The 128 most classic philosophical essays in the world

Chapter 78
[China] Liu Xinwu

Don't be afraid of temporary low self-esteem, especially don't cover up your low self-esteem to yourself, or even force yourself to turn your low self-esteem into a kind of arrogant arrogance.

Everyone has the desire to be successful, and I still feel it today. Although it is difficult to call it a real success, after all, there has been a period of struggle, stumbles, bumps, criticisms, booing, and somersaults After suffering setbacks, I finally climbed a few steps on the ladder leading to the goal, so I would like to talk about how to deal with the psychological problem of inferiority in the process of climbing.

I have been introverted since I was a child, and I belong to the category of people who not only do not have character advantages, but can even be said to have character defects.I am secretly high in my heart, but it is difficult to externalize the yearning in my heart in the interpersonal competition. I feel inferior to me and seem to follow me. "The Head Teacher" once made me proud of myself, but time has passed and the situation has changed. Looking back now, it is only of data value, and the text is really unbearable to read again. In 1978, my article "The Position of Love" was even more sensational than "The Class Teacher". After it was broadcast on the radio, letters from readers flooded in, but now, its crudeness only makes me feel inferior. After the mid-80s, I worked hard to improve myself, which can be regarded as some progress, and I still continued to create in the 90s, but compared with the masterpieces of Chinese and foreign literary masters, there is a huge gap. Would you rather feel inferior?In recent years, my inferiority complex has only increased. For example, I still don’t know any foreign languages, and I don’t know how to drive a car. Although I can use a computer to write, I don’t have the ability to surf the Internet; Being able to be active in the Chinese-American circle and the foreigner circle of sinology, I can't enter the cultural mainstream there at all; I have lived for 56 years, but I still can't cope with interpersonal relationships... All kinds of things like this, sometimes the inferiority complex accumulates in my heart, I really wish I could write myself off!

Too low self-esteem to prevent heartbreak.But the rise of inferiority complex has not always been a sharp self-knowledge.In this sense, don’t be afraid of temporary inferiority complex, especially don’t cover up your inferiority complex to yourself, or force yourself to turn your inferiority complex into arrogant arrogance. place, in order to resolve the anxiety produced by oneself because of inferiority complex.There are no more than two reasons for inferiority complex: one is that the fact itself has nothing to be inferior to, such as being introverted; the other is that the fact itself does constitute a defect, such as not knowing a foreign language or computer language.To digest these two kinds of inferiority complex, the former should promote the spirit of self-esteem and self-improvement, while the latter can be done according to one's ability. If it can be remedied, you can learn from the beginning. It may be perfect, over-seeking perfection, demanding perfection, otherwise it will add more scratches to your life and increase troubles in vain.

I believe that "I am born to be useful", although I am not perfect in terms of personality, education, experience, identity, cultivation, and understanding, but in the end I can surpass my inferiority complex and accept myself in reality with dignity. A little bit of light, a little bit of heat, I walked the road ahead of me as calmly and gracefully as possible.

Heart mark notes
Inferiority is a kind of self-ashamed emotional experience caused by excessive self-denial.In fact, everyone has inferiority complex (such as the author is inevitable), but the strength is different.People with excessive low self-esteem are always used to comparing their own shortcomings with the strengths of others. As a result, the more they compare, the more they feel that they are inferior to others, the more they compare, the more discouraged they are, and the more they compare, the less confident they are in themselves.People who cannot get rid of inferiority complex will be affected by this inferiority complex for a lifetime.

Accept and be true to yourself, look at your own shortcomings with a positive attitude, reduce self-blame and pickiness, and be a unique you.Give yourself a hope every day and let your mood fly.Unknowingly, the inferiority complex also quietly left.

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