Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 25 Men's Love White Paper in the E-era (2)
2. "A little red in a thousand green bushes" ecstasy
Using this method, the purpose is to attract the attention of men, just need to master opportunities and skills.For example, as long as there are men smoking and chatting, you can walk towards them with a smile, because they will definitely not be talking about serious things at this time, they must be chatting there in a very boring way.If you join their chatting circle at this time, they will definitely not ask you to go away, but will move a chair to ask you to sit down. This is the situation of "pointing red".Generally speaking, men will welcome women to join them at this time.After this, you may become their frequent playmate, which will naturally attract the attention of that "him".

3. Seize the momentary opportunity to get his attention

When you are about to pass the opposite sex you like, it is best to stop and not really pass him.In fact, it is often the kind of unprepared instant meeting that is the best time to spark sparks between the two.Therefore, you should have such a mental preparation and be ready to use this momentary opportunity to attract the attention of the other party.

4. Try to create opportunities for two people to get along alone
For example, if you bought two movie tickets, you can say to him: "I have two movie tickets here. I wonder if you are free tonight?" If he refuses you, you can resell the two movie tickets. Reduce your loss, or please the other party first, and then buy a ticket.Also, if you happen to have two coupons for a long-distance travel, you can ask him if he can accompany you.In this way, you can openly go on dates with him, go to exhibitions, or go to some competitions.

5. Send a greeting card to express your "sincerity"

A concise New Year's card and visit card, I believe that neither the sender nor the recipient will be as embarrassed as writing a letter, and the recipient will definitely leave a good impression on the sender, thinking that "she Not bad! They will send me New Year's cards."If you send a tourist postcard from a place you are traveling, although his family will not pay much attention to similar cards, he will definitely bury your heart in his heart.Before you fully understand his inner thoughts, don't write too many letters, just wait for him for a while.

In addition, if you know his birthday, you might as well send him a birthday card to show your concern for him. By using this kind of birthday card, it is equivalent to clarifying your heart.Try to find some excuses and write some simple postcards and New Year's cards to him, so that when we meet in the future, he will also greet and talk to you.

6. Take advantage of sick visits to show your "care"

If he happens to have the flu and has to rest for a week; or if he has had a cecum surgery and is in the hospital; or has a car accident and contusions to his neck, you have to seize the opportunity and visit him.

7. Create "chance"

It will be more convenient if you know which stores he often goes to buy records and books.You can check his interests and hobbies first, and then pretend to be similar to his interests, and often go to the stores he goes in and out of, then your chances will be more in comparison.Just going in and out of his favorite place once or twice won't work. You have to go to the store he frequents persistently. Occasionally you can also buy something to show that you are a regular customer of this store. In this way, chances will come. Come.

The details make you his last woman

Every man hopes that even if he cannot achieve success, he must also satisfy the woman he loves.If someone is famous, the little details in his life become big events, and his life is worth a lot.Perhaps, no tour guide will point to your boyfriend's house and say: "Zhang Ming lives here." Nor will any newspaper feature: "June 6 is Zhang Ming's birthday." However, your boyfriend wants him The woman of the dream is able to feel him in these ways.

From the very beginning, you should pay attention to the details of his life.You're trying to validate him, where and what you can do to make him feel loved.And, as the love progresses further, you can do more and more.You need to know what he values ​​and let him know that you know him.Because of the growing intimacy, you need to show him that you see a picture of his life—you can really feel where he is going.

His casual friends can celebrate certain milestones in his life with him, but your special attention to him allows you to share the small but very meaningful moments in his life - when someone is close to him together, and you know and understand such moments.

For example, he tells you that he landed a deal with a client that might take his career to the next level.What he did for that client was more meaningful than anything he did for any one client.Your boyfriend is super excited all weekend because he and that client are getting on well and becoming friends.

In the old days of dating, you put up with your boyfriend's doubts about himself, and now you can share with him the joy that seems small.You can be with him and feel the great meaning he feels, and that makes him no longer doubt his abilities.So, you and he experience a small, but very significant moment in his life that no one else could ever know about.

Obviously, you won't remember everything he said, but if he tells you three times, he's making a big statement on the 14th of the month.The third time he says it, he will feel that your heart is not really with him.On the other hand, if you call him the morning of the big day: "I know you have something important to do today and you've worked hard." That means a lot more to him than his work itself.

If he owned his own business, you might not remember some of the clients who let him down three months ago by defaulting on their bills, but love requires you to remember the man who lied to him and got into a fight with him.

If, on more than one occasion, your boyfriend notices that you are more closely involved in his concerns than other women, slowly, he will feel "home" to you.He will feel that you are more important and more satisfying to him than any other woman.Then, he'll think that ending your relationship with you would mean taking risks, and that's a deep feeling of being homeless.

Of course, as the relationship progresses, you also have a right to expect him to take an interest in the details of your life and to know what you like.Maybe, he won't be as sensitive as you are, but he can learn, and he will gradually try to accept your point of view and make things about you an important thing.

In conclusion, while the details can make your boyfriend's machismo pretense feel threatened, as the relationship continues, he will gradually pay attention to you, even though he doesn't want others to know.

two. N signals of "Brother Bao" falling in love with "Sister Lin"

We all know that "Brother Bao" obviously loves "Sister Lin", but in the end he married "Sister Bao", forcing "Sister Lin" to die and go to hell.Why!Who is to blame?It's not that "Sister Lin" didn't understand the love signal of "Brother Bao".You are smart, don't become "Sister Lin" and miss the happiness of your life.

First love boys want to hide but also reveal their love confession

From acquaintance to love, a man and a woman need to go through a process.It is often inaccurate to judge whether the other party loves you only by sensitive nerves. Sometimes it will be abrupt and reckless, and sometimes it will delay the timing and lead to lifelong regret.

For a woman, if she meets a good-looking man and keeps him away because of her careless words, she will inevitably feel a sense of loss in her heart.In fact, looking forward and backward, worrying about gains and losses are also the love feelings of boys when they first fall in love.Some boys who are in first love often have love but have to express it, so they always cover it up and show it when they want to hide it.

When boys express their first love information, they generally have the following forms:

1. Boys will find ways to increase the number of interactions with girls.After a boy meets a girl, if he has a good impression of her, he will often meet her. The more times, it proves that he loves her more deeply.

2. Concerned about the whereabouts of girls.When a boy talks to a girl, he likes to ask her about her situation, or ask around the bush if she is dating other boys.

3. Speech and demeanor tend to change.After a boy and a girl get to know each other, if they have a good impression of her, no matter what her status, personality, or appearance, they will show concern for her.

4. Boys will take the initiative to talk about love.When the two parties have reached a certain stage, he will talk about the love stories of other men and women, add his own point of view, observe her expression, ponder her words, and sometimes make some love jokes to test the girl.

5. Proactive dating.When there was an entertainment event in the market, a merchandise exhibition, or a new movie in the theater, he would tell the girl in time and ask her to watch it.

6. When he was out, he would ask her if she wanted something; and when the girl was out, he would ask her to do something that was easy to do.

7. He will find all kinds of excuses and reasons to meet girls.Due to the limited working environment, people's social interaction is often very narrow, so many boys use all possible opportunities to actively interact with girls.

8. When a boy is with a girl, he will admire her clothes, the decoration of the room, praise her, and sometimes offer kind suggestions on some small things.

9. If a boy falls in love with a girl, he will show courtesy to her, help her with things, and solve difficulties.

The above points are not comprehensive, but in general, these signs indicate that the boy is expressing love to the girl.If you are more sensitive, you can make correct judgments based on the boy's performance of hiding and revealing, and take corresponding actions.

first date with him

Generally speaking, whether you are a man or a woman, you will feel a little nervous on the first date, especially if you don't know each other before and you just met through someone's introduction, it will be somewhat awkward.In this case, it is too early to draw conclusions about the relationship between the two, but it is best to pay attention to clues that can reveal the characteristics of his feelings.

Knowing whether he showed up early or late on the first date, what you both talked about, how your schedule was decided, etc., can tell you a lot about your new relationship.Armed with this information, you'll know if he's calling or not, instead of waiting in a daze for your next date.

When the following situations occur, it means that he cares about you:

1. He insists that you plan the first date.Chances are good that you will find someone who is thoughtful, wants to impress, fulfills, and is curious about you.In any case, you can't miss this appointment.Even if your date sucks, at least you're doing something you love.However, he may be asking for your opinion because he lacks originality or confidence in his big decisions, so watch out for later evidence.

2. He said he likes independent women and asked a lot about your work, just like you asked a lot about his work.

With very modern values, he admires women who can remain independent emotionally and financially.If you continue to date this person, you may feel discouraged because he doesn't want you to depend too much on him.But, to compensate, he won't feel threatened by your ability to catch up to him.

3. When you run into an old friend, he greets her or him warmly, then makes excuses to leave so you can have a good chat.

When you take your attention away from him for a while, he won't feel left out. It's really a blessing to be with such a man!Such poise and confidence are rare and should be cherished.

4. He laughed off everything that went wrong that night, whether it was a sold out movie, a messed up dinner, or a minor collision on the way to the movie theater, shrugging and begging you to give him Another chance to let him create a perfect night for you.

Plans always go wrong, and mature men don't immediately find a scapegoat to shirk responsibility.A wise man knows that "if it comes, it will be safe".If he's patient enough to look at misfortune with optimism, he's worthy of deep friendship.

If the following situations occur, it means that he does not call you, it is best to find the next target:
1. He was an hour and a half late and said he didn't call you because calling would delay him even more.The implication is that he doesn't want to mess with his plans to get a call, or that he doesn't care about being on time for an appointment.Such people are always passing the buck and don't care about your feelings.

2. He dominated the conversation.He's been talking about the funny things that happened to him and himself.Although you think this person is indeed attractive, the fact that he never asks you even a single question annoys you.

3. He said, "You're perfect—you're just what I'm looking for." Such words only appear in novels and dreams, and rarely in reality.If he's saying that to you on a first date, he's just thinking of you as an imaginary that's bound to come to naught.So be careful!
4. He tells you that the reason he has trouble getting along with his friends and family is because they are so difficult.If he finds other people difficult, it's a hint that he's difficult himself, and it's also a sign that he doesn't expect himself to impress you.

5. He treats your appearance (“You should dress casually, I’m wearing jeans.”), your demeanor (“Tell me what you want to eat, and I’ll tell the waiter”) and your sanity (“If If you knew enough about nuclear war, you wouldn't say something like that") Very picky.

If a man likes you, he will feel that everything about you is beautiful, instead of picking three and four in you.

"Adam" loves "Eve" or not

What is the attitude of a boy towards a girl he likes?What kind of behavior will you do to a girl you don't like?This has always been a question women want to know and a little secret from men themselves.Through these behaviors, you can easily judge whether he is in love with you or not.

Generally speaking, if a boy falls in love with you, he will behave in the following ways:

1. Give gifts on anniversaries

No matter how shy a boy is, he will also give gifts to his beloved girl on some special festivals, such as girl's birthday, Valentine's Day, Christmas and so on.If he didn't treat you like this, you should think about it again!
2. Be intentional about approaching you

When a girl has a crush on a boy, she just looks at him silently, but the boy will feel that instead of looking at her, it is better to approach her and talk to her, even if he is shy, he will want to approach her more or less.

3. I ask you out on holiday
If he asks you out on holiday, and if he asks you out on several dates, that's the best evidence he likes you.At this time, you must not ask other people anymore, just two people with him are enough.

4. Eyes have "electricity" when listening to you speak

Girls will look at each other when they talk to the person they like, and the same is true for boys. If the four eyes meet, they are discharging each other.

5. Apologize to you immediately after a fight

If he quarrels with you and apologizes immediately, it means that he likes you. If he doesn't feel for you, he will feel troublesome after quarreling with you and will not apologize.

6. Will be jealous

If a boy is interested in you, he will be jealous because of a little thing. If you say "so-and-so is nice" or "so-and-so artist is so handsome", he will be unhappy, which means he likes you.

7. Call and write to you
If he keeps calling or writing to you, it means he likes you. If you don’t like him, you can ignore him. If you like him, congratulations.

8. Don't hide your private life, confess everything

If he's not hiding anything from you, tell you frankly all about him to show that he wants to know about you, too.

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