I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

okay,

Next person.

Ding~
"Hey bro."

It's a girl.

Lin Feng: "What's wrong, sister?"

Girl: "Hello, brother. I am your loyal fan. I want to ask you two questions."

Lin Feng smiled and said, "Come on."

Girl: "Let me first talk about my background. My parents are farmers. My family is relatively poor.
I have a younger brother who is 16 years younger than me.”

So much smaller?

Raymond Lam: "How old are you now?"

Girl: “I am 26 years old now, and I have graduated from graduate school. Because my family is in financial difficulty, I went to school and found a job by myself.

I'm not blaming them, because I know very well that they do have limited finances.

I have worked very hard these years and have made a little money.
But my mother wants me to take out a loan to buy a house. Her purpose is to give my younger brother a place to live while he is in elementary school."

Lin Feng: "I have a student status."

Girl: "Yes, yes, it's just that I have a student status. Sorry, big brother, I'm a little nervous."

Lin Feng comforted her: "Don't be nervous, sister. Big brother doesn't eat people."

puff~
Successfully made the girl laugh.

"Thank you, brother. I'll continue. I'm under a lot of pressure right now, but my mom said that my dad could help me pay the loan.

But I know this is impossible.
Because I was the one who paid off my father's 6 yuan bank loan.

At that time they said that bank interest rates were too high or something like that.

Later I asked my mother, regarding the dowry, will you leave it to me or keep it for yourself?
My mother's original words at the time were, "You decide. Of course she took it herself. Your brother is still so young, and he will definitely need a dowry in the future."

. . . . . .

On the barrage

"Fuck! I want her to be a brother-supporting demon!"

“I was forced to support my brother hahahaha.”

"Taking a loan to buy a house at the age of 26? I have heard of this calculation even abroad (grin)."

"He must be trying to trick his brother into giving the house to him."

"Wow, another one who treats his daughter like a blood bag..."

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "Come on, sister, tell me your name."

Girl: "Xiaomei!"

Raymond Lam: "Oh, I thought your name was Yaozu."

Well. . .

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said, "Listen to me, your brother's obligation to support him, including the gift for his future marriage, is not your responsibility, so you don't have to bear it for him.

Can you understand this?

Because your brother also has to be a husband and a father. If he can't support a family by himself and needs your support for everything, you will ruin him.

And I'm telling the truth,

If someone really needs you to support everything, then you shouldn't get married and shouldn't hurt others.

Who the hell gets a wife and also supports his brother-in-law.

That's bullshit."

. . . . . .

On the barrage

"Brother is right. It's not a good idea to give everything to my younger brother. It will ruin him."

"The key point is that it's not her obligation (covering her face)."

"Marrying a wife with a brother-in-law (laughing and crying) will make the boyfriend suffer."

"So the eldest brother asked at the beginning if her name was Yaozu (dog head)."

What's the plot?

"To bring honor to our family."

puff~
Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "Normally, if you can afford it, you can buy it. If you can't, you can go to school in the town now. If you have a local hukou, as long as you are willing to be adjusted, you can go to school.

It’s just a matter of whether the school district is slightly worse or better.”

Girl: “I told them the same thing, but they didn’t listen.”

Lin Feng waved his hand and said, “It’s a foregone conclusion that boys are favored over girls in this family.

This thing cannot be changed.

But you have to know that as long as the money is with you, you will always be a rich daughter, a rich sister.

You can arrange this relationship yourself.

What does it mean?

I want to be close to you, I want to be close to you,

I don't want to be close to you, so I will stay away from you.

Anyway, you won't hate me because I still have value in my hands.

But if you spend without limit now, you actually don’t have much ability.

To be honest, you graduated from graduate school at the age of 26, how capable are you?
If you continue to give back to your family without limit, I will even take away the betrothal gift. Then you will be doomed, right?"

. . . . .

On the barrage

“The money is in my hands. I will always be the rich daughter and sister (thumbs-up).”

genius!

"I suddenly remembered a famous saying: Money is for you to look at, not for you to spend (laughing and crying)."

It's true.

"You can only live a good life if you have money. Without money, you are just a dog head."

"I was just too stupid before, and my parents treated me like a blood bag for many years (crying)."

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: "But there is one thing, we should not make enemies.
Because traditional marriages still require their participation.

So the best way is to spend money on yourself, put the money in your own pocket, and focus the rest on your own life.

Unless we are truly able to give back to our original family, then it doesn’t matter.

For example, if I stand up on my own and get ashore, I can pull my whole family up with me.

It's just my brother's betrothal gift. I'll pay for it. Stop talking nonsense.
I buy houses, and villas.

But I don’t have the ability, sorry, I have to get ashore by myself first.

I will take care of you when I have the ability.

So the best way is to take care of yourself first.”

Girl: “But…”

Lin Feng raised his hand to interrupt: "No buts, I told you that you were too sympathetic to him in the early stage, and your brother might be disabled.

The betrothal money and the house also depend on you, he himself doesn't work hard at all,

He can't support a family by himself.

On the contrary, if life becomes unhappy later and his wife wants to divorce him, his parents will not only not appreciate your kindness, but will also blame you for being incompetent.

It became a matter of mutual resentment between inside and outside.

So I might as well be a little cruel, I'll rely on myself first, I'll get to shore first,
When I have money, I can give back at any time.

As long as I have the money, I can adjust the relationships at home at any time.

But if you don't listen and spend all your money, you will be in a passive position.
You are forced to accept the family relationships they choose and the relationships they have with you.”

. . . . .

On the barrage

"Brother, this part is really well said! (I admire you)"

"If you can't continue to repay your parents, your relatives will not only not appreciate your kindness, but will also hate you. Don't be too realistic (tears)."

"The evil of human nature...tsk tsk..."

"I'm going to cry, just like my mom (cry)."

"Although... But, can you please not bring up these trivial family matters in the future? It makes me angry."

+1
. . . . . .

Girl: "Brother, I know all of what you said. Actually, I didn't know it before. I used to think that since I made money, I should treat them well. But after watching your live broadcast, I understand a little bit."

Lin Feng smiled and nodded: "So even if you know it, you have to be able to do it. Listen to me, find a reason to tell your family that the money is gone or has been lent out.

No matter what, this house cannot be bought.

Secondly, you don’t have to have too many moral burdens because the big payoff is still to come.

After all, our parents are old, and it is only a matter of time before they get sick. It is not too late to express gratitude to them when they need our support.

On the contrary, they will remember your kindness at this time.

It’s not that we are not grateful, nor that we are not good to our parents, but we have better ways to handle and maintain family relationships.”

. . . . .

On the barrage

"It's okay to just do a small favor now, the big expense is still to come."

"Yes, it's fine to buy food and clothes for your brother, but forget about buying a house. It's just a waste of time."

"I've been watching this all night, and this Zhuo Bo knows everything (thumbs up)."

My brother is still too comprehensive.

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Girl: "Also, I paid social security for my mother for more than a year now, and I also pay it myself. In total, I probably pay about 3000 yuan a month."

Raymond Lam: "That's too much, sister. It's not necessary."

Girl: "So should I stop giving it to my mother?"

Lin Feng: "Your mother has a rural household registration, right?"

Girl: “Yes.”

Lin Feng: "Then there is no need to buy social security, just stop it.

The New Rural Cooperative Medical Insurance in the village only costs a few hundred yuan a year, so it would be more cost-effective for you to buy that for her."

Girl: "I used to think it was my duty to pay for his social security, but now that something has happened, I have seen things clearly."

Hey hey hey hey!

Lin Feng interrupted with a wave of his hand: "Don't go down a dead end, sister, let's put things in perspective.
I can’t say that when things are good, I will give you everything without principles or bottom line, and when things are bad, I fucking hate you.

You've bewitched my sister.

I said that we cannot change our parents' preference for boys over girls.

But to be honest, it's not entirely their fault, the times played a big part in it.

You can't completely erase all the good things they have done for you in the past just because of some of their bad behavior now.

Can you understand if we put things one by one?
And buying insurance for them is ultimately for our own benefit.

Because your parents are old and sick, you have a legal obligation and you cannot escape it.

On the contrary, buying insurance for them can reduce my stress.

But I said, forget about social security. Your mother doesn't run a company or do anything else. It's too expensive to teach her one or two thousand a month.
Just buy them the New Rural Cooperative Medical Scheme, it only costs a few hundred yuan a year.

This one is more suitable for them.”

. . . . .

On the barrage

"Let's keep things simple and don't get carried away (thumbs-up)."

"Big brother is not taking sides, he is really trying to enlighten the sisters."

"I just buy the New Rural Cooperative Medical Scheme. I pay every year. It's only three or four hundred yuan a year, which is very cheap."

"And the reimbursement for agricultural insurance is very high."

. . . . . .

Girl: "Then I want to ask again, how should I get along with them in the future?"

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and quickly wrote a line of words: Be filial in front of the hall, and have no contact behind the house.

The meaning is very simple, that is, everyone should keep each other's space.

On the surface, I still have to visit you during the holidays, right? I want to buy some mooncakes and other things.

I want this so-called filial piety.

Whatever you say to me, I won't say anything back.
But behind the house, I have my own things to do, my own work to do,

As I said, I have to support myself first so that I can have more time and energy to thank you.

Can you understand?
I’ll talk about it when I have the ability.

When I don’t have the ability, I will just give some small favors as normal, and that’s enough.

But the main point is to seize the time to build your own life framework.

Even if you keep giving support to your original family, they may not necessarily appreciate your kindness. Instead, in the end everyone will blame each other.

They blame you but in fact you haven't contributed much. Your parents raised you and you can't support your younger brother.

You blame them for asking you for so much money that you can't even afford the dowry when you get married.

Embarrassing in the husband's house,
Instead, you live a mess of your own life.

Anyway, it's just blaming each other, there's no point.

So be ruthless first, stand up yourself, and talk about it when you get to the shore.

I will be grateful if I have money.
I have no money left, so I will take care of myself first. "

. . . . . .

On the barrage

"Be filial in front of the hall, and don't interact with others behind the house (thumbs-up)."

"Brother is really sober (amazing)."

"You should help those who need help, but you can't exploit your friends, even if they are very close to you."

"Yes, in reality, many families end up blaming each other."

Really learned!
. . . . . .

Girl: "I work and live on my own now, and I don't contact them much, but my mother often asks me to go home and help them with work or something."

Lin Feng: "What nonsense! I'm working outside and you want me to go home and work?

No, sister.

If you call me, just say you have something to do.
of course,

We still need to talk nicely.

Just say that you are busy working overtime in the company. The market conditions are relatively not very good this year. Everyone in the company has to work overtime and you don’t have any time on weekends.

Remember, if the enemy can go there, I can go there too.

If they nag you, they will give you more negative energy.

Sorry,
I must get rid of this negative energy.

How to get rid of it?

Remember, your parents are here to bother you anyway, so instead of bothering myself, it is better to let them bother you.

Just say, Mom, I’m so annoyed. I’m still working overtime. I really don’t want to work anymore. Can you support me?

I'm really tired, I want to quit my job.

You complain about how hard it is outside and dump all your negative energy on your mother.
Believe me, when your mother calls you in the future, she will be afraid of your voice.

Isn't he here to harass you too? You harass him back.

As soon as you answer the phone, you say, "Mom, I don't want to live now. I'm so tired. My colleagues don't like me, and my boss doesn't like me either."

Mom, my colleague bought a house today.

Mom, can your family buy me a house?

Mom, he is in his 20s and his family bought him a BMW.

I can't come back on Saturday to help with the work, because I have to work overtime on Saturday. Mom, I don't want to do this anymore. Why don't I quit? You can support me when I go home.

Mom, I'll go home on Saturday.

Do you understand?

If you make your mother afraid of receiving a phone call, she will not contact you anymore."

. . . . .

On the barrage

"Throw it back, hahahaha genius!"

"I'm going to do it this way after I learn this (covering my mouth and laughing)."

"Mom is scared when she hears your voice, hahahaha."

"If the enemy can go, I can go too (dog head)."

My elder brother is truly a god.

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "But there is one thing, even if she doesn't contact you, you have to take the initiative to contact her, because your mother is your psychologist.

Anyway, I'm taking your money, so why not help me relieve my emotions?
So you have to take the initiative to contact me, Mom, why haven’t you contacted me recently?

Why don't you talk to me?
I'm really upset, mom.

It's 12 o'clock in the middle of the night, and you call your mother. Your mother's heart trembles.
Why is there another call? "

Girl: ... (End of this chapter)