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Chapter 11 Psychological Strategy 11: Be the protagonist of love

Section [-] Don’t Make Such Mistakes in Relationships Between Men and Women
Mental Wisdom Call:

Men and women can hurt each other if they don't know what the other cares about.We often see men and women communicate in a counterproductive way, and often reject each other.

Skillful in control:

Yan is one of the most enviable girlfriends.She found a boyfriend who was obedient to her, no matter how bossy she was, he just smiled and looked at her lovingly.Yan often said that her boyfriend was too weak in front of her girlfriend: "He, he was born with such a useless appearance." And everyone except her knew that this tall boy always bowed his head to talk to Yan, just because Love her, there is no second reason.

Yan still does not understand.After she got married, she still made frequent quarrels, and when the quarrels were still unfinished, she went to stay at her girlfriend's house for a while. Of course, the chatter with her girlfriend was all about trivial matters, and it couldn't be said who was right or who was wrong.Often when Yan was wiping away tears and talking with her girlfriend, her husband would call.The next morning, he couldn't wait to come to pick up Yan. Looking at Yan's eyes swollen from crying, his own eye circles were also red, and he lowered his head like a child doing something wrong and said, "It's all my fault."

This kind of farce was performed more than a dozen times, and the man's expression gradually became indifferent.Finally, one time, Yan stayed at her girlfriend's house, and there was no call from him at night, nor did he come to pick her up in the morning.This situation has been stalemate for a full week, and my girlfriend felt that it was abnormal, so she went home with Yan.When Yan's husband saw Yan's return, he was not at all happy. His face was pale, and Yan's expression was also calm.The two fought coldly for three months, and broke up peacefully.

Later, Yan experienced many men, but never met someone who paid for her like her ex-husband.

If a woman can understand the basic requirements of a man for love, she will be able to grasp the reasons for a man's dissatisfaction, so that she will not or rarely make the following mistakes:
1. A woman tries to improve a man's behavior or help him by offering unsolicited advice.

2. The woman tries to change or control the man's behavior by sharing her sad or negative feelings.

3. Instead of thanking a man for what he did for her, a woman complains about what he didn't do for her.

4. Women express distress indirectly with modified questions such as: "How could you do that?"

5. When a man makes a decision or takes the initiative, the woman corrects or criticizes him.

6. Women correct a man's behavior like a child and tell him what to do.

These mistakes made by women can make men feel unloved, so men are easily hurt.

Likewise, men often make the following mistakes:
1. Men don't listen, are absent-minded, and don't ask questions that women are interested in or care about.

2. A man takes a woman's feelings literally, she wants to tell, but he provides the answer.

3. A man listens, but angrily blames a woman for making him feel bad.

4. Men ignore the importance of women's needs and feelings.

5. When a woman is sad, a man explains why he is right and why she shouldn't be sad.

6. After the man listens, he says nothing or just walks away.

Men often don't know that their communication style is disrespectful and supportive of a woman. A man may know that she is angry with him, but unless he understands her needs and why she doesn't feel loved, he can't change his communication style.

To sum up, in order to avoid the recurrence of similar tragedies, lovers need to communicate with each other carefully, and at the same time, pay attention to adopting the correct method.

(End of this chapter)