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Chapter 161 Part Two
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Chapter 5 Psychological Strategy 5: See people by their "heart" and have real friends
What does the sudden enthusiasm mean in the second quarter

Mental Wisdom Call:

Friendship is like a stew, which needs to be boiled slowly.

Skillful in control:

We all have some close friends who we keep in touch with often, and there are also friends who have not been in touch for a long time, and the relationship has faded; there are friends who have just met and changed from strangers to acquaintances; friends who have friends, have eaten together, and have gone out to play... …But suddenly one day, those who are just ordinary friends, who have not been in touch for a long time, suddenly become enthusiastic about you, then you should be alert, because this sudden enthusiasm means that he may ask for you.The reason why I say "maybe" is to maintain an objective view of such behavior, so as not to misinterpret other people's good intentions.Humans are emotional animals. He may develop an irresistible affection for you overnight because of your words and deeds, but this kind of situation will not be too many, and you should try to avoid such associations.When encountering a friendship that suddenly heats up, only by being calm and keeping a distance will you not get burned.

How to see whether there is an intention behind this "friendship"?First of all, analyze your current situation, whether it has the value of being used, such as being powerful.If it is, then this person may have plans for you and wants to gain some benefits through you; if you have no power but are rich, then this person may also borrow money from you, or even cheat money; Without money, there is nothing for others to use directly, so this sudden warming of friendship is basically not dangerous-but it is also possible that "Xiang Zhuang dances the sword with the intention of Pei Gong", and he regards you as a stepping stone to cross the river, as a his tools.

After checking whether the sudden friendship is really dangerous from your own situation, you still have to reserve your attitude, because this is just your point of view, and you may be confused and blinded by some external things of the other party.In the face of this suddenly warming friendship, you should do the following:

1. lukewarm
"Not cold" means not answering the other party's "good intentions". Even if you have seen the other party's intentions, don't refuse immediately, otherwise you may offend a person; It makes you unable to withdraw and makes yourself very passive.

2. Wait and see
The best way to deal with other people's sudden enthusiasm is to observe quietly, see what tricks he is playing, and take precautions to avoid being caught off guard.If you are suddenly moved by the "enthusiasm" of others, you will lose your rational judgment.

Generally speaking, if the other party has a plan for you, they will "see you later" after a period of time.He won't spend long with you.

3. Reciprocity

For this kind of friendship, you have to reciprocate courtesy.If he treats you to dinner, you give him a gift; if he does you a favor, you have to give him something in return.Otherwise, if he really has plans for you, you will "eat people's mouths and take people's hands short", and you will be firmly controlled by him, and it will not be so easy to get out.

Friendship is like a stew, which needs to be boiled slowly.Therefore, when a person who is enthusiastic about you suddenly appears in your circle of friends, you have to take precautions against him (her), because he (she) has changed the temperature of maintaining friendship among friends.

(End of this chapter)