The happiness of crossing every day

Chapter 686 Marriage, Family and Private Ownership

Marriage cannot be rushed.

People say that if you are poor, you will not choose your wife, and if you are poor, you will not choose your way.

When this person is in a hurry, he is prone to ghosts.

When marriage is prone to ghosts, it is not easy to escape.

Obviously knowing that the other party is not good, but want to marry him in a flash, and then get along badly, and then leave in a flash, isn't it a bastard thing?
Some men think that if they get divorced, they will get divorced. Anyway, if a man is divorced, it is no big deal.

It's time to find another one...

But that incident, for a woman, still hurts a lot.

But if you meet that kind of man who is not suitable for marriage, if a woman doesn't have the courage to divorce him, the only one who will be dragged to death and harmed in the end will be herself.

Therefore, Chen Yuanyuan still admires the large group of women who got married and divorced in a flash.

After all, this group of particularly courageous women, at least in their second marriage, third marriage and subsequent marriages, can expect to be able to obtain their own happiness.

And that group of people knew that their marriage was a failure, and their lives were quite painful and miserable, but she said bluntly that she would not divorce for the sake of her children...

Then in that painful marriage relationship, I was willing to be used by others as a cow and horse, and I was willing to be used by others to refine myself.

I am willing to live under the roof of others and watch other people's faces.

Being bullied arbitrarily by her mother-in-law.Being arbitrarily humiliated by her own man...

For this kind of people, many people would choose to die by drinking pesticides, jumping into a well, or jumping into a river with a few young children.

Or just jumping off a tall building and seeking self-liberation.

After all, this kind of person is too weak.

Not strong at all.

I always like that others are torturing myself, and I am torturing myself.

I can't live with myself.

But he didn't think about finding a way out by himself.

In this society, as long as you have hands, feet, and a mouth, you can run around with an ID card.

Where can't you find a job?
Where can I not support myself?
As long as she is able to support herself, for example, even if she only earns 2000 or 3000 a month, why should she stay under that kind of roof?
Her husband's domestic violence made her want to kill her, so she just ran around with her ID card and worked everywhere.

As long as you don't stay in a city often, it's impossible for that wimpy husband to follow her around the clock, looking for her every day, right?
What are you waiting for others to rescue?
Only by saving yourself can you let yourself live.

……

In Chen Yuanyuan's previous life, because of her complicated experience when she was a child, she especially liked to feel sorry for herself, feel inferior, and feel sorry for herself.

Later, when she grew up and started to get in touch with the society, she met all kinds of people, and after all kinds of things happened, she suddenly realized that all the self-pity and self-pity she had in the past were nothing more than self-pity.

Nothing more than moaning without illness.

Just like the poem written by a poet in the Song Dynasty, the young man didn't know what it was like to be sad, but insisted on expressing it.

Forced to talk about worry, you can only make yourself boring.

When Chen Yuanyuan was in her 20s, she completely changed her three views.

She used to be a pessimist.

Afterwards, she is a positive and optimistic person.

Success, happiness, and all other good things can only be obtained by one's own efforts.

No one would hold happiness in front of her for nothing, and give it to herself without her paying any price.

……

Gao Jiangyuan found his daughter-in-law sitting on the bedside silently tonight, her eyes fixed on the book in her hand.

For half an hour, she didn't even turn a page.

So he knew that his daughter-in-law must be thinking about something again.

The longer he gets along with his wife, the more he realizes that his wife's thoughts sometimes seem quite dangerous.

Because sometimes he always feels that she sees things more clearly.

Once, Gao Jiangyuan had an in-depth conversation with his daughter-in-law about the marriage relationship.

He was reading the books of Marx and Engels at that time.

Engels seems to have written a book on marriage, family and private ownership back then.

After reading this book, he was greatly inspired.

What he didn't realize before, through that book, he realized everything.

Regarding marriage, family, and private ownership, Gao Jiangyuan felt that what Engels said was quite correct and profound.

Sometimes he can really feel that the modern marriage relationship, in a sense, protects the economic interests of men.

From any marriage relationship, a man can get a large part of what is not his own.

Take, for example, the reproductive value of a woman.

The economic benefits created by women in society.

Women's time, women's labor.

And the youth and beauty of a woman.

In capitalist society, these things actually belong to primitive capital.

Fertility value is the original capital.It can be realized through surrogacy.

Beauty, time, youth, labor, and wisdom are all primitive capital.

Can be exchanged for money.

Gao Jiangyuan himself sometimes feels that after he married his wife, what he got was much more than what he gave.

Although he has often done housework at home over the years, such as washing and cooking.

However, for the things he got, Gao Jiangyuan judged some values. He felt that he belonged to the "winner" side in the marriage relationship.

Because, he got everything from his wife.

her whole being.Her whole heart.

her thoughts.her whole life.

Over the years, I have completely possessed her.

"Daughter-in-law, what book are you reading?"

Chen Yuanyuan, who was suddenly knocked out of her thoughts, became reflexive and flipped through her writing.

She smiled and replied, "I'm not reading anything. What I'm reading is a book about the history of Chinese and Western cultures."

"As far as this book is concerned, I think it's well edited. Because it tells the development process of Western cultural history clearly and in a very organized way."

"When you read it again, you will remember it."

When Gao Jiangyuan heard this, he smiled at her.

"Just remember?"

"So you still have such a good memory..."

Gao Jiangyuan is now over half a hundred years old. He used to have a very good memory, but now, he always forgets some things easily.

Especially those short-term memories.

For example, every time he went out of the door, he always forgot whether the key inserted in his door was opened or not.

And the switch of the socket board at home, is it off?
Because he was worried, he forced himself to go back for another big checkup.

After Chen Yuanyuan heard her husband's question, she smiled at him.

"What can't you remember?"

"I have consciously exercised myself..."

(End of this chapter)