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Chapter 41 Concentrate on managing "the relationship with the seven people around you"

Around us, there are seven relationships that should be highly valued, because the people closest to and most trusted by us will also have a "calculating" side.Just like everyone in the world has at least one or two close friends who can talk about everything, every manager hopes to meet several real "business partners" and "right-hand assistants" in his career.To put it simply, every "official" person hopes to have a few "confidantes" around him.In fact, it is not surprising to have this kind of thinking, because since ancient times, in order to achieve great things, especially "big things", you need to have a "core small group" - after all, a person's wisdom and strength are limited, and there must be a few people around him. Only by "helping" with a "like-minded" person can it be more "reliable".But now the problem comes, it is precisely such a "core small group" that is most prone to "accidents".

Anyway, if there is a disturbance, it will make people "nervous"—could it be that so-and-so (a member of the "inner gang") has "two hearts" towards me?They are so "sensitive", in fact, it is "excusable" - these people trust each other too much, there is no "secret" at all, which means that if any "accident" happens, they will immediately be exposed to great danger. in the "Risk".Therefore, since ancient times, the "infighting" among these "core members" has been extremely cruel.In fact, as long as people understand a truth, there is no need to be so "nervous".That is, there will be no % in the world - no matter how much you pay and how much you trust your "core members", you should not expect them to hold you % without reservation.This is absolutely "unrealistic".However, after all, these people have extremely important "stakes" in your life and career, and you must not underestimate them.Therefore, you also need to have some "scheming" to "manage" the relationship with these people well.Don't think that "they will eat you" just because the relationship between each other is too close, and ignore their existence unconsciously, treating them as "air".On the contrary, even if you occasionally find out that the other party is "playing tricks" with you, you don't have to mind too much, because this often does not necessarily mean that the other party has "two hearts" towards you, but it may mean that the other party attaches importance to you—for fear of hurting you. To you, so carrying you.So be sure to look away.

In my company, I have a very capable middle manager.I appreciated him very much. Not only did I devote all my life's knowledge to cultivate him, but I also helped him "promote to the third rank" within just one year of joining the company.This person also regards me as a "confidant" and is very grateful to me for "the kindness of knowing you".The two have maintained a pleasant partnership at work.But one day, a colleague told me rather mysteriously: "I heard that he speaks ill of you behind your back! You support him so much, but he treats you like this. This person really has a problem with his character." I heard I didn't care about this at all. Instead, I called the middle manager into the office and said to him patiently: "I heard you talk about me behind my back, but I don't care. Because I must say It’s normal for you to complain if you’ve said or done something that displeases you. But you need to know that ‘walls have ears’. Although I don’t mind it, it’s inevitable that other people who hear this will not think about it. , may have an opinion about you in one way or another.

So I will give you a 'trick': if next time you have an opinion on what I did, don't say it, you can take out a piece of paper, write my name on it, and then hold a pen firmly Poke a few holes in it, let it out and you're done. Hearing my words, the middle manager was very grateful. From then on, our relationship has not regressed, on the contrary, it has become more harmonious. In fact, it is not that I am generous or "posture". "Normal" does not necessarily mean that I really want to "do something" to me, so there is no need to "make a fuss". After all, when the spoon touches the edge of the pot, it is inevitable that people get along with each other. Everything is too "real". On the contrary, if a certain person cooperates with you "perfectly", and you can't find any faults, it is an "abnormal" thing, and you should be careful. There is a Western The famous philosopher once said this sentence: Each of us actually lives in the "intrigue" between the seven closest people around us every day.

In fact, the word "conspiracy" in this sentence not only does not have any "derogatory meaning", on the contrary, it is good-hearted and commendatory. We can understand this word as "management".It is precisely because these "seven people" are so important to us, so we will carefully "manage" the relationship with them, and dare not neglect in the slightest.

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