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Chapter 894 As long as it makes me feel at ease

"Girl, no matter how powerful a man is, he will inevitably show some childishness in front of his own family. Your father is like this, Xiao Yan, and he will probably be like this in the future."

Tong Xiaohuai finally understood now that her mother came here to teach her some ways of getting along with lovers.

She does need to ask her mom for advice, though.

Because, since she and Yanbo have known each other for so long, she has always felt that she is the one being pampered.

Admittedly, this is a good thing.

After all, every girl wants to have a strong boyfriend who pampers and protects her.

But if it goes on for a long time, will he become Yan Bo's burden?
"Mom, can you explain a little more clearly?"

Although they just started dating, Tong Xiaohuai felt that she would never be willing to let go of a man like Yan Bo.

Therefore, she can't let herself be his burden, and at the same time, she can't let him get tired of hating herself.

And at this point, she always felt that her mother did a very good job.

In the eyes of others, Tong Boss is a very powerful and powerful man, while Tong Ma is an overly elegant woman who always gives people the feeling of being weak and fragile.

But Tong Xiaohuai knew that her mother had already mastered the skill of using softness to control rigidity. It was because of this that her father had basically obeyed her mother's orders for so many years.

Therefore, Tong Xiaohuai has always admired and admired her mother very much. In her eyes, her mother has always been a woman with great wisdom.

However, unfortunately, she has inherited more from her father's stamina and fiery temperament. Only the superficial temperament looks elegant, but it can't even be called noble.

And the temperament inside is even less than one-tenth of Lan Xinhui's temperament like that of my mother.

Tong Ma reached out to touch her head and asked her gently.

"Then tell mom, what qualities do you think your boyfriend should possess?"

Tong Xiaohuai thought for a while, "Probably, it just makes me feel at ease."

In fact, there should be many more, but Tong Xiaohuai couldn't tell the specifics.

"Well, the two words of peace of mind seem simple, but in fact, these two words contain a lot. First, he must be strong and have the ability to protect you in order to make you feel at ease. Second, he must be loyal to you. Only then can you feel at ease. Right?"

Tong Xiaohuai thought about it carefully. The sense of security she felt at the moment when she came out of the noodle shop that night and was pulled by him to hug him tightly, to put it bluntly, was indeed as analyzed by her mother.

Subconsciously, she knew that he was strong enough to protect her, and at the same time, she also knew that no matter what happened to her, he would never abandon her or even leave her, so she felt at ease.

"Well, Mom, you are right!"

Tong's mother went on to say, "In my opinion, for many women, a competent boyfriend and husband are actually a relationship between father and husband and son. In him, you can feel like a father treats you. tolerance, mutual support and understanding between partners, and his dependence and trust in you."

"In the same way, for many men, a competent girlfriend and wife is a relationship between mother, wife and daughter. When he encounters something troublesome, he needs you to listen to and explain it gently. At this time, you , is his loving mother. When he is in a normal state, he will accompany you to face various social or family problems. At this time, you are his beloved wife. When you are occasionally self-willed, he will treat you unconditionally as a daughter. So, as a woman, it doesn't matter if you occasionally have some innocuous self-willedness, because most men actually enjoy this kind of state of pampering their wives like their daughters, of course , this kind of situation can't be too frequent, once in a while, it's just for fun, but if you do it often, it will make people bored."

Tong Xiaohuai stared at his mother with wide eyes, "So, there is still so much knowledge? It sounds tiring!"

Mother Tong smiled and nodded, "You are our daughter, and we are related by blood, but you have a lot of knowledge when getting along with us, but these knowledge do not need to be summed up in words, but in your heart , there is always a ruler that is constantly measuring and correcting, how to get along with us, so that everyone can be happy without touching their own bottom line. Isn't it?"

Tong Xiaohuai thought about it carefully, and it was true, so she nodded in agreement.

"There are so many scruples between us because of the bond of blood, not to mention, with a complete stranger who had nothing to do with you, but came together because of mutual attraction. If either of you doesn't If you are ready to run in and tolerate each other, then your relationship will definitely not last long."

Tong Xiaohuai's words made Tong Xiaohuai fall into deep thought.

Then, the more she thought about it, the more frightened she became.

"Mom, I feel that I have been enjoying his kindness to me for a while, and I still take it for granted. Isn't that wrong?"

Tong Mama's words made Tong Xiaohuai reflect on herself, and this reflection broke out in a cold sweat.

Tong's mother touched her face, "A man, when he first pursues a girl, he will be very patient, and he will also... pamper... you, but after a long time, only he... pampers... you pamper you , definitely not, he also needs to feel your feelings for him? If you like him too, you will never just take it from him without knowing it, and don’t give it at all. I don’t think you are either. Such a person, unless, you don't like him."

Tong Xiaohuai became more and more ashamed, "But I don't seem to have done anything for him. On the contrary, he has done too many things for me during this time."

"Fool, lovers don't use scales to measure each other's giving and taking. It can only be said that during this period of time, between you and him, you are in a passive position. As for you, when I am a mother From my point of view, you should like him very much, that's why you have the fear you have now."

Regarding the issue of getting along with lovers, Tong Xiaohuai learned a lot from her mother's words and understood a lot of truths. Of course, she still had many questions in her heart, but considering her mother's long journey, she didn't dare to keep talking.

Seeing that it was already one o'clock in the morning, Tong Xiaohuai said good night to his mother.

Soon, she heard her mother's even breathing. Obviously, her mother was extremely tired.

Tong Xiaohuai blamed herself slowly in her heart, only caring about solving her own confusion, unexpectedly forgetting the fact that her mother was exhausted.

It seems that I am used to being taken care of not only when I get along with Yanbo, but also in front of my parents.

But the fact is that the parents are getting older, and gradually, it's time for my adult daughter to take care of them.

(End of this chapter)