The world's greatest get rich bible

Chapter 64 Win-Win Thinking: The World Is a Win-Win Stage, Not an Arena 1
Volume 4 Chapter 1 Win-Win Thinking: The world is a win-win stage, not an arena [-]
no man is an island

Personal independence does not mean real success, a successful life must pursue public success.

-- "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

The world is very big, with mountains and rivers, land and oceans, plains and deserts, and it is difficult for us to reach all the places in our lifetime.Personal footprints are sprinkled on this world, like a grain of sand, a piece of feather.

However, the world is so small that two strangers can be connected with only six people.

A long time ago, a German newspaper took on a challenge: to help a kebab owner in Frankfurt realize his stardom.The owner of the barbecue restaurant is very fond of movie star Marlon Brando. The task of this newspaper is to find out the relationship between the owner of the barbecue restaurant and his idol Marlon Brando through his personal relationship.

Almost everyone thinks this is impossible. How could a world-famous movie star get involved with a barbecue restaurant owner so easily?However, the employees of the newspaper finally proved that there were no more than six personal contacts between these two people with very different positions, statuses, and identities, and a personal connection was established.

It turned out that the owner of this barbecue restaurant was an Iraqi immigrant.Although he lives in Frankfurt, he has a friend who lives in California, the United States. It just so happens that the girlfriend of this friend’s colleague met a girl at a girls’ meeting, and that girl is the daughter of a film producer. The filmmaker had been involved in the filming of "This Man Has a Color," and there was a link between the rotisserie owner and Marlon Brando at this point: because that movie starred Marlon Brando.

Is this by chance or is there some necessary connection?

In 1967, the famous American sociologist Stanley Milgram put forward a famous hypothesis called "Small World Phenomenon" and designed a chain letter experiment.In the experiment, he randomly sent a set of chain letters to 160 people. He left the name of a stockbroker living in Boston in the letter. Approach that stockbroker friend.After the friend receives the letter, do the same.Eventually, most of the letters reached the stockbroker after five or six steps.

This is the "Small World Theory", also known as the "Six Dimensions Theory".This experiment fully proves that the relationship between the barbecue shop owner and Marlon Brando is not purely coincidental, and also shows that the world is not as big as imagined, because there are intricate relationships between people.This huge network of relationships includes all people, and no one is an island.

Therefore, success or failure is not a matter of one person, but to a greater extent depends on how much influence a person has and how much resources he can mobilize to pave the way for his own success.Interpersonal skills are particularly important.

Extensive and active communication is the key to perfecting one's interpersonal network.A word from a friend, a reminder, a piece of information, a concern or a little help, perhaps inadvertently, can provide a rare opportunity or inspiration.Behind every great winner there are other successful people, and every successful person will carefully weave a successful network.For a highly effective person, proactive networking is the key to building a good network.

Modern communication scholars believe that mutual benefit and mutual respect are the only way to create high-quality interpersonal relationships.The so-called "mutual benefit" means that no one should have the mentality of taking advantage of others. If you spend some money moderately to send a small gift or have a dinner with multiple people, you must adhere to the principle of mutual benefit.And "mutual respect" refers to respecting every inconspicuous little character around you, and looking at problems with a long-term perspective. The small good relationship formed today is likely to provide key help for future development.

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