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Chapter 103

Chapter 6 Section 7 The Contradiction of Love

[India] Osho
Here is a known fact:

You are in love with someone, but you are not in love with a real person, you are only in love with someone in your imagination.

When you're together, when you look at this person from a balcony, or you meet this person for a few minutes at the beach, or hold hands in a movie theater, you start to feel like, "We're made for each other."

In fact, no one is made for each other, you just keep projecting more and more of your imagination onto that person.

A certain atmosphere you create around that person, he creates a certain atmosphere around you.Everything seems beautiful because you're dreaming about him, you're avoiding knowing the truth, and you're both trying in every possible way not to disturb the other's imagination.

So the woman bows the way the man asks her, and the man bows the way the woman asks him, but you can only do this for a few minutes, or at most a few hours.Once you're married and living together 24 hours a day, it becomes a burden to keep pretending.

Just to satisfy the other party's imagination, how long can you continue acting?

Sooner or later this pretense will become a burden, and then the revenge will start, and you will destroy the imagination that the other person has created around you, because you don't want to be imprisoned again.

You want to be free.

You just want to be yourself.

The same is true of the other person.He also wants to be free, to be himself.

This is a constant conflict between all lovers and in all relationships.

【Together with you】

Sometimes what we fall madly in love with is really just an unreal image in our minds, or we just fall in love with what we want to love.Under the effect of this self-awareness and mirror psychology, the love we have is just like a mirage.

Time is the best litmus test.Whether love is real or illusory requires us to think rationally about what we love from the very beginning, and never allow any personal subjective consciousness in it.Love that has been washed and experienced can endure wind and rain for a long time.

Love is not only an emotion, but also an action.Therefore, when you have the emotion of love, you should also learn to love.

(End of this chapter)