perfect hidden marriage

Chapter 549 558, unrequited love 98, what is the purpose of marriage?
"Ode to Joy? What is that?"

Xiao Jinghuan asked curiously, feeling like a song.

"A workplace drama for urban women. Haven't you watched it?"

Xi Manli was quite surprised:

"It was very popular when it first aired."

"Uh, no, I have been staying abroad for the past few years, so I never follow domestic TV dramas. In fact, after the age of 20, under normal circumstances, I seldom watch videos. If I want to watch them, I only watch crime documentaries. Well, you should tell me first, what kind of person is Qu Xiaoxiao?"

Xiao Jinghuan asked along the way, wanting to know who she was compared to.

And it was these few words that made Xi Manli truly feel the huge difference in life and culture between her and Miss Xiao, but she still gave a detailed introduction:
"That's a girl from a rich family, a rich second generation, very playful and capable, daring to love and hate, and stalking a man after she has her eyes on him. However, the cultural connotation is not high, depending on the person. But she is precise and straightforward, and she looks down on Fan Shengmei, another leftover migrant girl who lives on the same floor.

"Because in Qu Xiaoxiao's eyes, Fan Shengmei is the kind of woman who wants to pinch others and dreams of becoming rich and handsome. She is desperate and wants to squeeze into the so-called upper class circle. Qu Xiaoxiao Privately known as Laonu.

"It can't be said that Qu Xiaoxiao is mean, it can only be said that it is a sharp collision of two cultures. Different social levels have different cultures. This is the naked reality.

"The best thing about this TV series is that it has a strong sense of substitution. The five girls portrayed have their own characteristics, none of them is a bad person, and each has their own helplessness in life..."

Xiao Jinghuan listened and seemed to understand why she was so deeply moved, so she pointed out sharply:

"Sister Xi, let me tell you, I'm not Qu Xiaoxiao, and you're not that girl.

"Then, let's talk about what is a girl?

"The so-called Laonu refers to a woman who abandons her dignity and exchanges her soul and body for money.

"I have to admit that there are quite a few such women in today's society.

"However, Miss Xi, you are not, and you cannot have a sense of substitution in this regard.

"I heard from my mother that you have been in the group for so many years, but you have never been in a relationship... You have always worked hard, and you have always been my mother and my brother Changning's good helper. If you are that kind of person, my mother would have Fired you up.

"My mother is very strict when it comes to employing people."

Such affirmation warms Xi Manli's heart, but:

"I do value material life. This is a fact. Otherwise, I wouldn't hesitate because of Xu Chen's marriage proposal. I should have agreed to it long ago. Xiao Xiao, you won't look down on me because of this! Looking for a man who pays attention to material things, even It's not about finding girls, but if you think about it seriously, it's a bit of a money worshiper."

Xiao Jinghuan shook her head and emphasized emphatically:

"No, this can't be regarded as worshiping money. It can only be said that after getting older, everything becomes more realistic.

"It's not like when I was young, thinking that love is the most important thing, and everything else can be stepped aside and compromised. In the end, it is easy to be stabbed all over by the real problems brought about by love.

"Actually, this reality is just a kind of growth process in life.

"When you find a man when you get older, you will consider many aspects of future development. If the other party's conditions are average, you will consider whether the quality of life will decline if you get married in the future and have children.

"So, I think it's normal for you to have this kind of thinking.

"Water flows to lower place, man goes to higher position.

"It can only be said that it is caused by your work circle.

"I'm a woman, and I hope to marry someone I like... This man not only has to make himself comfortable, but also treats himself wholeheartedly.

"I think that's what a lot of girls think before they get married.

"Let me ask, who wants to marry a man, the end result is that marrying him will be a free nanny for the rest of his life, making him grow old... Everyone wants to be loved and pampered..."

For someone like her, who has seen a lot with her boss, has seen a lot, and has a broad vision, it is inevitable that she will be too high to be low.

Xi Manli felt that these words had reached her heart, so she sighed and sighed:

"Yeah, for a woman, why do you marry? I hope to have something to rely on and a stable life. If this man can't give himself security, and may become his own burden, then why do you want to get married? Live alone It's also pretty good."

Many leftover women come from this way.

"Yes, yes, actually, what we should discuss is why we should get married?"

Xiao Jing suddenly clapped her hands and shouted, feeling that this is the most worthwhile research point, so she immediately changed the subject:
"Sister Xi, what do you think is the purpose of getting married?
"Look at all these people, they grow up from children who don't understand anything. In the end, most of them have to get married. Anyway, when they reach this age, it becomes a strange thing not to get married."

"You were forced to marry too?"

Xi Manli asked curiously, and immediately followed up on the topic.

"That's right... So, I was thinking, man, why do you have to get married?"

Xiao Jinghuan rested her chin and sighed softly: "Sometimes I think that getting married is to give two people a legitimate reason. You sleep with me and I sleep with you. An extra marriage certificate is just an extra shackle of morality and responsibility. .”

After hearing this, Xi Manli expressed her opinion:

"That's right, marriage requires a moral bottom line and responsibility, so it's sacred...

"In my opinion, marriage is two people who are in love with each other, have a more consistent goal, are willing for the other party to participate in their own life, and allow themselves to be controlled by the other party, and accompany the other party through a period of life.

"In this process, we have to be responsible to each other, and we must never leave. Whether rich or poor, or sick or suffering...

"Because it takes a lifetime, and because there are too many individual differences among people in this world, and because a woman's youth is limited, when a woman chooses marriage, she always hopes to find one with good conditions. Because women have to bear the pain of childbirth. If this man is not good enough and not good enough for himself, then why would she have to suffer this physical pain to give birth to children for him?
"So, getting married is a process of finding someone who suits you, who treats you well, sharing joys and sorrows, raising children together, enriching your life, and striving for life.

"Yes, that's how it is. A good material life is necessary, but you can't ask too much, because the spiritual life is more important: only those who can talk to each other can support each other for a lifetime..."

After Xiao Jinghuan finished listening, she tapped on the table, pointed at her and smiled: "Look, look, do you still need me to analyze it for you? Actually, you think it through!"

Xi Manli was stunned.

Xiao Jinghuan continued: "Now, let's go back and talk about your criteria for choosing a mate!
"Let's put it this way, the men in our circle are usually sharp. Those who want to have fun, a large number of people, and those who want to find a suitable woman to live with, there are, but their conditions Generally, they are very tall. As for you, you can only be regarded as the kind of marginal people, and it is difficult to get into their eyes and hearts."

From her point of view, Xi Manli's conditions are average. There is nothing particularly outstanding about such a woman. In this circle, if you catch a lot of them, it is really ordinary:
"So, it's really important to find your own position.

"If you want to be rich in the rest of your life, or you can take a risk and try to hang out in this circle, there are some good ones, some bad ones, and there are many people who are badly mixed up and ruined.

"If you want a stable home, find a stable man.

"This man is what you just said, who is suitable for you and treats you well. When you find this kind of man, the material standard must naturally be lowered.

"However, to be honest, sometimes material life is really not particularly important. Because material can be created by oneself. It does not necessarily depend on men's giving.

"Just like our family, my father and my mother, they have countless wealth, materially, they have everything, but they don't have a complete family.

"My father has been rich all his life, but he has been poor all his life in marriage. His only wish so far is to have a confidant wife in his later years, so that he can live a comfortable life comfortably.

"So, think about it, if the man who proposes to you is a man who can make you feel at ease, then accepting it and fighting together is better than locking yourself in an illusory circle and finding someone who may never be able to A man who satisfies himself is much stronger..."

Xi Manli listened quietly, and suddenly understood her heart.

In fact, with her, what you want is stability.

If she just wanted to make money, she wouldn't have stayed in this position for so many years.After being with Chairman Jin for so long, she has gone out to see her, and some rich people have also secretly expressed that they want to develop with her. Of course, this kind of development is mostly just a transaction of flesh and money, and she has never been tempted. , isn't it because she is waiting for the stable person who is worthy of her sacrifice with that sincerity?
Maybe Xu Chen is not good enough, but he is stable and solid, and he can let her have a home in Shanghai. He liked her more than ten years ago, and he is still interested in him after more than ten years. With such a long-lasting man, he still has feelings for her. What can be faulted?

She had an epiphany: "One word shocked the person in the dream. Xiao Xiao, I know what I should choose."

Xiao Jinghuan listened, and smiled lightly: "Then I will congratulate you first: it is not easy to find a good husband."

Xi Manli nodded: "It's really not easy. Whether it's satisfactory or not, you'll have to live to find out. Xiao Xiao, now, I have another question to ask you."

Seeing that her question was very serious, Xiao Jing felt that her question seemed very important, so she had no choice but to answer immediately:
"what is the problem?"

"How would a girl like you pick a husband?"

Xi Manli brought the topic to her.

　see you tomorrow!

　　
　
(End of this chapter)