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Chapter 155 There is nothing greater than controlling your emotions 1
Volume 7 Chapter 1 Nothing is greater than controlling your emotions [-]
Impulsive, often useless

Don't act when you are emotional, if you do, you will lose everything.When a person is emotionally out of control, his behavior is often not representative of himself.Reason is always lost to passion.At this time, you should find a calm and prudent third party, because when the parties involved are confused, the bystanders can see clearly.Once a prudent person realizes that his emotions are about to get out of control, he will immediately control it and let it subside gradually, otherwise he will act recklessly because of a momentary impulse.A momentary loss of emotional control can bring a lifetime of regret, as well as the anger of others.

——"The Book of Wisdom"

A donkey and a buffalo are very good friends.They often play and eat grass together.One day, they found a farmer's orchard with green grass and ripe fruits, so they sneaked into the orchard and ate the grass and fruits on the trees leisurely.The gardener didn't notice it at all.After the donkey was full, he wanted to sing a song, so the buffalo said to the donkey, "Dear friend, for God's sake, just be patient and sing again when we are out of the orchard!"

The donkey said: "I really want to sing now, as a friend, you should support me!"

"But if you sing, the gardener will notice, and we won't be able to escape!"

The donkey felt that the buffalo couldn't understand his current mood at all. It said: "There is nothing more elegant and moving than music and songs. It's a pity that you don't know anything about music. Why did I ask you to be my friend?"

The impulsive donkey finally refused to accept the bison's suggestion and began to sing.As soon as he sang, the gardener spotted the donkey and the buffalo, and caught them all.

In the story, because the donkey ate sweet fruits and green grass, he sang a song on impulse. Although he was happy, misfortune also followed.The donkey could have waited until it was out of the orchard before singing, but it couldn't hold back its emotions, which eventually brought disaster to itself.

Some psychologists say that impulsive behavior is a common form of violent defiance, an expression of strong desire.The latest research shows that impulsivity is linked to smoking, alcohol and drug use.People with high suicidal tendencies and adolescents with eating problems were more impulsive.Aggressiveness, gambling, severe personality disorders, and inattention are high in impulsivity.

Impulsive emotions are actually the most powerless emotions and the most destructive emotions.Many people will do things that they regret when they are emotionally impulsive. Therefore, they should take some positive and effective measures to control their impulsive emotions.

When we are impulsive, we should use reason to tell ourselves that we must calm down, quickly analyze the cause and effect of the matter, and then take the "delay strategy" of expressing emotions or eliminating impulsiveness, and try not to fall into impulsive, reckless, simple and rash passive situations.

In addition, the things that make you angry usually touch your dignity or vital interests, making it difficult for people to calm down all at once, so when you feel that your emotions are very agitated and seem to be out of control, you can take timely measures. Use hints, divert attention and other methods to relax yourself and encourage yourself to restrain your impulses.People's emotions often only need a few seconds or minutes to calm down.But if bad emotions cannot be transferred in time, they will become more intense.For example, the more a sad person thinks about being sad, the more he feels that he has many reasons to worry; the more an angry person thinks about being angry, the more he feels that his anger is justified.It is also a way to do more exercises that are conducive to cultivating endurance.

Bacon said: "Impulse is like a landmine. Everything you touch will be destroyed together." If you don't pay attention to cultivating your calm, rational, calm temperament and the necessary composure in communication, once you encounter the "fuse", you will be furious and lose control of your emotions. , you will blow up all your best life, and in the end you will only let yourself fall into the prison of suicide.

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