greatest wisdom book

Chapter 5 Walking on the Elegant Scale 4
Ability and heart are directly proportional
Great people are never petty.When conversing with others, especially when the subject is unpleasant, you need not be concerned with details, but with a courteous, dignified magnanimity.Being obsessed with unpleasant things is tantamount to having a mental illness.Remember that people usually act according to their nature, which has to do with their heart and ability.

To be magnanimous and not hesitate to care is a kind of noble personality cultivation, a kind of demeanor of a strong man who can accomplish great things.The world is so big, compared to human beings, it is inevitable that there will be all kinds of conflicts and troubles. If you care about everything, it will undoubtedly be a shackle to your life. It is better to show a polite look, so that it is easier to win the favor of others. respect and admiration.

There is a famous writer who has won the respect of readers with his tolerant heart and willingness to admit mistakes.After 20 years of writing social documentary genre novels, the writer tried to change his style and launched a new detective work, which made many readers unacceptable.An outraged reader wrote to him, vehemently, accusing him of making the transition at all.Many of the words are biased, and it can be seen that this reader does not have a deep understanding of the art of fiction.But the writer did not become angry, but wrote a reply letter very seriously. In the letter, he didn't mention the reader's impoliteness and shallow knowledge, but sincerely admitted that he was not suitable for suspense. He is very grateful for the readers' opinions on the writing of reasoning themes, and hopes to exchange views with each other frequently in the future.

The writer does not care about the rudeness of the readers, which is his tolerance; the courage to admit his own defects is his tolerance and demeanor.In front of such people, difficult problems are usually easier to solve, and conflicts can be easily resolved.

There is a Chinese saying that "a prime minister can punt a boat in his belly" can describe people like writers.The ancients often said: people should be kind to others, have the beauty of adults, and cultivate their morality. Only when a person has a big belly and an open-minded personality can he gallop freely. Dazed.Therefore, we must always be calm and tolerant towards world affairs, so that we can meet the opportunities and achieve harmony and perfection everywhere.

Ford, who was the president of the United States, was a football player in college and had very good physique, so when he entered the White House at the age of 62, his physique was still very tall and strong.After becoming president, he continued to ski, play golf and tennis, and excel at them.

In May 1975, he visited Austria.When the plane landed in Salzburg, he stepped down the gangway when his shoes hit a bump and he slipped and fell on the runway.He jumped up, unhurt.Reporters took his fall as a big news and played it up.On the same day, he slipped and fell twice on the rain-soaked long ladder of the Lishidan Palace and nearly fell.Then a wonderful legend spread: President Ford was clumsy and insensitive.Since Salzburg, every time Ford fell or hit his head or fell on the snow, the reporters always reported the news to the world with embellishments.Later, it became news that he didn't fall.CBS once reported: "I have been waiting for the president to hit his head, or sprain his calf, or get a little injury to attract readers." The reporters seemed to want to create an impression : President Ford was a clumsy man.TV hosts joked with President Ford on TV, and comedian Chevy Chase even imitated the president's slips and falls on "Saturday Live."

Ron Niesen, Ford's press secretary, protested, telling reporters: "The president is fit and graceful, arguably the most physically fit president we can remember."

"I'm an activist," protested Ford, "and activists stumble more than anyone."

He always laughed off other people's jokes. He also performed on stage with Chevy Chase at the Washington Broadcasters Association annual meeting in March 1976.The show started, and Chase came out first.As the band played "Salute to the President," he tripped and fell to the floor of the cabaret hall, sliding from one end to the other, hitting his head on the podium.At this point, everyone present was laughing, and Ford laughed too.

When Ford's turn came, Chase stood up, feigning to get tangled up in the tablecloth, causing plates and silverware to fall to the ground.Chase pretended to put the speech on the podium, but when he was not careful, the paper fell and scattered all over the floor.Everyone laughed, but Ford said nonchalantly, "Mr. Chase, you are a very, very funny actor."

When faced with other people's rudeness to him, Ford chose to laugh it off, which shows Ford's generosity.

Where there are people, there are always contradictions, conflicts, and even intrigues.All kinds of emergencies make it impossible not to have friction.Where there is a gentleman, there is a villain; where there is warmth, there is indifference; where there is praise, there is slander.How to gain a firm foothold in a complex group and get the support and appreciation of most people is just a matter of being tolerant and tolerant.

"A gentleman is virtuous and able to tolerate domineering, wise but capable of ignorance, broad and capable of tolerant of superficiality, and pure but capable of tolerant of miscellaneous." In life, we will encounter some people and things that are unfair to us at any time, stupid, superficial Harassment, embarrassment and criticism.Tit-for-tat and revenge for grievances will only attract more jealousy and hatred for oneself. Those who are broad-minded and generous can maintain good interpersonal relationships with others.Don't care about trivial matters, don't stick to red tape, and don't meddle in other people's business. Such characters can be widely respected by others and can handle interpersonal relationships with ease.

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