120 philosophical essays you must read in your life

Chapter 85

Chapter 5 Section 6

[China] Wang Dingjun

I have been neighbors with the chairman of a certain company for many years.When his company was booming, his car crushed other chickens; his wolfhound roamed freely, showing his terrible white teeth to the children next door;Frankly, he was not very popular among the neighbors.

Later, his company went out of business due to poor cash flow, and we often met in the alleyway, and I walked, and he also walked.There was a smile on his face, his jaw was retracted, his wolfhound was on a leash, and he often touched the top of the neighbor's children.But, frankly, he's still unpopular.

One day, I chatted with him by chance and talked about the grievances and grievances in the world. I said casually: "When a person offends someone when he is frustrated, he can make up for it when he is proud; if he offends someone when he is proud, he cannot make up for it when he is frustrated." The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention, and if he realizes something.

He temporarily stopped improving public relations to concentrate on improving the company's business.Finally, the company's "business is booming all over the world" again, and he has a car to sit in, but his car no longer honks the door, and slows down in rainy days, taking care to prevent the wheels from splashing water on pedestrians.His jaw was still tucked in, and he still sometimes reached out to touch the top of the neighbor's kid's head.Later, when he moved, the neighbors reluctantly sent him to the side of the road and shouted to him in a very sincere voice: "Goodbye!"

【Together with you】

Careers can be created, but popularity is sometimes beyond your control.Career is noble, popularity is good.The deep-seated pain lies not in the ups and downs of career, but in the invisible hand of popularity.

People try to change popularity, but not many people can completely change it. It is difficult to balance the price paid with the degree of improvement.This is because popularity is a matter of two parties and many parties, and it doesn't just depend on yourself.

When others cannot understand and tolerate you, there is no way to talk about popularity.The conflict of interests is the weakening agent of popularity; the narrow vision is the disintegrating agent of popularity; the instinctive jealousy is the tear gas of popularity.

Being cowardly can arouse sympathy; being considerate can arouse goodwill; being warm can arouse popularity.Being helpful is often building a bridge of popularity.

To be a good person may not be popular; to be a clever person is to be popular.

An environment will solidify popularity.Changes in the atmosphere will "loosen" popularity.

One-sided pursuit of popularity, life is very tiring.For the sake of popularity, you will give up many things that are not worth the loss.Treating popularity as a kind of speculation will result in no popularity.Hurting others is the most taboo of being sad, and being sad is the taboo of popularity.

It is undeniable that popularity plays a large role in success.In a status society, the human factor is more important.A very talented person may make enemies on all sides, and it will be difficult to pass when the vote is passed.Worrying about popularity is quite common among layered people.

Many experts who study popularity and interpersonal relationships may not necessarily be a winner in life.Theoretical popularity is, after all, just talk on paper.In fact, popularity is the best combination of many factors.

Popularity is a boat with a smooth wind. A good person lives a safe life. This is the desire for popularity.Under the sun, no one is willing to be dominated and controlled by others. Everyone hopes that everything they do can be completely controlled by themselves, especially their ideas and concepts can be adopted and respected by others.

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