The FBI teaches you lie detection, people reading and intelligence skills

Chapter 20 Watch out for short-term sudden behavioral changes in liars

Some people tell lies in such a way that it is difficult to tell the truth from the falsehood, half-believed, and even believed to be true.How can these lies that are more concealed be deciphered? The FBI told us that the way to do this is to think about the ins and outs of things.

We can see through simple things at a glance, but there are too many things in life that are extremely complicated.Some are a ring within a ring, and some are followed by two and three.In such a complicated matter, how to distinguish the truth from the false?In fact, as long as you are clear-headed and patient enough, you can catch the signal of lies in the ins and outs of things.

§§§ Section [-] Beware of Liars

Sufficient etiquette will give the recipient a sense of majesty, respect and power superiority, so the mind is paralyzed, the thinking becomes dull, and the liar will have an opportunity.As the saying goes: If you don't have anything to show your courtesy, you can either rape or steal.In fact, there is still some truth.

The FBI once cited such an example:

Paul is the boss of an advertising business. He has a senior employee who is very good at catering to Paul's thoughts. He often coaxes Paul to his heart's content and gives him some rare and fresh things.Even though Paul sometimes took it out on him, there was no sign of dissatisfaction.Therefore, he won Paul's trust and regarded him as a confidant.So Paul essentially took over the entire business from this guy.

During this period, some people advised Paul to beware of deceitful courtesy.But Paul ignored the advice and insisted on letting this polite subordinate take power.Two years later, the senior employee resigned, took most of the clients with him, and registered his own company to start the business.The original advertising company was almost dragged down by him and had to move to a new location and start all over again.

Even more so between men and women.Your husband usually forgets even birthdays or anniversaries, but suddenly bought you a thoughtful gift; usually he always puts work or friends first, and never spends time and thought on asking you how to care, but today he suddenly called Show concern for you; suddenly accompany you to do what he didn't like the most before; or suddenly accompany you to watch a movie he doesn't like; or suddenly help you cook and do laundry and so on.When asked why he acted like this, he couldn't give any reason. I think you may need to be mentally prepared not to get lost in the sweet atmosphere. Maybe he has done something wrong and is making up for it.

§§§Section [-] Liars are often unable to get through their mobile phones

The reason why the mobile phone can't get through is similar to the sudden incident mentioned above.But from a behavioral point of view, if the mobile phone fails to get through, it needs to be done more thoroughly.

If you are a good partner, recently you have been unable to get through his phone calls, and you can rarely get in touch with him. Even if you do, the other party will hang up on the grounds that there is something important at hand and we can talk another day.The phone calls can't be made, and the short messages are often not returned. These "communication barriers" mean that the other party must have dealt with it to conceal certain situations, and it shows that the situation has reached a serious point.

In today's world where the Internet is so smooth. "Unable to connect" is usually caused by human beings. It is to let people who may call him know that he cannot answer the phone, so he saves a momentary explanation and explanation.If you really want to explain, the best explanation is that there is no battery, and it is the icing on the cake if you don’t bring a charger or you are on the road.In fact, the other party may have already pulled you into the blacklist or set the do-not-disturb list.

"The phone cannot be connected" was originally a sentence to explain the situation, but there were too many faces of liars hidden in it.In order not to let their loved ones see the real and unbearable side and be disappointed, and to keep the family peaceful, many people choose to silence their mobile phones.In order to make that partner disappear from his business circle, he would also choose to silence his phone.

§§§ Section [-] Liars are often moody
As the saying goes: "A gentleman is magnanimous, and a villain is always close." People who tell lies are afraid of being exposed, so they try to use every means to embellish them.

If the liar thinks it will be very costly to be caught, they may show nervousness when telling the lie.In order to eliminate the inner tension, in order to prevent others from discovering their nervousness, liars usually use some small gestures or some other things to distract the listener's attention and make them absent-minded.

Zhou Zhenglong, who was convicted of making a fraud in the "South China Tiger Incident", was sentenced to 2008 years and 11 months in prison on November 17, 2, with a 6-year probation, and went home behind closed doors.One day, Zhou Zhenglong suddenly issued a statement saying that "the tiger photos are real and not fake", and "specially ask for identification".

When the reporter asked him whether he wrote the statement, he replied, "Who wrote it if it wasn't mine?" Then asked him why he wanted to reverse the verdict?Zhou Zhenglong asked back: "Why do you ask this question?" When the reporter asked about his current life, he claimed that he "can't live", and then made a series of complaints.Moreover, he quickly hung up the phone on the grounds that he still had something to do at home.

Zhou Zhenglong's emotional ups and downs and moodiness are related to his anxiety, fear and tension that he fears that his lies will be discovered, which is a typical behavior of a liar.

§§§ Section [-] Beware of Liars Sudden Often Something Happens

A client who has always been very good, recently you asked him to meet, but you always declined, saying that something happened suddenly, and you can make an appointment next time.The next time you ask him out, he still suddenly has something to do.At this time, you have to think about it.Is there something wrong with him?Is not just trying to perfunctory you?Or he has found a more suitable partner than you and wants to kick you away. Out of face, he can only find some excuses to gradually cool down the relationship between them.

Lying is a skill that is self-taught.In order to cover up some unfortunate and perhaps bad facts, people often come up with some reasons that they think are good, and the most commonly used one is "something".

§§§Section [-] Beware of Temporary Changes in the Personality of Liars
Everyone has their own habitual state or behavior, and generally they will not change at will.

Temporary changes in personality are also one of the symptoms of lying, such as being quiet and talkative, lively and quiet, habitually sloppy but deliberately dressed, obviously not used to complimenting people but suddenly complimenting you, etc., all show his heart Hiding a secret!Those who become quiet and talkative are worried that the atmosphere is too oppressive, afraid of being seen out, and want to dilute the unknown secrets buried in their hearts by speaking; Excitement makes people feel abnormal, so the words become less and less, for fear that the secret will be revealed with one mouthful; a person who has always been jealous of hatred, suddenly compliments others, may immediately ask others to try to paralyze him.

Lying is also a very difficult thing, so few people weave their lies seamlessly.When a person is lying, his brain has to deal with multiple complex events at the same time, not only to organize language and clarify logic, but also to pay attention to subtle changes in expressions, psychology, cognition, etc. of both parties, and to predict various situations And thinking about solutions is very different from the usual small talk.

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