A book that solves all men's health problems

Chapter 36 Illness comes like a mountain (2)
Therefore, working hard is for the country, for the society, but also for ourselves.A real man should be responsible for his family.The family is the cell of society. In this family, you have to take on the responsibility of supporting your family, you have to take on the responsibility of honoring your parents, you are also responsible for your marriage, and you are also responsible for your children.A real man is also responsible for his friends and relatives.When a loved one or friend needs your help, you should be the first to show up.Men's responsibilities are not allowed to escape, and the courage to take responsibility will allow men to learn many things that will benefit them throughout their lives, such as being brave, being strong, and never giving up.It can be said that responsibility is not a burden that bends a man's back, let alone a burden that hinders a man's progress.Taking responsibility will only allow men to get exercise, let men know how to accept the test given to them by fate, and make their weak shoulders stronger. 30-year-old men, of course, want to let themselves live a more free and easy life, but they must not forget that you are not only living for you alone, your family and society have placed high expectations on you.Less free and easy, more responsibility, you will find how valuable your life is! 3. You yourself are the best prescription for adjusting the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When encountering a fight between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must not simply and rudely accuse one party.In fact, this is a "degree" grasp, when to stand on the mother's side and when to stand on the wife's side; when to criticize both sides, and when to praise both sides.This "degree" must be handled well.

A 30-year-old man has an old man on the top, a young man on the bottom, and a treasure in the middle, and the most difficult thing to deal with is the relationship between the old man and the treasure.As the saying goes: "Every family has scriptures that are difficult to recite", and the "Sutra of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" is the most difficult scripture to recite in the family.Why is it so difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along harmoniously?From a psychological point of view, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a strong desire to monopolize the mother-in-law's son and daughter-in-law's husband.Both women want to have this man alone, so conflicts arise.The old lady spends her whole life on her precious son, and takes him for granted as her own, and does not want to share it with other women; He is also unwilling to share it with another woman, even his mother, which creates irreconcilable conflicts between the two women.On the surface, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the one who suffers the most, but when you think about it carefully, the biggest victim of conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually the man caught in the middle.It's a pity that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world have never thought about this issue deeply. On the surface, they all want to monopolize this man. It seems to be love, but in fact it is harm.The mother-in-law, son, and daughter-in-law take the son as the axis, and each of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law draws a shadowless thread from the son, and then revolves around this axis.If both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law turn in the same direction with the same strength, the son will be able to steer the rudder and prop the boat well in the middle, and the ferry will not be difficult.

If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a retrograde and reversed pattern, the two invisible lines of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will intertwine, and the son will lose his balance and stand unsteadily, the boat will be crooked and the sail will be tilted, and he will have to drift about in the wind and waves up.As the saying goes: "Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the whole family is harmonious." This sentence has double meanings: one is that the harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affects other interpersonal relationships in the whole family, such as husband and wife relationship, parent-child relationship, brother-sister relationship and grandparent-grandson relationship. The second is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most delicate and difficult relationship among family relationships.It has been said that happy families are alike, but unhappy families are very different.But one of them can be recognized by most men, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is similar between families.Some people may ask, whose fault is it that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has developed like this?If you had to find a culprit, it would be you, a big man.Maybe you will be very wronged, and you will suffer from this splint, but in the end it is your own fault.Yes, if you have to find a reason, it is your fault - you have not been a good son, and you have not been a good husband.If you want to be a good son, you can't be a good husband; if you want to be a good husband, you can't be a good son.

This is indeed a difficult task!As a beneficiary, a man can enjoy the meticulous care of his mother on the one hand, and the warmth and softness of his wife on the other; he has family affection in his left hand and love in his right hand. How can a man take all the good things in the world?Want to enjoy the harmonious situation where mother and daughter-in-law live together under the same roof, can a man coordinate the relationship without paying some time cost?How to coordinate this relationship?First of all, when encountering a fight between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must not simply and rudely accuse one party.In fact, this is a "degree" grasp, when to stand on the mother's side and when to stand on the wife's side; when to criticize both sides, and when to praise both sides.This "degree" must be handled well.Everyone understands the truth, but it is very difficult to implement it.Therefore, as a man, you are in this middle position. You must learn to behave yourself. You should not be controlled by two women. If you want to control two women, you should boast, coax, criticize, spend time Money spends money.If you can't even manage two women well, then stop working and learn about family management!One thing to remind is that in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a man should move slightly towards his wife.Of course, this requires your wife to be reasonable and sensible. If she is the kind of person who is domineering, intensified, has no principles, and has no age, then you have to be careful of going astray.

Specifically how to do it, you have to realize it in your life.What others tell you is always the experience of others, and you have to sum up your own experience.Only by improving your emotional intelligence through experience can you handle this complicated relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with ease, so that you can be a good son and a good husband. 4. To love her, let her know that your love is not necessarily all indulgence, and love is not all necessarily coddling.With exaggerated pampering and unconditional pampering, she will never understand how much you love her.Therefore, if you love her, let her know your love!When you live independently, you can only call it home if you have a woman in your family. This woman is your wife, your true love, and the person who will stay with you for the rest of your life.So how do you love her?Some people say that if you love your wife, don't bully her, but she can bully you, and she bullies you because she loves you!Some people say that to love your wife is to make her cry to you, and you have to coax her tirelessly until she bursts into laughter!Some people say that if you love your wife, don't leave her for more than 10 days!Some people also say that if you love your wife, don't yell at her in public or leave her alone!Others say that to love a wife is to teach her when she does something wrong, but to coax her afterwards!These all make sense, but these loves are not at the root.Love doesn't have to be all indulgence, and love doesn't have to be all coddling.

With exaggerated pampering and unconditional pampering, she will never understand how much you love her.Therefore, if you love her, let her know your love!To love her, you have to take practical actions, not just talk about it.Tell me who won't?If you love her, you must prove it to her. This proof is very important to you.You said you loved her, but you never cooked a meal for her, don't say that your mother has silently cooked meals for your father all her life.Gentlemen, how many times the earth has turned, you can't always live in the generation of your parents.The most beautiful love story in the world is not that I have loved you for 1 years; it is that I love you, but I have never cooked a meal for you.Therefore, if you love her, you must put it into action, otherwise speaking is tantamount to saying nothing.Maybe the dishes you make are not satisfactory.It's okay, she doesn't care.Because no one can cook dishes like a chef from the very beginning.If you love her, you need to communicate more.Without communication, she will never know how much you love her, and a life without communication will make the flower of your love wither slowly!Love her, and say your love out loud.It looks difficult, but it's actually nothing.No matter thirty, forty, seventy or eighty, speak your love again at the right time.

It can be on Valentine's Day every year, it can be on your wedding anniversary, or when you want to say that sentence, say to her loudly-"I love you"!love her?Say your love now and let her know how much you love her! 5. Give yourself some parent-child time - let your children grow and progress together with you, build a happy and complete family, and raise a healthy child, which is a time-consuming and labor-intensive project.In this process, many women actually do not require their husbands to be rich or outstanding in their talents. The most important thing is that he can love himself, his children, and his family with his heart.When your little baby comes into this world, you, as a father, have an extra responsibility on your shoulders. You start to take good care of him or her. You have to care for this elf bestowed on you by God every day. At this time, you have to work even harder Earn milk money.Although it is a man's responsibility to make money to support his family, don't neglect the growth and progress of his children. This is also the responsibility of a good father.After going through the era of parenting where mothers played the leading role, people are now increasingly aware that the role and role of fathers are irreplaceable.Children not only need delicate maternal love, but also rough fatherly love.Both are essential to raising a baby with a sound personality and a healthy mind.

Therefore, as a father, no matter how busy you are, don't forget to spend more parent-child time!I have a 30-year-old male friend who is engaged in software development and is considered a fashionable SOHO family.Although working from home saves you from the hardships of driving and horses, it is not easy to work.However, working from home is also convenient, allowing for a lot of parent-child time.After being with the child for a while, the young father knows the child's living habits like the back of his hand, even better than his wife.For example, he knows exactly when the child should drink water, when the child should eat, when the child should add clothes, and when the child should sleep.We all laughed and called him "Super Dad"!When there is nothing to do, this dad will take the whole family to the park to have fun.Although there is no help from the elderly in the family, the children are having fun, the wife is also relieved, and the whole family is enjoying themselves.When the child grows up gradually, how to educate the child?The most common mistake Chinese parents make is to willingly sacrifice everything for their children and regard educating children as their lifelong career.In fact, the best way is to let nature take its course and do nothing. This is not a bad way of education.In addition to giving children the necessary care in life, the more important concern of parents for their children should be to "accompany their children to grow up".Children should learn and grow from life. Parents should also have their own career, communication, and life, and pass on the correct information to their children through these.

This can give him (or her) a happy, active, and healthy life.Building a happy and complete family and raising a healthy child is a time-consuming and labor-intensive project.In this process, many women actually don’t require their husbands to be rich or talented. The most important thing is that he can love himself, his children, and his family with his heart. 6. More care is the most delicious filial piety soup. There are some things in the world that can be made up for, and some things can never be made up for. The famous saying "Children want to raise but relatives don't wait" will tell you how painful it is!Honoring parents is the most important content in the ideological and moral lessons we learned when we were young, but many people ignore it and forget it when they grow up.

Do you have this feeling now: you have been married for several years, and although you are not far from your parents, but because of too many things and too much work, you always have no time to go home; It doesn't matter if one time is less or less... One day when we heard a certain song, we suddenly realized that we had been wrong all along.So, when I came home, I stood outside the door, always feeling guilty, like a child who has done something wrong, feeling uneasy, as if someone is blaming me.When knocking on the door, I wondered what my parents were doing at home.When I entered the house, I saw my father's gray hair and my mother's aging face. There was a feeling of heartache, which made people feel heartbroken.There are some things that we cannot understand when we are young, and when we understand, we are no longer young.

There are some things in the world that can be made up, and some things can never be made up. The famous saying "the child wants to support but the relative will not wait" will tell you how painful it is!Now, hurry up and do a filial piety for your parents!Maybe it's a mansion, maybe it's a brick; maybe it's a swan goose across the ocean, maybe it's a message close at hand; maybe it's a table of delicacies, maybe it's a wild fruit or a small flower; maybe it's a colorful flower. Shengshi Huayi may be a pair of clean old shoes; it may be tens of thousands of money, or it may be just a coin with body temperature in it... Any expression in this way is actually the same weight of filial piety, On the balance of "filial piety", they are equivalent.Or, filial piety does not care about the form.

Parents have worked hard all their lives, and what they want to "repay" is often not material things, but the care of their children.For those men who are on the go all day, what we want to say is: Parents understand that it is not easy for you to work and live outside. Children's thoughts.Go home and check it out!Don't think they are too nagging. When you become a father, you will know the true meaning of the phrase "poor parents in the world".In the eyes of your parents, you are still a child, but they are really old. Now you have to make them happy. Maybe just go home and take a look to make them feel at ease. It is easy to do.A man who really cares about his parents, no matter how hard or tired he is, will find time to go home and have a look.This is also what a man who wants to achieve a lifetime of glory should and must do.

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