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Chapter 117
Medium: Mind Reading: Knowing and Influencing Those Around You Without Knowing It
Chapter 7 Mind-reading exercise 7: The social code of the Enneagram
Section IX Skeptical Personality: Suspicion Without Grounds
Aspects of mind reading:
What kind of person is a "suspicious personality"?
Wonderful interpretation of mind:
You are always suspicious and like to look at the other person’s mobile phone, email and other personal items; you are used to guessing what others are thinking, no matter what they say, you will feel that the other party has bad intentions; when you see someone talking quietly, you are suspicious about yourself Bad words; seeing others study hard, do you suspect that he has bad intentions?
If so, you may be a skeptic.

The attention of the skeptic is like an infrared scanner, always trying to check the other person's heart, to see what the other person really thinks, what truth is hidden behind the appearance, what is behind the smiling face Attempts to...they're always trying to figure these things out.

With this preconceived bias, skeptics end up with more and more doubts, and more and more doubts.As the British thinker Bacon said: "Suspicion is like a bat. It always takes off at dusk. This kind of mood is confusing and confusing. It will eventually lead a person to do wrong things."

Looking back at history, Cao Cao, a generation of heroes, has a typical character of suspicion.

Cao Cao failed to assassinate Dong Zhuo, so he escaped from Luoyang alone on horseback, flew to Qiao County, and was captured when passing through Zhongmou County.The county magistrate Chen Gong admired Cao Cao's loyalty, so he abandoned his official position and fled with him.The two traveled to Chenggao and went to the home of Lu Boshe, Cao's father's deceased, to seek accommodation.

When Lu Boshe saw Cao Cao, he was very happy, and when he heard that he had failed to assassinate Dong Zhuo and was being arrested, he was even more distressed for a long time.After that, he turned around and went out, ordering his four sons to kill pigs and sheep, while he went to the market four miles away to drink.

Because of the matter of assassinating Dong, Cao Cao was nervous all day long, and he was suspicious by nature, so he never really calmed down. Even in Lu Boshe's living room, he still had his ears up and was restless.He had just finished drinking a cup of tea when he heard the sound of sharpening a knife. He listened again and heard someone say: "Block the door immediately, don't let him escape!"

Suspicious Cao Cao didn't know that he was killing pigs and sheep. He thought that the Lu family wanted to report to the officials to kill him, so he was so heartbroken that he drew his sword and went out. "What a bunch of villains who have no regard for righteousness!" Lu Boshe's little grandson was staring at him when Cao Cao stabbed him with a sword, killing him.Cao Cao didn't respond, and continued to attack the backyard one by one with his sword.

When Cao Cao came to the backyard, he saw Lv Boshe's four sons tying pigs. He was shocked, knowing that he had killed the wrong person, but he still threw his sword and chopped them off.After four more sword strikes, Cao Cao felt his body go limp suddenly, so he leaned on the sword and closed his eyes in silence.After a long time, he suddenly drew his sword straight, and smiled at Tianchang: "Narther teach me to defeat the people of the world, but don't teach the people of the world to defeat me!" After laughing, he cut off the horse's rein with a sword, grabbed the horse's mane, and jumped up.

Of course, there may still be doubts about this paragraph in the official history, but the suspicion in Cao Cao's character is also an indisputable fact.

Suspicion is one of the weaknesses of human nature, and it is the bane of harming others and ourselves.Once a person falls into the trap of suspicion, he must be nervous everywhere, suspicious of others and himself, thus damaging normal interpersonal relationships.If suspicion occurs between friends, it will destroy pure friendship; if it occurs between lovers, it will hinder the development of feelings; if it occurs between colleagues, it will affect normal work.

Suspicion is a narrow, one-sided, and groundless blind imagination.When you find that your doubts are getting heavier, please control your cranky thinking, you might as well look at the object of your doubts from many aspects, and find a way to add some "interferon", such as "maybe I made a mistake" , "Maybe he or she isn't that kind of person", "Maybe it's not as bad as I thought it was", etc.In this way, you can gradually eliminate some of your own unrealistic assumptions and speculations.And if you are friends with suspicious people, you must be cautious and try to let the other party understand your intentions, so as to reduce unnecessary misunderstandings.

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