understand man in seconds

Chapter 6
Is it online dating, or dating×

Understand men in five seconds and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Online dating scammers

Features: Online dating scammers are all attached to the Internet to fall in love with you, and they appear very rarely in reality.Every time it appears, it is basically the rhythm of opening a house.

Because on the Internet, they can copy dozens of copies of a love story and send it to different people. This is called group love.

Online dating scammers always talk more than they do. They talk about true love, that they want to be with you, that they have a future, but in fact, they will not take any action.

The frequency with which an online dating scammer visits you in reality is always periodic, because he has to visit one by one, and may not necessarily get your turn.

High-ranking online dating scammers will let girls fly thousands of miles to see him, even without paying for the hotel.

This is also the origin of the term "Thousands of miles to send ×".

Love code: online dating is not impossible, but the key is how to transform it into real love.Talking about online dating for a lifetime, in the end it is nothing more than becoming a friend of ×.And real love is one-on-one, one-on-one, face-to-face.

Real stories to understand men in seconds No. [-]: Online dating scammers

This is a true story enough to be on social news.

The heroine of the story, Xiao Ling, is a primary school teacher.

No matter how you look at it, Xiao Ling is a very ordinary girl.He came from an ordinary family, was admitted to a normal school, and entered an elementary school as a teacher, and his journey went smoothly.She has no prominent family background, no attractive appearance, the only thing she can show is that she has practiced dancing for several years, so her figure and temperament are very good. Now every weekend, she will go to the Children's Palace to teach children how to dance.

In reality, Xiao Ling is 28 years old, has only been in love once, and has been empty for three consecutive years. She has no one to pursue her, and she is an out-and-out leftover woman.

Xiaoling's parents and relatives were going crazy, begging and asking for help everywhere, hoping to help Xiaoling find the right person.She did go on a blind date several times.

As a result, the man Xiaoling likes doesn't like her, but the man who can like her is completely unacceptable to her.

So I couldn't even think about it, so I had to continue to be single.

After the Chinese New Year, I will soon be 29 years old.Now, it's not just the parents who are worried, Xiao Ling himself is starting to worry.

When others reach the age of 30, children can make soy sauce.She is almost 30 years old, and she has not found anyone she can love.

So, don't think that the leftover women are not in a hurry. They are more anxious than anyone else, but they just don't want to show it in front of others.

Xiaoling's parents had already quietly gone to various blind date corners in People's Parks, marriage introduction offices, and even encouraged Xiaoling to go on some blind date shows.

Later, it was Xiaoling himself who heard that there are some marriage and love websites on the Internet, as long as they go up and register, they will find men.

In fact, she didn't know much about the Internet, so she registered with half-belief.Those matchmakers on the Internet were very enthusiastic. As soon as they registered, they started various one-on-one guidance.

Xiao Ling gradually realized that there are also tricks and connections in online marriage recruitment. It is not OK to put your real information on it, but to do various beautification treatments.

First of all, Xiaoling's information is wrong, who would want to read it with his real name?You must have an aesthetic nickname and make yourself look very aura.So Matchmaker changed her to "Dancer Xiaoling".It looks like someone who can dance, and someone who can dance is a beautiful woman in the eyes of others. This is called psychological suggestion.

Xiao Ling expressed his conviction.

Secondly, Xiaoling needs to use a beauty app to take pictures of himself, and then carefully PS, it is best to take a photo of himself dancing.

Xiaoling took advantage of the weekend teaching and took a photo of herself practicing in the dance room. Her face has been refined and her figure is fully revealed.

After these two changes, the effect is really ridiculously good.Within a week, Xiao Ling received hundreds of private messages from men, wanting to meet her and make friends.

But Xiaoling couldn't read the profiles of these hundreds of men. The matchmaker said that she had to pay money to be able to open the permission to view the other's resumes and detailed profiles.

Xiao Ling had no choice but to pay.But this function needs money, and that function also needs money. In the end, almost a dozen functions that will be used all need money.

Xiaoling spent almost 5000 yuan on this website to review the men's profiles one by one.

She finally understood why Hong Niang would do her best, not because she really wanted to help her, but because she saw how cheating she was, and planned to make money from her!
After a long time, Xiao Ling found out that these marriage and love websites are divided into different categories for registered girls.For those very outstanding girls, no matter what kind of super beauties, models, it is impossible to charge a fee, they all beg others to come, and even pay for them, because it depends on those beauties to attract men!

But for ordinary-looking girls, especially older girls, such as Xiao Ling, this is the focus of the charges.Serving them one-on-one is just to scam money.

But no matter what, since so much money has already been spent, Xiaoling certainly can't spend it in vain, and must solve his life's major affairs.

She selected several men from the bunch, and made appointments with each of them.

In the end, how should I put it, it was not much better than her blind date.

A few men, after running over, basically just rambled and left without any sincerity.At first Xiao Ling was puzzled, but later a friend told her that these were the marriage trusts of the website.Because no man is looking for Xiao Ling, the website can't collect money, so it is necessary to find some marriage entrustment to create some popularity.

Well, that doesn't count.

Others, at least several men expressed their dissatisfaction with Xiao Ling after they met, saying that she made the photo too fake, and she was nothing like the photo, and they even left without eating.

A friend told Xiaoling that this is called death by sight.Well, those don't count either.

As for the rest of the men, they were even more disgusting. They actually asked Xiaoling to have a room with them the first time they met.They don't hide their desires at all, and even directly say, don't take it too seriously, you have to have fun when you are a human being.

Of course, it was impossible for Xiao Ling to do such a thing, and the result of flatly refusing it was that there would be no further follow-up.

After several repetitions, Xiao Ling gradually lost confidence in the matter of blind dates on the website.

Just when she was about to give up, a man caught Xiaoling's attention.

The profile of this man is not very good. He is just an ordinary civil servant, about 30 years old, and he is not in the same city as Xiao Ling, more than 1000 kilometers away.

What interested Xiao Ling was that the man didn't ask for a meeting, nor did he ask for any photos, but asked Xiao Ling for Weibo and blog.

Xiao Ling was surprised. The men on the dating websites are generally very realistic. Their goal is to pick up girls, and whether the girl's face is good-looking is the first concern, so they are the first to ask for photos and videos to confirm.

Xiao Ling asked this man named Shen Jun why he used Weibo and blog.

Shen Jun's answer was very simple. He wanted to know what kind of person Xiao Ling was before deciding whether to go on a blind date with her.

This sentence is actually not so caring and warm, but in such an impetuous environment on the dating website, it made Xiaoling feel the sincerity and reliability of the other party.

So Xiaoling sent all his social platforms to the other party.

Three days later, the man formally issued an invitation, but not to meet, but to add WeChat.

Shen Jun said that it would be too direct and utilitarian to meet right away, so it's better for the two of them to add WeChat and get to know each other first.

Xiao Ling was so moved by this remark, she had met too many people who wanted to meet as soon as they chatted, and wanted to have sex as soon as they met. How could there be such a reliable person as Shen Jun!
So Xiao Ling and Shen Jun started chatting on WeChat.

The two chatted very passionately, talking for at least ten hours a day.

Shen Jun chats humorously and has extensive knowledge. Looking at his circle of friends, he is also a person who knows how to live.Xiao Ling was a little ashamed of himself, and even cleaned up his Moments photos, deleting some that were not up to standard.

Shen Jun would sometimes send red envelopes to Xiaoling, and he felt that this person was not short of money.

In the end, Xiao Ling was completely fascinated by Shen Jun.The topics of the two people's chat became more and more in-depth, more and more explicit, and even the topics between the sexes were discussed.

Shen Jun proposed to have a video with Xiaoling.

At that time, Xiao Ling was quite nervous, because she knew she was not beautiful, and she was worried that men would dislike her.

After several ideological struggles, the two finally started video.Shen Jun didn't dislike Xiao Ling, after seeing the video, he even praised her for her beauty and temperament.

Xiao Ling was very happy, especially when she found that Shen Jun himself was a little more handsome than in the photo, and the furnishings in the house were also very foreign, and it seemed that the overall conditions were not bad.

At this point, the relationship between the two naturally took another step forward.Both parties began to call each other husband and wife.

Xiao Ling knew that this was an online dating, and she had also heard that online dating was not good, and she mentioned this to Shen Jun.

Unexpectedly, Shen Jun was well prepared. He directly denied that he was in an online relationship, saying that the two would meet sooner or later, and that they would also rush to get married in the future, which would become love and marriage in reality.

Xiaoling was persuaded, so the two of them logically made an appointment to meet in reality.Xiao Ling was full of love for Shen Jun in his heart, and even thought about going to the hotel to do something after meeting.

This online relationship lasted for about a month, and Shen Jun finally found a vacation, went to the city where Xiao Ling was, and met her.

When the two met for the first time, it was really love at first sight.Shen Jun maintained his usual considerateness and gentleness on the Internet, and he didn't dislike Xiao Ling's appearance at all.

You must know that the many blind dates before were all blind dates, which almost wiped out Xiaoling's confidence in him.And Shen Jun not only didn't dislike her, but also kept praising her for being good-looking, which made Xiao Ling feel that everyone's aesthetics are really different.

The so-called unattractive girl is just that she has not met anyone who appreciates her beauty.

Xiao Ling's emotion towards Shen Jun was beyond words, and he was even grateful.During the dating process, she planned to make a promise with her body.

After the date, the two entered the room logically, needless to say they had a lingering night.

The next day, Xiao Ling proposed to Shen Jun to take him home to meet his parents.

But Shen Jun refused. His reason was that he and Xiao Ling were still in different places, and there was still a long way to go before talking about marriage.And he is a reliable person, and he must settle in Xiaoling's city through his own efforts before he can ask for marriage.

Xiao Ling was so moved that he almost said that he was going to elope with Shen Jun.

But that afternoon, Shen Jun hurried back.The parting made Xiaoling feel sad for a long time.

Fortunately, the two are still in full swing on WeChat.

After the relationship, Shen Jun did not change his attitude towards Xiao Ling, and was still as warm as before.

Hustle and greet every day, report early, and good night.

Report your whereabouts and what you are doing every day.

Anyway, it looks like a married husband.

This relationship lasted for four or five months. Shen Jun visited Xiao Ling once every two weeks, stayed one night and then went back.

Xiao Ling sometimes felt that it seemed abnormal. What was the difference between his physical relationship with Shen Jun and an appointment for sex every two weeks?
But when two people get along online, they seem to be by their side, which is really no different from a normal couple.

About half a year later, Shen Jun suddenly appeared in Xiao Ling's city.This time I stayed for a few more days, and even took Xiaoling to see the storefront.

It turned out that Shen Jun had already decided to settle in Xiaoling's city, but he had to resign from his job as a civil servant, which was no small matter, and he had to give an explanation to his family.

Shen Jun wanted to explain to his family that he planned to start his own business.He wants to open his own coffee shop, and he has been quietly planning this plan for several months.

Shen Jun showed Xiaoling the decoration of the coffee shop he had drawn, the order of the coffee machine he had placed for his good friend, and the information of the barista he found from Hong Kong or somewhere else.

The whole plan is good, but it seems a little shabby.

Shen Jun asked Xiao Ling to make suggestions, and Xiao Ling pointed out a few rough places, and Shen Jun began to lament that he didn't have enough money, and it would be nice to be able to support himself now.

Crying poor a few times, Xiao Ling began to ask anxiously how much money was still short.

Shen Jun said a figure of about 10,000+.

Xiao Ling was determined and agreed to help Shen Jun find a way.

After returning home, Xiaoling took out the 10 yuan he had saved over the years, and borrowed tens of thousands of yuan from his friends. Without even thinking about it, he transferred the money to Shen Jun.

As the saying goes, there is nothing new under the sun.

Three days after the transfer, Shen Jun disappeared.

Xiao Ling didn't get in touch with Shen Jun at first, thinking that something happened to the other party, so he called everywhere in a hurry, and almost didn't call the police.

After losing contact for a week, Xiao Ling felt that something was wrong, and hurriedly flew to Shen Jun's city to look for him at his unit.But who knew, that unit existed, but no one knew that there was such a person as Shen Jun.

Then I went to the address that Shen Jun had mentioned, but there was no such person.

It wasn't until this time that Xiaoling suddenly realized that she had been fooled and met an online dating scammer.

Shen Jun (pseudonym) was arrested almost a year after this incident.

As for the victims, there were more than 26 women, ranging in age from 40 to [-] years old, and the total amount of suspected fraud was as high as several million yuan.

This online dating liar, most of the time, dated eight women at the same time, using four or five identities, almost 100% successful, not only cheating feelings, but also cheating money.

Identify men in 5 minutes and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Online dating scammers

I have talked about online dating many times before, and I have also said that [-]% of online dating is unreliable.

So today I will talk about a rather special and extreme case.

Under normal circumstances, online dating scammers are not involved in fraud, because what they cheat most is the girl's heart and body.

Many people will ask, why do online dating liars cheat?What is there to lie about a girl's heart and body?
This is a typical woman's mentality, and she doesn't understand men anymore.

I have been saying that most men are fickle, not just the handsome and rich ones, even the ugly ones are also fickle.

And if a man wants to pick up a girl, there are only a few methods——

Either rely on power, or money, or appearance, or go to bars and nightclubs to find girls.And for those otaku who stay at home all day, what means do they have?

Of course it is the Internet.

The first major characteristic of online dating scammers: they are nerds, always attached to the Internet, and pick up girls through the Internet.The time they appear in reality is far less than the time they appear on the Internet.

Why is this?

Because when a man picks up a girl, he will pay two things: money or time.

Either money or time.Basically, if you don't pay anything, you won't be able to impress the girl.

And online dating scammers don't have much money, the only thing they can pay is time.

But the problem came out again.

If you really spend time in reality and accompany a certain girl well, there is no problem in reaping love.But for online dating scammers, the efficiency is too low.

Do you understand?A normal relationship is to spend time one-on-one, and it is a person who only stays with you for a certain period of time.

This kind of efficiency is of course low. It takes one month to pursue, one month to deepen, and one month to finally fall in love. If you really want to meet a girl, for a man, there is a basic period of three months.

However, online dating scammers pursue high efficiency, and they hope that they can catch up with more girls in a shorter time.

The second major feature of online dating scammers is group posting.Their "love" is sent in groups. They never pick up girls one-on-one, but use the Internet. No one can see each other, and no one knows the real state of the other party. They pursue one-to-many.

Send the same sentence of concern to multiple girls at the same time.Every girl thinks that the other party is only talking to herself, and she will be extremely moved.

Use the same romantic plot on multiple girls at the same time, so that every girl has a deep sense of happiness.

Online dating scammers are best at taking advantage of the characteristics of the Internet, which is to bring together the spiritual aspects of two people who are far away, and let you know his life through language descriptions.

But in reality, you can't really know.

Therefore, online dating scammers can use this method to make a group of women think that they are in a relationship with him.

Just like Shen Jun before, he dated eight women at the same time at the most, and the eight women didn't suspect at all, and didn't feel the existence of others.

The third characteristic of online dating scammers: online dating scammers have no true love.

When a person respects love and truly loves the other person, he will give his whole heart to the other person, and no other person can live in his heart.

Therefore, any practice of falling in love with a group of people at the same time is definitely not true love, let alone dividing true love into several shares.

The most common thing for online dating scammers is to send love in groups on the Internet first, and then go for a while.

In this case, it is said that there is true love, only ghosts will believe it.

It can only be said that each of them is a novelist, and they are all writing a true love story, and then trick all the girls into believing it.

Don't foolishly think who is benefited by doing this and who is not.

For those homeboys who can't get girls in reality, being able to get a group of girls is the biggest benefit.Don't underestimate the motivation of men to pick up girls.

Finally, let's talk about the reliable part of online dating.

We say that [-]% of online dating is unreliable, so after all, there is still [-]% that can be successful.

How do this [-]% online dating men generally behave?

They may be the exact opposite of an online dating scammer.

First of all, they may have met through the Internet, but the communication is offline, that is, the time spent with them in reality is far more than the communication on the Internet.

Secondly, they are only dating one woman, not just saying so, but actually allowing you to see his life situation and emotional state.

In the end, they really turned online dating into a real relationship, and it was by no means reliable as they said. If they should move, they would move, and if they should change jobs, they would change jobs.

All in all, online dating that can finally have results will not always exist on the Internet, but in the daily companionship of two people.

(End of this chapter)