Cui Yongyuan's way of speaking

Chapter 2 The Way of the Truth——The Courage and Wisdom to Tell the Truth
1 It Takes Courage to Tell the Truth

In real life, telling the truth and telling the truth often requires courage. The famous writer Liang Shiqiu once described "telling the truth" as "a shocking event in the world".Because the truth often stirs up waves with one stone, or touches some people's sensitive nerves, and those who tell the truth are even notorious for it.

Cui Yongyuan has participated in the two sessions as a representative of the National People's Congress for four consecutive times, and his speeches have always attracted the attention of the public.This is not only because he is a "star representative", but also because he sticks to his own heart, dares to speak out, and speaks some "inappropriate" truths for the benefit of the general public.

In a meeting of the National People's Congress, Premier Wen Jiabao of the State Council proposed in his report that the reform of the monopoly income distribution system should be deepened.After the meeting, a reporter asked Cui Yongyuan what he thought about it.Xiao Cui asked back: "Why don't we just get rid of monopoly industries? We should think, which industries are worthy of monopoly? Which industries are not worthy of monopoly?"

He feels that except for industries related to national defense and security, any other industry can be solved by the market, and the policy of restricting market access can only treat the symptoms but not the root cause.

Cui Yongyuan also said humorously: "I just went to Los Angeles and found that the gas price there is two yuan cheaper than in China. I thought, what's going on with PetroChina and Sinopec? How do you play? Still playing If there is a loss, can you replace me as the boss, try for half a year, if not, I will pay you back!"

His frankness and honesty once made the programs he hosted popular with the audience; now he dares to tell the truth for the masses, and his remarks on the "two sessions" have been widely acclaimed.Whether on the screen or in reality, his existence has become a living label of "telling the truth" and a symbol of a specific era.

Cui Yongyuan is a person who likes to be serious, whether it is for himself or for those phenomena that he is not used to, he likes to compete.He pointed out: "Television ratings are the root of all evil." After the movie "Mobile Phone" was released, Cui Yongyuan once "bombarded" director Feng Xiaogang and screenwriter Liu Zhenyun; There are too many "bombardment" incidents like this in the past.

In this regard, Cui Yongyuan explained: "They said I was throwing grenades, and they asked me how many grenades I had at home. I told him that I still had two boxes. Now I basically throw one every six months. Throw it away for a while, and you can listen to it if you want to. Because I think that many behaviors and practices in the industry are really outrageous, and it has exceeded the bottom line we can accept. This is a bad atmosphere. As an insider, you have to Stand up."

Speaking the truth is a virtue.Telling the truth requires not only courage but also wisdom.If you pretend to be an "admonisher" in front of everyone in a meeting, flaunt your uprightness with "dare to speak the truth", and make leaders or superiors unable to step down, the consequences can be imagined.We must have the courage to speak the truth like Cui Yongyuan, and we must also use the wisdom of telling the truth and grasp the timing of telling the truth.

In the workplace, we have to be good at distinguishing the intentions of our bosses, and figure out whether the boss really wants to hear your opinion, or just wants to be polite to you.The best situation is to turn a corner subtly when speaking, and never "fire indiscriminately".Because everyone needs self-esteem and face.Going straight is actually "not giving face", which will make the other party feel unhappy, causing the relationship between the two parties to break down, and may even turn against each other in the end.Thinking about it afterwards, losing the appreciation of the boss because of such a trivial matter makes people regret it!
The same is to tell the truth, if you say it in a different way, the effect will be very different.If these truths may cause some unsatisfactory or unacceptable consequences to some people, then you should control your mouth and don't say it easily.

For example, if you go to the hospital to visit a colleague who is hospitalized, you know that his condition is serious but he does not know it. If you directly tell him what you know and cause serious consequences, everyone will not forgive you for your recklessness.When you meet an acquaintance at work in the morning, he says good morning to you friendly, but you are troubled in your heart, so you say, "What's so good!" He is a person who does not know what is good or bad and has no cultivation.

Those who dare to speak the truth and are popular at the same time are precisely because they can change the tone and way of speaking according to different situations, different occasions, and different characters.

Everyone hopes to be respected by others in their hearts. If you regard "valuing every penny" as a virtue, and have conflicts due to inappropriate words, and use "I just like to tell the truth" as an excuse to justify yourself, wave it recklessly To be honest, a reasonable "whip" will only make the other party strongly resist.Only by telling the truth and giving others a step down in a timely manner can we achieve interpersonal harmony.

2 dare to tell the truth, but also to tell the truth

Some netizens said that Cui Yongyuan has a "cannon style". Cui Yongyuan also said: "I have been like this since I was a child. I love to tell the truth and I am tired of lying." Many people like Cui Yongyuan because he is a person who really tells the truth.

In an interview, Cui Yongyuan said: "For me, the most influential thing in this life is the love of my parents. Since I was a child, they never allowed me to lie. I can cause trouble, but I can't lie. They told me that I can admit my mistakes. It’s not ashamed to admit mistakes, because a person always makes mistakes, and it’s shameful if you don’t admit your mistakes, very shameful. Until now, this is the same requirement for me, and it will always be the same.”

Regarding the reason for leaving "Tell the Truth" at the beginning, Cui Yongyuan once explained: "I can tolerate that the "Tell the Truth" is not so exciting, but I cannot tolerate telling lies in "Tell the Truth."

In 2005, Cui Yongyuan said in an interview: "A host of our station is doing a talk show and interviewing an artist. This artist is very devoted and forgetful. The host also calls on everyone to learn from him. This host After he came out, he said, 'This idiot really cooperated today'." Although he did not name the host at the time, due to his vague description, the media generally pointed the finger at Zhu Jun, who was hosting the "Art Life" column at the time.

On November 2010, 11, five years later, Cui Yongyuan formally apologized to Zhu Jun via Weibo. The description caused Zhu Jun to be misunderstood and hurt for no reason! Now I solemnly bow and apologize to Zhu Jun and his family! Learn from Zhu Jun's ability to resist pressure and broad-mindedness."

Many people think that admitting their mistakes is a very shameful thing. Therefore, in order to maintain their face, they always find various reasons and try their best to justify themselves.As a result, not only did he fail to win the favor of others, but he also deepened the impression that he was "arrogant" and "self-righteous" in people's minds.

Of course, to be honest, you have to pay attention to leaving room for maneuver.Some things are still unclear at the moment, and we need to further understand the truth, see the development of the situation and the changes in the surrounding situation before we can make a decision.In this case, a vague answer can leave room for careful consideration and prudent decision-making.It is also wise to answer vaguely when it comes to sensitive issues, or negative judgments about others.

As the saying goes: "Talk only three points when you meet people." Although we advocate seeing each other with sincerity in work and life, "sickness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth." Time to speak carefully.There must be a process for people to reach the state of seeing each other with sincerity. Before reaching this state, we need to use various appropriate communication methods to ensure the smooth completion of this process.

Sometimes, even if our truth is coated with sweet sugar, it still hurts each other sharply like an awl. However, you speak the truth out of goodwill and for the other person's vital interests, and it stimulates the other person to change, Good medicine for growth.Such truth, even if it will embarrass the other party for a while, we still have to actively speak it.

We like people who tell the truth, but some truths can embarrass us.Therefore, when we tell the truth, we must distinguish the occasion and the target, and pay attention to the proportion of telling the truth.For example, a friend asks you what you think of a certain child’s appearance, and the parents of the child are also present. At this time, you say: "This child looks too sorry for others." This is a lack of EQ, not telling the truth talk.

In life, we must not only know how to tell the truth, but also "tell the truth cleverly".There are some words that others don't like to hear, but out of responsibility or obligation, you have to say it.At this time, it is the best way to let the tongue bend around and then speak out.Use clever persuasion to let others realize their mistakes from your corner words.

Maybe the wife's cooking skills are not very good. If the husband honestly evaluates the food cooked by the wife as "unpalatable", the wife will feel wronged: you have worked so hard to cook the food, but you still dislike it.Then next time she will definitely not be so active in doing it.But if the husband pretends to eat with relish, and praises while eating: "It tastes good, but I believe you can make it more delicious!" Presumably the wife's heart must be as sweet as honey, and she will cook more carefully from now on. It will also be full of warmth and harmony.

On the Beijing subway, a poet happened to see a blind man begging.The blind man was gray-haired and dressed in ragged clothes. There was a sign on his body with the words "I can't see anything" handwritten on it. However, no one gave him anything, and there was nothing in the broken basin in the blind man's hand.The poet was very sympathetic to the blind man, so he wrote four large characters with a brush, and changed the sign on the blind man's chest to "Spring is here, I can't see anything." After seeing the words on the sign, the passengers all sympathized with the blind man , have donated generously.This is also the charm of "telling the truth cleverly".

3 Dare to tell the truth is a manifestation of responsibility
Dare to tell the truth is also a manifestation of a person's sense of responsibility.Regarding the phenomenon of false news in some media, Cui Yongyuan said: "People who do this profession must have a sense of sacredness, nobility, and sense of mission, right? Now, there are very few. Also, our media does not have false advertisements Can’t they see that it’s a false advertisement? Don’t they know that this violates the “Advertising Law”? Just pay for it. In addition, there are news advertisements. I think this is because the media people have lost their sense of social responsibility and conscience Performance."

A reporter from "People Weekly" asked Cui Yongyuan when interviewing him: "Are you a person with a strong sense of social responsibility?"

Cui Yongyuan replied: "Everyone who works in the media should have this sense of responsibility. Your media will affect others, how can you not have a sense of responsibility? The reasons why my opinions expressed over the years have been valued are because: first, I It’s true that it’s hurting; the second is what others don’t want to say, what’s obviously offending, I’ve said it.”

Then, he said: "I divide the current intellectuals in China into three categories: the first category is called rising from the table; Intellectuals from the beginning. It is quite good for intellectuals in China now to be able to keep themselves clean. Which commercial hype, which deception to consumers, readers, and the public, did not have scholars, scientists, or even academicians to help? Which one? This is the tragedy of Chinese culture."

Cui Yongyuan said that he has always wanted to be a person who "stands up to the crime".He said: "In addition to being bloody, such a person needs to have knowledge. I think I have enough blood, but not enough knowledge. Although my words can't be so meaningful or profound, at least I can slap the table."

Some attentive viewers found that in some programs of the 2010 Year of the Tiger Spring Festival Gala, you can see more obvious placement advertisements, such as liquor in Cai Ming and Guo Da's sketches, juice in Liu Qian's magic... Afterwards, the chief director of the Spring Festival Gala Jin Yue said that there are not many advertisements placed in the Spring Festival Gala, and the placement is very natural.

In this regard, Cui Yongyuan said bluntly, "The placement of advertisements in the Spring Festival Gala has failed!" He said: "People who are in this industry and who understand art, the advertisements that they put out can be seen by everyone, which is a very failure."

Cui Yongyuan said that he is not opposed to the placement of advertisements, and he also cited many examples of successful foreign advertisement placements: "In almost every episode of "007", there will be new concept cars that have not yet been launched. The audience is completely fascinated by its magic. If you are attracted by the functions, you will naturally look for that brand of car. "Avatar" is also the same, the computers in it are virtual electronic walls, although this kind of computer has not yet been launched, but I heard that it is completely possible technically."

Cui Yongyuan also said: "Ad placement is a struggle between artists and advertisers. All advertisement placement that makes the audience feel too obvious shows the weakness of the artist." He believes that if the advertisement placement insists on showing the brand, It has to fit the plot.

As a staff member of CCTV, Cui Yongyuan dared to expose his "family ugliness" and speak the truth on behalf of the public.Regarding the film industry he loves, Cui Yongyuan said bluntly that Chinese artists generally have an impetuous mentality. He said: "Under this mentality, even if you have superb technology, you can't make any good films. Sincerity is the first step in art. One point, but I don't see many sincere films now."

In life, the reason why many people dare not tell the truth is because they are afraid of taking responsibility.But Cui Yongyuan was able to bravely tell the truth to the public after discovering his mistake, and apologized for his mistake.

The domestic telecommunications sector charges high fees, but the service quality is not satisfactory. People are deeply touched by the situation of "expensive calls".

In March 2011, at the meeting of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, Cui Yongyuan used the "US$3 yearly package" of the mobile phone fee in Los Angeles as an example, and bombarded the domestic mobile phone fee as "outrageously expensive" in a group discussion.Cui Yongyuan pointed the finger at "domestic phone bills", which embodies the responsibility of "speaking for the people".However, many netizens left messages saying that the data cited by Xiao Cui was inaccurate, and that foreign phone charges were not "ridiculously low".Cui Yongyuan's "data argumentation method" cited wrong data, which caused an uproar on the Internet for a while.

Cui Yongyuan immediately contacted two friends in the United States, and asked them to describe the details of American phone charges to him by email, and translated the brochure of American mobile phone calls into Chinese, and even attached the name of the telecommunications company involved. , he said: "I have to give the public an explanation."

After verification, Cui Yongyuan found that he was indeed wrong, so he immediately apologized on Weibo and admitted that he misused the data.He said frankly that as a member of the CPPCC, he should not say wrong words at the CPPCC meeting like ordinary netizens. He laughed at himself: "This tastes like talking nonsense."

Then he said: "I apologize for being imprecise, but this will not affect my frankness in my future speeches. I hope everyone can understand me. Cui Yongyuan is not trying to grandstanding, it is indeed a mistake, and he has spoken the truth."

Dare to tell the truth and admit one's mistakes is a manifestation of a person's sense of responsibility and responsibility.

In our work and life, we will inevitably make some mistakes.However, some people make mistakes at work, and after being discovered by the leader, they pass the test with "I don't know" or "I don't know".As everyone knows, in the eyes of leaders, "I don't know" and "I don't know" is a sign of shirking responsibility.Many bosses can tolerate employees making mistakes, but they will never tolerate irresponsible employees.

What the boss cares about is the result, not the process.As long as the result is not good, no matter what the cause is, we cannot escape the responsibility.That being the case, why should we say "I don't know" to the boss and damage our image in the eyes of the boss?A mistake is a mistake. As long as we dare to admit our mistakes and take responsibility, temporary mistakes will never become an obstacle to career development.What's more, if we are used to perfunctory duties, we will lose the motivation to improve our working methods and ability. This is the biggest obstacle to our career development.

4. Tell the truth and stop talking empty words
In life, some people always like to say some empty words, rhetoric, benevolence, righteousness and morality at every turn. Such words can only make people feel bored.

On March 2009, 3, Cui Yongyuan interviewed Cheng Siwei, then vice-chairman of the Standing Committee of the National People's Congress, in the program "Little Cui Meets Guests" hosted by him. There was such a dialogue between them:
Cui Yongyuan: We admire your father very much. He is everyone in the press.The most important thing for journalists is to tell the truth, to tell the truth, not to speak official words, not to speak stereotypes, and even dare to take the risk of telling the truth.So your language style and way of doing things have been greatly influenced by your father?
Cheng Siwei: This can be said to have an impact, so I also invite the audience to supervise today.I just have two maxims. The first one is to speak more truth and truth, less empty talk and stereotypes, and no big talk or false talk.It may be unrealistic to say nothing of empty words and formulaic words now, but we should speak less big words and false words, otherwise it will be a waste of time.

Cui Yongyuan: Yes.

Cheng Siwei: The second is the two sentences I said in the CPPCC, which are called "how can all speeches be as expected; I have done my best, but I want to be worthy of my heart". (Applause) Thank you everyone!Some people must agree with what you say, and some people will disagree. If you want to please everyone, your words must have no weight.So allow people to disagree.But as myself, I feel that what I said is worthy of my heart, and what I said is the truth, so I would like to ask everyone to supervise.

Steve Ballmer, CEO of Microsoft Corporation, believes that if a manager often speaks empty words, and every time he speaks out only some theories, it is impossible to get the respect of employees.

In daily life, people like to deal with a down-to-earth person, and only such a person can win people's trust, and what they say can be used as a reference for their own actions.On the contrary, a sensationalist and big talker will not have much status in the hearts of others.Others don't care about his opinions, at most, when life is boring, they can chat with his words to relieve boredom.

In October 2011, the "Little Yueyue" incident occurred in Foshan, Guangdong.In this regard, Cui Yongyuan once asked himself: "If I happened to pass by when little Yueyue had an accident, what would I do?"

After reflection, he said: "I think it is very possible for me to go over. Because each of us is not fully sure of our own moral sense, and the idea of ​​helping others is not subconscious. Many people encourage themselves , Support yourself, and only lend a helping hand because there is nothing you can do under the watchful eyes of everyone.”

Cui Yongyuan also said: "Maybe after I really walked over, there would be some 'good' reasons for not helping. In fact, we should ask more about these reasons."

When faced with news reports of "indifference to human feelings", many people don't think about whether they will walk over indifferently like others if they encounter similar incidents. Instead, they brandish the sword of "justice" and criticize others Moral loss, no conscience.Cui Yongyuan, on the other hand, started from his own point of view, saying that he "has a very high possibility of passing through", and then thought about morality at a deeper level.

During the Han Dynasty, Prime Minister Xiao He proposed to Liu Bang to let the common people cultivate a large area of ​​Shanglin Garden, which was used for hunting by the royal family.Liu Bang thought that Xiao He must have accepted bribes from the people to make such a suggestion, so he put Xiao He in prison.A guard surnamed Wang advised Liu Bang: "When Your Majesty fought against Xiang Yu and later eradicated the rebels, you personally led the troops to fight outside. Only the prime minister was stationed in the pass, and the people supported him very much. If the prime minister is a little selfish Heart, then the land in Guanzhong is not your Majesty's. Do you think that the prime minister will greedy the small profits of the common people and businessmen in a situation where big profits can be made?" After hearing this, Liu Bang realized his recklessness, So he ordered Xiao He to be pardoned.

If the guards advised Liu Bang that Xiao He was "very loyal" and "heaven and earth can learn from each other", instead of listing the actual performance of Xiao He's loyalty, I believe Liu Bang would not be convinced so quickly.On the other hand, the guard expressed his opinion with a few short and truthful words, and every sentence hit the point.

In the process of interacting with people, too many polite words will only widen the distance between the two parties.If it is between close friends, there is no need to say those meaningless polite words.Only by telling the truth, not talking empty words, not repeating what others have said or well-known clichés, making long stories short and hitting the point, can we attract the attention and respect of others.

When we tell the truth, we should also pay attention to conciseness, grasp the main points, and avoid empty talk, because lengthy nonsense will only make people feel bored.You can start from the following aspects:
First, cultivate your ability to analyze problems.

Learn to grasp the essential characteristics of things through the surface phenomena of things, and be good at generalizing.The communication language formed on this basis can be accurate, incisive, powerful and attractive.

Second, learn to "delete the complex and simplify it".

Only when complex words are said in a simple way can they be understood easily and everyone will love to hear them.

Third, master some vocabulary as much as possible.

Flaubert once warned people: "Everything has only one noun to call it, only one verb to mark its action, and only one adjective to describe it. If the speaker's vocabulary is poor, even if he rummages when speaking, there will never be a wonderful thing. talk."

When we communicate with people, we should pay attention to concise and practical words, so that we can be welcomed by people.Of course, to make a long story short, we must also distinguish between objects.If the other party is not very familiar with you, and you go straight to the point when you come up, it will definitely make people feel abrupt.

5 May wish to have a little "personal language"

Wang Xuming, president of the Chinese Language Publishing House and former spokesperson of the Ministry of Education, once said: "The position belongs to the country, and the language belongs to oneself. But the problem now is that many officials' positions belong to the government, and the language belongs to the government. This affects the spread effect."

Some people, especially those in leadership positions, always like to say some official language and stereotypes, which are stereotyped and have nothing new.Not only is it difficult to impress the listener, but it can also be annoying to others.

As a member of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, Cui Yongyuan not only dared to speak the truth, but his language was often unexpected.At the closing ceremony of the first "Langtian Rural Teachers' Auspicious Journey", Cui Yongyuan pointed out in his speech: "Our past civic education is: don't make irresponsible remarks about this country, and choose what is good to say is called loving this country. Family ugliness should not be publicized. Wrong, real citizens have a responsibility, not only to say that this country is patriotic, but also to point out the faults in the operation of this country and the government is also patriotic, and to a certain extent, it is more patriotic. We should find a way to accommodate this a voice, let that voice come out."

We usually regard "picking" as a derogatory term, but Cui Yongyuan said: "I think picking is a very kind expression. Picking must be to make it better. With such a kind original intention, he will definitely use picking." The way to promote a better society. I think criticism is a basic characteristic of a citizen."

"Personal language" does not mean that the language should be different and shocking, but that it should be true and natural, and not use meaningless formal words.

Many times, when we try to please the other party and worry that expressing our true feelings or telling the truth will make the other party dissatisfied, it is easy to say insincerely, pretending that we care about the other party or understand the other party, but the result is often self-defeating.

In fact, a truly touching speech does not lie in how fluently the speaker speaks, but in whether the sincerity can be naturally revealed in the speech.

In 2003, Zhang Yue, who has hosted the "Half the Sky" column for a long time, was invited to be a guest host of "Art Life". At that time, the interviewer arranged by the program group was Nicholas Tse.

This is Zhang Yue's first interview with Nicholas Tse. Zhang Yue, who was born in the 20s, is not very familiar with Nicholas Tse's songs.If it were another host, they might pretend to be "heroes cherish heroes", but Zhang Yue talked with the other party frankly and truthfully.

Zhang Yue said to Nicholas Tse: "I haven't heard your songs, I only heard some bad news about you. There is a big difference in age between me and you. When I heard the news about you, I just felt that this What a pity the child."

Nicholas Tse was quite surprised to hear what Zhang Yue said.Obviously, Zhang Yue succeeded in making waves in Nicholas Tse's heart.In the following conversation, Nicholas Tse and Zhang Yue talked very seriously and devotedly.Nicholas Tse sincerely felt that Zhang Yue resonated with him several times, and his eyes were always full of respect for Zhang Yue. The whole interview went smoothly.

When we express our sincerity with appropriate language, it is easy to win the trust of the other party, thus making the conversation smoother.

Mr. Fu Lei, a famous translator in our country, said: "As long as a person is sincere, he can always impress people. Even if people don't understand for a while, they will understand in the future."It's better to be upright and honest than to play tricks.When we communicate with people, if we want to gain the trust of others, we must open our hearts, tell the truth, and not hide or hesitate. We must exchange frankness for the sincerity and love of our friends.If you are always suspicious of others, do not tell the truth when you meet, and want to gain the trust of others, it is undoubtedly a daydream.Only sincere words can win hearts.

So how can we naturally show our sincerity in conversation?

First, keep a happy mood.

In the process of talking, our emotional state is easily discovered by the other party.If we can maintain a happy mood during the conversation, the other party will easily be infected by our emotions and talk to us in a happy mood.But if we are in a bad mood or absent-minded during the conversation, the other party will feel that we don't value the conversation, or even think that we don't respect him.

Second, smile and look into the other person's eyes.

When talking, smile on your face, look into the other person's eyes, and let the other person feel that you are willing to communicate with him and have a good conversation with him.It should be noted that you should be natural when looking at the other person, and you cannot keep staring at the other person's eyes tightly.

In addition, we should also pay attention to civilized language when we talk, don't speak vulgar words at will, and don't chatter endlessly, regardless of the other party's feelings, otherwise it will only make the conversation fall into an embarrassing situation.

6 The language should be "down-to-earth"

Some netizens said that Cui Yongyuan is the most reliable CPPCC member because he is very "down-to-earth".The so-called down-to-earth here refers to being able to get in touch with the common people extensively, and being able to mingle with the common people, without deviating from the actual needs and wishes of the common people, reflecting their desires and appeals, and safeguarding their interests.

Cui Yongyuan, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, once pointed out at the "Two Sessions": "It is very wrong to build affordable housing in remote suburbs. The affordable housing should be in the city center, otherwise the meaning of security will be lost!" Cui Yongyuan said, if the Affordable housing is built in remote suburbs, forcing residents with low incomes to buy cars, so the affordable housing loses its original meaning.He also said that housing should be linked with medical care and education.If the house had only one function of sleeping, it would be no different from a cave.

When talking about the individual tax collection standards of each city and each industry should be different, Cui Yongyuan said: "Cui Yongyuan earns 3 yuan a month, and it may be appropriate for you to collect his tax. A coal miner earns 8000 yuan a month." , there should be no taxation. Because the coal miner has his head tied to his belt, he may not come out when he enters the studio, but I will definitely come out when I enter the studio.”

Cui Yongyuan also said that in 1986, he felt "the richest and most like a millionaire".He said: "At that time, I was just working, and my monthly salary was about 80 yuan... I rushed to pay the bill for dinner with my colleagues, and tried to make myself spend a little bit more, so I could save some." And now?Cui Yongyuan said that his current monthly income exceeds [-] yuan, but he often feels that the money is not enough to spend.

Cui Yongyuan said that if the common people want to regain their sense of happiness, the government should not just give money, but should strive to improve the social security system.He said: "If we don't need money for school, medical treatment, or housing, then why do we need so much wages?"

When we evaluate a person who talks too much, is irrelevant, and cannot integrate into the group, we will say that he is not grounded.It is difficult for an ungrounded person to be respected and welcomed by others.Cui Yongyuan is loved by people because he is down-to-earth, sincerely stands on the standpoint of the masses, and speaks for the masses.

Language is a very important bridge and link to communicate ideas, gather strength, and solve problems.Only when you are always grounded and get to know others deeply can you speak the words that others love to hear and are willing to put into action.

If we want to win the love and respect of others, we must not speak superficially and show a superior look.Only by speaking down-to-earth, saying things that can benefit others, and shortening the distance with the other party, can it be deeply rooted in people's hearts and make communication smoother.

In 1964, the 68-year-old Mitsuo Sochi became the chairman of Toshiba. He often visited the factory alone without a secretary and visited more than 30 Toshiba companies scattered all over Japan.As the chairman, it is no small task to inspect the factory in person, and what is even better is that he often carries a bottle of one-liter Japanese sake to comfort the employees and drink with them.The staff were taken aback, a little overwhelmed, and a little flattered.No one would think that a person who is the chairman of a large company would personally bring a bulky sake to drink with them.Therefore, the workers praised him as "the big boss holding the wine bottle".

When we communicate with others, if we show arrogance and arrogance, not only will the communication not go smoothly, but it will only make the relationship between the two parties worse.If you want to get along well with others and win respect and love, you can appear in front of him in a low profile, be humble, peaceful, simple, even respectful, and make him feel respected.In this way, he will relax his vigilance against you and communicate with you in depth.

If you want your words to be recognized by others, you must first let the listener hear clearly, understand, and listen cordially.Especially in a speech, it is the most basic requirement for the audience to understand the content of your speech.If you always use technical jargon or too written language, it will make people feel boring.Only by turning those difficult languages ​​into easy-to-hear and easy-to-understand spoken language and speaking them out naturally, can the words reach people's hearts and arouse the sympathy of the listeners.

In the conversation, only when you communicate in a way that the other party likes to hear and see, the other party will regard you as one of your own and truly accept you.And those who only know how to talk, will only be disgusted by others.

7 Tell the truth, but not extreme
"Tell the truth" is our virtue, and people like those who tell the truth.But if the "truth" is told too much and there is no room for it, not only will it not get the approval of others, but it will also be labeled as "extreme".To tell the truth without extremes is to think more before speaking, especially when you say something that criticizes or opposes others, you must first consider whether you are exaggerating the facts.

In the "One Hour at Noon" program of the Central People's Broadcasting Station, "Cui Yongyuan is like this", a listener asked Cui Yongyuan if there was anything in his book "Just That" that was not particularly straightforward.Cui Yongyuan replied: "Yes! Like the chapter "Leadership", what you see is the third draft, and the first draft is much harsher than this one, very sharp. All the leaders who have offended me have been destroyed by me once. After reading it, I felt too stingy. How could a person do this? I revised the second draft again, and it was the same as the first draft. After two or three months, rethink, and now everyone sees the third draft."

During the "Two Sessions" in 2012, Cui Yongyuan said in an interview with reporters: "I don't think whoever you let as the main person in charge of the government can solve these problems overnight. I believe that every netizen is concerned about this matter The huge gap between the rich and the poor in society cannot be filled overnight, but we must see that the relevant responsible persons are doing their best."

Today, with the development of Internet information, some false news and gossip news about public figures emerge in endlessly. Some people don't care about the facts, but just scold and criticize on the Internet to show their "justice".As a result, not only did some innocent people get hurt unintentionally, but they didn't get any benefit.When the truth of the matter becomes clear one day, I will regret my extreme words before.

After the "Little Yueyue" incident, Cui Yongyuan once said that in the society we live in, the phenomenon of indifference does exist, and the Internet makes no details escape the public's eyes, but in fact it is not as serious as everyone thinks.Cui Yongyuan said: "If you are a person who lives on the Internet every day, you will feel that life is impossible. We can still find happiness in this environment of smooth information, which means that we are truly happy."

Cui Yongyuan said in an interview with reporters: "When I was young, I always hoped to solve it overnight, and always hoped to release it black or white. Now, I feel that there is actually a better way to solve the problem. "

In real life, in order to express themselves in front of others, some people talk nonsense when speaking, regardless of the truth, and only care about satisfying their emotional venting.What these people say gives people a sense of unreality, which makes their language unconvincing and thus loses credibility in dealing with people.If you want to be a truth-teller, you need to change these three speaking habits:
The first one is too absolute.

If you don't even really understand something, don't use those absolute words, otherwise it will arouse suspicion from others, thereby reducing the authenticity of your language.In reality, there are quite a few such people who are so confident that they speak out before they have time to think about it.If it is said in this way, its authenticity can be imagined.

There is no absolute thing in the world, everything has its two sides.Therefore, most people have an instinctive rejection of absolute things.It is also because of this that it is difficult for others to accept those words that are too absolute, because this language is very likely to be inconsistent with reality and not the truth.For example, when you categorically say: "In this matter, you are absolutely wrong!" Others will be very disgusted.

The second type is inconsistency in speaking.

Some people often appear inconsistent when speaking with others.If there is inconsistency, then one of them must be a lie, which greatly reduces the authenticity of the speech.Others will no longer believe it.

The third type is love that has been said too much.

It is difficult for such a person to gain the trust of others and give people the feeling that they are not telling the truth.

Telling the truth has an uncanny allure.People like to associate with honest people.

(End of this chapter)