviction.

Facing the beating from his future father-in-law, Yang Mo gave a fitting bitter smile, then lowered his head like a good boy.

Seeing this, Mu Siyuan frowned slightly, and then continued: "The third sentence... the power of an individual is insignificant. You can never achieve anything by fighting alone. It is also difficult to solve problems by relying on one person's strength. Therefore, we must keep in close contact with the masses and partners, and ask one more question, "What do you think?"

“In short, in order to solve problems, mobilize the team, and effectively integrate resources, you need to ask questions, and ask them correctly and humbly... and give those correct responses and valuable help, positive feedback and encouragement!”

At this point, Mu Siyuan glanced at Song Wenxuan and said, "Xiaoxuan, you are lacking in this aspect... The reason why your project is stumbling is because you did not put down your attitude and ask for help from the people below, and did not exert all the strength of the team... Not only did the team fail to help you, but it also created certain obstacles to the development of your work... You must be cautious in the future!"

After talking about Song Wenxuan, Mu Siyuan turned his head and looked at Yang Mo: "Xiao Mo, you also have a serious problem in this area... Although you already have a team that belongs to you and they are doing very well, you are too independent. You are so independent that you only want others to be your subordinates and are not willing to develop partners from an equal perspective... This is very bad!"

Yang Mo's eyelids twitched, and he looked at the other old men who were looking at him with smiles. Although the expression on his face was still humble and smiling, his eyes had become indifferent.

What’s going on? He’s just become my future father-in-law, and already he’s trying to gain support for me in all kinds of ways under the guise of criticizing me?
Although you will be a family soon, and it's reasonable for you to be a prop and help your future father-in-law to get some benefits, but isn't it a bit too much to act like a bully without telling him in advance?
Oh, partner?
I'm afraid they are just a group of bandits who only want to share the food from the pot?
Although he was unhappy, he still had to give her some respect in this kind of situation. He glanced at Miss Mu, whose expression was a little abnormal, and turned around to respond politely, "Uncle Mu is right."

Seeing this, Mu Siyuan nodded slightly with satisfaction: "The fourth sentence... Humans are very good at escaping, and most ordinary people actually know that this is how their lives will be. So if you want to mobilize the enthusiasm and emotional intensity of the team, you must be idealistic, not pragmatic. Therefore, a qualified leader must learn to tell stories!"

"This story can be big or small; it can be a joyful story or an example from a real-life case... You all understand this, the only difference is whether you are willing to do it, so I won't go into details."

Upon hearing this, several young people showed some embarrassment on their faces. Unlike the older generation, these young people were extremely averse to various slogans within the system. Asking them to do so was ten times more difficult than the previous three suggestions... There was no way; they couldn't get over this hurdle in their hearts.

Seeing this, Mu Siyuan just shook his head, but didn't say much: "Fifth sentence... You must learn to give full play to your academic advantages, vision advantages, and professional advantages, and say more "I will teach you"!"

“As a qualified leader, you should focus on those subordinates who are willing to be your [students], and even more on the long-term cultivation and subtle influence of those subordinates who are unwilling to be your students!”

"My point of view is different from others. Other leaders tend to only spend their energy on the former, but from my personal experience, the subtle influence of the latter is actually more important... If you are willing to believe in what an old man like me says, you might as well give it a try in the future."

This time even Yang Mo was surprised.

Regardless of whether this old fox has achieved this himself, his words are indeed very well said, and can be regarded as pointing out the power of "empty talk"... You can regard it as a means of building personal IP, or you can think of it as creating momentum in the team, but as long as you have the ability to persist for such a long time, you will naturally know the power of this subtle means.

“Sixth sentence… Water has no constant state. There is no three-pronged method in this world that can conquer the world. Therefore, as a qualified leader, you must constantly improve yourself to maintain your core position in the team… Therefore, we must always ask ourselves [What do I need to change]?”

"In fact, in my opinion, the simplest way to reflect is to ask yourself one hour before going to bed, just like Lao Fuzi: Did I do the right thing today? Is there anything I didn't think about or overlooked? How should I adjust and change myself tomorrow?"

“Although it sounds a bit empty, from my personal experience, as long as you keep doing this, slowly, it will help you change in three levels: action, goal, and mind… and eventually lead to qualitative change and rebirth.”

Yang Mo, Song Wenxuan, and the eggplant girl all nodded.

The mind sounds like a very abstract thing, but it really exists. In many cases, its importance even exceeds any tangible professional knowledge.

Especially Song Wenxuan and Lin Luosu, who have experienced a series of situations they have never encountered before in the past few months since joining Dahua Company. Although they were quite overwhelmed, after several reviews and reflections, they really felt that they had grown a lot compared to before... This growth may not be at the professional level, but they can clearly feel the change in their mentality.

"Seventh sentence... The leader is the core of the entire team and must learn to think deeply. This kind of thinking is not only about professional skills, but also a kind of thinking based on overall considerations... Therefore, we should often ask ourselves [why] and also ask others [why]?"

"Why should I do this? Is it really the best solution?"

“Why do they do this? Why do they think this way? Are there important variables or hidden dangers in the outside world or the team that I haven’t noticed before?”

"In a word, the more comprehensive the information you have, the more it will help you think deeply. The more thorough your understanding of external situations will be, the more conducive it will be for you to make the most correct decisions... At a certain level, many decisions can no longer be fully considered based on experience and professional ability alone."

Regarding Mu Siyuan's last earnest words, the others listened with a hint of impatience, and Song Wenxuan also seemed to understand. But Yang Mo looked at the old fox deeply again... It seems that the old men present today are very important to his future father-in-law. When teaching these young people, they don't even have any intention of hiding anything.

Mu Siyuan's words are definitely words of experience. They may seem like a simple old-timer's secret that does not require any technical skills, but their importance even exceeds everything he just said... As I said, only when you have experienced it and look back on it, will you know the value of this sentence.

"The eighth sentence... is also the most important point for young people like you. You must learn to look at things dialectically. Whether it is this world or the things you experience, they are not binary, either right or wrong, or either success or failure... So, if you encounter setbacks, you should learn to say to yourself, "Failed? Congratulations!"

Mu Siyuan sighed with emotion, looked at the old friends beside him, and then turned around: "In fact, I, an old man, can tell you responsibly that unless the consequences of failure are too serious, otherwise, compared to success, failure is more valuable for your growth!"

"I can tell you responsibly that most successes in this world are too accidental and cannot be replicated. They often hide too many hidden dangers and shortcomings that you have never noticed under their brilliance, and may even become bombs at some point in the future... But failure is undoubtedly much more objective. If you can learn from your failures and correct these shortcomings, believe me, your steps in the future will be much more stable, and the next success will only be a matter of waiting for an opportunity."

After these words were spoken, Song Wenxuan and Eggplant Girl did not react, but the other two young men looked disapproving.

This is what I said...

How can failure be a good thing?
Success is success, failure is failure. Why do so many excuses and self-consolation come from?
Besides, life is only a few decades long. Where do you get the time and opportunity to learn lessons from failure?
They are all young and arrogant, and due to family reasons, their understanding of the saying "Heroes are made by the times" is far less profound than that of their parents. Seeing the tremendous changes in the country, it is the time for them to show their talents, so how could they listen to such discouraging advice?
Yang Mo glanced at the two old men with unhappy faces sitting on the left side of the mat and thought that they were probably the elders of the two young men.

Mu Siyuan gave his sincere advice, but his nephews and nephews still wouldn't listen. No wonder they were so angry.

But it's no wonder. If it were me, without the experience of my previous life, I probably wouldn't be able to listen to such discouraging advice.

In fact, as far as Yang Mo knows, many big guys in later generations, including those in Japan, South Korea and China, would quietly place their children at the grassroots level for training. Not only would they not give them any support, they would not even allow their own names to be mentioned. They would just let them start from the grassroots level as ordinary people and then do it for ten years or even longer.

It is obvious that in addition to being familiar with the business, these bigwigs know better than anyone the value of failure and setbacks to growth, and they also know the terrible consequences of rapid promotion turning into castles in the air.

And if Mu Siyuan's advice was really listened to, it would undoubtedly be a good compensation for these nephews and nieces... After all, in this era, although most of the big guys would let their nephews and nieces go to the grassroots for training, they were rarely as decisive as in later generations, so most of the training results were not ideal.

Just as Yang Mo looked at the two idiots who took the kindness of an old fox for granted with some pity, Mu Siyuan's voice came: "It is obvious that Xiaoxuan, Xiaolin, Xiaoma, and Xiaozhao all have shortcomings in this regard...but Xiaomo's hidden dangers in this regard are more serious than anyone else's!!"

The old fox sighed, his tone full of worry: "Although Xiao Mo has indeed made some achievements in the past year or so, the bad thing is... it's too smooth!"

"Under the raging fire, there are cliffs beneath our feet!"

"Perhaps you haven't noticed it yet, but in the eyes of us old guys, we are terrified!"

As he spoke, Mu Siyuan shook his head: "To be honest, it's because you have a relationship with the drilling company, Xiaomo, and you have been entrusted with important tasks several times. You can't afford to make any mistakes easily... Otherwise, I would rather you encounter more setbacks!"

"This way, although it may not go smoothly for a while, it will be very beneficial to your growth... At the very least, your style of doing things will not become more and more overbearing... Humility brings benefits, while arrogance brings harm. This is the wisdom passed down by our ancestors for thousands of years!"

As soon as the words fell, an old man with a belly that was not proportional to his body sighed and said, "That's right. When Old Mu recommended you to be the actual person in charge of Dahua Company, we old men already regarded Xiao Mo as our own son or nephew, and wanted to do our best to train you."

"So from the beginning, we have been planning to hone your ideas, Xiaomo. After all, Dahua Company is the most important employee diversion platform of the headquarters, which is directly related to whether the work of reducing staff and increasing efficiency can be carried out smoothly. As an operator, Xiaomo, you are still young after all. We think that your character and working methods can be honed... After all, the work of Dahua Company has just started, and there is still a long way to go. Sharpening the knife does not delay the chopping of wood, and occasional ups and downs will not have any serious impact."

"So after your commercial demonstration zone project was implemented, I took advantage of the gap in work to make some small personnel changes."

At this point, the fat old man paused, and finally sighed: "Who would have thought that man proposes, God disposes, and Xiaomo, your work ability is indeed beyond our imagination... Well, it's better not to say it, and it would be ridiculous to explain it further... In short, I just hope that Xiaomo, you don't hate us uncles!"

TMD!

You've said all the good and bad things about me. What can I say in front of my future father-in-law?
Besides, after you say this, do you believe it yourself?
However, at this point, Yang Mo has also realized that these old guys are probably the important helpers in Mu Siyuan's promotion of the "Island No. 2" project, and what the fat old man just said is nothing more than a stepping stone for the reconciliation of the relationship between the two sides.

He looked at the fat old man and said sincerely, "My uncles and aunts have good intentions. I know their good intentions... It is not a good thing to be reckless when young. After Uncle Mu's enlightenment, I have been seriously reflecting on myself recently."

Watching Yang Mo's heartfelt performance, the fat old man nodded with satisfaction, as if he was very content to turn the page on this chapter.

Mu Siyuan, who already knew Yang Mo quite well, looked at his future son-in-law with some helplessness, and then glanced at the other young people who looked a little impatient, and sighed a little boredly: "The last two sentences, ask yourself more questions like [Who am I] and [Who should I be] before making decisions in the future... Forget it, after all, you have just started working not long ago, and it may not be a good thing to say some things too early... Let's talk about it later when there is a chance!"

Mu Siyuan also has his own reservations. Although these old friends in front of him are indeed important helpers in his next plan, and sharing his experience with these nephews and nieces in front of everyone does send certain signals, but since these young people obviously don't want to listen, why should he be so self-indulgent?

Anyway, it’s enough to get the positive feedback from these old guys.

………………

Seeing that the old antique Mu Siyuan finally let them go and no longer had to pretend to be good students, not only the two young men but even the eggplant girl breathed a sigh of relief.

That’s right, it’s a rare May Day holiday, so the important thing to do is to have fun!
Just as a few young people found an excuse to "not disturb the uncles and aunts" and stood up to say goodbye, and were about to slip away to have fun somewhere else...

Mu Siyuan suddenly called Yang Mo: "Xiao Mo, you and Xiao Xuan are both friends and colleagues. It's a rare opportunity for you to come to Dongying, and I can't leave now, so let Xiao Xuan accompany you to go around!"

As he spoke, Mu Siyuan paused for a moment and said, "And Xiaolin, come along too... You and Xiaomo are pretty familiar with each other, so you can also accompany Xiaoya."

Hearing Mu Siyuan's instructions, Song Wenxuan was a little stunned at first, and then a gleam of light flashed in his eyes: "Okay, Uncle Mu!"

Yang Mo sighed a little tiredly.

Got it!
I knew something like this would happen today.

We just officially confirmed our relationship as father-in-law and son-in-law last night. Is it really appropriate for you to be so casual?

This is a prop that serves as a function on the spot, and it also lets me take the initiative to share the cake...

You old fox, you really don’t treat me as an outsider!
However, in a situation like the Mu family, Yang Mo had roughly anticipated some things last night and was mentally prepared to face them, but he just didn't expect it to come so soon.

At the moment, I could only smile and nodded: "Okay!"

(End of this chapter)