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Chapter 91 Anger
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Whoever you are, if you are impatient you will lose your soul.

Anger exists anytime and anywhere, and everyone has it from time to time, so it is impossible to completely eliminate anger.We only need to pay attention to the fact that anger turns into anger, and we must not get angry to cause sinful behavior, let alone be depressed all day long because of anger.Anger must be moderated both in degree and in time.Now let's discuss three questions:
One, how to restrain yourself from getting angry.

Second, how to avoid unmanageable consequences caused by anger.

Third, how to make people angry and appease them.

For the first point, my suggestion is to calmly think about the possible consequences before we get angry.Seneca said: "Anger is like a weight that will break where it falls." The Bible teaches us that patience can make the soul quiet.Whoever you are, if you are impatient you will lose your soul.We must not "spend our whole life in one sting of the enemy" like bees.

Irritability is a base quality, and only the weak in life are at the mercy of it—children, women, old people, sick people.Therefore, I remind you that when you are provoked, you should despise the person or thing that makes you angry, and do not mix any fear with anger.If you do, then it will give you mental self-control and an advantage over your opponents.As long as you are confident enough, you can do it.

Regarding the second point, I think that people who belong to the following three situations are the most prone to anger.First of all, people who are overly sensitive.The nerves of such people are too fragile, and a little thing is enough to stimulate them.Second is the person who thinks he or she is being scorned.The contempt of others incites anger more than any other injury.Finally, it is the person who feels that his reputation has been damaged, the person who is most likely to be irritated.In order to prevent this, it is best to say as Godward said: "The web of human honor should be woven with thick ropes."

Waiting for the opportunity is the best way for people to restrain their anger after being hurt, restrain and endure, and keep the hope of revenge until the future.

When people are angry, they must be cautious of two points: first, they should not curse indiscriminately, which is different from ordinary complaints about the world, and it will plant the root of resentment; second, they should not vent their secrets because of anger, which is It will make you no longer able to be trusted by others.In short, no matter how turbulent your mood is, remember that you must never express the turbulence in your heart in action, which may cause unimaginable consequences.

The method of making people angry is very simple. It is the same as the art of calming anger, and the key is to grasp the timing.People are most irritable when they are impatient or in a bad mood.It's so easy to make him angry at this time.To calm a person's anger, first, choose an appropriate opportunity and venue to talk about something that may make him angry; second, try to relieve his feeling of being insulted by contempt, which can be interpreted as Not intentionally, but due to misunderstanding, excitement or other accidental reasons.

Heart mark notes
Anger is the stupidity of punishing oneself for the mistakes of others. It is like a balloon full of poisonous thorns, which hurts others and hurts itself.It not only makes people lose their minds, but also makes people prone to impulsive words and deeds when their blood is boiling.

In fact, the biggest enemy on the road to success is not lack of opportunities or shallow qualifications, but lack of control over one's emotions.Learn to deflate this balloon, the sunset is like gold, the moon is like silver, if you can’t enjoy the happiness and joy of life, where is the time to get angry?

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