Listen to a psychologist tell a story

Chapter 68

Chapter 7, Section 6 "The Nuns Are Crazy" female lead?
You can stick to your individuality, you can try to be different. ? ?

Hubie grew up in Chelsea, a tough labor zone in New York City.During the hippie era, she often wore flared trousers, a fluffy afro dog hair, and colorful makeup on her face. For this reason, she was often criticized by various people in her neighborhood. ?
One night, Hubie made an appointment with friends and neighbors to go to the movies.When the time came, she was wearing ripped suspenders, a tie-dyed blouse, and an afro shaggy head.When she appeared in front of a friend, the friend took one look at her and said, "You should change your outfit."?
"Why?" Hubie was confused. "If you dress up like this, I don't want to go out with you."?
Hubie was stunned: "If you want to change it, you change it." So the friend left without saying a word. ?
While Hubie was talking to her friend, her mother happened to be standing by.At this point, Mother walked up to Hubie and said, "You can change your clothes and be like everyone else. But if you don't want to do that and you're strong enough to take ridicule from the outside world, stick with your idea. But you You have to know that you will attract criticism and you will be in a bad situation because it is not easy to be different from the crowd.”?
Hubie was greatly shocked.Because she understands that no one encourages her or even supports her as she explores alternative ways of being.When Hubie's friend says, "You've got to get a change," she's caught in a dilemma: What if she

Change clothes for a friend, how many times do you have to change clothes for how many people in the future?Hubie thought, Mother saw her determination, she saw Hubie saying "no" to this kind of assimilation pressure, she saw that she was unwilling to change herself for others. ?
People always like to judge a person's appearance, but don't pay attention to his inner self.To be an individual, you need to be strong enough to withstand these criticisms.Hubie's mother told her there was nothing wrong with refusing to change, but she also warned her that refusing to conform to the masses was a long road. ?
Hubie's life has been haunted by issues of unanimity.When she became famous, she always heard people say: "Why doesn't she wear high heels on these occasions, but instead wears red and yellow running shoes? Why doesn't she wear dresses? Why is she different from us?" In the end The reason why people are attracted to Hubie, imitating her style and wearing black braids, is precisely because they can be different. ?
Mind walk?

Hubie, the star of the popular American film "Crazy Nuns"?Goldberg's story has always been talked about, and in a psychology class at Harvard University, the professor once told her story to illustrate the problem. ?
Human beings always have their own independent thoughts and values, and there is no need to change for others.Therefore, learn to respect your own behavior and value standards, and become an independent person without being bound by culture and environment. This is also a way of self-realization.However, life is so complicated, insisting on a personality will always be criticized by the public, and refusing to be consistent with the public is a long way.As long as your heart is strong enough, I believe you will live out a full of personality and charming self. ?
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