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Chapter 57 Men and women are different: tear off the veil to see the essence (1)
Shakespeare said: "Love is blind, lovers can't see the stupid things they do." How many people have been blinded by love, and have fallen into the dead end of love and fell into sadness, regret and unable to extricate themselves.However, falling in love is one of the beautiful natures of human beings.The process of falling in love is a process of increasing understanding through contact, and then confirming the choice.The process of falling in love is sometimes like a war, a game, both parties are trying to identify each other's true feelings and falsehoods between offense and defense.In this chapter, FBI experts teach you to gain the upper hand in the chasing game of love between men and women.

§§§The first section learns to identify the type of man

Changes in lifestyle will inevitably lead to changes in the way of marriage and love.Many women began to use social occasions to find the "Prince Charming" in their hearts.Unfortunately, in social situations, fish eyes are often confused, and some girls are confused by "fish eyes", which delays major events.Next, please carefully identify several types of men, so that you can choose carefully.

1. mean-spirited

If you want to observe whether a man is mean and stingy, it is naturally reflected first in his money.Being mean and stingy is not the same as being thrifty. The latter just doesn’t want to waste money, while the former cares about pennies and pennies and regards money as his life.Originally, a man should be more generous in front of women, but this kind of man, because of his hard-to-change nature, often reveals his shabby appearance unknowingly.For example, haggling over every detail in any high-end venue, ordering cheap dishes when ordering, changing programs when you can’t buy cheap seats when watching a movie, calculating the bill like a “post-mortem” when paying the bill, etc.This is an out-and-out "scrooge" type, and his personality is cold, withdrawn and suspicious.If unfortunately he chooses this kind of man, he will not have money to pass on to his wife.Although the wife's pocket money is not available, even all the legitimate expenses of the family are often subject to his review and embezzlement.

2. Rough and rude

Whether a man is vulgar or not can be observed from his eating.There is a class of men who eat socially without any table manners.He only cared about himself and devoured it, without consideration for others, and even forgot to greet his girlfriend.This kind of vulgar and uncivilized performance will not only be regarded as a disgrace, but will also arouse the disgust of others.As far as the influence is concerned, it is difficult for him to have any outstanding achievements in his career.As far as the personality of this type of person goes, he is thoughtless, inconsiderate, and inconsiderate.For his wife, even if he is not harsh and abusive, he cannot be expected to be very loving.

3. Egocentric

In a certain banquet, you may meet a opposite sex who makes your heart vibrate.His appearance, conversation, manner, all make you fall in love at first sight.But don't act rashly until you know him well.You must use your reason to analyze the impression obtained in that brief moment to further peek into his inner world.

If he is constantly looking left and right, looking for acquaintances, socializing for a few words, then continuing to talk to other people, then he is likely to be a self-centered person.Such a person cannot bear loneliness, but when his friends take the initiative to date him, they are often too lazy to socialize.When developing a relationship with such a person, he will be quite active at the beginning, but within two months, he will put you on the "waiting list" and will no longer be so attentive.If you have fallen into his love and unconsciously change from passive to active, his enthusiasm will decay over time and he will adopt a perfunctory attitude.If you lose your temper, he will change slightly, but again and again, after repeated several times, his emotions will become weaker and weaker, and finally make you disheartened and waste the original time. affection.

4. Well-mannered

If the man who makes you fall in love at the banquet likes to hold a glass of wine and listen to others' conversations with a smile on his face, and drinks in moderation, then he must be a shy person.He may have many reasons to refute the opinions expressed by others during the banquet, but he is worried that he will encounter objections and opposition after spreading them out in public, so he simply keeps silent, so he looks very humble and polite .Most of these men are gentle and have unique opinions.If you talk with him alone, his performance is often quite different from that in public. He is not only kind and enthusiastic, but also eloquent, and even opens his heart to you.On the other hand, he is likely to be a person who lacks self-confidence and does not feel secure.To fall in love with him, you must send a letter of affection every short period of time.So if you are a busy professional woman, or care about practical things more than the lingering between the sexes, then such a man will not be the right partner for you.

5. Overly restrained

Whether a man is too cautious can be shown in many ways.Every move of this man is overly cautious.For example: when they pre-purchase train tickets or air tickets, they often put those tickets in the diary, and take them out from time to time to see if they are missing; they often touch the wallet in their pockets with their hands, and often take them out Count the bills inside to see if one has been lost or has been visited by thieves.This type of men is too cautious. No matter what they do, they are always trembling, fearing that they will lose, and they have no aggressive and adventurous spirit.Their families will not have plans for pleasure and enjoyment.

6. Bumble bee wave butterfly type

Looking at beautiful women intently, saying clever words with puns, prying into your ethical concepts intentionally or unintentionally, and thinking that you are very humorous, all men with these characteristics belong to the "mad bee wave butterfly type".If you meet such a man, when his conversation with you is interrupted by someone else's penetration, he still tries to find an opportunity to continue the interrupted conversation, then this man must be serious in everything, even serious enough Almost stubborn, seems a little nervous.You will have a lot of fun talking with the opposite sex of this personality, but sometimes you will feel that his mother-in-law is too long-winded.The most notable characteristic of this kind of opposite sex is that they start and finish things.Unless he offered to break up with you, you can't easily get rid of him.If you don't have feelings for him and you're going to end the relationship, you'll have to be tactful about it.

The above-mentioned types and their various manifestations are not scientific judgments, but they have certain reference value for predicting the personality of the opposite sex. When using these principles, the following two points must be kept in mind:
First of all, when the opposite sex meets for the first time, it is common for them to lose their normalcy for a while.Therefore, when you make a first hand, you should not ask too much of anyone.

Secondly, for the first contact between the sexes, it is best to talk about business, work, etc., and do not involve personal issues, let alone make short comments about others.In this way, when you find that the person is not suitable for you and you want to alienate them, you will not leave any trouble.You may think that it is difficult to understand the essence of a person without talking about personal affairs. This is of course reasonable, but it is not absolute.For example, observing a person's attitude towards others and dealing with the world can often tell a thing or two about his true appearance.If he is constantly dissatisfied with his job, but unwilling to take positive action to improve himself or prepare for the profession, he must not be a decisive person.

§§§The second section deepens the understanding of men
If you meet a guy, it feels good, but you don't know if you should continue dating him because you still don't know him well enough.Here are a few tips for you, hoping to deepen your understanding of him.

1. Go to his house to see his lifestyle and daily necessities
Is his home full of books or ball game awards?Do you have a photo with your family?Do you dare to use his bathroom without disinfection?Is your home in disarray?Maybe he doesn't have time to tidy up the room, but if he just doesn't like tidiness, it will be difficult for him to change his bad habits.You have to make a decision: Can you live with such a man?Can you live in such a messy environment?
2. Look at the friends he made

You can't like all of his friends, but if you don't like most of them, it's a reminder that he's not for you.A man's circle of friends can best reflect his taste.It is not a bad thing for a man to make some girlfriends, which will help him understand women's weaknesses and physical characteristics, and show that he can communicate with the opposite sex.Be careful if he only has a girlfriend and no boyfriend.It is very likely that such a man often feels threatened by other men, and he needs to strengthen his self-confidence in front of the opposite sex.

3. Bring the children of relatives and friends on the date
If he thinks the child is troublesome and refuses to be close to the child, then he will never be a good father.If he not only doesn't hate children, but is willing to talk to them, even bend over to listen to them, and play games with them on the floor, this man will undoubtedly be a good father, and you deserve to develop a relationship with him.

4. Look at his concept of time

If you ask him to meet at 8 o'clock and don't arrive until 9 o'clock, it means that he doesn't take you seriously.His feeling that his time is more important than yours is really a lack of respect for you.

5. Listen to what he says

Talking about his family with warmth in front of his girlfriend, this kind of man can impress women the most.He wants you to share joys and pains with him, and this will be a reliable companion.Just talking about it, regardless of whether you are interested or not, this kind of man is more selfish.There is another type of men who like to judge others, look down on anyone, listen to rumors, and even gloat about other people's misfortune.This kind of man should stay away from him as soon as possible.

6. See how he evaluates his former girlfriend

A man who speaks ill of his girlfriend is unreliable.Since they were once in love, why should their reputation be slandered?Respecting his ex-girlfriends is a magnanimous man.If he keeps saying bad things about his ex-girlfriend in front of you, it means he still misses her and the old relationship is unforgettable.

7. Meet his mother

Don't get close to a man who treats his mother badly.A man's attitude towards his mother says a lot about his attitude towards women.A man who respects his mother also knows how to love his wife.But if a man is overly attached to his mother and obeys what he says, he may have an Oedipus complex and lose his masculinity.

8. Look at his attitude towards money
A man's attitude toward money often indicates his desire for power.Some men are always rushing to pay bills. This does not prove that he is generous, but that he wants to control his girlfriend; and stingy men and stingy men are also doomed to care about their emotions.As for the profligate, often overdrawn, or even heavily in debt man, you must never associate with him.

9. See if he is satisfied with his job
In a certain sense, a man's attitude towards work is his attitude towards life.For any man who quits after a little bit of trouble at work, it is almost predictable that one day, if there is a little setback in the relationship between husband and wife, he will also leave.

10. Is he mentally healthy?

A man who likes to be sarcastic is actually raising himself up by belittling others.Such men lack subtle emotions and are mentally unhealthy.There are also men who get angry for no reason, sometimes yelling at a TV show, and maybe berating a restaurant waiter.He may have hidden hidden dangers in the spirit and is at risk of developing depression.

Paper cannot contain fire. Through various observations and contacts, women can see the true nature of their boyfriends, and at the same time get to know them through the people around them.At this time, you can make a judgment whether to continue to get along with him.

§§§The third section looks at the inner world of men from the attitude of using money
In the eyes of many men, money is not only a kind of wealth, but also a symbol of their power and strength, and a measure of success.Therefore, by observing their attitude towards money, you can get a glimpse of part of their inner world.

Frequently giving gifts to female partners, this kind of man is afraid of losing the other party, but also unwilling to give too much affection.Therefore, material power is used to fill the lack of emotion. This behavior is enough to show that this kind of person's emotions are often in a state of self-contradiction.

Asking the woman to pay, consciously or unconsciously, he will make the woman bear the cost of dating. This kind of man is seriously insecure and hopes that others can guarantee him in various ways.When falling in love with this kind of person, the woman can easily fall into a situation of wishful thinking.

The fussy type, who can compete with others for fifty cents, but is willing to spend a lot of money on the best stereos or antiques.This kind of person may be equally snobbish about feelings. He may love the other party very much, but he will never tolerate the other party's unorganized and unreliable behavior or demands.

Men who use fraudulent means to defraud money, embezzle public funds and other fraudulent behaviors will also deceit their feelings.

In fact, he is poor but loves to show off. This kind of man values ​​money especially, and likes money more than anyone's feelings.In order to make money, I would rather sacrifice any relationship with others.

People who are often called poor, but actually have a lot of money in their pockets, often feel dissatisfied, and always think that the whole world is sorry for them. It is very nerve-wracking to deal with such people.

I am most afraid of giving gifts, I don't know how to enjoy the fun of giving, and I am also selfish when dealing with feelings. I just want to be loved, not to love others.

Debt and unstable life, this kind of person is not good at handling the details of life, let alone how to deal with feelings and interpersonal relationships, and has poor financial management ability and self-control.

He has a weak outlook on money, often lends money to friends, has a correct attitude towards money, and is quite persistent and loyal to feelings, which is worthy of his affection.

§§§ Section [-] Recognizing "liar" men at a glance

As a woman, when you love a man, you will inevitably sympathize with him; when he is hurt, you also feel hurt; when he is in pain, you also feel pain.You'll naturally want to help him with his problems—not just for his peace of mind, but for your own.

You might invest in his scheme, or you might lend him money to pay off his debts; you might let him live in your home, or you might buy him a car, bail him out of detention, or even help him pay alimony.But no matter how deep or shallow your involvement in his finances is, if this is the case, you must identify his conspiracy and essence as soon as possible.

The FBI pointed out that the performance of common love "liars" can be divided into the following categories:
1. The "dreamer" type
Such people often call themselves artists, inventors, or entrepreneurs.They usually have unrealistic ideas about their future, and they will not take effective methods to modify them; they think they are talented, have development potential, and deserve fame and wealth; they disdain to do other jobs.They may also succeed occasionally, but the money they make is never enough for them to spend.

2. The "bad student" type
This man has neither dreams nor ambitions.He may stubbornly refuse to work, or he may screw up every hard-earned job.He will destroy every opportunity that comes his way, yet he always thinks he is innocent, and the fault is his unreasonable boss, his greedy ex-wife, his nightmare childhood, or reality snob society.

3. "Strengthen" type
This kind of person has a special way in the political circles and shopping malls.They like crisis the most, and only when there is a crisis will they be alive and well.Whether it is planning to build a shopping mall, or to wholesale stockings worth two hundred yuan to set up a street stall, their plans always fail.They may often go to court, sometimes suing, sometimes defendant.They are natural salesmen, and their confidence, enthusiasm and charisma are extremely attractive to women.

4. Gambler type

Such men seem to be involuntarily driven by some subconscious force.People of this type are generally regarded as those with compulsive desires.

5. Liar type

Such men are the dirtiest of irresponsible men.They are liars with compulsive desires, knowingly defrauding their lovers; they are peculiar, neither burdened with conscience, guilt, or remorse; these men are usually vivacious and attractive men with the ability to make women fall in love blindly And a singular ability that is devoted to nothing.

§§§Section [-] Wisdom Eye identifies seven types of men who must never be married

The FBI pointed out that the following seven types of men are women who must be careful and must never marry him.

1. Attract bees and butterflies

It has to be admitted that this kind of man is full of charm, emotional, and will please women.There is never a lack of women around him, and he is quite proud of it, and never shy away from it.But remember, even if he is courting you, don't get carried away, because he flatters you and doesn't really care about you, but he naturally likes this kind of game among women.Marry this kind of man, unless you have enough mind to tolerate his debauchery and the embarrassment brought to you by gossip, this kind of man is really a dangerous temptation.

2. Machismo type
This kind of man has a kind of gender discrimination against women from the bottom of his heart, without minimum respect for personality.Everything you do for him, he takes for granted.At home, you only know how to give orders and boss around, don't expect him to help you share any housework, and don't expect to get the slightest care from him.The most frightening thing is that this kind of people often advocate violence, especially love to shake their fists in front of women.

3. Too clean

In fact, this kind of man is more intolerable than the sloppy man, because it is often accompanied by eccentricity and paranoia in character, and it is not as easy to get along with as the sloppy man.They are stubborn, and nothing can change their minds.Paying too much attention to some small things in life, and paying attention to the degree of cleanliness has become a "hobby". Unless you love cleaning more than him, you will definitely be troubled.

4. Suspicious

(End of this chapter)