The world is so bad, so lucky to meet you

Chapter 8 Did I live with you, or with your mother?
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The civet cat and the milk bottle brother broke up because of a word she said unintentionally.

The little sister called the civet cat and told her about living with her mother-in-law. The little sister was like a balloon bulging with anger, and complained about all the chores in life.The civet listened carefully to those things, sighed, and enlightened the little sister from time to time. The two girls chatted for more than half an hour.

At the end of the phone call, the little sister asked the civet cat: Do you want to live with your mother-in-law after you get married?

The civet thought for a while and said: Uh...it seems better not to live with the mother-in-law, let's live alone!

This sentence was heard by the baby bottle brother who was next to him. The speaker had no intention of saying it, but the listener intended it. It was just such a sentence, and the two broke up strangely.

The baby bottle brother said: Did you just say that you would not live with my mother?
The civet was stunned for a moment, and said: Yes, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, so conflicts are unavoidable, so let's live separately, what's the matter?
The baby bottle brother said: If you say you don't want to live with my mother, I won't like you all of a sudden!

The civet cat thought the baby bottle brother was joking, so he smiled and said, "I don't want to live with your mother, can we live alone?"

Unexpectedly, Brother Nie Ping didn't smile at all, and said very seriously: No, the daughter-in-law I am looking for is to live with my mother, if you can't tolerate my mother, then don't get along with me!
If you can't stay together, why can't you tolerate his mother?Seeing the serious face of the baby bottle, the civet knew that he was really angry, and she felt that it was too inexplicable.

She said: Did I live with you, or with your mother?

The milk bottle brother said: It is not easy for my mother to raise me, my daughter-in-law must listen to my mother.

The civet cat was speechless, feeling that it couldn't take it anymore, rolled its eyes and said: You like your mother so much, go with your mother, lest I hinder your mother and son from falling in love!

After finishing speaking, the civet left the bottle brother who was frightened and left by himself.

Brother Milk Bottle was frightened. How could there be rebellion in the world of his filial son?He froze for a few seconds, and after realizing it, he shouted behind her: Hey, what are you talking about?Why are you so uneducated?
The joy in the civet's heart, damn it, has been suppressed for so long, and finally let out a bad breath!
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The civet cat and the baby bottle met each other on a blind date. It is said that the introducer showed three or four photos of the girls to the baby bottle's mother, and told her one by one what this girl does, what does that girl do, how is her temper, and how the family How about, wait.The bottle mother looked and looked at the photos, compared and compared, and finally fixed on the photo of the civet. After pondering and pondering, it seemed that she fell in love with the civet with relatively high overall quality.

His mother showed the photo to the matchmaker and said: Just meet this girl.That posture made it look like the dignitaries choosing their wives in ancient times.

The civet is beautiful, with a height of 1.6 meters and [-] meters. He teaches dance at school. His parents are management. The family conditions are good. He does not smoke, does not drink, and has no bad habits. From people to work to family conditions are pretty good It meets a mother's expectations for a daughter-in-law, but what the bottle mother doesn't know is that civet cat is definitely not a traditional woman at the mercy of others, and she doesn't follow his family's style at all.

Brother Milk Bottle was very satisfied when he saw the civet cat. Judging from what happened later, Brother Milk Bottle didn't really like civet cats, but he liked them because his mother liked them. What he was looking for was what his mother liked.

Lingmao also thinks that bottle brother is okay in all aspects. Although his appearance, height and figure are not very good, but you can't just look at a man's appearance. A handsome man with a good figure is not reliable, and a man who is not handsome and fat should be honest order it.

The two thoughts hit it off, and the two got along seriously.If you don't get along, you don't know, but when you get along, you will know that the name of Brother Baby Bottle is really worthy of the name.

Baby bottle brother is 32 years old, but his mother is extremely worried about him.When two people get along, they must go on a date, eat, watch movies, go out and have fun.

The civet got off work late, and it was eleven o'clock in the evening to have a meal or watch a movie casually.The mother of the bottle is definitely a life-threatening series of calls all day long. She keeps calling the brother of the bottle, and when she picks up the phone, she urges him to go home. He asks his mother to go to bed first. don't feel it.

At first, Lingmao just thought that Brother Nie Ping had strict tutoring, but he didn't take it seriously when he thought that his mother would sometimes make phone calls.It was only later that I realized that I was too naive.If the baby bottle brother didn't hear the call, his mother could make a dozen or twenty calls until the son answered the phone.Brother Baby Bottle would inevitably be scolded head and face when he picked it up, and he was not upset, he felt that his mother was just worried about him, and any actions were reasonable when he was worried about the child.

Within a few days of getting along, the baby bottle brother said that the baby bottle mother wanted to meet the civet cat. She felt that the two of them hadn't figured out the situation, and they were about to get involved with their parents. Baby bottle brother picked a day.

Although the milk bottle brother said it casually, the civet cat took it seriously, went to the mall to choose a gift, dressed up beautifully, and took the big bag and small bag to meet the milk bottle brother's parents.

As soon as she entered the door, the civet cat handed the tonic to the baby bottle brother, with a proud face, she thought that he should be very happy that she was so sensible and gave him face in this way.

The baby bottle brother looked at the big and small bags, frowned and said: My mother told you not to let you buy things, why did you buy them?
The civet said with a smile: "A meeting gift for your mother!"

The baby bottle brother said: My mother won't buy it if she doesn't buy it.

The bottle brother's tone was obviously unhappy, and the civet cat didn't know where he was wrong, and the atmosphere was a bit awkward.

The bottle mother came out of the kitchen and saw that the civet had bought a lot of things, and said in her mouth: "Oh, didn't I tell you not to buy it?"But there was a smile on his face, and he couldn't hide his unhappy expression in his heart.

The milk bottle brother turned his head and said to her: My mother is not happy to see what you bought. From now on, you can do whatever your mother tells you.

The civet cat didn't understand the phrase "Do whatever your mother tells you to do". She wanted to say that you are stupid, who would tell the guests that you should buy something quickly, and they would always say don't buy it, what are you doing with it, etc. Just a polite word, can't you see that your mother is happy?But she wasn't too familiar with Brother Milk Bottle, so she didn't have the nerve to say it, so she just said "oh", but she felt uncomfortable, her hot face was stuck to her cold butt, and she was kind enough to be a donkey.

The bottle mother is obviously satisfied with the civet. She brings food to the civet during meals and doesn't let the civet wash the dishes after eating. At first, the bottle mother was quite polite.

Since then, the civet cat has been called to eat at home twice in three days, and the mantra of the milk bottle brother is "my mother told you to go back to eat".

The civet said: "It's your mother who called me, why don't you call me?"

The baby bottle brother said: My mother calls you, I call you, how to distinguish so clearly.

After getting along for a long time, the true nature is gradually exposed.The civet cat started washing dishes and peeling fruit at the bottle brother's house, and accidentally cut his finger, which immediately turned into a scar and bled.

The bottle brother opened his mouth and said: Why are you so clumsy?My mother hasn't shaved her fingers for decades.

The civet was not happy when he heard it, and really wanted to say, it's my mother who cut it in my house, and I just need to wait to eat like you!But she still held back, adjusted herself, and asked the bottle brother for a band-aid.

The baby bottle brother raised his throat and said: Mom, is there a Band-Aid?
The bottle mother poked her head out of the room and asked nervously, "Hey, are you hurt?"

That's right, the baby bottle mother has always called the baby bottle brother "obedient", even though the baby bottle brother is now a 1.7-year-old man with 160 meters and 32 catties, she still calls it that way.

The milk bottle brother said: Mom, I'm fine, the civet got cut.

When the bottle mother heard it, she immediately calmed down and said: Oh, there is no such thing at home.

If other old ladies encounter someone who is injured, they will usually tell their sons to rush to buy a Band-Aid, but this is not the case for bottle mothers.

The civet cat asked the baby bottle brother to go downstairs to buy it. The old lady came over and looked at her wound and said: Just bear it, and buy some band-aids, just wrap them in paper bags.An old woman like me doesn't use that thing, you girl, don't be so squeamish!
The civet insisted on asking the baby bottle brother to buy it, and the old lady said: Is it appropriate to ask him to go so far to buy it at such a late hour?Do you know that you feel sorry for him?

The civet wants to say, why is it inappropriate?Going to the gate of the community to buy something at eight or nine o'clock in the evening, are you afraid that ghosts will eat it?I feel sorry for my own child a few hundred meters away, and other people's children are bleeding, why don't you know how to feel sorry?But she still held back and asked the bottle brother for help.

The pharmacy is right at the gate of the neighborhood of the bottle brother's house, at most three or four hundred meters away, but the old lady is reluctant to let her son make this trip for the civet.

The baby bottle mom didn't allow the baby bottle brother to buy it, so he really didn't buy it. The baby bottle daddy was watching TV and didn't talk. The civet cat looked at this strange family and felt angry.

Later, the scar on the fingers healed, but the scar in the civet's heart remained.

The civet cat could vaguely feel that Brother Niaiping was still a Ma Baonan who was not weaned, but she had never met Ma Baonan before, she didn't know how terrible it was, and what happened next really gave her a lot of insight.

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Once it was agreed to go to the bottle brother's house for dinner, and the civet was temporarily left by the boss for a meeting when she got off work. She was going to get off work an hour late, so she sent a message to the bottle brother to say this.

During the meeting, the baby bottle brother kept calling, and the civet was pressed, and he called again, and the civet was pressed again, and he still called, five or six consecutive calls, and the civet was all pressed.He sent a message to the civet cat: What's the matter with you?Lingmao Hui: A meeting.

After the meeting, the civet cat called, and the milk bottle brother answered the phone and said angrily: "Why don't you count what you say?"You made my mother wait for you at home for an hour at the appointed time for dinner!
The civet knew it was wrong, and said: Sorry, the boss has a temporary meeting today, and I can't help it.

The bottle brother still said angrily: You know you have dinner today, why don't you arrange the time yourself?

The civet said: I am not the boss, how do I know?

The bottle brother said: Your boss only holds meetings after get off work, you should refuse!
The civet felt that he was making trouble out of no reason, and said angrily: Brother, please, I eat with the boss's money, how dare I refuse?
It was a fault for the civet to be late, but it was also because of work. At that time, she thought that the milk bottle brother was upset that she was not punctual, but later she found out that he was angry because he was starving his mother.

Baby Bottle's dressing style is very retro, not the trendy retro, it's really the characteristics of the 20s and 90s of the [-]th century, plus he is fat, it's really not very good-looking.

The civet couldn't stand it any longer, and said: Let me buy you some clothes, your clothes should be replaced.

The milk bottle brother said: Don't buy it, my mother buys all my clothes for me.

The civet asked in surprise: Are you paying your mother to buy you clothes now?
The milk bottle brother said: Yes, all my clothes are bought by my mother.

The civet asked weakly: What about your underwear?
Baby Bottle replied casually: My mother bought it too.

The civet cat felt that he was disgusted in an instant. If his mother bought it, wouldn't his mother know the size of his underwear? !She felt unbelievable, and her whole body was dizzy.

The baby bottle brother went on a business trip for only three days, and the bottle mother packed the luggage.His mother said: He pretended that I was not at ease, afraid that he would bring less things.

Towels, toothbrushes, toothpaste, T-shirts, coats, the civet has been quietly watching his mother skillfully help a man in his 30s pack his luggage.

Brother civet Lala bottle said: You can pretend it yourself, your mother is so embarrassing.

He said: It's okay, she has always pretended.

One sentence choked the civet, she stopped talking and just watched silently.

Until the bottle mother went to the drawer to get his underwear and socks, folded them and put them in a duffel bag, the civet almost spat out a mouthful of old blood.

Three days later, after a business trip, the bottle brother called the civet cat in a different place, asking her to pick up the plane, and said that he would pick up the bottle mother by the way.

Ling Mao called the bottle mother to make an appointment, and learned that his mother had rheumatism and was not feeling well.The civet said thoughtfully: "Auntie, why don't you just rest at home, and I can pick up the bottle by myself."

The bottle mother insisted on going, saying: I pick him up every time he travels on business.

The civet cat couldn't help it, so she did what she wanted, thinking that the big deal would be to take a detour to his house to pick it up.

On the day of picking up Baby Bottle, Lingmao and Baby Bottle Mom stood at the exit and waited for him to come out. Baby Bottle Mom was very anxious and kept talking about why he still didn't come out, what's wrong, she was very worried.The civet said: Auntie, don't worry, the plane for the bottle hasn't arrived yet.

When Brother Baby Bottle came out with his luggage, it wasn't her girlfriend who greeted him, but Brother Baby Bottle and his mother.The mother of the bottle rushed up to meet her, and gave the bottle brother a bear hug, and kept saying: Son, you are finally back, I miss you so much!
The civet is a little dizzy, isn't a bear hug something that lovers do?Is it really okay for the mother and son to be so sticky in the public?Didn't the bottle brother only go for three days?Why does it feel like three autumns?All kinds of uncomfortable feelings spread in her heart.

On the car back to Baby Bottle's house from the airport, Baby Bottle didn't sit in front with his girlfriend like a normal boyfriend, he sat in the back seat with his mother.While stroking the son's head and face, the mother of the bottle asked: Is it good to eat?Did you sleep well?Is the work hard?He also said that his son was on a business trip at work, so hard work, so pitiful!

The little ancestor can't be tired anymore, so take it back and make an offering.Civet listened to the car while driving, and felt that his mother's words were too nasty, as if no one was tired at work, but her son was the most tired.Civet felt that he was the third party, and that the two of them, mother and son, were lovers.

Civets have a lot of clothes, and they change them every three days. They also have the habit of spraying perfume, which is not too strong. You can smell it, but it will definitely not suffocate you.

The mother of the bottle gave the civet a lesson, saying that the girl's family can't spend money randomly, and can't dress up all day long to attract bees and butterflies. She must be diligent and thrifty in managing the house and helping the house. When a man is working hard outside, you have to do logistics at home.

Civet's upbringing is still very good. At that time, she felt that something was wrong, but she didn't say anything, so she just listened obediently, and came down to ask Brother Milk Bottle: What does your mother mean?

The baby bottle brother said: It means that you have too many clothes, don't buy them in the future, don't wear perfume, and obey women's morals.

The civet said: "Why do I have too many clothes?"cost you money?What happened to my perfume?Why is it that you don't obey women's morals?Isn't your mother too funny?

Brother Milk Bottle didn't hear anything, but when he heard that his mother was no longer, he immediately turned his face and had a big fight with the civet cat.The purpose is, what my mother said is right, you have to listen, you can't say that my mother is wrong.The civet felt that it was too unreasonable and broke up unhappy.

Later, they quarreled a few times because of the bottle mother, and later, the classic scene at the beginning was staged.

Baby bottle brother is actually pretty good when he doesn't suffer from Mabao's disease, his temper is not anxious at all, he is not generous, but he is not too picky, and he also treats people in the world.But when it comes to his mother, he immediately changes his face, jumps his feet in a hurry, has no principle, is unreasonable, no matter how unreasonable his mother is, it makes sense, everything his mother says is right, what his mother says is the imperial decree, he will follow it Accept, and the civet also obeys.

When cingomao mentions milk bottle brother now, it is full of malice.She said that in the future, if she meets Ma Baonan, she can run as far as she can.I really admire this mother and son. A person like Lingmao, who didn't know Ma Baonan at all, was meticulously made into an enemy by them.

When I met Ma Baonan, who was the only one my mother followed, I couldn't appreciate him even if he was handsome, let alone not handsome. The civet was awakened, but there were still many girls fighting wits and courage with Ma Baonan and his mother.

These girls are pure, persistent, and stupid enough to make people feel distressed, thinking that as long as they work hard and persevere, a better life is ahead, but they always hurt themselves.

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I know a Chinese boy who grew up in Australia. He immigrated to Australia with his mother when he was young.He said that when he was full, his mother cut off his living expenses. What his mother told him was that when you are an adult, you will have to rely on yourself to earn money to support yourself.The boy started working part-time, earning his own living expenses, earning money for playing with his friends on weekdays, and earning expenses for traveling around, and then we met during our trip in Japan.

The reason why we talk about this topic is that we heard that Japanese children go to and from school by themselves when they are in elementary school, and some families who are close to kindergartens go to kindergarten alone when they are three or four years old.

In the growth experience we are familiar with, it is like this: since childhood, my mother was reluctant to scold and beat her, and she did not want her child to suffer a little bit of grievance. In the sixth grade of elementary school, an adult needed to pick him up, and his parents had to send him to university. Men and girlfriends have changed one after another, and they have lived together countless times, and they are still looking for money from their parents.

Every step of the parent's worry and doting is the fall of a child's independent character. A child who is held down and sheltered in this way will never grow up, will never have a sense of responsibility, cannot bear heavy burdens, and has no independent personality. Mama's baby.

For a man who has been working hard in society, his mother is the center of everything, and his mother says that the left cannot be right, and the right cannot be left. This kind of behavior without judgment and emotional dependence is really not called filial piety, it is not called filial piety. In my opinion, it is called not weaning.

A mother is half a scum, maybe he looks good and has a good figure, maybe he is also good, maybe he will be a very filial son, maybe he has a lot of advantages, but he is always mother-centered and absolutely obedient, The deep-rooted idea in his heart is that his wife is not as good as his mother, so he will ignore or not think about problems from the perspective of you and Xiaojia at all. His mother can intervene in your life at any time, and even asks his mother to take care of things when he encounters them. Unable to support a small family, such a man will definitely not be a qualified husband, let alone a father who can set an example for his children.

No girl wants to find a boyfriend who only listens to her mother, no girl wants to marry a man who has no responsibility, and no girl wants to have a happy married life that is related to the rest of her life under the control of her mother-in-law.

If you meet Ma Baonan unfortunately, please think first, do you want to live with him, or with his mother?
It's better for a girl to not be so sensible as to accept what her mother-in-law says. If she blindly caters to others and wrongs herself, she will either drive herself crazy, or explode completely.

Don't dream of changing a mother boy with great ambitions. Decades of education from childhood to adulthood told him, "It's right to listen to mother's words." Do you want to spend more decades telling him, "No listen to mother's words"?
The consequence of insisting on integrating into this deformed family is that the mother-in-law is the queen of the family and has absolute power to rule.All your normal emotional reactions are that you are ignorant, ignorant, and unreasonable. You will face unprecedented loneliness, isolation, and even confrontation in your life. If you are out of control, you are the common enemy of their mother, child, and even the whole family. The decision is nothing more than, hurry up and withdraw!

Unless he wakes up by himself, otherwise your reasonable advice will only provoke the relationship between mother and child.

In fact, we should be more tolerant like a civet, let him go and let ourselves live, and let Ma Baonan and his mother love and kill each other for the rest of their lives.

(End of this chapter)