Economic Wisdom to Apply in Your Twenties

Chapter 73

Chapter 9, Section 4 Marriage still needs to be "rightly matched"

In fairy tales, the beautiful princess falls in love with a poor scholar, and the proud prince falls in love with Cinderella; in idol dramas, the ordinary heroine can always meet the rich man, and various sensational and romantic plots are staged... In our In my heart, this kind of love is the most legendary and romantic love in the world.

And if you talk about the topic of "the right family", you may interrupt without hesitation and say that this is all caused by the "old feudal" thinking.In the e-age where "everything is possible", it has long been the era of free love, so why do we, who put love first, need to think about "matching the same family"?

We do not deny that great love can also be inspired under the circumstances of great differences in social class.However, it is even more undeniable that love is more likely to occur on the basis of the right family, and once it occurs, it will be more durable and stable than the love of "wrong family and wrong family".

From an economic point of view, the enduring concept of the right family has a deep economic background.Because cultural phenomena such as love concepts and marriage customs belong to the category of the superstructure, we often say that the economic base determines the superstructure, and love and marriage should of course be determined by the economic base.No one has done research, lack of economic foundation, how long can the love between those princesses and poor scholars last?
Using economic analysis, assume that the quality of life of a man before marriage is x, and the quality of life of a woman before marriage is y, and the common income brought by living together after marriage is a constant m.

Since the resources of both parties are jointly owned, the income of each person after marriage is (x+y+m)/2.

If men and women are not matched, x and y will be very different.Assuming X=3, Y=9, then everyone's income after marriage is (3+9+m)/2.

When m<6, each person's income after marriage is less than 9.At this time y is dissatisfied with the marriage.

When m=6, each person's income after marriage is equal to 9.At this time, x is improved by Pareto, y is unchanged, and x is not very positive for marriage.

When m>6, each person's income after marriage is greater than 9.At this time, both x and y have been improved by Pareto, and everyone is happy.

If there is a pair of well-matched people, assuming x=y, then, as long as m>0, both can get Pareto improvement.Obviously, such a marriage is the most stable.

Of course, being well-matched in modern marriages does not only refer to being well-matched in terms of social and economic status, but more importantly, the equality of both parties in a marriage in terms of knowledge level, ideological realm, and aesthetic taste.That is to say, being well-matched should not be limited to family background, education, occupation, but also interests and hobbies, which is what people often call "good match" (reasonable allocation of resources).Only if the two parties can stand at the same starting point and the same platform, can communicate with each other frequently, and constantly give each other surprises and romance, passion and wisdom, so that life is full of vitality and the marriage can be maintained for a longer time.On the contrary, it is difficult to communicate if there is too much difference in educational background, it is difficult to communicate if there is no interest, and it is difficult to have equal personality if the difference in status is too great.What would happen if a senior intellectual lived with an illiterate person?

Fairy tales always end with the prince and princess who have gone through all kinds of hardships and finally come together. The ending of "from then on, the prince and princess lived a happy life" leaves an unknown future.Marriage is different from love. There will be a big difference in the thoughts and habits of the two parties. After marriage, it will definitely be exposed. If one party is unwilling or unable to change, it will break up sooner or later.Just imagine, if the "Titanic" does not sink, let a lady who has lived in a noble family live with a low-level boy for a long time, the result will only be like the end of a fairy tale, leaving people to guess.

Wisdom Pieces: The Origin of the Right Family
"Gate door" and "household pair" are the components of the gate building in ancient residential buildings.The so-called "mendang" originally refers to a pair of stone drums in front of the gate of the mansion, and some drum-holding stones are located on the foundation of the gate; because the sound of the drums is magnificent and majestic, as severe as thunder, the people believe that they can ward off evil spirits, so the folks widely use stone drums to replace them. "Door".
"House pair", that is, the brick and wood carvings placed on the lintel or on both sides of the lintel.A typical round column is about one foot long, parallel to the ground, and perpendicular to the lintel. It is located on the door, and it takes an even number. Some have two pairs, and some have four pairs, hence the name "Account pair". The short cylindrical shape of "Hudui" is because it represents the concept of emphasizing males in people's reproductive worship, and it is intended to pray for strong popularity and lasting incense.

"Mendang", the shape can be divided into round and square, the round is for civil officials, the square is for military officials, and the size of "hudu" is proportional to the size of official products.A house with a "pair of households" must have a "family door", which is the principle of harmonious aesthetics in architecture.Therefore, "gateway" and "household pair" are often called together.Later, it became a common term used to measure the conditions of marriage between men and women in social concepts.

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