Wisdom Book

Chapter 16

Don't be bound by first impressions
Some people always take the first impression as a wife, and other words as a concubine.Since delusion always comes first, there is no room for truth.Our will cannot be satisfied with the first goal, our mind cannot be satisfied with the first thought, because that is superficial.Some people are like a newly bought wine glass, full of the smell of the first wine, whether it is good or bad.If others understand your limitations, they will calculate you maliciously.People with sinister intentions can dye your gullible mind the color they want, so we should think twice about everything we do.Alexander always kept one ear open to hear the other side of things.Pay attention to your second and even third impressions.Being easily swayed by first impressions shows that you lack depth and tend to be emotional.

Don't be a gossip spreader
Don't be a gossip, and don't be known for being good at slandering others.Don't always slander others, it's not difficult, but it's easy to be cast aside.All will take revenge on you and slander you, because you are one and they are many, so you are bound to fail.Don't gloat at other people's misfortune, and don't make judgments about others.Tattlers are always a nuisance.Even if he were lucky enough to rank among the great men, others would not regard him as a model of prudence, but as a laughing stock.A person who speaks ill of others will be spoken even more embarrassingly.

allocate your life reasonably
Plan your life rationally, with forethought and judgment, and without clutter.A life without rest is unbearable, like coming after a long journey to a country where there is no inn.Being knowledgeable can brighten your life.In order to create a better life, the first thing we have to do is to talk to the dead. We are born in this world to understand the world and ourselves. Real books will make us grow up gradually.The second thing is to have a dialogue with the living, observe and pay attention to all the beautiful things in the world.Earthly things are not all in the same place, and the Father of the Universe sometimes gives the richest dowry to the ugliest daughter.The third thing is completely your own.Thinking like a philosopher is the greatest happiness in your life.

open your eyes early
Not everyone who can see has his eyes open, and not everyone who has eyes open can see.Waking up too late is more trouble than joy.Some people open their eyes to see when they have nothing to see: before they wake up, they have lost

Home and belongings.It is very difficult to awaken a man who lacks will, and it is even more difficult to impart will to an unawakened man.People blindfolded them to make them a laughing stock.For they turn a deaf ear to counsel, and refuse to open their eyes to see it.There are always people who promote this kind of blindness because their lives depend on it.A horse that belongs to the blind knight is unfortunate, because it can never be clean and beautiful.

Don't show what you haven't done
No matter what you do, it must be appreciated after it is done.When things are just beginning to be done, they are shown to others casually before they are formed, and people will always leave an incomplete impression.Even after something is done, remembering that it was not perfect can hinder our appreciation of it.We can see the whole picture of things at a glance. Although we can't appreciate its parts, it can satisfy our aesthetic feeling.A thing is non-existent until it is formed, and although it is becoming, it is still non-existent.Seeing the process of making delicious food will definitely turn your appetite away.In the gestation of a work, a true master does not show it to others.Learn like Mother Nature, who will not let her child show herself until he is ready.

more practice
It is not enough to rely on thoughts alone in the world, there must also be actions.Smart people are always easily deceived. Although they are familiar with unusual common sense, they don't know the most common common sense of life.The thought of the sublime keeps them from the common.Because they are ignorant of what everyone should know, they are either admired by a superficial public, or regarded as ignorant.A truly wise man should act so as not to be deceived and ridiculed by others.It may not be the highest duty in life to be a man who knows the day-to-day, but it is absolutely necessary.What is the use of having enough knowledge but never taking action?In today's world, knowing how to live is the real knowledge.

Don't misunderstand other people's taste

Don't offer unpalatable food to others. Deny it, and they will not only not be happy, but will hate you.Some people are always trying to win the favor of others, but they are disgusting because they don't understand other people's tastes.The same thing, which is flattery in the eyes of some, becomes an insult in the eyes of others.You feel like you are helping others, but others think you are offended.Offending a person can cost more than pleasing him.When you lose your way trying to please others, you will be blamed for being too polite, and naturally no one will appreciate you.If you don't know another person's taste, you don't know how to please him.Many a person who intends to please others is taken as an insult and ends up being insulted instead.There are also people who try to attract others by talking, but end up annoying them by chattering.

To entrust someone with his reputation, he must use his reputation as a mortgage

If you entrust your reputation to another, let him pledge it, an arrangement that ensures, for both parties, that silence is reciprocal and disclosure is dangerous.When it comes to reputation, the interests of both parties are the same. Cherish your own reputation and protect the reputation of others.Do not entrust your reputation entirely to another, but if you must do so, arrange things so that the listener is sure to be discreet and trustworthy.There is a close relationship with each other, and the interests are related, so that the listener will not betray you.

Ask for help
Asking for help is difficult for some and easy for others.Some people never know how to say no, and you don't have to use any tricks to ask them for help.Others will say "no" when they ask for help. You need to use superb skills and choose the right time to ask for help. As long as their shrewdness does not presee your intentions, you can find them in a good mood Make a request when it's refreshing.A happy day is also a helpful day, because this kind of joy can spread from the heart to the world outside the body.If someone in front of you has already been rejected, you will return in vain if you ask for help again, because at this time he has no scruples in saying "no".When you ask for help when others are sad, you will also be rejected.If the person being asked knows how to repay kindness, then it is the best policy to give favor first.

turn repayment into favor
It is indeed a shrewd strategy for the wise to convert future rewards into present favors in advance.Giving favors before they are due will spread your good name far and wide.Give help before someone even asks for it, and the recipient will be very grateful to you.Moreover, for the same favor, if you sell it first, it becomes a favor in advance, and if you sell it later, it becomes a reward after the event. This is a subtle conversion, just like you originally wanted to repay the debt, but later it became the creditor owed you.Of course this applies to those who know how to be grateful, for rogues.Early payment is a constraint, not a spur.

Don't share secrets with powerful people
You may think that you can share the same pear with your boss, but in fact you can only eat the peeled by him.There are a lot of people who have ended up miserable because they became the confidants of their bosses.They are like spoons made of bread crusts and are quickly swallowed with the soup.It is not a privilege for a king to pour out his secrets to you; he simply wants you to share his burden.Many people will break the mirror because they see their own ugly face in the mirror.We can't stand others seeing our ugliness, and if you see the ugliness in others, you put yourself on the brink of danger.Don't expect others to be grateful to you, especially those in high positions, unless you have given help, not him.To confide your inner secrets to a friend is a dangerous thing, and it makes you his slave yourself.Kings do not tolerate this position, and will trample on everything, even justice and reason, in order to regain their lost freedom.Therefore, other people's secrets cannot be heard, let alone told.

be aware of your flaws
Many people will reach the height of perfection if they can make up for their deficiencies.It's worth noting that some people would do a lot better if they paid attention to small details.Some people can't take themselves seriously, which affects the display of their talents, and some people lack a gentle temper, which is what people around him yearn for, especially when he is in a high position.Some people are not decisive enough to act, and some people lack restraint.For these deficiencies, wise men make up for them and make habits second nature.

don't be too smart
Some people think they are smart, but in the end they are deceived by their cleverness.If you use too much scheming, you will lose the key to the matter.On the surface it is gained, but in essence it is lost.For those who like to play tricks, this happens all the time.It is safest to maintain the usual state.Being smart is not a bad thing, but don't just show off.Much better to focus on the substance so you don't stray from what you're doing.

Hidden shrewdness is real shrewdness
Even wise men often play this card, and sometimes, what looks like ignorance is actually the highest wisdom.You don't have to be ignorant, just pretend to be ignorant.It is not wise to be wise to fools, or foolish to be blamed, so speak to someone.Those who are really stupid are stupid, and those who pretend to be stupid are not stupid, because if you know how to pretend to be stupid delicately, you are not stupid in itself.If you want to be popular with people, learn to hide your cleverness.

Tolerate the ridicule of others, but don't practice it yourself

Tolerating ridicule from others is a kind of generosity, and mocking others will get you into trouble.There are some people who always lose their temper at other people's jokes, and they are more annoying than ugly people.A well-measured banter puts you in a good mood, but tolerating it shows courage.The more angry you are, the more critical you will be.Sometimes joking should be enough, because many serious problems are often caused by joking, and nothing requires more vigilance and skill than this.Before you joke with someone, find out how much he can take.

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