Can following the rules be called rebirth?

Chapter 118, Section 116: The Nine Syllable Mantra
One of the most notorious flaws in rebirth novels is that the protagonist acts as a pimp for his roommate, introducing girls to him, or acting as his wingman.

In a time when brotherhood is widely criticized, Zhou Mingyuan is equally uninterested in his roommate's love life.

There is one exception.

For example, the three brothers would pour water, offer cigarettes, and massage backs, coming over to ask questions with extremely kind attitude.

It's just a matter of saying a few words, opening your mouth.

"Brother Zhou, when I'm chatting with a girl I like, I don't know how to get along with her."

Xiong Yao spoke first.

"Me too. Either I act too aggressively, making her think I'm very needy, or I act too indifferently, making her mistakenly think I just treat her as an ordinary friend."

Yu Feiyang seamlessly followed up with the next sentence.

"Sometimes I don't know how to strike the right balance, how to chat with the other person naturally, and how to get along with them naturally."

Cai Zhipeng added at the end.

"You're an expert in this area, could you teach the brothers?"

This was a problem shared by all three roommates.

"How am I an expert?"

Zhou Mingyuan smiled as he wiped his hair, the wet ends still dripping with water.

"Stop pretending, Lao Zhou. You're usually just polite, but today you're moving and having a meal. Everyone has seen it."

Cai Zhipeng raised his eyebrows, took two steps closer, and tried to hear more clearly.

"Go, go, go."

Seeing the three brothers' determined attitude, Zhou Mingyuan pulled over a small stool, smiled, and spread his hands.

"Then let's start with Big Bear. Why don't you take a few screenshots of the chat history and show them to the brothers, so we can analyze them together?"

As everyone knows, ever since the get-together in dormitory 203 of the School of Management, Xiong Yao has been in close contact with Xu Ning, the cheerful girl from the opposite dormitory.

Both are from Sichuan and Chongqing and love mahjong. They had exchanged contact information a long time ago, but they hadn't been able to break the ice yet.

Not to mention going on a date alone.

Xiong Yao readily agreed, and the four boys gathered around Cai Zhipeng's desktop computer, waiting for the typical case to emerge.

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"Yours is quite classic."

Zhou Mingyuan couldn't help but laugh when he saw it.

The taste is too strong.

These days, sycophants aren't as universally hated and hated as they are in later generations.

Even though these are publicly available chat logs that Xiong Yao has edited, without involving any private topics, and deliberately selected parts that are not overly flattering, some clues can still be seen.

Xu Ning: [?]

Xiong Yao: [That's not how it works, because of me]

"Look here, there's no framework at all. Why bother explaining so much to her? What's the point of writing such a long essay?"

Zhou Mingyuan pointed to their chat history, patted Xiong Yao on the shoulder, and said earnestly.

"Although there are no universal dating tips, I personally think there are some rules to follow when dealing with girls."

"I summarize it as the nine-word mantra for handling relationships: no explanation, no entanglement, no confrontation."

The three sat quietly in their chairs, listening attentively.

The first rule is: no explanation needed.

"First of all, not explaining does not mean not communicating. When something happens, you should still actively communicate, but you don't need to explain to her."

"Why?" Zhou Mingyuan paused for a moment, then continued, "Because you'll find that only people of lower status explain things to people of higher status, so we don't need to explain anything."

"This is often a kind of 'shit test.' Girls like to be pampered by men, but no girl likes a man who grovels before them."

“Men with strong inner strength don’t need to explain themselves; they don’t need to seek validation from the outside world.”

The three of them seemed to be lost in thought.

"It's like when you graduate and join the court, the president will issue an instruction at the annual president's meeting, saying that no matter what method you use, you must achieve the goal of xx. But he won't explain to you why you should do this, nor will he tell you the strategic layout of the meeting, because you are just an ordinary employee and you don't need to know these things."

"In other words, you only have the right to choose; you can choose to complete the task or not to do it, but you don't have the right to decide; you can't change the decision your boss makes."

"The same applies to intimate relationships. For example, if you're married, should you give your salary card to your wife to manage?"

"If your relationship is based on equality, then you have the right not to pay."

"But some girls might feel that you don't love her that much, and you want to leave yourself an out, but you don't actually need to explain anything to her."

"Some men, however, will keep explaining to their wives because they are afraid that if they don't explain clearly, their wives will leave them and problems will arise, so they have to clarify themselves immediately."

"Just a reminder to everyone, this extreme fear of loss can gradually lead people to compromise and become accustomed to groveling."

"In the end, the balance will be lost, and of course, the final result will only be the disintegration of the relationship."

Zhou Mingyuan shrugged and continued.

The second saying is "Don't get entangled."

The man scrolled to the second chat log, his tone calm.

The above is Xiong Yao tentatively asking Xu Ning about some of his actions when they were playing mahjong before. He wondered if she would overthink things or have any complaints about him because she looked a little unhappy at the time.

"As a man, you can't keep bringing up the past."

"Once something is over, it becomes history, and we should turn the page immediately. We have to live in the present."

Zhou Mingyuan raised his finger and pointed to Xiong Yao's obsequious question above, and said.

"You keep thinking about yesterday, and you can't change yesterday, so when will you start thinking about today?"

Even if your date the day before yesterday was a mess, the sun rises the next day and it's a new day.

"When a person stays in the mud for too long, he will feel that he is no longer worthy of the flowers and grass."

"So when we say not to get entangled, it's not just about getting entangled with girls, but about not getting entangled with the bad version of yourself from the past."

Xiong Yao nodded repeatedly, looking as if he had just realized something.

The third point is "non-confrontation".

The last picture Xiong Yao sent was of the two arguing about something.

The tip of the needle is facing the wheat awn.

"Girls are mostly emotional creatures, and their emotions change more drastically. So sometimes they may appear immature. One approach to this is to avoid any emotional confrontation with them."

Zhou Mingyuan commented.

"Treat the other person as a spoiled child; this non-confrontational mindset can help you create a very strong attraction."

Why are so many girls attracted to older men?
Ultimately, the so-called "uncle" doesn't necessarily mean someone is really old.

Rather, he possessed a mindset that allowed him to treat women like little girls.

He speaks gently to girls, is tolerant of their little flaws, and protects them; these actions create a sense of security and comfort.

"No explanations, no entanglements, no confrontations—that's how you truly learn something."

Xiong Yao thought about it more and more and found it made sense, muttering to himself incessantly.

I won't explain, because too much explanation will unbalance the relationship.

Don't dwell on the past. After summarizing the experiences and lessons learned, you should let it go.

A mature man knows how to control his emotions without confrontation, and this is the right way to increase his attractiveness.

(End of this chapter)