Stimulate positive energy
Chapter 14 Inclusion: Empowering Yourself
Chapter 14 Inclusion: Empowering Yourself
Tolerance is a beautiful emotion and a noble state.Tolerance can turn a deserter into a warrior, turn an enemy into a friend, make friendship more pure, and make a family more harmonious...Tolerance can make you have the potential to embrace all rivers, help you absorb more positive energy, and become a better person from now on. more powerful.Your tolerance can also be exchanged for the tolerance of others.The weaving of a better life is inseparable from the power of tolerance, let us pass on positive energy together!
Tolerance, the most conquering personality charm
"All plants and trees grow with love, and the universe is full of tolerance." This means the tolerance of nature.The same is true for people, everyone has a big heart, as Hugo said, "The widest thing in the world is the ocean, the wider than the ocean is the sky, and the wider than the sky is the human mind." There are too many temptations in life, and I am dazzled by money and profit, so I only think of myself and learn to care about others, so naturally I have no tolerance.This is terrible, it confines a person to his own narrow place, which is damp, dark, poisonous and vermin, and will cause disease after a long time.
Confucius believed that a truly successful person has the five virtues of tolerance, respect, integrity, sensitivity, and generosity, and tolerance is the first of the five virtues.A person who learns tolerance, he learns to live; a person who understands tolerance, he knows happiness; a person who tolerates others all the time, he is a deep and thick person.Because of his inclusive mind, he can gather popularity from all directions, making his aura soar all the way; his mountainous and fine-grained aura can absorb the energy of all things and people, so that his positive energy can be improved step by step.This is what we often say, "Mount Tai does not reject the fine soil, so it can reach its height; the river and the sea do not choose the trickle, so it can reach its depth."How broad a person's heart is, how big his stage is; how much tolerance, how much he has.If a person has such a fraternal heart and a broad mind, his personality charm will be irresistible to everyone.
Tolerance means to forgive other people's mistakes, to forget hatred, to not care about everything, to applaud competitors... Tolerance of others' faults is not to agree with others' faults, nor to prompt others to make mistakes or encourage others to make mistakes. Instead, allow others to make mistakes and urge others to make better mistakes.People who cannot tolerate always stare at other people's faults, and care about trivial matters, so that while bringing unhappiness to others, they also make themselves surrounded by anger, anger, hostility, and hatred. The act of cocooning ourselves is damaging our health, consuming our vitality, and reducing our quality of life anytime and anywhere. We can only be trapped in the negative energy network weaved by ourselves, struggling in endless pain .A tolerant person can not only tolerate the faults of others, but also has self-knowledge. He will often analyze himself on the road of life, encourage himself, correct shortcomings, think according to his knowledge, act according to his ability, seize opportunities, and enhance his charm , Absorb positive energy and create brilliance.
Tolerance not only puts oneself in a happy mood, but also has the power to change a person's life.
Once, a thief was found in a meditation hall. Everyone thought it was unforgivable and asked the hall master to drive him away.The hall master monk nodded, but did not deal with it.The thief saw that there were no serious consequences, so he attacked again. Everyone asked the hall master to drive him away again, but the monk nodded and still did not deal with it.The third time, the thief stole something again. This time everyone said angrily that if the thief was not driven out of the meditation hall, they would all leave.Upon hearing this, the great monk said, "You all leave and let this thief stay. You are all sound people, and after you leave, you can still find a place to stay. But this thief is not healthy physically and mentally after all. I will drive him away. Where can he go? Besides, this meditation hall of mine is the compassion taming ground of Buddhism, I can't tolerate him, how can this world tolerate him?"
When the thief heard it, he realized it, and changed his mind from then on.
Tolerance is a kind of state, a kind of magnanimity, a kind of spirit; it is a kind of spiritual cohesion, a kind of kindness crystallization, and a precipitation of the perfection of human nature!It is the temperament of pandan being trampled down but leaving fragrance on the soles of the feet!With this tolerance, people can go through the four seasons safely, walk in the garden and watch the flowers bloom with a smile, comprehend the true meaning of life, gain insight into the weaknesses of human nature, walk out of the blind spots of life, and live a wonderful life.
Open-minded, insulator of negative energy
Open-mindedness is a kind of tolerance, an optimistic boldness, a free and easy attitude, an excellent virtue, and a supreme state.From Wang Wei's "walking to the poor water, sit and watch the clouds rise", from Ouyang Xiu's "reading Su Shi's book, I don't feel sweating, so happy! The old man should avoid the road and let him go out of the way", all of which show Show a kind of detached open-mindedness.
An open-minded person does not care about the gains and losses of a city or a place. He gains indifferently and loses calmly, so he can achieve great things.An open-minded person is open-minded, optimistic in dealing with things, not happy with things, not sad with himself.Open-minded people can bend and stretch, know how to advance and retreat, and can withstand setbacks and failures.For an open-minded person, the tree of life is evergreen, and happiness and joy are always around him.An open-minded person can bring optimism and upward emotions to others and inject positive energy into others; he can give those who have made mistakes the opportunity and courage to correct and expel negative energy from others.
However, in life, how many people can truly be open-minded?In fact, many people know that being open-minded can bring them happiness, but they can't stop all kinds of suspicions, and even fall into worldly disputes and cannot extricate themselves, and they don't have a stable life every day.Some people are heartbroken because they lost the good things they once had, some people feel jealous because they can't get what others have, some people feel guilty because they made mistakes yesterday, and some people feel revenge because others hurt them... But they don't know what they are doing now. , is to stimulate the negative energy in the body, the more entangled in these emotions, the more negative energy will be stimulated, until the whole person is surrounded by negative energy.At this time, they are like this: irritable, anxious, nervous, everything is not going well, seeing no one is pleasing to the eye, always wanting to kick chairs, and not having a good day.This is the consequence of not being open-minded enough.
There is a proverb in the West: "The same thing, if you think about it, it's heaven, but if you don't think about it, it's hell." Then let's look at the difference between heaven and hell.
Once, the home of Franklin Roosevelt, who was the president of the United States, was robbed and many things were stolen.His friends wrote to comfort him.Roosevelt wrote back and said: "Thank you for your letter to comfort me. I am safe now. Because: first, the thief stole my things, but did not hurt my life; second, the thief stole some of my things, not all of them. ; thirdly, and most fortunately, he was the thief, not me."
The moon is cloudy and sunny, and people have misfortunes and blessings.In this world, there are always gains and losses. Since gains and losses are unpredictable and fortunes and fortunes are unpredictable, we might as well be more open-minded, just like Roosevelt.Roosevelt created a "paradise" for us.
In the state of Wu during the Three Kingdoms period, there was a man who was both civil and military and suave, and that was the well-known Zhou Yu.Although he was wise and brave, and was once famous all over the world for the Battle of Chibi, but there is a sky beyond the sky, and there are people beyond people, he was defeated again and again by Zhuge Liang's men.Every time, he was not reconciled to his failure, so he always planned to harm Zhuge Liang, but every time he shot himself in the foot.In the end, he still lost to Zhuge Liang, so he sighed "Since Yu was born, He Shengliang", he vomited blood and died.
Zhou Yu's untimely death was due to his narrow-mindedness, and he always couldn't figure out why there is a sky outside the sky, and why there are people outside the people.Just because he lacks an open-minded heart, all his thoughts are focused on how to deal with and how to defeat his opponents, thus forgetting that there are not only opponents in life, but also wives, children and friends, as well as caring and admiring him. In addition, after repeated defeats in the contest with the opponent, they plan, accumulate anger, accumulate fire and become ill, and finally "die before their ambitions are fulfilled".Zhou Yu brought us a "hell".
Modern health science also believes that nature is vast and boundless, and human desires are endless. If you want to pursue infinite material benefits with a limited life, it is bound to be exhausting and harm your health.Therefore, just for the sake of health, we must also learn to be open-minded.Open-mindedness not only guarantees health, but is itself a sign of mental health.
According to the survey results of experts on hundreds of healthy elderly over 80 years old in my country, they all have one thing in common, that is, they are cheerful, open-minded, open-minded and secure, full of confidence in life, and tolerant of misunderstandings.
That's right, those open-minded people always have a healthy and progressive mind and a strong body. They are unrestrained, magnanimous, enthusiastic, and cheerful, and will never be troubled by trivial things in life; Thank you, and laugh when you hear slander; an open-minded person is not afraid of ridicule, slander, attack, and frame, and walks his own way without hesitation; .In front of open-minded people, you don't have to worry about saying a wrong sentence, and you don't have to worry about doing a wrong thing, because they know that it is impossible for anyone not to make mistakes.
Open-minded people have amazing immunity, and they are insulated from negative energies such as bitterness, snobbery, greed, and jealousy. They are people who love others and are loved by others.When people make friends, they usually look for open-minded people.
say goodbye to hate with forgiveness
In ancient Greek mythology, there was a mighty hero named Hercules.One day, when he was walking on a mountain road, he found a bag-like object in the middle of the road that was in the way, so he kicked it. Unexpectedly, instead of being kicked away, the object swelled up instead.Hercules was a little angry, so he stepped on it hard, trying to crush it, but it swelled up a lot.Hercules became furious, and took a wooden stick as thick as a bowl and smashed it down. The thing doubled in size, and finally it was so big that it blocked the road.
A saint passed by and quickly said to Hercules: "My friend, don't touch it, ignore it, and go away from it! It's called a "hate bag". If you don't touch it, it will be as small as before. Remember it, violate it, it will swell up, block your way forward, and be hostile to you to the end!
No one is perfect, and hatred may have been planted in anyone's heart.Hatred is only a little bit at the beginning, if we don't care about it, ignore it, it will be like a seed without rain and dew, it will not take root; It will be full of hatred, and it will not be able to hold other things.When we hate to the point of losing our minds, the consequences will be disastrous.But I don't know when it started, hardworking, kind, and simple people were full of hatred in their hearts.Some people hate the rich and officials, and some people hate the property market, the stock market, and oil prices. These "hatred" emotions make people feel a lot of pressure.However, can "hatred" play any role?cannot.Hatred and hatred, not only cannot make the things you hate disappear, but will cause great harm to your body and mind, increasing the negative energy in your body.
Hatred is a double-edged sword. When you take revenge on others, you will also be hurt. Therefore, the result of "revenge for each other" is "both losers".Mahatma Gandhi said: "If everyone took 'a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye' as the rule of life, the whole world would have been in chaos." Let go of hatred, choose to forgive, and the dead knot entangled in your heart will be untied suddenly.
During World War II, a troop encounters an enemy army in a forest. After a fierce battle, two soldiers lose contact with the troop.The two fighters are from the same town.
The two trekked hard in the forest, they encouraged and comforted each other.More than ten days have passed, but there is still no contact with the troops.One day they killed a deer, and survived a few days on the deer meat, but perhaps the war caused the animals to flee or be killed, and they never saw any animals after that.What little venison they had left was carried on the backs of the younger warriors.On this day, they met the enemy again in the forest. After a fierce battle, they avoided the enemy skillfully.
Just when they thought they were safe, they heard a gunshot, and the young soldier walking in front was shot—fortunately, he was injured in the shoulder!The soldiers behind ran over in panic. He was so frightened that he could not speak coherently. He hugged his comrade's body and burst into tears, and quickly tore off a piece of cloth from his shirt to bandage his comrade's wound.
At night, the uninjured soldier kept chanting his mother's name, his eyes fixed.They all thought they couldn't get through that test. Although they were very hungry, none of them touched the venison around them.God knows how they passed that night.The next day, large forces rescued them.
After 30 years, the wounded soldier said: "I know who fired that shot, he was my comrade in arms. When he hugged me, I touched his hot barrel. I don't understand how , why did he shoot me? But I forgave him that night. I knew he wanted to eat the venison, but I knew better that he did it so he could live to see his mother. For the next 30 years, I pretended not to know The war was too cruel, and his mother still didn't wait for him to come back, so I paid homage to the old man with him. On that day, he knelt down and asked me to forgive him, but I didn't let him go on. We Having been friends for decades, I have no reason not to forgive him."
Forgiving others is also a kind of comfort to one's own soul.However, some people think that if you do not forgive the other party for their mistakes, he will suffer from guilt and he will be punished as he should.What about yourself?Have you thought about how you will live?In fact, it is you who is really suffering, because you do not forgive the other party, so you are always in a bad mood of blaming the other party. For this reason, you are brooding, depressed, restless, waiting for opportunities to retaliate, and your whole body is full of negative energy.The deeper the hatred, the stronger the negative energy acting on you, which is not only a kind of harm to the mind, but also unfavorable to the health of the body.
Legend has it that an African tribe practiced forgiveness as a ritual.When someone made a mistake, he was taken to the center of the village to be praised by everyone.All the fallen men, women and children stopped what they were doing, surrounded the person who made mistakes, and took turns listing the good things he had done.His good deeds and virtues are sung to the fullest, and every detail is spared.The ceremony eventually developed into a joyous celebration, welcoming him back to the group.
This is a very wonderful thing, turning punishment into warmth and hurt into peace.Those who made mistakes were not abandoned or hit, and the whole village became a united whole again.Practice has proved that forgiveness cannot change the past, but it can change the future.
If every corner of the world is like that tribe in Africa, then the world will be a real paradise on earth, and everyone will live happily and happily.
To help the opponent is to strengthen oneself
Mencius said: "If you go out, you will be invincible and foreign patients will be invincible, and the country will perish." It means that if a country does not have a strong enemy country outside it, this country will definitely perish.This shows that competition is essential in society.For an enterprise, only with external competition can the enterprise remain vigilant, keep making progress, and save the enterprise from the danger of extinction.As for individuals, only with strong opponents can we truly improve our level and ability, and can truly make us stronger.
Deer herds and antelopes run faster because of the existence of lions, wolves, tigers and leopards; "Pepsi Cola" rose rapidly because of its successful rival "Coca-Cola"; the founder of Japan's Sanyo, Kaoru Iue, is introducing himself to the guests At the same time as the enterprise, always take a respectful tone and spend almost the same time to introduce Sony, Panasonic, Sharp Electric, the strong competitors in the same industry... So, what are the competitors?If you are a boxer on the field, your opponent is the one you want to fight; if you are an explorer, your opponent is yourself; if you are a leader on the runway, your opponent is the limit record that needs to be refreshed.There is never a shortage of opponents in the arena. A weak opponent may make you win the championship, but a strong opponent can make you stronger!
However, in the eyes of some people, when the word "opponent" is mentioned, all they show is hatred, and even gnash their teeth.They believe that competitors are enemies and enemies.Such people do not understand the true meaning of their opponents, they just regard their opponents as a stumbling block on their way to success, and wish to deal with them hard, knock them down or eliminate them, so that they will no longer appear in front of their eyes.As everyone knows, most of the time, it is not our friends who send us to the podium, but our opponents!Because of the existence of our opponents, we will redouble our efforts, work hard, and finally win the championship in one fell swoop.
When he was in elementary school, Nobel spent almost all his time on study, but his grades were always ranked No.2 in the class behind his classmate Bai Ji.Once, Bai Ji was sick in the hospital and asked for leave. He didn't come to school for half a month. His classmates thought that there was no rival for Nobel and he would definitely win the first place in the next exam.Nobel ignored these, but just studied harder, listened more attentively in class, and carefully recorded every key point the teacher said, for fear of missing a little bit of knowledge.
When Bai Ji recovered and returned to school, the class took another exam, and the result was still that Bai Ji was the first, followed by Nobel.The classmates all said that Kua Boji was a genius, and he was able to keep No.1 after taking such a long vacation.Bai Ji shook his head and said, "Actually, I got such good grades with the help of Nobel. Every day after school, he would send me the class notes without reservation." The students couldn't believe it. He glared at Noble in disbelief: "You actually gave up the first chance to help your opponent instead?" Noble smiled and said nothing.
Later, the two were admitted to the best middle school in the local area. Bai Ji recalled the past, went to Nobel and said, "Thank you for your help, I was able to keep up with the progress of teaching without missing homework!" Nobel smiled, sincerely Said: "I should thank you for leading me in front of me, so I have the motivation to surpass myself and get into a satisfactory middle school!" The two smiled at each other and became lifelong friends.
As an adult, Nobel became a famous Swedish chemist, engineer, and inventor.Because of the invention of dynamite and a series of military equipment, he became the richest man at that time.But Nobel still did not forget to help others, share achievements with his "peers", and even donated all his property to set up a fund to reward those who have made outstanding contributions to chemistry, physics, medicine and other disciplines in the world.
An assistant asked suspiciously: "The 'peers' you rewarded with awards are actually your academic 'opponents'! If they all achieve great achievements, won't this dilute your status and influence?" Nobel shook his head and said thoughtfully: "To be successful, you need friends; and to achieve great success, you need strong opponents!"
Competitors can not only compete with each other, but also promote each other.Sometimes, helping your opponent succeed is actually helping you become stronger.
The Austrian writer Franz Kafka said: "A real opponent will instill a lot of courage in you." Perhaps the best interpretation of this sentence is Lutz, who was called "the greatest opponent in Olympic history" The world is moved.
In the long jump competition of the 1936 Berlin Olympics, the world record holder American athlete Owens encountered a strong challenge from German player Lutz.When Lutz broke the world record in the first attempt, Owens was in a mess and made mistakes in the next few attempts.When he was about to despair, someone patted him on the shoulder.Owens looked back and was taken aback. This person was Lutz.Owens thought that Lutz came to see him for a joke, but he didn't expect him to tell him what the problem was and help him overcome it one by one. In the end, they all got satisfactory results.When the results were announced, Lutz gave Owens a warm hug and hailed his name.
Opponents can be friends, and when the competition is extremely fierce, no one will let anyone else go, but outside the arena, they care about each other, respect each other, learn from each other, and talk about everything; opponents can also be mentors, learning from each other in the competition.After the badminton champion Lin Dan won the 2012 Olympic Games, apart from the arrogance and strength of "Super Dan", he also called Li Zongwei a "great opponent" and believed that it was this "great opponent" who made it. Today's "Super Dan".As for Lin Dan and Li Zongwei, they are really fighting for life and death in the game, but in daily life, they are very good friends. Whenever they have the opportunity, they will discuss badminton playing methods and techniques.
In short, the opponent is the challenge we must face for our growth and success. Without the pressure of the opponent, there will be no motivation to move forward.Therefore, only by sincerely helping your opponent, treating your opponent well, and applauding your opponent can you show your demeanor, absorb incomparable positive energy, and become stronger yourself.
replace blame with appreciation
Appreciation means watching with eyes, listening with ears, and appreciating the beauty of this world with heart.There are landscapes everywhere in nature. When we stop at a flower or a grass, we will appreciate the perfection of nature and forget the troubles in life.
Appreciating others is a kind of respect, and being appreciated is a kind of recognition.In life, we long to be appreciated, but we neglect to appreciate others.However, appreciation is mutual, and only by appreciating others can one be appreciated.More often, we are good at discovering the shortcomings of others, and even like to find our own happiness in the misfortune of others.This is a bad emotion coming out to make trouble.Think about it, you always find fault with others, are you happy now?You must be sullen, loud, gesticulating, and angry.Doing so can be said to be detrimental to others.You might as well replace blame with appreciation or encouragement, which is tens of millions of times more powerful than yelling loudly, and can get twice the result with half the effort.
At the first parent meeting, the kindergarten teacher said: "Your son has ADHD and can't even sit on the bench for 3 minutes. You'd better take him to the hospital to have a look." On the way home, the son asked his mother, the teacher What was said.My mother had a sore nose and almost shed tears.Because of the 30 children in the class, only her son behaved the worst; only to him, the teacher showed disdain.However, she still told her son: "The teacher praised you and said that the baby could not sit on the bench for one minute, but now it could take three minutes. Other mothers envy your mother very much, because the whole class is only for the progress of the baby ." , the son ate two bowls of rice for the first time, and did not let his mother feed it.
My son is in primary school.At the parent meeting, the teacher said: "There are 50 students in the class. Your son ranked 40th in this math test. We suspect that he has some mental retardation. You'd better take him to the hospital for a check." Walked out of the classroom , mother shed tears.However, when she returned home, she said to her son sitting at the table: "The teacher is full of confidence in you. He said, you are not a stupid child. As long as you are more careful, you will surpass your deskmate. This time your tablemate is ranked 21st." When she said this, the mother found that the son's gloomy eyes were suddenly filled with light, and his frustrated face stretched out.She even found that since then, her son was so sensible that she was surprised, as if he had grown up a lot.The next day at school, my son went earlier than usual.
When the child enters junior high school, there will be another parent-teacher meeting.The mother sat in her son's seat and waited for the teacher to call her son's name, because every parent meeting, her son's name was always called among the ranks of poor students.However, this time it was beyond her expectation. She didn't hear her son's name until the end of the parent meeting.She was not used to it, so she asked the teacher when she was leaving, and the teacher told her: "According to your son's current grades, it is a bit dangerous to enter the key high school." After hearing this, she walked out of the school gate in surprise, and at this time she found her son waiting for her.Walking on the road, she held her son's shoulders, feeling an indescribable sweetness in her heart.She told her son: "The head teacher is very satisfied with you. He said that as long as you work hard, you have a good chance of being admitted to a key high school."
Graduated from high school.When the first batch of college admission letters came out, the school called and asked my son to come to the school.She had a premonition that her son was admitted to the first batch of key universities, because when she applied for the exam, she told her son that she believed he could be admitted to a key university.When her son came back from school, he handed her an express mail stamped with the Tsinghua University Admissions Office, but suddenly turned around and ran to his room and burst into tears.The son cried and said: "Mom, I know I'm not a smart child, but you are the only one in this world who can appreciate me...even though those are all lies to me." Unable to hold back, she turned the grievances condensed in her heart for more than ten years into tears, let them flow down, and hit the envelope in her hand... Every time she heard the teacher's words, the mother must feel uncomfortable, but she did not blame her son for "why even Can't sit still for 3 minutes", "Why is it ranked 40th", "Why don't you work hard to get into a key high school", but replace blame with appreciation and encouragement, so that your son can grow up in an atmosphere of appreciation.The son also felt that his mother has been weaving beautiful "lies" with love for many years, in order to convince himself that as long as he works hard, he can make progress and gain appreciation and praise.The son likes his mother's "appreciation". He chose to believe his mother's "lie" and did not give up on himself. He kept his mother's encouragement and appreciation deeply in his heart, and let them always remind him to keep working hard and motivate him to keep moving forward. I failed my mother's good intentions and won the victory by my own hard work.
In life, appreciating and being appreciated is a source of interactive power. The appreciator must have a heart of joy, benevolence, and the kindness of adult beauty;What a relief to see positive energy emanating from both sides.
Turgenev once read a novel called "Childhood" in a magazine he accidentally picked up while hunting. He appreciated it very much and loved it very much.After inquiring about the author, he gave him great appreciation and affirmation: "If you can continue to write, your future must be limitless!" Gniev's appreciation suddenly ignited the flame in his heart, regained his self-confidence and the value of life, so he wrote it out of hand, and finally became a world-renowned artist and thinker.He is Leo Tolstoy.
The opposite of appreciation is indifference and denigration.Bacon said: "The appreciators have morning glow, dewdrops and perennial flowers in their hearts, while those who ignore them freeze their hearts, dry up all seas, and barren mountains." Appreciating other people's conversations will improve our eloquence; appreciating others' generosity will open up Our hearts; appreciating the good deeds of others, will purify our hearts.Let us appreciate more in life, be good at finding and discovering the advantages of others, be less critical, less contemptuous, more trusting, and more enthusiastic. You will find that it is not difficult to appreciate others.
Smile, a kind of eternal positive energy
Carnegie said: "A smile can illuminate all who see it, like the sun passing through the dark clouds, bringing people warmth." Because a smile can break the deadlock, a smile can melt indifference, a smile can warm people's hearts, a smile You can play down the shortcomings, a smile can be exchanged for courage, and a smile can build confidence.
Smile has a very magical contagious effect. Your smile can infect the people around you and make them curl up their mouths.When you smile to everyone, your smile is infecting others and infecting yourself.Your smile may make some people feel inexplicable, but more people will feel very comfortable, and the corners of their mouths will definitely rise unconsciously.At this time, the world is warm, the sky is blue, and everyone is equal.Smiling can make the energy in the body move, mobilize all the active cells, and make people have a happy mood.This is the amazing effect of smiling.For others and ourselves, a smile is a kind of eternal positive energy.
The animals in the forest are good friends.The little bird sings for his friends, the elephant builds a house for his friends, and the little rabbit delivers letters for his friends... The little snail is very anxious, he can only crawl slowly on the ground, and can't do anything else.
The little rabbit walked by the little snail, and the little snail smiled at the little rabbit.The little rabbit said: "Little snail, your smile is so sweet." The little snail thought: "Yes, I can smile to my friends." The little snail thought again, "But, how can I let my friends see my smile?" Woolen cloth?"
The little snail came up with a good idea.The next day, he handed many letters to the little rabbit.The little rabbit sent the letter to the friends in the forest.The friends opened the letter, and inside was a painting.The little snail in the painting is smiling sweetly.Friends in the forest also followed the little snail and smiled. They said: "The little snail is really amazing! He gave everyone a smile."
The power of a smile is amazing.Where there is a smile, there is hope.Because a person's smile is the messenger of his good intentions, and sometimes it can turn a critical situation around and create miracles.
A woman living alone opened the door after hearing a knock on the door early in the morning, and she found a man with a knife staring at her viciously.She had an idea, smiled and said: "My friend, you are so hardworking, you came to sell kitchen knives so early." She let the man into the house as she spoke, and then said: "You are really like a kind neighbor of mine in the past. I'm very happy, you remind me of him. Do you want coffee or tea?" "Your knife is very beautiful, I like it, I want one..." The gangster with a murderous face gradually became kind and shy , he stammered a little: "Thank you, oh, thank you!"
In the end, the woman really bought the gleaming kitchen knife.The strange man hesitated for a moment with the money, ready to leave.The moment he turned to leave, he said, "Miss, I will always remember your smiles and compliments, because they will change my life!"
This is the power of a smile, which can shorten the distance between people and make people full of trust and gratitude.The woman not only saved her own life with a smile, but also changed the life course of the gangster.In this special moment, a smile is more useful than any behavior.That time when the sky fell apart, the earth shook and the mountains shook, the high-rise buildings were instantly reduced to rubble, and how many lives were crying for help under the ruins.A little boy was successfully rescued. At that moment, he smiled softly and saluted the soldiers with his dusty left hand; another girl was rescued, and she smiled and said to the rescuers: "Uncle, I am not afraid." , I will be brave!" Her smile became "the most beautiful smile in the earthquake".We like the upturned corners of our mouths, and more like the power it conveys: thank the people who saved me, I am fine, and I will live optimistically and strong... After a volcano in Africa erupted, the ensuing mudslides poured down , and quickly flowed to a small village not far from the foot of the mountain. Farmhouses, fertile fields, trees, everything has not escaped the disaster of being destroyed.The rolling mudslide woke up a 14-year-old girl from her sleep.At this time, the mudslide flowing into the house has risen to her neck.The little girl shows only her arms, neck and head.The rescuers who arrived in time surrounded her helplessly.Because for her bruised and bruised, every pull is undoubtedly a greater physical injury.At this moment, the house has already collapsed, and her parents were also killed by the mudslide. She is one of the few survivors in the village.When the reporter pointed the camera at her, she never called out the word "pain". Instead, she gritted her teeth and smiled, waving to the rescuers to thank her, with her arms making a "V" shape of victory.She firmly believed that the rescue force sent by the government would be able to save her.But the rescuers failed to rescue her from the impenetrable mudslide in the end.And she kept smiling and waving her hands until she was submerged by mudslides bit by bit.At the last moment of her life, there was no expression of pain and disappointment on her face, but a smile, and her arms kept the "V" shape.
The little girl's smile conveys to us a kind of strength, a kind of gratitude, and a kind of no regret for life from beginning to end... When others help you in trouble, your smile is gratitude and a power full of affection; If you accidentally step on you, your smile is forgiveness and the power of tolerance; when bad luck hits you, but you smile back, the smile becomes a strong and brave force!
No one likes to help, let alone trust, those who are frowning and sad all day long.And for those employees who feel pressure from their bosses, colleagues, clients or families, a smile can help them understand that there is hope for everything and a happy world.As long as you are busy and working, you cannot help but smile.
Smiling to people is an expression of civilization, it shows a kind of strength, restraint and suggestion.A young man who just learned to keep smiling said: "When I started smiling at my colleagues, everyone was very confused and surprised at first, and then they were delighted and praised. In the past two months, I have gained more happiness than in the past year. More. Now, I have developed the habit of smiling, and I find that everyone smiles at me, and people who used to be cold are now warm and friendly."
There is a flower that never fades in the world, that is a smile; there is an invincible magic in the world, that is a smile; there is an endless true love in life, that is a smile.Bloom your smile, build a bridge of heart-to-heart communication, and let heart-to-heart collide, you will have invisible energy and enjoy different scenery.
【Stimulate Positive Energy】Learn to tolerate and spread positive energy in all directions
In life, we have families and children, and we need a harmonious family relationship. We also need the friendship between friends and classmates, and the harmonious relationship between colleagues is also essential. We need to tolerate all these, otherwise our life will be It's a mess.To tolerate each other is actually to inject positive energy into the other party, guide the other party to correct shortcomings and mistakes in the tolerance of others, and at the same time become stronger.
Husband and wife need tolerance
When there are conflicts between husband and wife, it is often easy to attribute all the faults to one party, blindly complaining and holding grudges, and it is very painful for both of them.At this time, the two parties may wish to think differently and consider from the perspective of the other party, so that they can see the difficulty of the other party, find out that the other party's mistakes are not intentional, and discover their own shortcomings. So as to solve the problem more actively.For example, the two parties can make an agreement that if there is a conflict, don't quarrel, and discuss the solution, such as who is in charge of the inside and who is in charge of the outside, etc. When impulsive, don't talk about breaking up lightly, this kind of talk hurts feelings.As the saying goes, "It is difficult for an honest official to decide on family affairs." Even in a family, we need to be considerate, magnanimous, and tolerant of each other.
Parent-child needs tolerance
Some parents can't tolerate any mistakes made by their children. Excessive strictness and constant criticism will leave a bad influence and shadow on their children's growth.Parents may wish to adopt a tolerant attitude and give the child a chance to know, admit, and correct mistakes, and you will find that the child is always making progress.In fact, parents should make more changes, be more tolerant of their children's academic performance, remember that growth is more important than grades, and set an example of tolerance for their children.
tolerance among friends
Unhappiness between friends is more reflected in small things.Some people will be upset because of a joke made by a friend, or because they are late for a date, and these small problems are often easy to cause cracks in friendship.At this time, we might as well speak out the shortcomings of the other party sincerely and help him correct them. This is the way to get along with friends.Instead of saying nothing, just sulk alone, or even stop interacting with him, which will make both parties unhappy, and may also generate hostility and increase the negative energy of both parties. good thing.Therefore, we should tolerate the little mistakes of our friends, and use tolerance to build the most harmonious bridge between friends.
Compassion among classmates
Many of today's students are only children, and they have been spoiled and spoiled since they were young, which has caused them to have the bad habit of not knowing how to be modest and having to fight for everything for themselves.I don't understand a little thing, or a little misunderstanding of others, let alone tolerate it.In fact, when classmates get along, misunderstandings and small conflicts are inevitable. If everyone doesn't understand, they will make a lot of noise, and in the end it will only hurt the feelings between classmates.Between classmates, we need mutual understanding, mutual help, and mutual tolerance. Maybe this is not easy to do, but just learn slowly, think more about the help and happiness that your classmates have brought to you, and enlarge these See, and remember the benefits of your classmates every day, and you can do it.
Colleagues need tolerance
When we go to work every day, we inevitably have to deal with colleagues.And some colleagues are very "gossip", some like to gossip, and some like to make small reports, which is really unpleasant.In fact, what they do is trivial, and you don't need to pay attention to it.If it involves you, you don't have to pay too much attention, maybe they don't have any malicious intentions at all, they just can't control their mouths.If you quarrel with them or confront them, it will not only affect your work, but also affect your personal image in the workplace. More importantly, it will increase your negative energy and torture you physically and mentally.At this time, show your demeanor, consider the overall situation, put work first in everything, don't care about them, and give them some tolerance, so that you can get along harmoniously.
Be an inclusive person, so that you don't have so many worries and worries, and let yourself pass more positive energy to others.
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Tolerance is a beautiful emotion and a noble state.Tolerance can turn a deserter into a warrior, turn an enemy into a friend, make friendship more pure, and make a family more harmonious...Tolerance can make you have the potential to embrace all rivers, help you absorb more positive energy, and become a better person from now on. more powerful.Your tolerance can also be exchanged for the tolerance of others.The weaving of a better life is inseparable from the power of tolerance, let us pass on positive energy together!
Tolerance, the most conquering personality charm
"All plants and trees grow with love, and the universe is full of tolerance." This means the tolerance of nature.The same is true for people, everyone has a big heart, as Hugo said, "The widest thing in the world is the ocean, the wider than the ocean is the sky, and the wider than the sky is the human mind." There are too many temptations in life, and I am dazzled by money and profit, so I only think of myself and learn to care about others, so naturally I have no tolerance.This is terrible, it confines a person to his own narrow place, which is damp, dark, poisonous and vermin, and will cause disease after a long time.
Confucius believed that a truly successful person has the five virtues of tolerance, respect, integrity, sensitivity, and generosity, and tolerance is the first of the five virtues.A person who learns tolerance, he learns to live; a person who understands tolerance, he knows happiness; a person who tolerates others all the time, he is a deep and thick person.Because of his inclusive mind, he can gather popularity from all directions, making his aura soar all the way; his mountainous and fine-grained aura can absorb the energy of all things and people, so that his positive energy can be improved step by step.This is what we often say, "Mount Tai does not reject the fine soil, so it can reach its height; the river and the sea do not choose the trickle, so it can reach its depth."How broad a person's heart is, how big his stage is; how much tolerance, how much he has.If a person has such a fraternal heart and a broad mind, his personality charm will be irresistible to everyone.
Tolerance means to forgive other people's mistakes, to forget hatred, to not care about everything, to applaud competitors... Tolerance of others' faults is not to agree with others' faults, nor to prompt others to make mistakes or encourage others to make mistakes. Instead, allow others to make mistakes and urge others to make better mistakes.People who cannot tolerate always stare at other people's faults, and care about trivial matters, so that while bringing unhappiness to others, they also make themselves surrounded by anger, anger, hostility, and hatred. The act of cocooning ourselves is damaging our health, consuming our vitality, and reducing our quality of life anytime and anywhere. We can only be trapped in the negative energy network weaved by ourselves, struggling in endless pain .A tolerant person can not only tolerate the faults of others, but also has self-knowledge. He will often analyze himself on the road of life, encourage himself, correct shortcomings, think according to his knowledge, act according to his ability, seize opportunities, and enhance his charm , Absorb positive energy and create brilliance.
Tolerance not only puts oneself in a happy mood, but also has the power to change a person's life.
Once, a thief was found in a meditation hall. Everyone thought it was unforgivable and asked the hall master to drive him away.The hall master monk nodded, but did not deal with it.The thief saw that there were no serious consequences, so he attacked again. Everyone asked the hall master to drive him away again, but the monk nodded and still did not deal with it.The third time, the thief stole something again. This time everyone said angrily that if the thief was not driven out of the meditation hall, they would all leave.Upon hearing this, the great monk said, "You all leave and let this thief stay. You are all sound people, and after you leave, you can still find a place to stay. But this thief is not healthy physically and mentally after all. I will drive him away. Where can he go? Besides, this meditation hall of mine is the compassion taming ground of Buddhism, I can't tolerate him, how can this world tolerate him?"
When the thief heard it, he realized it, and changed his mind from then on.
Tolerance is a kind of state, a kind of magnanimity, a kind of spirit; it is a kind of spiritual cohesion, a kind of kindness crystallization, and a precipitation of the perfection of human nature!It is the temperament of pandan being trampled down but leaving fragrance on the soles of the feet!With this tolerance, people can go through the four seasons safely, walk in the garden and watch the flowers bloom with a smile, comprehend the true meaning of life, gain insight into the weaknesses of human nature, walk out of the blind spots of life, and live a wonderful life.
Open-minded, insulator of negative energy
Open-mindedness is a kind of tolerance, an optimistic boldness, a free and easy attitude, an excellent virtue, and a supreme state.From Wang Wei's "walking to the poor water, sit and watch the clouds rise", from Ouyang Xiu's "reading Su Shi's book, I don't feel sweating, so happy! The old man should avoid the road and let him go out of the way", all of which show Show a kind of detached open-mindedness.
An open-minded person does not care about the gains and losses of a city or a place. He gains indifferently and loses calmly, so he can achieve great things.An open-minded person is open-minded, optimistic in dealing with things, not happy with things, not sad with himself.Open-minded people can bend and stretch, know how to advance and retreat, and can withstand setbacks and failures.For an open-minded person, the tree of life is evergreen, and happiness and joy are always around him.An open-minded person can bring optimism and upward emotions to others and inject positive energy into others; he can give those who have made mistakes the opportunity and courage to correct and expel negative energy from others.
However, in life, how many people can truly be open-minded?In fact, many people know that being open-minded can bring them happiness, but they can't stop all kinds of suspicions, and even fall into worldly disputes and cannot extricate themselves, and they don't have a stable life every day.Some people are heartbroken because they lost the good things they once had, some people feel jealous because they can't get what others have, some people feel guilty because they made mistakes yesterday, and some people feel revenge because others hurt them... But they don't know what they are doing now. , is to stimulate the negative energy in the body, the more entangled in these emotions, the more negative energy will be stimulated, until the whole person is surrounded by negative energy.At this time, they are like this: irritable, anxious, nervous, everything is not going well, seeing no one is pleasing to the eye, always wanting to kick chairs, and not having a good day.This is the consequence of not being open-minded enough.
There is a proverb in the West: "The same thing, if you think about it, it's heaven, but if you don't think about it, it's hell." Then let's look at the difference between heaven and hell.
Once, the home of Franklin Roosevelt, who was the president of the United States, was robbed and many things were stolen.His friends wrote to comfort him.Roosevelt wrote back and said: "Thank you for your letter to comfort me. I am safe now. Because: first, the thief stole my things, but did not hurt my life; second, the thief stole some of my things, not all of them. ; thirdly, and most fortunately, he was the thief, not me."
The moon is cloudy and sunny, and people have misfortunes and blessings.In this world, there are always gains and losses. Since gains and losses are unpredictable and fortunes and fortunes are unpredictable, we might as well be more open-minded, just like Roosevelt.Roosevelt created a "paradise" for us.
In the state of Wu during the Three Kingdoms period, there was a man who was both civil and military and suave, and that was the well-known Zhou Yu.Although he was wise and brave, and was once famous all over the world for the Battle of Chibi, but there is a sky beyond the sky, and there are people beyond people, he was defeated again and again by Zhuge Liang's men.Every time, he was not reconciled to his failure, so he always planned to harm Zhuge Liang, but every time he shot himself in the foot.In the end, he still lost to Zhuge Liang, so he sighed "Since Yu was born, He Shengliang", he vomited blood and died.
Zhou Yu's untimely death was due to his narrow-mindedness, and he always couldn't figure out why there is a sky outside the sky, and why there are people outside the people.Just because he lacks an open-minded heart, all his thoughts are focused on how to deal with and how to defeat his opponents, thus forgetting that there are not only opponents in life, but also wives, children and friends, as well as caring and admiring him. In addition, after repeated defeats in the contest with the opponent, they plan, accumulate anger, accumulate fire and become ill, and finally "die before their ambitions are fulfilled".Zhou Yu brought us a "hell".
Modern health science also believes that nature is vast and boundless, and human desires are endless. If you want to pursue infinite material benefits with a limited life, it is bound to be exhausting and harm your health.Therefore, just for the sake of health, we must also learn to be open-minded.Open-mindedness not only guarantees health, but is itself a sign of mental health.
According to the survey results of experts on hundreds of healthy elderly over 80 years old in my country, they all have one thing in common, that is, they are cheerful, open-minded, open-minded and secure, full of confidence in life, and tolerant of misunderstandings.
That's right, those open-minded people always have a healthy and progressive mind and a strong body. They are unrestrained, magnanimous, enthusiastic, and cheerful, and will never be troubled by trivial things in life; Thank you, and laugh when you hear slander; an open-minded person is not afraid of ridicule, slander, attack, and frame, and walks his own way without hesitation; .In front of open-minded people, you don't have to worry about saying a wrong sentence, and you don't have to worry about doing a wrong thing, because they know that it is impossible for anyone not to make mistakes.
Open-minded people have amazing immunity, and they are insulated from negative energies such as bitterness, snobbery, greed, and jealousy. They are people who love others and are loved by others.When people make friends, they usually look for open-minded people.
say goodbye to hate with forgiveness
In ancient Greek mythology, there was a mighty hero named Hercules.One day, when he was walking on a mountain road, he found a bag-like object in the middle of the road that was in the way, so he kicked it. Unexpectedly, instead of being kicked away, the object swelled up instead.Hercules was a little angry, so he stepped on it hard, trying to crush it, but it swelled up a lot.Hercules became furious, and took a wooden stick as thick as a bowl and smashed it down. The thing doubled in size, and finally it was so big that it blocked the road.
A saint passed by and quickly said to Hercules: "My friend, don't touch it, ignore it, and go away from it! It's called a "hate bag". If you don't touch it, it will be as small as before. Remember it, violate it, it will swell up, block your way forward, and be hostile to you to the end!
No one is perfect, and hatred may have been planted in anyone's heart.Hatred is only a little bit at the beginning, if we don't care about it, ignore it, it will be like a seed without rain and dew, it will not take root; It will be full of hatred, and it will not be able to hold other things.When we hate to the point of losing our minds, the consequences will be disastrous.But I don't know when it started, hardworking, kind, and simple people were full of hatred in their hearts.Some people hate the rich and officials, and some people hate the property market, the stock market, and oil prices. These "hatred" emotions make people feel a lot of pressure.However, can "hatred" play any role?cannot.Hatred and hatred, not only cannot make the things you hate disappear, but will cause great harm to your body and mind, increasing the negative energy in your body.
Hatred is a double-edged sword. When you take revenge on others, you will also be hurt. Therefore, the result of "revenge for each other" is "both losers".Mahatma Gandhi said: "If everyone took 'a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye' as the rule of life, the whole world would have been in chaos." Let go of hatred, choose to forgive, and the dead knot entangled in your heart will be untied suddenly.
During World War II, a troop encounters an enemy army in a forest. After a fierce battle, two soldiers lose contact with the troop.The two fighters are from the same town.
The two trekked hard in the forest, they encouraged and comforted each other.More than ten days have passed, but there is still no contact with the troops.One day they killed a deer, and survived a few days on the deer meat, but perhaps the war caused the animals to flee or be killed, and they never saw any animals after that.What little venison they had left was carried on the backs of the younger warriors.On this day, they met the enemy again in the forest. After a fierce battle, they avoided the enemy skillfully.
Just when they thought they were safe, they heard a gunshot, and the young soldier walking in front was shot—fortunately, he was injured in the shoulder!The soldiers behind ran over in panic. He was so frightened that he could not speak coherently. He hugged his comrade's body and burst into tears, and quickly tore off a piece of cloth from his shirt to bandage his comrade's wound.
At night, the uninjured soldier kept chanting his mother's name, his eyes fixed.They all thought they couldn't get through that test. Although they were very hungry, none of them touched the venison around them.God knows how they passed that night.The next day, large forces rescued them.
After 30 years, the wounded soldier said: "I know who fired that shot, he was my comrade in arms. When he hugged me, I touched his hot barrel. I don't understand how , why did he shoot me? But I forgave him that night. I knew he wanted to eat the venison, but I knew better that he did it so he could live to see his mother. For the next 30 years, I pretended not to know The war was too cruel, and his mother still didn't wait for him to come back, so I paid homage to the old man with him. On that day, he knelt down and asked me to forgive him, but I didn't let him go on. We Having been friends for decades, I have no reason not to forgive him."
Forgiving others is also a kind of comfort to one's own soul.However, some people think that if you do not forgive the other party for their mistakes, he will suffer from guilt and he will be punished as he should.What about yourself?Have you thought about how you will live?In fact, it is you who is really suffering, because you do not forgive the other party, so you are always in a bad mood of blaming the other party. For this reason, you are brooding, depressed, restless, waiting for opportunities to retaliate, and your whole body is full of negative energy.The deeper the hatred, the stronger the negative energy acting on you, which is not only a kind of harm to the mind, but also unfavorable to the health of the body.
Legend has it that an African tribe practiced forgiveness as a ritual.When someone made a mistake, he was taken to the center of the village to be praised by everyone.All the fallen men, women and children stopped what they were doing, surrounded the person who made mistakes, and took turns listing the good things he had done.His good deeds and virtues are sung to the fullest, and every detail is spared.The ceremony eventually developed into a joyous celebration, welcoming him back to the group.
This is a very wonderful thing, turning punishment into warmth and hurt into peace.Those who made mistakes were not abandoned or hit, and the whole village became a united whole again.Practice has proved that forgiveness cannot change the past, but it can change the future.
If every corner of the world is like that tribe in Africa, then the world will be a real paradise on earth, and everyone will live happily and happily.
To help the opponent is to strengthen oneself
Mencius said: "If you go out, you will be invincible and foreign patients will be invincible, and the country will perish." It means that if a country does not have a strong enemy country outside it, this country will definitely perish.This shows that competition is essential in society.For an enterprise, only with external competition can the enterprise remain vigilant, keep making progress, and save the enterprise from the danger of extinction.As for individuals, only with strong opponents can we truly improve our level and ability, and can truly make us stronger.
Deer herds and antelopes run faster because of the existence of lions, wolves, tigers and leopards; "Pepsi Cola" rose rapidly because of its successful rival "Coca-Cola"; the founder of Japan's Sanyo, Kaoru Iue, is introducing himself to the guests At the same time as the enterprise, always take a respectful tone and spend almost the same time to introduce Sony, Panasonic, Sharp Electric, the strong competitors in the same industry... So, what are the competitors?If you are a boxer on the field, your opponent is the one you want to fight; if you are an explorer, your opponent is yourself; if you are a leader on the runway, your opponent is the limit record that needs to be refreshed.There is never a shortage of opponents in the arena. A weak opponent may make you win the championship, but a strong opponent can make you stronger!
However, in the eyes of some people, when the word "opponent" is mentioned, all they show is hatred, and even gnash their teeth.They believe that competitors are enemies and enemies.Such people do not understand the true meaning of their opponents, they just regard their opponents as a stumbling block on their way to success, and wish to deal with them hard, knock them down or eliminate them, so that they will no longer appear in front of their eyes.As everyone knows, most of the time, it is not our friends who send us to the podium, but our opponents!Because of the existence of our opponents, we will redouble our efforts, work hard, and finally win the championship in one fell swoop.
When he was in elementary school, Nobel spent almost all his time on study, but his grades were always ranked No.2 in the class behind his classmate Bai Ji.Once, Bai Ji was sick in the hospital and asked for leave. He didn't come to school for half a month. His classmates thought that there was no rival for Nobel and he would definitely win the first place in the next exam.Nobel ignored these, but just studied harder, listened more attentively in class, and carefully recorded every key point the teacher said, for fear of missing a little bit of knowledge.
When Bai Ji recovered and returned to school, the class took another exam, and the result was still that Bai Ji was the first, followed by Nobel.The classmates all said that Kua Boji was a genius, and he was able to keep No.1 after taking such a long vacation.Bai Ji shook his head and said, "Actually, I got such good grades with the help of Nobel. Every day after school, he would send me the class notes without reservation." The students couldn't believe it. He glared at Noble in disbelief: "You actually gave up the first chance to help your opponent instead?" Noble smiled and said nothing.
Later, the two were admitted to the best middle school in the local area. Bai Ji recalled the past, went to Nobel and said, "Thank you for your help, I was able to keep up with the progress of teaching without missing homework!" Nobel smiled, sincerely Said: "I should thank you for leading me in front of me, so I have the motivation to surpass myself and get into a satisfactory middle school!" The two smiled at each other and became lifelong friends.
As an adult, Nobel became a famous Swedish chemist, engineer, and inventor.Because of the invention of dynamite and a series of military equipment, he became the richest man at that time.But Nobel still did not forget to help others, share achievements with his "peers", and even donated all his property to set up a fund to reward those who have made outstanding contributions to chemistry, physics, medicine and other disciplines in the world.
An assistant asked suspiciously: "The 'peers' you rewarded with awards are actually your academic 'opponents'! If they all achieve great achievements, won't this dilute your status and influence?" Nobel shook his head and said thoughtfully: "To be successful, you need friends; and to achieve great success, you need strong opponents!"
Competitors can not only compete with each other, but also promote each other.Sometimes, helping your opponent succeed is actually helping you become stronger.
The Austrian writer Franz Kafka said: "A real opponent will instill a lot of courage in you." Perhaps the best interpretation of this sentence is Lutz, who was called "the greatest opponent in Olympic history" The world is moved.
In the long jump competition of the 1936 Berlin Olympics, the world record holder American athlete Owens encountered a strong challenge from German player Lutz.When Lutz broke the world record in the first attempt, Owens was in a mess and made mistakes in the next few attempts.When he was about to despair, someone patted him on the shoulder.Owens looked back and was taken aback. This person was Lutz.Owens thought that Lutz came to see him for a joke, but he didn't expect him to tell him what the problem was and help him overcome it one by one. In the end, they all got satisfactory results.When the results were announced, Lutz gave Owens a warm hug and hailed his name.
Opponents can be friends, and when the competition is extremely fierce, no one will let anyone else go, but outside the arena, they care about each other, respect each other, learn from each other, and talk about everything; opponents can also be mentors, learning from each other in the competition.After the badminton champion Lin Dan won the 2012 Olympic Games, apart from the arrogance and strength of "Super Dan", he also called Li Zongwei a "great opponent" and believed that it was this "great opponent" who made it. Today's "Super Dan".As for Lin Dan and Li Zongwei, they are really fighting for life and death in the game, but in daily life, they are very good friends. Whenever they have the opportunity, they will discuss badminton playing methods and techniques.
In short, the opponent is the challenge we must face for our growth and success. Without the pressure of the opponent, there will be no motivation to move forward.Therefore, only by sincerely helping your opponent, treating your opponent well, and applauding your opponent can you show your demeanor, absorb incomparable positive energy, and become stronger yourself.
replace blame with appreciation
Appreciation means watching with eyes, listening with ears, and appreciating the beauty of this world with heart.There are landscapes everywhere in nature. When we stop at a flower or a grass, we will appreciate the perfection of nature and forget the troubles in life.
Appreciating others is a kind of respect, and being appreciated is a kind of recognition.In life, we long to be appreciated, but we neglect to appreciate others.However, appreciation is mutual, and only by appreciating others can one be appreciated.More often, we are good at discovering the shortcomings of others, and even like to find our own happiness in the misfortune of others.This is a bad emotion coming out to make trouble.Think about it, you always find fault with others, are you happy now?You must be sullen, loud, gesticulating, and angry.Doing so can be said to be detrimental to others.You might as well replace blame with appreciation or encouragement, which is tens of millions of times more powerful than yelling loudly, and can get twice the result with half the effort.
At the first parent meeting, the kindergarten teacher said: "Your son has ADHD and can't even sit on the bench for 3 minutes. You'd better take him to the hospital to have a look." On the way home, the son asked his mother, the teacher What was said.My mother had a sore nose and almost shed tears.Because of the 30 children in the class, only her son behaved the worst; only to him, the teacher showed disdain.However, she still told her son: "The teacher praised you and said that the baby could not sit on the bench for one minute, but now it could take three minutes. Other mothers envy your mother very much, because the whole class is only for the progress of the baby ." , the son ate two bowls of rice for the first time, and did not let his mother feed it.
My son is in primary school.At the parent meeting, the teacher said: "There are 50 students in the class. Your son ranked 40th in this math test. We suspect that he has some mental retardation. You'd better take him to the hospital for a check." Walked out of the classroom , mother shed tears.However, when she returned home, she said to her son sitting at the table: "The teacher is full of confidence in you. He said, you are not a stupid child. As long as you are more careful, you will surpass your deskmate. This time your tablemate is ranked 21st." When she said this, the mother found that the son's gloomy eyes were suddenly filled with light, and his frustrated face stretched out.She even found that since then, her son was so sensible that she was surprised, as if he had grown up a lot.The next day at school, my son went earlier than usual.
When the child enters junior high school, there will be another parent-teacher meeting.The mother sat in her son's seat and waited for the teacher to call her son's name, because every parent meeting, her son's name was always called among the ranks of poor students.However, this time it was beyond her expectation. She didn't hear her son's name until the end of the parent meeting.She was not used to it, so she asked the teacher when she was leaving, and the teacher told her: "According to your son's current grades, it is a bit dangerous to enter the key high school." After hearing this, she walked out of the school gate in surprise, and at this time she found her son waiting for her.Walking on the road, she held her son's shoulders, feeling an indescribable sweetness in her heart.She told her son: "The head teacher is very satisfied with you. He said that as long as you work hard, you have a good chance of being admitted to a key high school."
Graduated from high school.When the first batch of college admission letters came out, the school called and asked my son to come to the school.She had a premonition that her son was admitted to the first batch of key universities, because when she applied for the exam, she told her son that she believed he could be admitted to a key university.When her son came back from school, he handed her an express mail stamped with the Tsinghua University Admissions Office, but suddenly turned around and ran to his room and burst into tears.The son cried and said: "Mom, I know I'm not a smart child, but you are the only one in this world who can appreciate me...even though those are all lies to me." Unable to hold back, she turned the grievances condensed in her heart for more than ten years into tears, let them flow down, and hit the envelope in her hand... Every time she heard the teacher's words, the mother must feel uncomfortable, but she did not blame her son for "why even Can't sit still for 3 minutes", "Why is it ranked 40th", "Why don't you work hard to get into a key high school", but replace blame with appreciation and encouragement, so that your son can grow up in an atmosphere of appreciation.The son also felt that his mother has been weaving beautiful "lies" with love for many years, in order to convince himself that as long as he works hard, he can make progress and gain appreciation and praise.The son likes his mother's "appreciation". He chose to believe his mother's "lie" and did not give up on himself. He kept his mother's encouragement and appreciation deeply in his heart, and let them always remind him to keep working hard and motivate him to keep moving forward. I failed my mother's good intentions and won the victory by my own hard work.
In life, appreciating and being appreciated is a source of interactive power. The appreciator must have a heart of joy, benevolence, and the kindness of adult beauty;What a relief to see positive energy emanating from both sides.
Turgenev once read a novel called "Childhood" in a magazine he accidentally picked up while hunting. He appreciated it very much and loved it very much.After inquiring about the author, he gave him great appreciation and affirmation: "If you can continue to write, your future must be limitless!" Gniev's appreciation suddenly ignited the flame in his heart, regained his self-confidence and the value of life, so he wrote it out of hand, and finally became a world-renowned artist and thinker.He is Leo Tolstoy.
The opposite of appreciation is indifference and denigration.Bacon said: "The appreciators have morning glow, dewdrops and perennial flowers in their hearts, while those who ignore them freeze their hearts, dry up all seas, and barren mountains." Appreciating other people's conversations will improve our eloquence; appreciating others' generosity will open up Our hearts; appreciating the good deeds of others, will purify our hearts.Let us appreciate more in life, be good at finding and discovering the advantages of others, be less critical, less contemptuous, more trusting, and more enthusiastic. You will find that it is not difficult to appreciate others.
Smile, a kind of eternal positive energy
Carnegie said: "A smile can illuminate all who see it, like the sun passing through the dark clouds, bringing people warmth." Because a smile can break the deadlock, a smile can melt indifference, a smile can warm people's hearts, a smile You can play down the shortcomings, a smile can be exchanged for courage, and a smile can build confidence.
Smile has a very magical contagious effect. Your smile can infect the people around you and make them curl up their mouths.When you smile to everyone, your smile is infecting others and infecting yourself.Your smile may make some people feel inexplicable, but more people will feel very comfortable, and the corners of their mouths will definitely rise unconsciously.At this time, the world is warm, the sky is blue, and everyone is equal.Smiling can make the energy in the body move, mobilize all the active cells, and make people have a happy mood.This is the amazing effect of smiling.For others and ourselves, a smile is a kind of eternal positive energy.
The animals in the forest are good friends.The little bird sings for his friends, the elephant builds a house for his friends, and the little rabbit delivers letters for his friends... The little snail is very anxious, he can only crawl slowly on the ground, and can't do anything else.
The little rabbit walked by the little snail, and the little snail smiled at the little rabbit.The little rabbit said: "Little snail, your smile is so sweet." The little snail thought: "Yes, I can smile to my friends." The little snail thought again, "But, how can I let my friends see my smile?" Woolen cloth?"
The little snail came up with a good idea.The next day, he handed many letters to the little rabbit.The little rabbit sent the letter to the friends in the forest.The friends opened the letter, and inside was a painting.The little snail in the painting is smiling sweetly.Friends in the forest also followed the little snail and smiled. They said: "The little snail is really amazing! He gave everyone a smile."
The power of a smile is amazing.Where there is a smile, there is hope.Because a person's smile is the messenger of his good intentions, and sometimes it can turn a critical situation around and create miracles.
A woman living alone opened the door after hearing a knock on the door early in the morning, and she found a man with a knife staring at her viciously.She had an idea, smiled and said: "My friend, you are so hardworking, you came to sell kitchen knives so early." She let the man into the house as she spoke, and then said: "You are really like a kind neighbor of mine in the past. I'm very happy, you remind me of him. Do you want coffee or tea?" "Your knife is very beautiful, I like it, I want one..." The gangster with a murderous face gradually became kind and shy , he stammered a little: "Thank you, oh, thank you!"
In the end, the woman really bought the gleaming kitchen knife.The strange man hesitated for a moment with the money, ready to leave.The moment he turned to leave, he said, "Miss, I will always remember your smiles and compliments, because they will change my life!"
This is the power of a smile, which can shorten the distance between people and make people full of trust and gratitude.The woman not only saved her own life with a smile, but also changed the life course of the gangster.In this special moment, a smile is more useful than any behavior.That time when the sky fell apart, the earth shook and the mountains shook, the high-rise buildings were instantly reduced to rubble, and how many lives were crying for help under the ruins.A little boy was successfully rescued. At that moment, he smiled softly and saluted the soldiers with his dusty left hand; another girl was rescued, and she smiled and said to the rescuers: "Uncle, I am not afraid." , I will be brave!" Her smile became "the most beautiful smile in the earthquake".We like the upturned corners of our mouths, and more like the power it conveys: thank the people who saved me, I am fine, and I will live optimistically and strong... After a volcano in Africa erupted, the ensuing mudslides poured down , and quickly flowed to a small village not far from the foot of the mountain. Farmhouses, fertile fields, trees, everything has not escaped the disaster of being destroyed.The rolling mudslide woke up a 14-year-old girl from her sleep.At this time, the mudslide flowing into the house has risen to her neck.The little girl shows only her arms, neck and head.The rescuers who arrived in time surrounded her helplessly.Because for her bruised and bruised, every pull is undoubtedly a greater physical injury.At this moment, the house has already collapsed, and her parents were also killed by the mudslide. She is one of the few survivors in the village.When the reporter pointed the camera at her, she never called out the word "pain". Instead, she gritted her teeth and smiled, waving to the rescuers to thank her, with her arms making a "V" shape of victory.She firmly believed that the rescue force sent by the government would be able to save her.But the rescuers failed to rescue her from the impenetrable mudslide in the end.And she kept smiling and waving her hands until she was submerged by mudslides bit by bit.At the last moment of her life, there was no expression of pain and disappointment on her face, but a smile, and her arms kept the "V" shape.
The little girl's smile conveys to us a kind of strength, a kind of gratitude, and a kind of no regret for life from beginning to end... When others help you in trouble, your smile is gratitude and a power full of affection; If you accidentally step on you, your smile is forgiveness and the power of tolerance; when bad luck hits you, but you smile back, the smile becomes a strong and brave force!
No one likes to help, let alone trust, those who are frowning and sad all day long.And for those employees who feel pressure from their bosses, colleagues, clients or families, a smile can help them understand that there is hope for everything and a happy world.As long as you are busy and working, you cannot help but smile.
Smiling to people is an expression of civilization, it shows a kind of strength, restraint and suggestion.A young man who just learned to keep smiling said: "When I started smiling at my colleagues, everyone was very confused and surprised at first, and then they were delighted and praised. In the past two months, I have gained more happiness than in the past year. More. Now, I have developed the habit of smiling, and I find that everyone smiles at me, and people who used to be cold are now warm and friendly."
There is a flower that never fades in the world, that is a smile; there is an invincible magic in the world, that is a smile; there is an endless true love in life, that is a smile.Bloom your smile, build a bridge of heart-to-heart communication, and let heart-to-heart collide, you will have invisible energy and enjoy different scenery.
【Stimulate Positive Energy】Learn to tolerate and spread positive energy in all directions
In life, we have families and children, and we need a harmonious family relationship. We also need the friendship between friends and classmates, and the harmonious relationship between colleagues is also essential. We need to tolerate all these, otherwise our life will be It's a mess.To tolerate each other is actually to inject positive energy into the other party, guide the other party to correct shortcomings and mistakes in the tolerance of others, and at the same time become stronger.
Husband and wife need tolerance
When there are conflicts between husband and wife, it is often easy to attribute all the faults to one party, blindly complaining and holding grudges, and it is very painful for both of them.At this time, the two parties may wish to think differently and consider from the perspective of the other party, so that they can see the difficulty of the other party, find out that the other party's mistakes are not intentional, and discover their own shortcomings. So as to solve the problem more actively.For example, the two parties can make an agreement that if there is a conflict, don't quarrel, and discuss the solution, such as who is in charge of the inside and who is in charge of the outside, etc. When impulsive, don't talk about breaking up lightly, this kind of talk hurts feelings.As the saying goes, "It is difficult for an honest official to decide on family affairs." Even in a family, we need to be considerate, magnanimous, and tolerant of each other.
Parent-child needs tolerance
Some parents can't tolerate any mistakes made by their children. Excessive strictness and constant criticism will leave a bad influence and shadow on their children's growth.Parents may wish to adopt a tolerant attitude and give the child a chance to know, admit, and correct mistakes, and you will find that the child is always making progress.In fact, parents should make more changes, be more tolerant of their children's academic performance, remember that growth is more important than grades, and set an example of tolerance for their children.
tolerance among friends
Unhappiness between friends is more reflected in small things.Some people will be upset because of a joke made by a friend, or because they are late for a date, and these small problems are often easy to cause cracks in friendship.At this time, we might as well speak out the shortcomings of the other party sincerely and help him correct them. This is the way to get along with friends.Instead of saying nothing, just sulk alone, or even stop interacting with him, which will make both parties unhappy, and may also generate hostility and increase the negative energy of both parties. good thing.Therefore, we should tolerate the little mistakes of our friends, and use tolerance to build the most harmonious bridge between friends.
Compassion among classmates
Many of today's students are only children, and they have been spoiled and spoiled since they were young, which has caused them to have the bad habit of not knowing how to be modest and having to fight for everything for themselves.I don't understand a little thing, or a little misunderstanding of others, let alone tolerate it.In fact, when classmates get along, misunderstandings and small conflicts are inevitable. If everyone doesn't understand, they will make a lot of noise, and in the end it will only hurt the feelings between classmates.Between classmates, we need mutual understanding, mutual help, and mutual tolerance. Maybe this is not easy to do, but just learn slowly, think more about the help and happiness that your classmates have brought to you, and enlarge these See, and remember the benefits of your classmates every day, and you can do it.
Colleagues need tolerance
When we go to work every day, we inevitably have to deal with colleagues.And some colleagues are very "gossip", some like to gossip, and some like to make small reports, which is really unpleasant.In fact, what they do is trivial, and you don't need to pay attention to it.If it involves you, you don't have to pay too much attention, maybe they don't have any malicious intentions at all, they just can't control their mouths.If you quarrel with them or confront them, it will not only affect your work, but also affect your personal image in the workplace. More importantly, it will increase your negative energy and torture you physically and mentally.At this time, show your demeanor, consider the overall situation, put work first in everything, don't care about them, and give them some tolerance, so that you can get along harmoniously.
Be an inclusive person, so that you don't have so many worries and worries, and let yourself pass more positive energy to others.
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