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Chapter 51 Behavior: Deciphering the Golden Code of the Soul (4)
At any time, as long as things are not as expected and imagined, you will "dizzy".In fact, the problem is generally not that serious, but it is always used to exaggerate the image subconsciously, and it is reflected in the exaggerated emotions expressed in the spoken language.

This kind of person is lively, frank, and does not hide his personal feelings, but is easy to be emotional.The phrase "I'm dizzy" treats all people and things equally.Therefore, they are good at finding problems in a wide range, but not good at thinking about problems in depth.

"Okay, okay"

Maybe they never thought of rejecting others, or maybe they are not good at saying "no" and always feel that rejection is a shy or bad behavior. "Okay, okay."This kind of person has a hearty personality, warm and generous, kind-hearted, and is more easy-going in dealing with others.However, he lacks independent opinions and positions on many things, giving people the impression that he is a "good old man".Their personalities will also give opportunities to some "bad guys" who love to take advantage, and will bring extra trouble and burden to themselves.

"Listen to me first"

They are very concerned about their own opinions, and the word "first" shows that he is worried that the other party will misunderstand him.In short, on the one hand, he hopes that others will value and respect his opinions, and on the other hand, he is worried about others' misunderstanding of him.This kind of person has a strong desire for self-confidence and control, and thinks that he can convince the other party and make him believe it.Interrupting others during communication, or not letting the other party speak, also shows that his character is a little impatient and he often has grievances in his heart.

"If you don't believe me, let's bet"

If someone's verbal language often expresses that he wants to bet with you, it does not prove that he is sure, because such people are sometimes more likely to believe in luck.If the winning rate is similar to the car accident rate, he would rather believe that he will win the jackpot than believe that he will be in a car accident.

This kind of person is confident and dares to take risks, but sometimes he is blindly optimistic and underestimates the negative results.Being stubborn, it is difficult for ordinary people to reverse what they believe.He may not be good at gambling, but the "gambler" psychology often influences him to make inappropriate decisions and actions, making things develop in a bad direction.

A person who often uses words such as "um...and..." "this..." "that..." means that his words cannot be carried out in an orderly manner, his thinking is clueless, and his thoughts are not organized.But even if conjunctions are also used, people who often use "but..." and "but..." in conversation can generally be considered to have stronger thinking skills.When they are speaking, relative language will appear in their minds to filter and verify.The so-called eloquent and sharp-minded people refer to such people.But if this tone of voice appears repeatedly many times, its theory will also be turned over and over, forcing the other party to follow closely, unknowingly being led by the nose, and losing the power to parry.People who often use this kind of expression are more cautious in speaking and doing things, and generally do not provoke disputes, and are a good gentleman.It is precisely because of this that the speech is inevitably intermittent, and it can only continue when it is reintegrated.This is a sign of lack of self-confidence.

People who frequently use "Guan Guo" are more self-righteous, emphasizing personal opinions, and have a stronger tendency to be self-centered.

People who often use "actually" have a strong desire for self-expression, hoping to attract the attention of others: most of them are more willful and stubborn, and somewhat conceited.

People who often use words such as "how is it in the end" mostly have unsatisfied potential desires.

People who often use "really so" are superficial and ignorant, but they don't realize it, and they often think they are right.

People who frequently use words like "I..." are either weak and incapable of wanting help from others, or they are vain and pompous, looking for every opportunity to emphasize themselves and attract others' attention.

People who often use emphatic words such as "really" lack self-confidence, fearing that the credibility of what they say is not high.But just like this, the result often plays a role of trying to cover up.

People who often use imperative words such as "you should..." "you can't..." "you must..." are autocratic, stubborn and arrogant, but they are full of self-confidence and have a strong desire to lead.

People who often use words such as "My personal opinion is...", "Is it..." and "Can..." are generally kind and friendly. When dealing with others, they can also be objective and rational, think calmly, and seriously Analyze, and then make correct judgments and decisions: don't act arbitrarily, can give enough respect to others, and in turn will get respect and love from others.

People who often use "I want...", "I think..." and "I don't know..." tend to be more innocent in their thinking, impulsive, and their emotions are not particularly stable and a bit unpredictable.

People who use the word "absolutely" often have a dogmatic character, and they are either too lacking in self-knowledge or too strong in self-knowledge.

People who often use "I knew it a long time ago" have a strong desire to express themselves, so they can only be the protagonist and play by themselves.But I lack patience with others, and it is difficult to be a qualified listener.

People who like to use famous words and allusions are generally authoritarians.

People who often use popular words are keen to follow the crowd, like to be grandiose, and lack personal opinion and independence.

People who often use foreign languages ​​and foreign languages ​​have strong vanity and love to show off and boast of themselves.He is also a person who uses language as a defense against his weaknesses.By doing this, he is nothing more than to strengthen the weight of his words, and at the same time, he also shows that he is well-informed, so as to elevate his status and expand his influence.

People who often use local dialects, who are also confident and upright, have strong self-confidence and have their own unique personality.

In addition, people who often talk about colloquial words are mostly incompetent and lack a strong will.Some people do not have colloquial words when they speak, which does not mean that they have never had them. They may have had them before, but they gradually got rid of them later. This shows a person's strong willpower and the spirit of pursuing concise and fluent speech.

If you want to better observe, understand and judge a person's character through oral language, you need to carefully and seriously figure out and analyze in life and communication with others, so that you can get good results.

§§§Section [-] Subtle movements reflect mental state

Facial expressions are the most likely to show a person's psychological state, and people pay less attention to the movements of limbs other than the face.If you want to see the hidden personality of the other party, you can observe his subtle movements to confirm.

Once, Paul and John were chatting, and Paul noticed that John seemed different from usual.After careful attention, I found that although John was smiling, his hands and feet under the table were shaking from time to time, which had nothing to do with the content of the conversation.

From this, it can be proved that human nature is still easy to be revealed by small actions, and it is obvious that there is something in the heart, but it is unwilling to admit it.

A certain experiment proved that when looking at a photo, when paying attention to the neck above, or below the neck and the whole body, there are the following different expressions:

First, people who only look above the neck tend to show a friendly attitude, have a cheerful and open-minded personality, are rich in emotion, are also very delicate, value loyalty, and make people feel honest and considerate.

Second, people who only look at the neck down are often nervous, nervous, do not have their own opinions, and are often helpless and confused.

Third, pay attention to the whole body, changeable, agile, and mobile.

In short, when looking at photos, it is easier to understand the person's personality by only looking at the person below the neck; people who only look at the face are easily deceived by the image of the photo, and the result is not very good.

A person's mood can be reflected from his language and behavior. If you can observe a person's subtle changes, then you are considered a caring person.

Hou Junji was born as a warrior and had no academic achievements. However, due to his outstanding military exploits, after Tang Taizong ascended the throne, he served as the general of the left guard, named Lu Guogong, and moved to the general of the right guard.In the fourth year of Zhenguan (630), he was appointed Minister of the Ministry of War and Minister of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, and actually had the post of prime minister.

One day, Emperor Taizong said to Hou Junji, "You are very brave in killing enemies on the battlefield and conquering cities. But as a general, you must be good at practicing the art of war."

Hou Junji then said: "Your Majesty, I know that I have little talent and little learning. I heard that Li Jing is proficient in the art of war. Please Your Majesty intercede for me and ask Li Jing to teach me the art of war."

Taizong then ordered Li Jing to teach Hou Junji the art of war.

After a while, Hou Junji said to Tang Taizong: "I thought Li Jing was going to rebel."

Taizong asked in surprise: "How can you see it?"

Hou Junji said: "The art of war taught by Li Jing is just generally useless. He hides the essence of the art of war and does not teach it. He is proficient in the art of war and does not spread it to the outside world. I guess he must be rebellious."

Taizong thought it made sense, so he summoned Li Jing and asked him what Hou Junji had said.

Li Jing said with a smile: "Your Majesty, it is not the ministers who want to rebel, but Hou Junji."

Taizong asked, "Why do you say that?"

Li Jing continued to explain: "Your Majesty, think about it. Now the world has been settled, and the four seas are peaceful, but there are some small-scale wars on the frontier. The art of war I taught Hou Junji is more than enough to appease the frontier, but other seas are not satisfied." , Isn’t this a conspiracy of rebellion?”

Li Daozong, the king of Jiangxia, also said to Taizong: "Hou Junji has made great contributions and has high aspirations. If he becomes the Minister of the Ministry of Officials, he will always be dissatisfied. It seems that he will definitely cause chaos in the future."

Because there was no evidence, and Hou Junji was a meritorious minister, Taizong did not take Li Jing and Li Daozong's words to heart.Later, Hou Junji really colluded with the prince to plot a rebellion, and was bestowed with death by Taizong.Taizong said to Li Daozong: "Sure enough, it was you."

How did Li Jing and Li Daozong know that Hou Junji had rebellious intentions?Because Hou Junji's words and actions have exposed his uneasy status quo and his ambition to stir up trouble.Li Jing and Li Daozong knew the book from the small, and knew the long-term from the present, so they concluded that Hou Junji was rebelling.

Back then, during the Watergate incident, President Nixon touched his cheek and chin casually while answering reporters' questions.These subtle movements hadn't been done before.

President Nixon's body language was a "confession" of his involvement in Watergate.

(End of this chapter)