A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 73 3 A Real Man Never Makes an Excuse
Where is the real man?The United States Military Academy at West Point should be regarded as the cradle of "manly".There is a long-standing tradition in this American West Point Military Academy, which can be called the "devil training camp". When asked by seniors or officers, freshmen can only have four answers:

"Report sir, yes!"

"Report sir, no!"

"Report sir, there is no excuse!"

"Report sir, I don't know."

For example, the senior asked: "Do you think your leather shoes are polished like this?" Your first reaction must be to defend yourself: "Report sir, someone accidentally stepped on me while queuing." But no, this is not the case. Among the four "standard answers", you can only answer: "Report to the senior, no." If the senior asks why, you can only answer in the end: "Report to the senior, there is no excuse." Another example is that the officer sends a freshman to complete A task, and it is limited to be completed within a certain period of time.This task may not be completed on time due to various reasons, but as long as the officer results, he will not listen to your long-winded explanation of why the task cannot be completed. "No excuses" forced this freshman to seize every minute and every second to complete the task, and he had no time to make excuses for not completing the task.

The reason why the school stipulates this is to let the freshmen learn to endure pressure, learn to fulfill their responsibilities, and understand that there is "no excuse" for not being perfect.Nowadays, many parents are disgusted that children often make a lot of excuses, especially boys, who always make excuses for themselves when they encounter problems, which is simply intolerable for fathers.

Indeed, no matter how good an excuse is, it is of no use to the matter itself.Let your child understand this, and train him not to spend time making excuses.

There was once an English boy whose father was a businessman and paid great attention to credit all his life, but in the last few years of his life his luck was terrible, he left a large debt and died.

The child was only 12 years old when his father died.According to the law, the child does not need to bear the debt. Just when the father's creditors regretted it, the child came to visit one by one and promised him that he would pay off his father's debt in 20 years. 20 years!There are several 20 years in a lifetime, but it takes such a long time for a child to pay off a debt that should not be borne by himself. How much courage is needed for this!Few of the creditors had hoped for it, but there was nothing left to do but let things go.

The child then started his debt repayment career, and at the age of 27, he paid off all the debts, 5 years ahead of schedule!The reason why the child shortened the debt repayment time is very simple. First, the promise he made has become a powerful driving force, prompting him to keep striving towards his goal; Great trust (if the child does not keep his promise, he may not get this wealth in his life), he is more willing to cooperate with him than before, and because of his reputation for integrity, more and more people cooperate with him, business It is also getting bigger and bigger, so the money is getting more and more.

The child himself may not realize that this wealth has benefited him throughout his life.Since it took him 15 years to pay off a debt that was not his, his reputation was such a force in business circles that almost no one would be willing to do business with him.Honest character and good reputation finally made him a rich man.

Don't make excuses, dare to take responsibility, but make people grow faster and more practical.Isn't that what a boy needs?So how to strengthen boys' ability to find ways without making excuses?Dad can refer to these points:

1. First of all, I am not a person who makes excuses. "Dad, you promised me to watch cartoons on weekends." When your child reminds you of the appointment on Friday, even if you want to turn down a big business, even if you miss the inauguration ceremony of the new president, you must not Say without hesitation, "I remember, I remember." Then don't go for any reason; if you accidentally forget, it's easy to do, and apologize solemnly: "I'm sorry, I forgot. I was wrong, please You forgive." No need to explain how busy you are at work, because that's just showing your child how to make excuses.

2. When a child makes excuses for himself, don't interrupt him or expose him, just treat him as telling the truth and trust him.Because exposing the child's lies and excuses will only make him feel that his lying skills are not good enough. The result is that next time he will spend his energy on how to make excuses more cleverly, which is not worth the candle.If Dad trusted him, he would consciously restrain himself instead.

3. When you see others making excuses, you can talk about the bad behavior in front of your children. "Someone was late today, and he talked to the director for a long time because of this matter. If it was me, I would go to work immediately after admitting my mistake, and I can do more things." In this way, let the child know your attitude towards making excuses.

In fact, making excuses is our form of self-protection, just because boys will face more difficulties and tests in the future, so we must inoculate them as soon as possible, so as not to let him miss the opportunity to grow up because of making excuses.

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