A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 82 Analysis question 5: The tallest when squatting down
Dad has a tall back, a strong physique, and great strength.So, when is Dad the tallest?It is when squatting down to communicate with the child.

Squat down to communicate with your child, so that the child's eyes can look at yours. Only then will your relationship truly achieve equality from the inside out.Democratic and equal interpersonal relationships within the family are the "vitamins" for children's mental health.To respect children, the first thing is to put down the airs of being a parent, or take the initiative to squat down, so that children feel that they are equal to their parents.

Some fathers will doubt the necessity of this "formalism". They feel that as long as they really care about their children, it is not so important as to whether to squat or not.This is actually the habitual thinking of us adults. We always feel that as long as we understand it, it is enough as long as we can grasp the pros and cons.In fact, these are very important for children.

Children like to sit on their father's shoulders and watch the scenery because they always observe the life of adults from an upward perspective. Once they have the opportunity to change this perspective, they will feel very fresh and amazing.Children have a complex of "being as tall as their father" in their hearts. Although they don't say it, they must be very happy when their father lifts them up.Because of this, if the father squats down, the child can also change the angle of looking up to face-to-face communication, which has the same effect as lifting the child up, and respects the child's sense of independence.

Sometimes, a father can squat down to communicate with his child, but he cannot squat down his heart to listen to the child's voice.When a child breaks a vase, we often scold him for being careless, but when we break the vase ourselves, no one has ever said a bad word. This is "discriminatory treatment" in the eyes of the child. If we can Treating your child as an adult with as much self-esteem can completely change the way you speak to your child.

In our life, we often see fathers standing aside, yelling at the children: "Come here! Don't touch!" Does it mean that we rarely treat children as equals?A person's prestige is not established through tone and intonation. "The Analects of Confucius" says that Confucius is "warm but not violent, respectful and peaceful." Confucius' majesty is not established by loudly berating, but in daily life. Cultivated bit by bit.

Children are independent and beautiful beings, and we should treat them like comrades and citizens, knowing and respecting their rights, respecting their self-esteem and privacy.

We often hear arguments caused by parents looking at children's diaries without permission: "You can't peek at my diary!"

"How can this be called peeking? Parents read their daughter's diary to learn more about their daughter and find out what problems you need help in time so that they can help you."

"I don't need your help! If you peek at my diary again, I'll lock the door and all the drawers, and take all the keys away!"

Seeing his usually well-behaved daughter yelling at him loudly now, his father often became angry: "How do you talk? I am your father. Don't I have the right to read my daughter's diary since I raised you so old?"

"That's my secret, it's my privacy. You peek at my privacy without my permission. You are violating human rights! I am your daughter, but I also have human rights!"

It is nothing new that the word "human rights" pops out of the mouths of children nowadays.Dad should understand the principle of "advancing with the times". Privacy is a secret that everyone does not want to tell others.Everyone has their own privacy, and children are no exception. "Even the child's life is given by me, let alone a diary or a letter?" But for children, these behaviors of adults are all distrust and disrespect for them, which hurt their self-esteem and cause serious problems. The child is under heavy mental pressure, even hostility and resistance, and adopts all-round information blockade and precautionary measures, which leads to the deterioration of the relationship between parents and children.

For a child to trust his father, it is necessary for the child to have a sense of equality, and this feeling comes from the father's respect for the child.When dad consciously respects the child, your image in the child's mind will become kind and safe. This is the real tallness.

(End of this chapter)