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Chapter 82 The Courage to Change the Status Quo

“This matchmaker has a problematic mindset.” Xia’s father couldn’t sit still after hearing what Zhang Zhe said: “Preferring sons to daughters is a cultural dross that should have been discarded long ago.”

"Even so, don't say it so bluntly, it will affect the harmony of other people's families."

"Dad, you're so hypocritical." Xia Yi pouted disdainfully, making her father a little embarrassed.

"Alright, alright, Lao Xia, I'll remind you one more time."

"Don't bring your work-related attitude home," Xia's mother warned from the side. "The more pragmatic the matchmaker Yiyi finds, the less our daughter will suffer, do you understand?"

"Our daughter can't marry into a family that favors sons over daughters. If she has one child and then another, and keeps having children until she can't have a son, how can her body take it?"

"Okay, I understand." Xia's father nodded.

There was no other way; Xia's mother invoked the banner of "doing what's best for her daughter," and he had to temporarily avoid confrontation.

In the live stream chat, similar questions were being discussed.

Why are there so many families with younger brothers?

[Unless an only child is extremely picky, they're generally easy to marry off; only Voldemort would have a hard time finding a husband.]

I only learned about the prevalence of son preference in so many parts of China after going online.

This is common in areas with many children; it's not unusual.

[It seems like this girl hasn't figured things out yet, and she seems to want to pursue things further up the social ladder.]

“My brother might not want that house,” the girl explained. “He’s studying in Guangdong Province and plans to stay there after graduation, so he might not come back.”

“Let me put it another way.” Zhang Zhe knew that the girl was still hoping for the best. Unless reality was right in front of her, it would be hard to change her mind: “Now you have a blind date. His parents own a house, but he also has a younger brother.”

"Would you assume this house belongs to him?"

"He is the eldest son of the legitimate wife. In ancient times, he was the one who inherited the throne."

In rural areas, it's common for the eldest son to find his own house, while the parents leave the house to the youngest son.

Zhang Zhe felt that the example he gave was perfect.

Unfortunately, people nowadays generally have problems with comprehension.

“No.” The woman shook her head: “If the man doesn’t have his own house, we’ll have to live with his parents after we get married, which doesn’t feel right.”

"Who asked you this?"

"Forget it, just tell me directly, what kind of girl are you looking for?" Zhang Zhe felt it was better to be simple and direct, as he really couldn't understand some girls' logic.

“I don’t ask for much. I hope he’s from our area, because I’m not really comfortable with long-distance relationships.”

"Secondly, either he has a stable job, or his financial situation is better than mine. Not necessarily better, but at least not worse than ours, right? He should at least own an apartment in the city..."

"Girl, your request is inappropriate."

“Some of the conditions are mutually exclusive,” Zhang Zhe analyzed. “You are a primary school teacher in a rural area, a tenured teacher in the area, which is already the ceiling of the local marriage market.”

"The ceiling means that you are above, and the other young men in your area are below."

"If you want to find someone with better conditions than you, you'll have to go to the county or even the city."

"So you still won't accept a long-distance relationship?"

The main problem is that there are too many female teachers in rural towns now, and they've all come from big cities, so they have very high standards.

In the past, marrying a teacher was a sign of great ability in our area, but things are completely different now.

She would actually be better suited to marry a village official, but she definitely wouldn't be interested in him.

To put it bluntly, her profession makes it impossible for her to marry into a wealthy family.

In novels or TV dramas, the most beautiful female teachers in rural primary schools either marry the mayor's son or a wealthy second-generation local man.

But they're not that pretty, are they? Marrying a local civil servant is certainly a good option, but the problem is, there aren't that many male civil servants left these days.

There are female civil servants in that department who are also waiting to get married.

Zhang Zhe had seen similar cases to the girl in the video call in many studies on the marriage and love situations of female teachers in rural towns.

Many of them ultimately choose to "marry down," marrying local self-employed individuals, contractors, and so on. These people certainly don't own houses in the city; if they did, they would have moved there long ago.

"I don't accept long-distance relationships because I hope to date before getting married. Long-distance relationships usually don't end well," the woman explained. "My previous boyfriend broke up with me because we were in a long-distance relationship after graduation."

"This has nothing to do with dating," Zhang Zhe waved his hand.

"Your current situation is: you can't find someone to date, do you understand?"

"From dating to marriage, it's like going from 1 to 100. The problem is, you have to find that '1' to date!"

[Host, host, I'm the 1, can you be the 0?]

[She couldn't find it locally, so she came to connect with you online to make a wish.]

Who goes on a blind date and then starts a real relationship? Do they think they're not old enough?

Are Gen Z kids all in such a rush to get married? I'm a 90s kid and I'm still single.

"Then what should I do?" The woman's eyes looked a little confused.

"The only way is for you to take the exam and get a place in the county or city," Zhang Zhe suggested.

“Your qualifications are considered good in your local area, but in the city, you’re just average. As a result, it will be easier for you to find a partner.”

"But it's a bit difficult to get into the city..." The girl looked pale.

Her expression betrayed her; it was obvious she had considered it, but unfortunately, she lacked the ability.

"Then there's nothing we can do," Zhang Zhe said helplessly, spreading his hands.

At this point, all I can do is shrug and say there's nothing I can do to help.

"If you are not satisfied with the status quo, do not want to lower your standards, and do not have the perseverance to change the status quo, then you can only wait for the plot of a female-oriented novel to happen to you."

"The domineering CEO fell in love with me and gave up his life in the big city for me, just because he didn't want a long-distance relationship with me."

“Do you think it’s realistic?”

Even female-oriented content isn't this naive.

What is this girl thinking? She should just do as the teacher said and get into a university in the city.

If she had passed the exam to work in the city, she wouldn't have become a teacher in a rural primary school.

Anyone who has been on a blind date with a teacher knows that they generally have high expectations and all want to marry a good husband.

"That's really unrealistic." The girl was still relatively clear-headed: "So I only have two choices, right?"

"Yes, and you need to do it as soon as possible."

"why?"

"Because there are more and more single female teachers now."

"The main reason is that the overall environment has changed."

Zhang Zhe looked at the live chat comments and chatted with the viewers:

“The competition in big cities is too fierce. It’s too difficult to work and live in first-tier cities with an ordinary undergraduate or junior college degree. So many girls choose to return to their hometowns, counties or towns to become teachers.”

"The salary is not low, and there is a certain social status. It's much better than being a beast of burden in a big city."

"Everyone has this idea: rural teacher positions have become a safe haven. Since we're all teachers, with so many people, it's naturally harder to get married."

(End of this chapter)