The FBI teaches you lie detection, people reading and intelligence skills

Chapter 6 There is no lie that cannot be seen through (1)
To some extent, it can be said that today is an era where lies are prevalent. If you are deeply involved in it, you don't have to lie to others, but you definitely don't want to be deceived.There is no perfect lie in the world, just a lack of discerning eyes.

Here, the FBI lends you a pair of insightful eyes to help you see through lies and understand life.

§§§The topic of chat in the first section reveals people's heart
The FBI pointed out: Chatting is a better way to decipher the other party's mentality from the code of language.Because chatting is mostly carried out in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, it is easy for the other party to dismantle their psychological defenses.

An excellent talker is very good at analyzing and sorting out the topics brought up by the other party, and then forming a complete judgment on the other party.

Conversation is an indispensable and important content in our daily life, and anything can become a topic for us to talk about.In a conversation, although the speaker does not express himself or reveal himself very intuitively, as the conversation progresses, the speaker will reveal his personality unconsciously, intentionally or unintentionally.In this process, pay attention to what the content of the discussion is, and the demeanor and actions of the talker.Be careful, and you will definitely get something useful.

I often talk about myself, including previous experiences, my own personality, views, attitudes and opinions on some external things, etc. Generally speaking, such people are more extroverted, with bright and strong emotions, and strong subjective consciousness. Love to show and expose yourself, somewhat vain.With a tendency to narcissism, it is a self-centered personality.Those who talk about themselves, in fact, are most concerned about themselves.Convinced that the world should revolve around him, this kind of psychology is not only a kind of self-indulgence, but also has a willful personality tendency.In addition, people who not only talk about themselves, but also focus on their family, work, family and other surrounding things at all times, can also be classified as self-centered personality.

On the contrary, if a person does not often talk about himself, including past experiences, his own personality, views, attitudes and opinions on some external things, etc., it shows that this person is relatively introverted, and his emotional color is not clear and unremarkable. Strong, relatively weak subjective consciousness, not very fond of expressing and disclosing oneself, relatively conservative, somewhat inferiority complex.In addition, this kind of person may have a deep city.

The content of a person's talk is more inclined to the trivial matters in life, which shows that he is a comfortable person who pays attention to enjoying the comfort and ease of life.

If a person often talks about national affairs, it shows that his vision and vision are relatively broad, rather than confined to a certain small circle.

On the other hand, those who love to complain often have a depressive psychology and belong to the negative personality.Complaints are a kind of venting of psychological depression. From the vented complaints, one can find a person's state of mind and desire.Many of the people who complain about the low salary express their dissatisfaction by complaining about the low salary because they don’t like the job themselves; most of the people who belittle their superiors have the desire to get ahead but not easy to achieve. desire.This type of whiny person, in addition to psychological depression and dissatisfaction, also comes from a kind of vanity.

People who like to talk about other people's private affairs, and get to the bottom of other people's private affairs or privacy, are mostly people with a strong desire to dominate.When he talks with people, the topic always revolves around other people, and he likes to inquire about other people's private affairs.Most of the people who talk about other people's privacy are women.For people who have little relationship with me, such as celebrities, movie stars, etc., I like to comment and gossip.In addition to having a dominance mentality, this type of people also lacks bosom friends, and their hearts are empty, lonely, and unwilling to be lonely.

If a person likes to imagine the future, it shows that he is a fantasist. Some of these people can put their fantasies into action, but some cannot.The former focuses on planning and development, and if you actually do it, you are likely to achieve some achievements.But the latter is just talking about it verbally, and will end up accomplishing nothing.

If you pay more attention to natural phenomena when talking, then this person must have a regular life and be very careful and prudent in dealing with others.

It’s good to mention the courageous person in the past. When talking with others, he often brags about how he fought in the past, lest others will not know his glorious history, and the result is not as good as he imagined.

In fact, analyzing him from a certain aspect, we can find that he is a person who is dissatisfied with reality. Although he did not express his thoughts in the language of resentment, on the contrary, he expresses it in the form of self-expression.

In fact, he didn't know this kind of self-boasting talk, and it was difficult for him to adapt to the changes of the times.It can be seen that he is indeed caught in some kind of dissatisfaction environment, perhaps his path to promotion is hindered, or he cannot adapt to the environment he is currently in.So he hopes to forget the reality, and likes to pursue the past to make up for the current situation.This is a retrograde phenomenon, because the situation in front of him is so cruel, so he still talks with a dreamy expression.From his topics, others will find that there is an incurable complex of desire and dissatisfaction lurking deep in his heart.

Some people often drag the topic far away when talking with others, making you confused, or changing the topic constantly, making others feel inexplicable.This shows that this kind of person has a strong desire for dominance and self-expression consciousness. In his consciousness, he seldom puts others in his eyes, but completely puts on the appearance of doing his own way, letting others follow his ideas and use them as his own. opinions dominate.

It is a good sign that the content of the topic is constantly changing, but if the talk is outrageous and everything seems to be out of order, it will make the audience feel dull.If he is an ordinary person, always talking about topics that don't make sense, or constantly changing topics, and rambling, it means that his thoughts are not concentrated and he leaves a fragmented impression on others.This shows that he is a person who lacks rational thinking.

There are also some people who talk about their merits to others.Ordinary people seldom show their strengths and weaknesses without concealment, so that most people will mistakenly think that he is an "honest person" and can be regarded as a bosom friend and have a deep friendship with him.In fact, according to psychological analysis, ordinary honest people will never show their "hole cards" at every turn and let others see enough.One's own strengths and weaknesses are the connotation of a person, and it is something that ordinary people disdain to easily reveal one's connotation to others.

When you meet this kind of person, you need to know his nature: he has no principles, and he is easy to change his mind; he has a great need to doubt his loyalty to his boss and the company;

People who don't put forward their own ideas but just agree with others or follow other people's topics are mostly generous and considerate to others.

People who use polite words too much are wary.In interpersonal communication, it is necessary to use polite words properly.But if the relationship between the two is already quite good, but one party suddenly says some polite words, it means that he has "ghosts in his heart" or has other plans.At the same time, quoting excessively modest words indicates that the person has strong jealousy, attempts, contempt or defensiveness, etc.

On the contrary, people who deliberately use foul language actually want to get closer to the other party, or want to take advantage of themselves.

Some people often like to spread and disseminate some so-called inside information, which makes others feel uneasy after hearing it.In fact, their purpose of doing this is to attract the attention of others and to satisfy their vanity that they are unwilling to live under others for a long time.They are not too bad-hearted people, as long as the repressed vanity is satisfied, the world will be peaceful.

When talking with people, some shallow and unscheming people will easily confide their dissatisfaction to others.For this kind of person, just treat it as an ordinary friend.

If you have known each other for a short time, and your communication is average, but the other party is busy pouring out their thoughts to you, and they are completely earnest, it seems very easy to move people on the surface.However, when he turned his head around, he showed the same behavior and said the same thing to other people, which showed that he was completely insincere and definitely not a person who could have deep friendship.

People who often talk about various phenomena and interpersonal relationships may have a lot of experience in this regard.

People who are unwilling to point fingers and comment on others occasionally express their opinions when they have to, and their words in person and behind them are mostly consistent, which shows that this person is very upright and sincere.

The evaluation of others is one way on the surface and another way behind the scenes. Flattery and praise in person, abuse and slander behind the scenes show that this person is extremely hypocritical.

Some people constantly accuse others of their shortcomings and faults in order to prove and express themselves by comparison.

§§§The speed and tone of speech in the second section will reveal the heart of the person
The FBI believes that: when a person is dissatisfied with the other party or hostile, the speed of speech will slow down; on the contrary, when a person has ghosts or wants to deceive others, the speed of speech will mostly involuntarily speed up.People who like to end topics with ambiguous or inaccurate tones and words are usually afraid of taking responsibility.

(End of this chapter)