A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 14 5 Inheriting Good Personality to Children
Sow character, reap habits; sow habits, reap destiny.It is not a new topic that character determines destiny, but who can influence children's character more?The answer is the father.

Let's take a look at the story of the famous painter Feng Zikai educating his daughter.

Feng Zikai himself is a very innovative person. He studied in Japan when he was young, but he could only stay for ten months due to economic reasons. During these ten months, he studied Western painting, violin, Japanese, English and German, he also often goes to the opera and visits various places.When he was in his 50s, he also learned Russian and translated many Russian music, literature, and art works in Russian!
Feng Zikai's spirit of learning and experimenting also has a great influence on his children. Feng Yiyin inherited his father's preferences and became a famous translator and painter. Her style is different from that of her father. She observes the world with her own eyes. It was Feng Yiyin's biggest influence from his father.

Teacher Xu, director of the Preschool Education Research Office of the Beijing Academy of Educational Sciences, said: For children, a father means safety and confidence.There is a kind of outdoor activity equipment called "drilling fish" in the kindergarten. When parents pick up their children home, there will often be children who crawl on the back of the fish and cannot get up and down, and call them father or mother in fear.After the mother heard the cry, she always hurriedly took the child down, and the baby was long and the baby was coaxing.And the father often said to the child after hearing the cry, come down by yourself!If you can go up, you can come down.Mothers in life are generally more timid and emotional than fathers.Watching TV, it is easy to shed tears when something goes wrong. Dad is more likely to influence the child to form a brave quality in this respect. For boys, this is very important.

"If I run a kindergarten, I will invite a male teacher (or father) to teach the children every once in a while." Most of the kindergarten teachers are female, which is not conducive to the growth of boys and the formation of a complete personality for girls.Men can show their children the characteristics of bravery, self-confidence, safety, perseverance, and toughness. The formation of children's characters has a lot to do with the influence of parents' personality, and the influence of fathers is greater than that of mothers.

The stronger the relationship between father and child, the greater the ability of the child to cope with social pressure.There was once a couple who saw their son fighting with others on the balcony. The father shouted loudly from the balcony: "If you can beat him, hit him, if you can't beat him, run away."One sentence reminded the son that the son had no intention of fighting, so he ran home in a hurry.It is easy for mothers to blame their own children or others' children, and continue the incident that should have ended.This is a very typical case of gender affecting personality.

In terms of cultivating the character of the child, the father not only needs to be like Feng Zikai, who has the curiosity to seek new knowledge, but also needs to be like Song Yaoru, the father of the three Song sisters, who thinks and discerns the routines in life, has the courage to try and challenge, and contributes to the child's development. Growing creates more suitable conditions and soil.

A very famous inspirational book said that if a person has a good character, and any one of the advantages of diligence, wisdom, etc., he will be able to succeed.Judging from the life experience of fathers, the influence of good character on people is also self-evident.We all know that a good personality is not only a good temper, being considerate of others, and being able to see these things, but also a habit of being proactive, getting more courageous after setbacks, and pursuing excellence.Under the influence of their father, Feng Yiyin and the Song sisters all have a character of bold pursuit, which is the best kind of inheritance they got from their father.

(End of this chapter)