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226 Chapter 227: Did not treat him as a lover
During the class reunion, Bai Tiantian also asked the girl why the two broke up, but the girl said that she had always been dissatisfied with her boyfriend in her heart, but she didn't want to say it out, she just thought that he might be able to Realizing that she didn't do enough, she thought that he could correct and change, but as time passed, she found that her boyfriend hadn't changed at all, and the backlog of emotions in her heart burst out completely.

This is actually very easy to understand. When it comes to wearing it, there is still not enough communication.Between two people, no matter what problems, no matter what dissatisfaction, you should calm down and communicate well first. Only through communication can you better know what the other party is thinking and what the other party wants. The other party changes or tolerates. If you can meet the other party's needs, then the relationship can continue.If you are unwilling to tolerate and change, or if you really can't meet the other party's requirements, then just pull them down.

This seems easy to say, but many couples and couples sometimes find it difficult to speak. After all, Chinese people are relatively reserved, especially women, who are particularly passive in this regard.So small conflicts and small dissatisfaction were allowed to accumulate slowly, until finally it was as huge as a snowball, and if the snowball fell down by then, it would definitely kill people.

Bai Tiantian is only 20 years old this year, but she is still a little girl with no experience in relationships. Of course, she can't understand such a clear truth. These words are all said by Bai Tiantian's father and mother.

At that time, after Bai Tiantian and the female classmate went home separately, they told their parents about this matter. The two elders sighed for a long time, and then discussed for a long time, and finally came to the above conclusion.

The two of them finally said that no matter what happens in the future, no matter what dissatisfaction or opinions they have about each other in the future, they will speak out openly and honestly, and they must not let their emotions accumulate.

Although Bai Tiantian doesn't know what happened between You Haochen's parents, but thinking about it, You Haochen's mother may belong to the kind of person who likes to hide something in her heart and doesn't want to share it with others, doesn't want to communicate with others, and doesn't want to vent. This was the tragedy of their divorce.

After hearing Bai Tiantian's words, You Haochen couldn't help but sigh, "The situation of my parents is not the same as that of your female classmate. You may not know that my father is very considerate to my mother. Don't look at him all the time. Staying in a business place, but he is not infected with the bad habits of a business place at all. He rarely socializes outside, and has never been drunk, let alone spend the night outside. To a certain extent, he A good husband indeed, a good man indeed."

Bai Tiantian felt very strange, since You Yuyan is so good, why did his mother want to divorce?You Yuyan is handsome, rich, and the most important thing is that he treats his wife so well. With such a man, every woman probably wishes to marry him.You Haochen's mother should feel that she is very happy, and she should cherish this happiness. Could it be that You Haochen felt that her husband was busy with business and spent too long time with him, so she moved on and cheated?Shouldn't it?

Bai Tiantian thought to herself, and asked, "What about your mother? How does your mother treat your father?"

You Haochen was taken aback, and quickly returned to normal, slowly holding Bai Tiantian's hand in his, "My mother respects my father very much, yes, it's respect, just like the younger generation respects the elders. No matter what my father said, my mother would usually not refute, and usually listened silently. She would go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables every day, and would cook by herself every day. My father didn't want her to work so hard, so he hired an aunt, But my mother thinks that housework is a matter of little effort, and there is no need for an aunt. Her personality is relatively gentle most of the time, but she treats students and me more severely."

After a pause, You Haochen said again: "I didn't understand it when I was young, but when I grew up, I realized that the relationship between my parents lacks passion and something that a husband and wife should have. To be precise, it is my mother's love for my father. Lack of the kind of passion that a husband and wife should have. My dad actually loves my mom very much. They have been divorced for several years, but my dad still misses my mom."

Bai Tiantian felt more and more strange, "Since your father loves your mother so much, why did he agree to divorce at the beginning? If he was determined not to divorce, and then used such high-sounding words for you as an excuse and reason, I believe your mother It will definitely be shaken."

A very inexplicable expression appeared on You Haochen's face, "'Actually, my dad also thought about this, but..."

Seeing that You Haochen stopped abruptly without further words, Bai Tiantian continued: "But your father can't let go of the pride in his heart, what he wants is for your mother to stay by his side voluntarily, not forced to stay by his side, right?"

"Tiantian, you are really smart." You Haochen admired sincerely, "There are actually some other reasons."

Bai Tiantian made a contemplative look, "Then, let me, Di Renjie from S University, guess the reason why your mother has no passion for your father, and why she respects your father. It can show that in your mother's mind, she didn't treat your father as her lover.What I said may be a bit abrupt and reckless, but according to my experience as a woman, if a woman treats a man as a lover as a lover as a husband, she will never respect him, but will order him instead, and will scold him instead he.Respect is the relationship that should exist between elders and younger generations, not between husband and wife.Even if there is between husband and wife, it is respect, not respect. '

These words were also said by Bai Tiantian's mother. Bai Tiantian didn't think about it before, but now she really thinks that many of her mother's words can be called wise words.

You Haochen was stunned by Bai Tiantian's words, and he really felt that listening to Jun's words was better than reading ten years of books, and he couldn't help sighing, "It's a pity that I never understood this truth, it's ridiculous that I thought my parents always Very affectionate. In fact, my mother had a boyfriend before she and my father got married. Although she and my father were married, she never forgot about that man. For so many years, I didn’t know it at all. not found."

Bai Tiantian had already guessed this possibility, but in order not to hurt You Haochen's face and self-esteem, she didn't say it just now.She found the key point from You Haochen's words, "If your mother wants to hide this kind of thing from you, it's actually very easy. What about your dad? Does your dad know about it?"

You Haochen was silent for a few seconds, and then replied: "My dad knew about this matter from the very beginning, and my dad also knew that man."

(End of this chapter)