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Chapter 74 Communication quotient: understanding the communication philosophy of people coming and going 1
Making friends is a philosophy as well as an art.Some friends need close friends, while others need long-distance friends, some friends can make deep friends, and some friends only need nodding friends.Making friends should not only be for happiness and comfort, but for practicality.Making good friends can be a good teacher and improve our quality; some friends can be a helper and help us achieve our career; making emotional close friends, they will be our spiritual comfort when we are confused and suffering.Life without friends is a wasteland.To have friendship doubles joy and halves pain; it is the antidote to bad luck, the rain that nourishes the heart.

Friendly Relationships Are Like Savings

The prince must maintain friendship with his people, otherwise he has no remedy in adversity.

——"Chapter 9 Citizens' Monarchy"

Maintain a good friendship with others, and when you are frustrated and fail, you can get help, support, and even support from others.This kind of argument applies not only to the monarch, but also to the daily life of human beings.

Maintaining a good interpersonal relationship is like making a deposit, which can gain both capital and profit.After all, people are emotional animals, and they are destined to live in groups, and the people who make up the groups are in various classes. Therefore, making appropriate emotional investments and establishing and maintaining friendship with people around them is conducive to the establishment of social integrity. Extensive network of contacts helps establish a good image for yourself.Only those who win the hearts of the people will live a calm and unrestrained life; otherwise, they often run into walls everywhere and fall into a dilemma.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu lived a relatively peaceful life all his life, but when he was trapped in Shanghai and wrote "Fortress Besieged", he was also embarrassed for a while.After dismissing the nanny, his wife, Yang Jiang, took care of the housework. The so-called "rolling up the sleeve apron is busy for the mouth".At that time, no one bought his academic manuscripts, so his motivation for writing novels was more or less mixed with earning money to support his family.The meticulous work of 500 words a day is not a commercial writing speed.It just so happened that director Huang Zuolin rehearsed Yang Jiang's four-act comedy "Satisfaction" and five-act comedy "Fake Fake Come True" at this time, and paid the remuneration in time, which helped the Qian family tide over the difficulties.

After many years, the reason why Huang Shuqin, the daughter of director Huang Zuolin, got Qian Zhongshu's permission to start filming the TV series "Fortress Besieged" was because she carried a letter from her father.Qian Zhongshu is someone who has done things for him, and he will remember him all his life. Huang Zuolin's volunteer assistance more than 40 years ago, Qian Zhongshu returned to him many years later.

As the saying goes, "Rely on your parents at home and friends when you go out", one more friend is one more way.If you want others to love yourself, you must first love others.Always have the mind of being kind and charitable, and the beauty of adulthood, so that you can save more debts of human kindness for yourself.Although we don't wholeheartedly pursue rewards, when we encounter difficulties, the debt of favor is very useful, and friendship is even more precious at this moment.

Don't be stingy with your sincerity and love, and don't care about whether friendship and friendship always pay off.Emotional investment itself has no contract, and it cannot guarantee that we will be treated equally. Of course, it cannot be denied that it will bring us fruit beyond imagination.

For a prodigal son who is obsessed with obsession, a heart-to-heart conversation with a friend may make him turn his head back, re-establish his dignity and self-confidence as a human being, and perhaps gallop in the field of hope after reining in before the cliff, becoming a warrior.

For a friend who is in trouble, a small amount of financial help may turn him around, and perhaps when he has achieved a career, it will also give you the wings of success.

A casual favor or kindness to a stranger, and perhaps, when he sees someone in trouble, he will soon draw courage and kindness from the memory of being helped.

Modern people live in a busy life and don't have time for too much entertainment. As the days go by, many originally solid relationships will become loose, and friends will gradually become indifferent to each other. This is a pity.The precious fate between people, in terms of utilitarianism, is the fixed capital for people to achieve their careers.Be kind to every relationship, focus on the small details, and handle human relationships smoothly, so that you can find a relationship route that is beneficial to you in handling affairs.From an emotional point of view, if you come and go frequently and accumulate friendship, when you feel helpless and lonely, you can safely rely on your friends and get understanding and comfort from them.

Just like a little poem said: "Friendship is a piece of sunshine shining in winter, making the poor and sick feel the warmth of the world; friendship is a spring that appears in the desert, making people on the verge of extinction see again. to the hope of life; friendship is a ballad floating in the night sky, which brings comfort to the lonely and helpless.” Maintaining friendship with worthy people will make us feel extremely satisfied both materially and spiritually .

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